Separation and divorce / Breaking up Books

Book SynopsisUpdated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, this classic resource further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others'', the authors illustrate how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to move beyond loss. New material in this edition includes guidance for dealing with:  Loss of faith  Loss of career and financial issues  Loss of health  Growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional homeThe Grief Recovery Handbook is a groundbreaking, classic handbook that everyone should have in

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Book SynopsisThis highly anticipated second edition of Splitting is fully revised and updated, and includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: ·Predict what your spouse may do or say in court ·Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking ·Choose a lawyer who understands your case ·Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

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Book SynopsisTrauma, porn, masturbation, sexuality, sex after motherhood, sex when you feel sh*t about your body, sex after separation... these are all topics around which we skirt delicately, as if they're bombs which will explode if we prod them too curiously. In this way, sex is intimately connected with shame. Like most of us, shame has followed me around for most of my life. I felt shame for the colour of my skin, shame for being female, and shame for wanting more, but I also felt shame around the subject of masturbation. Even as an adult, I carried an intense feeling that masturbation was somehow dirty. I look back on this now and realise how warped our approach to sex is and how the shame that surrounds these conversations holds women back.In this honest and revealing memoir, Natalie Lee digs deep into her own relationship with sex to expose the shame that many of us feel. Taking us through her journey, from traumatic beginnings to marriage, motherhood and eventually experiencing sexual freedom after divorce in her thirties, Feeling Myself is a story of learning to be your true self in a society that doesn't prioritise your pleasure. It is a book for every woman to feel empowered by and to learn the tools to experience their own emancipation too.

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Book SynopsisLearning to start again when your happy-ever-after isn't so happy

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Book SynopsisThe perfect Mother's Day gift, from the author of About Us, Seven Letters and The Baby Trail_______________________What's a few more branches on the family tree?Things are finally looking up for Anna. Seventeen miserable years of marriage to man-child Connor have left her drained and ready for a new start. So when they separate, she couldn't be more thrilled to move in with James, a handsome lecturer who is everything her ex-husband is not: kind, thoughtful, and above all, reliable.But Anna and James's kids hate living with the loved-up couple and the new set-up. Their teenage daughters - one a studious high achiever and the other a cool rich girl unbothered by grades or exams - have nothing in common. And Anna's wild football-mad nine-year-old son declares war on bookish James.Nobody said step-parenting was easy; Anna and James are about to find out exactly how complicated it can be. With exes, new partners-of-exes and money all in the mix, home life is fast becoming a minefield and their new-found happiness hangs in the balance. Do they have what it takes to make their blended family work?________________________'Yours, Mine, Ours is her best to date . . . a hopeful book, full of love' MARIAN KEYES'A great read, lots of twists and turns, lots of humour' CLAIRE BYRNE'A story filled with heart and wit. It's impossible not to root for the characters' RACHAEL ENGLISH'Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant . . . I was on the edge of my seat to know whether it would all work out in the end . . . Sinéad is a true national treasure' CLAUDIA CARROLLTrade ReviewSinéad Moriarty writes consistently EXCELLENT novels about contemporary life - Yours, Mine, Ours is her best to date. A thoughtful, nuanced exploration of the very real dilemmas of a blended family. There are no trite solutions but it's still a hopeful book, full of love -- Marian KeyesA great read, lots of twists and turns, lots of humour -- Claire ByrneA story filled with heart and wit. It's impossible not to root for the characters -- Rachael EnglishEmpathy, humour and wisdom on every page. A terrific, though provoking, immersive read -- Patricia ScanlanWith her trademark wit and wisdom, Sinéad gets to the core of what makes a family, what breaks a family and what can put it back together. Thoroughly engaging and entertaining, a delightful read -- Liz NugentI really loved Yours, Mine, Ours. Sinéad is such a brilliant writer. It's utterly charming and life-affirming. Full of wisdom about love's imperfections and all of the everyday obstacles that can get in the way of love . . . very grown-up love story about finding love - and ourselves - as parents. I think people will really fall in love with Anna, as I did -- Edel CoffeyBrilliant, brilliant, brilliant. There is no living author who writes about the intricacies of family life quite like Sinead . . . It's funny and wonderfully well observed and gripping too - I was on the edge of my seat to know whether it would all work out in the end. Yours, Mine, Ours really is masterly and Sinéad is a true national treasure -- Claudia Carroll

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Book SynopsisDivorce is not the end of your storySome seasons of life can seem far more difficult than one human should have to endure. For Brandi Wilson, that was the year her husband--and a megachurch pastor--walked away from her and her family. Suddenly, her church community dissolved, and her dreams and identity were shattered.Yet God transformed this heartbreaking time into an invaluable lesson on the gift of healing. And now, Brandi beautifully tells her courageous story of confronting grief and heartache head-on and learning how to rise from the pain. Filled with aha moments and laugh-out-loud humor, this book reminds you that your story is always evolving and that you can move forward with hope after divorce. Brandi helps you:· rely on and find comfort in the promises of God · begin a new journey toward healing· find freedom in your new identityWhile your life looks drastically different now, there is ho

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Book SynopsisFINDING FREEDOM IN THE LOST KITCHEN is Erin French’s rollercoaster memoir about her struggle to follow her dream and bring joy to people through food.

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Book SynopsisGrowing up with him was like being in my own war zone, living in perpetual fear of when the bombs would fall.Trade Review“Brilliant and harrowing” Davina McCall "Breathtaking writing. Beautiful and life changing.” Robert Rinder, Talk TV "Highly recommended" Robin Ince, broadcaster and writer "Emotional and brilliant" Hugo Rifkind, Times Radio "A truly remarkable book" Alastair Campbell, Former Downing Street Communications Director and mental health campaigner "It's the unvarnished truth on every page and is enormously powerful. In a way, it makes it own genre, and it's a genre that's accessible without being dumbed down. At their best, authors like Hemingway and Hornby do this." Matthew Parris, The Spectator "Powerful and honest" Rob Crossan, Sunday Express "A beautiful book and in the end one of the most hopeful. I tore through it" Chris Van Tulleken, TV doctor

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Book SynopsisChildren living in separated family situations fare best when their relationship with each of their parents continues to be close. Putting Children First helps mothers and fathers unlock and resolve the conflict around contact with children that can arise during and after separation. Using strategies such as parenting plans, scripted phone calls and parenting meetings, the book will enable parents to communicate effectively on all the most important things in their children''s lives - and make relaxed arrangements for the continued involvement by both parents with their children.Trade Review...quite simply, the best book on separation that we have ever read. Both the authors work at the Centre for Separated Families and have a wealth of experience with this client group. In this clever book - and its associated 'Parenting Plan s' booklet - they guide both mothers and fathers (they have a real understanding of the needs and experiences of both sexes) through the emotional and practical journey of separation and its aftermath. Their explicit aim is to help parents 'put their children first', but the authors know this cannot be achieved until both father and mother can manage and understand their own feelings. Sensitive, practical, beautifully written, we believe this book should be REQUIRED READING for all professionals working in this field; and should always be offered to separating and separated mothers and fathers * Fatherhood Institute *The book is clearly set out and the chapters logically and thoroughly explore all the issues that might arise before reaching a conclusion with sound advice on each topic * Parenting Without Tears *When the authors of a book have been through the scenario and actually run a centre for Separated Families, you know you can trust the content and benefit from the knowledge shared. With family separations being part of today's society, it is important that the children's lives are affected only in a positive way and this can be achieved. It does, however, take a lot of hard work and this is where the book becomes an invaluable tool in the whole process. There could be a tendency to preach but the book focuses on the positive aspects of working together and show light at the end of what can seem a very long tunnel. If you are in this situation, it is great to read this book and know that a happy medium can be reached * From Bump to Grump *

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Book SynopsisIn 2014 a media storm erupted when Gwyneth Paltrow announced her separation from Chris Martin, describing it as a harmonious and mutual ''conscious uncoupling'' and the term entered the world''s vocabulary overnight. Coined and created by relationship expert Katherine Woodward Thomas, the expression ''conscious uncoupling'' has become synonymous with a divorce where both partners accept that they each played a role in the breakup and, in particular, are looking to co-parent in a functional and healthy way in the future. The Conscious Uncoupling 5 Step Process is designed to support separating couples through the thorny terrain of a breakup, helping them to consciously complete a relationship in ways that leave all involved whole, healthy and well, and optimistic about future relationships. CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING offers a new paradigm for divorcing couples and is set to become a classic in the genre.

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Book Synopsis**A SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER**We've all been on promising dates that left us feeling worse in the long run, suffered from breakups we might have mishandled, or stayed in relationships which should have worked but didn't. So what are we missing? Don't panic! Toni Tone is here to give the big sister advice we all need: discovering what we want from a connection, flourishing through heartbreak, and learning the vital importance of difficult conversations for growth and self-respect. Speaking from a place of experience and empathy, she talks through the value of intuition, asking questions, and taking responsibility for the choices we make, offering practical, simple advice to improve any relationship, and insight into our own behaviours.From comfort zones and goal setting to healthy boundaries and keeping yourself centred, Toni offers the loving, healing and authentic common sense lessons that aren't so common.It may just change your life.Trade Review‘Relatable and insightful…Tone’s approach could be characterised as crisp but kind, with a writing style that is eminently accessible and inclusive, providing just the kind of big-sisterly feel she originally aspired to.’CAROLINE SANDERSON, THE BOOKSELLER ‘This book is scarily accurate. There were so many times where I was adamant that Toni was talking specifically to and about me. I can see identical versions of my friends and I in every single lesson, there were so many points where I literally wanted to screenshot a whole page, send it to my friend and say "LOOOOOOOOOK IT'S YOU!” Spoiler alert: Everyone I know is getting a copy of this book for their next birthday.’JULIE ADENUGA, BROADCASTER and CULTURAL CURATOR

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Book Synopsis''The poster girl for divorce.'' The Times''If you''ve ever had your heart broken (and who hasn''t) Rosie Green''s How to Heal a Broken Heart is your best friend. Honest, comforting and hopeful.'' MARIAN KEYES''I love Rosie Green''s writing.'' ELIZABETH DAY''Brilliant. One of the few books that I''ve found that really describes what a broken heart feels like. It touched so many nerves.'' VANESSA FELTZ''It reduced me to tears.'' EMMA BARNETT, Woman''s Hour, BBC Radio 4''It wasn''t a conscious uncoupling. I had my heart ripped out and stamped on.''When Rosie Green''s husband walked out after 26 years together, he declined to leave a forwarding address. Instead, he left a devastated woman who turned into someone she barely recognised: unable to eat or sleep, and so desperate to keep her family together she''d sacrifice her sense of self - and her dignity.She thought s

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Book SynopsisFrom the Irish Tatler's Woman of the Year for Literature and one of the AN Post Irish Book Awards's Best New Irish Writers comes a novel about one woman's decision to leave everything behind 'Thrillingly relatable' Harper's Bazaar'This funny, thoughtful novel will resonate with lots of women' Good Housekeeping'You won't be able to put this down. A fascinating study of a woman who has sacrificed her dreams' The Gloss'A masterful account of one woman's dramatic rebellion against society's demands'Daily Express'A vivid portrait of a woman adrift' ObserverMothers are not supposed to go on road trips . . . But one winter morning in Dublin, an ordinary woman wakes up in her ordinary home, her husband next to her in bed, her teenage children sleeping nearby. And - without thinking much about it - walks out the front door and never comes back. So begins a journey which will take her into service stations and shopping centres, hotel bars and hairdressers - and the beds of strange men. Unt

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Book SynopsisIf you are going through a painful breakup or divorce, you may feel like the life you once knew is crashing down around you. You need help to gather the pieces and "rebuild" yourself from the ground up. Rebuilding features Bruce Fisher's "divorce process rebuilding blocks," a proven-effective, nineteen-step process for putting one's life back together after divorce.Now the most widely-used approach to divorce recovery, the "rebuilding" model makes the process healthier and less traumatic for those who are divorcing or divorced-and their children. Over two decades of research and practice are combined with feedback from hundreds of thousands of men and women who have used the book on their own, or in one of thousands of Fisher divorce recovery seminars worldwide.This book also includes Fisher's detailed Healing Separation model-the first of its kind to offer couples a healing alternative to the usual slide from separation to divorce. This fourth edition, revised with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Robert Alberti, continues Bruce's tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of his clients and readers.If you've been struggling to rebuild your life after a divorce, this book offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants self-help!

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Book SynopsisA former family barrister, Charlotte Friedman decided to move from the courtroom to the therapist's chair in order to help people manage the emotional fall-out of divorce. In this books she offers calm, therapeutic advice on everything from how to manage loneliness to letting go of grievance.

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Book SynopsisA funny, tender, utterly beguiling story about a woman's search for happinessTrade ReviewIf Eat Pray Love has become a bible for women wanting to initiate change in their lives, then Gilbert is their patron saint * Sunday Times *A defining work of memoir * Sunday Telegraph *Everyone who reads it has a new best friend * The Times *If you read one book, this should be it * Sun *Life changing * Daily Express *Gilbert’s prose is fueled by a mix of intelligence, wit and colloquial exuberance that is close to irresistible * The New York Times Book Review *An engaging, intelligent, and highly entertaining memoir * Time *A meditation on love in its many forms - love of food, language, humanity, God, and most meaningful for Gilbert, love of self * Los Angeles Times *

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Book SynopsisJen Hatmaker is an author, podcaster, speaker, advocate, educator and mother. She is the author of four New York Times bestsellers, speaks frequently to large audiences, runs courses and book club communities. Guests on her podcast For The Love include Brené Brown, Glennon Doyle, Roxane Gay, Melinda French-Gates and Jada Pinkett-Smith.

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Book SynopsisWhen a marriage ends, the most important thing divorcing parents can do is to help their children through this difficult transition and remain united as parents even if they are no longer united as a couple. In Parenting Apart divorce coach Christina McGhee offers practical advice on how to help children adjust and thrive during and after separation and divorce. She looks at all the different issues parents may face with their children of different ages, offering immediate solutions to the most critical parenting problems divorce brings, including:When to tell your children about the divorce and what to say How to create a loving, secure home if your child doesn''t live with you full timeWhat to do if your child is angry or sadHow to manage the legal system, including information on family law and issues of custodyHow to deal with a difficult ex This is an invaluable resource that offers parents quick access to the information you most Trade ReviewThis indispensable resource should be placed in the hands of every separated and divorced parent * Jack Canfield, Co-author of Chicken Soup for the Single Parent’s Soul *Parenting Apart is the book every child wishes their divorced parents would read * Amy McCready, Parenting expert and founder of Positive Parenting Solutions *

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Book SynopsisYour guide to building a life that''s full of joy as a single parentThrough her own experience of becoming a single parent and in her work founding the leading single parent app Frolo, Zoë Desmond heard the same questions over and over again and found that while backgrounds and family setups may vary, single parents everywhere share many of the same concerns. The community she founded has helped thousands of people find a way to not just survive, but thrive, and this book will do the same for you.How to Be a Happy Single Parent will help you build a life that is right for you, and your children. From surviving the first few weeks to moving on, through legal matters, co-parenting negotiations or finding a helping hand as a solo parent and into dating and navigating work, this book will take you step-by-step through the first few days, weeks, months and years of your new life.This book is for all single parents: the co-parents, the widow/erTrade ReviewI wish I had this book when I was starting out as a solo mother - I know it will help so many -- Natalie ImbrugliaA brilliant, comforting and much-needed handbook for those navigating the many ups and (some) downs of single parenting -- Helen Thorn * bestselling author of Get Divorced, Be Happy *The inclusive guide for everyone whose family doesn't look the way they thought it would. -- James Hunt (@storiesaboutautism)

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Book SynopsisSurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships draws on current research, a wide variety of clinical modalities, and thirty years of clinical work with stepfamily members to describe the special challenges stepfamilies face. The book presents the concept of stepfamily architecture and the five challenges it creates, and delineates three different levels of strategiesâpsychoeducation, building interpersonal skills, and intrapsychic workâfor meeting those challenges in dozens of different settings. The model is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, from a highly trained clinician who needs to know how and when to work on all three levels, to a school counselor or clergy person who may work on the first two levels but refer out for level three. It will also be useful to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel who will practice on the first level, but need to understand the other two to guide their work.Trade Review"Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships is the best clinical book ever written on the topic. Period. It is unique in recognizing the variety of forms of modern stepfamilies and their different treatment needs. And no one writes as eloquently and knowledgeably as Papernow about both the problematic patterns of stepfamilies and the rich variety of helpful interventions available to therapists. This compelling book should be part of the curriculum of every graduate training program and should be read by any therapist who works with couples and families."—Alan S. Gurman, PhD, visiting professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and clinical professor of psychology at the Family Institute at Northwestern University"This is a long awaited and extremely important book that is destined to be a classic. Written by a pioneer in the field who is in her fourth decade of studying and treating stepfamilies, it is a remarkable achievement filled with wisdom both for those who help stepfamilies and for those who live in them. It both authoritative, including all the relevant research, and engaging, sprinkled with clear and well-written examples and practical advice. It is also comprehensive, covering stepfamilies of different ethnicities, sexual orientations, stages of development, and suggesting interventions at a variety of levels. I recommend it to all my students and stepfamily clients."—Richard Schwartz, PhD, developer of the Internal Family Systems model "With Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships Patricia Papernow has written a book that does justice to the complex issues involved here while at the same time being readable, accessible, down-to-earth, and most important, practical and chock full of what to do and how to do it in the face of problems and crises. This book is a great resource for both families and the clinical practitioners seeking to help them effectively. I highly recommend it to both groups."—Diana Fosha, PhD, developer of AEDP (Accelerated Experiential-Dynamic Psychotherapy) and author of The Transforming Power of Affect“The book, and the outline of the stepfamily cycle, gives readers an organized way to identify challenges and find ways around them. Some chapters also offer tips on interpersonal skills and ways to openly communicate. …[H]ers is an easy-to-read book that can help clinicians as well as family members begin to understand the complex nature of stepfamilies. And, hopefully, help them begin to work together.”— Tamara Hill, MS, Psychcentral.comTable of ContentsThe Families Key to Genograms List of Figures Acknowledgements Part I: Laying the Foundation for Stepfamily Architecture 1. A Map for Stepfamilies 2. What Makes Stepfamilies Different? Part II: The Five Challenges 3. The First Challenge: Insider/Outsider Positions are Intense and Stuck 4. The Second Challenge: Children Struggle With Losses, Loyalty Binds, and Too Much Change 5. The Third Challenge: Parenting Tasks Polarize the Adults 6. The Fourth Challenge: Creating a New Family Culture 7. The Fifth Challenge: Ex-Spouses are Part of the Family Part III: Four "Diverse" Stepfamilies 8. Stepfamilies Headed by Lesbian and Gay Couples 9. African American Stepfamilies: Strengths We Can Learn From 10. The Challenges for Latino Stepfamilies 11. New Wrinkles: Later Life Cycle Stepfamilies Part IV: Stepfamilies Over Time 12. The Stepfamily Cycle: Normal Stages of Stepfamily Development 13. Six Patterns of Becoming a Stepfamily Part V: Helping Stepfamilies Thrive 14. Level I: A Tool Box for Psychoeducation 15. Level II: A Tool Box for Interpersonal Skills 16. Level III: A Tool Box for Intrapsychic Work Becoming a Stepfamily is a Process, Not an Event Working with Stepfamily Members Over Time Conclusion Endnotes References

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Book SynopsisThe PERFECT GIFT for anyone who has ever broken up with someone or ever been broken up with, or is about to take a trip to Break-up City, population you. ''Ah well,'' thinks Martin. ''At least she left me a packet of cigarettes and a little bicycle made out of pipe cleaners.''_____________Rocco paid a fortune for the website getdianeback.com but it failed to get Diane back.So Rocco built a new Diane in his shed.The Diane runs on a 1kW motor, can run most Android apps, and will probably not run off with Rocco''s brother. This delightful book is the latest in the series of Ladybird books which have been specially planned to help grown-ups with the world about them. The large clear script, the careful choice of words, the frequent repetition and the thoughtful matching of text with pictures all enable grown-ups to think they have taught themselves to cope. Featuring original Ladybird artwork alongside brilliantly funny, brand new text. ''Hilarious'' StylistTrade ReviewHilarious * Stylist *

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Book SynopsisTable of ContentsContentsIntroduction 11Part One: What Happens Next?Chapter 1 Seeking Support 20Chapter 2 When it’s Hard to… 50Chapter 3 Talking about Divorce and Separation 72Chapter 4 Coping with the Day-to-day 82Chapter 5 Taking Time Out 88Part Two: Moving ForwardChapter 6 Separating Lives 98Chapter 7 Family 113Chapter 8 Your Ex-spouse or Partner 124Chapter 9 What to Do about Social Media 135Chapter 10 What to Do about Wedding Items 142Chapter 11 What to Do about the Practicalities of Separation 148Part Three: Moving OnChapter 12 Emotions 156Chapter 13 Combining Past and Present 175Chapter 14 When Other People’s Lives Move On 185Chapter 15 Difficult Dates of the Year 201Chapter 16 Intimacy 216Chapter 17 New Beginnings 229

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Book SynopsisAdvances and Techniques in Restoration Therapy focuses on the practical elements of the Restoration Therapy Model to help mental health professionals working with individuals, couples, and families, to restore broken identities and senses of safety, and to move toward action that is functional and healing. Richly illustrated with case examples from experienced clinicians, this volume brings new insights and a range of established and emerging therapeutic techniques to the framework and Restoration Therapy community. This is an innovative and much-needed step-by-step manual, which will provide marriage and family therapists and counselors with practical ways of applying key interventions to varied situations of pain, to help clients find functional, healing solutions with integrity. Trade Review"Is there another book that is so inspiring, practical, humane, and creative, all at the same time? Systemic therapy has been begging for a model that uncovers love, safety, and the virtuous truth within every person! Hargrave and colleagues have surprises on every page. Interventions for children, Asian-Americans, and those with personality disorders illustrate the versatility of restoration therapy. These thoughtful questions and transcripts demonstrate how mindfulness cycles liberate our families from pain and conflict."—Suzanne Midori Hanna, PhD, LMFT, senior scholar at the Hiebert Institute, instructor at Capella University and Touro University Worldwide, and author of The Practice of Family Therapy: Key Elements Across Models, 5th Edition"This excellent new edition uses facts from neuroscience to explain how humans process and then relive their individual pain cycle. From there, the book provides therapists with a guide to helping clients move into the peace cycle, using diagrams, cases and dialogue to learn and perfect their skill. Beginners and seasoned therapists that desire a model that resonates with family therapy will find the book easy to follow and the work rewarding to practice."—Linda Metcalf, PhD, LMFT, LPC, director of graduate counseling programs at Texas Wesleyan University"If you are not yet familiar with the new kid on the block, restoration therapy, you are in for a treat. Hargrave and colleagues have created a contemporary model based on the wisdom of attachment theory and contextual therapy. This sequel goes deeper into the theory with the bonus of practical interventions to move a client to truth and healing. I highly recommend this work to enhance your inner work as well as that of your clients."—Jackie L. Halstead, PhD, LMFT, CEO of the Selah Center for Spiritual FormationTable of ContentsPreface I. The Restoration Therapy Model 1. Understanding the Patterns of Pain 2. Finding Truth and the Peace Cycle II. Advances, Techniques, and Interventions 3. Organization, Sequence, and Structure 4. Interventions to Identify Truth and Expand Emotional Regulation 5. The Truth About Safety 6. Practice, Self-Control, and Mindfulness III. Considerations in Restoration Therapy 7. Working with Restoration Therapy with Special Populations and Situations 8. Questions and Answers Regarding Restoration Therapy

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Book SynopsisHigh-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation: The Making and Breaking of Family Ties describes an innovative approach for families where children are caught up in their parents' acrimonious relationship - before, during and after formal legal proceedings have been initiated and concluded. This first book in a brand-new series by researchers and clinicians at the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families (AFNCCF) outlines a model of therapeutic work which involves children, their parents and the wider family and social network. The aim is to protect children from conflict between their parents and thus enable them to have healthy relationships across both sides' of their family network.High-Conflict Parenting Post-Separation is written for professionals who work with high-conflict families be that psychologists, psychiatrists, child and adult psychotherapists, family therapists, social workers, children's guardians and legal pTrade Review"This book is a great read. It is an essential text for all professionals who want to develop and hone their therapeutic skills with high conflict couples and their wider families. The framework is always child centred, and the parents' ability to think about the welfare of their children despite their ongoing hostility to one another, is the subject of many thoughtful examples. The text combines sound research-based knowledge and precise focussed applications with a lightness of touch that retains the readers curiosity and interest. The combination of the rigour that is required by working with the Family Court and the playfulness that keeps children and families engaged in the process of change is in balance throughout. It is a book to read as a whole in a couple of sittings and then re-read chapter by chapter to take on board the complexity that underlies the apparently straightforward advice and recommendations."- Gill Gorell Barnes, Consultant Family Therapist and former Expert Witness to the Family Court"Asen and Morris write with the clarity born of deep experience. Their book contains as good an analysis as I have seen of the predicament of children caught in acrimonious family breakdowns and they propose a convincing new framework for diagnosis and treatment in cases where contact has stopped. Moving beyond conventional labels, the authors offer a more hopeful prospect for families and they offer professionals, lawyers included, a solid understanding of the psychological forces at work in these extraordinarily difficult and painful cases."- Lord Justice Peter Jackson"This is a much-needed book by two inspired authors with rich clinical experience writing in an extraordinarily engaging way. It is an essential read for all clinicians because parenting invariably involves conflict, and its understanding and resolution is clearest and most readily appreciated in the instances beautifully described in this volume. It is the best available guide for dealing with the most complex situations in family work, which will support and guide all of us who have the task of helping families work-through differences in the management of children in the context of relationships under stress. I cannot imagine a clinician working with families or individuals who would not find a great deal in this book that they can use in their daily practice."- Professor Peter Fonagy, Head of the Division of Psychology and Language Sciences, UCL, and Chief Executive of the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and FamiliesTable of ContentsIntroduction 01. High-Conflict Parenting: The Family Context 02. FamilyTies: Conceptual Framework and Evaluation 03. Legal Frameworks and Planning the Work 04. Assessing Children 05. Assessing Parents 06. Therapeutic Assessment of Family Relationships and Planning Interventions 07. Re-establishing and Sustaining Contact 08. Ensuring Safe and Reflective Practice 09. Early Interventions – Avoiding Litigation and Court

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Book SynopsisFunny, judgement-free and full of brilliant first-hand advice, this empowering guide will help anyone ditch their controlling partner to find freedom and happiness.'Will help so many learn to recognize what an abusive relationship is' – Mel B, Patron of Women's AidAre you forever finding yourself in the stranglehold of controlling companions? Well, fear not, because once you’ve finished reading this book, you’ll be able to wave ta-ta to unhappy and unhealthy relationships for good. Consider me the Psycho Sprucer, Bad Boy Buster, the Hot Mess Assessor – ready to leave your love life sparkling.How to Leave Your Psychopath is a candid account of the complex, subtle nature of coercive control and abusive relationships from comedian Maddy Anholt, who – until her eyes were opened – had spent her entire dating life trapped in them.Relatable and accessible, the book covers all the common techniques these toxic twerps use to exert control, including gaslighting, breadcrumbing and negging. This book is the ultimate handbook to help you see and respond to red flags, recognize controlling traits, and learn to give any prospective date a score on Maddy's unique 'Psychometer', from super-empath to psychopath.Vitally, by interweaving psychological insight and autobiographical anecdotes, Maddy shows you the road to self-discovery, leading you on the path to safer dating and a healthier, more joyful life.'I read it all in one sitting, it is brilliant! This book is so relatable and Maddy's funny and engaging approach starts serious conversations' – Teresa Parker, Women's AidTrade ReviewAs someone who has experienced coercive control myself, I know that speaking out is brave but so important. Maddy talks about this very serious issue in an extremely human often even funny way which I think is brilliant because it helps remove the fear and shame, and will help so many learn to recognise what an abusive relationship is. -- Melanie Brown ('Mel B'), Patron of Women's AidMaddy Anholt has written the ultimate guide to identifying the psychopath in your life. Combining scientific analysis with throat-tightening memoir, read this and extradite yourself from the power players. Taut, terrifying, terrific. -- Nichi Hodgson, author of The Curious History of DatingHow To Leave Your Psychopath is like sitting in a room with your girlfriends comparing relatable, crushing stories about cruel exes whilst cheerleading each other on to leave, heal, and live again. -- Chimene Suleyman, writer and editor of The Good Immigrant USAI read it all in one sitting, it is brilliant! This book is so relatable, really well written and Maddy's funny and engaging approach starts serious conversations about what a healthy relationship is. -- Teresa Parker, Women's AidThis book is visceral, candid, and insightful, Maddy Anholt is an exceptional writer, who has crafted a book on relationships that is not only very funny but also extremely heartfelt. -- Giles Paley-Phillips, author of One Hundred and Fifty-Two Days and Blank: Why It's Fine to Falter and Fail, and How to Pick Yourself Up AgainA humorous take on a serious subject: the insidious and dangerous effect of the controlling men who destroy the physical and mental well being of the women they seek to diminish. -- Cherie Blair QC, Patron of Refuge

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Book SynopsisCommitting to a long-term relationship is a big deal—especially if you have doubts. With a focus on common sense over emotion, world-renowned sex and relationship therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer offers straight-up advice on whether you should stick it out or cut your losses and move on. In Stay or Go, Dr. Ruth divides troubled couplings into three “flavors”: Dark Toxic (run!), Rocky Road (rough patch ahead), and Merely Troubled (it’s worth the effort). She knows relationships are rarely black and white—there’s always the bad with the good—so here she helps you determine where the scales in your relationship are tipping. Delving into everything from communicating to financial stresses, parenting pressures to long-distance relationships, she helps you to understand your romantic expectations—reasonable and unreasonable—what you can do to save a relationship, and how and when you should say goodbye. And it all comes with the wit and wisdom that has made Dr. Ruth the one to turn to for putting your life together once and for all.Trade Review“Ever practical, Dr. Ruth wants to help you figure out whether you have enough of the whole package—love, lust, trust—to make the union worth saving.” —AARP Magazine “A clearly written, succinct resource for those waffling with the decision to stay or move on from a long-term relationship.” —Library Journal

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Book SynopsisThrough therapists and word-of-mouth, thousands have discovered this formerly out-of-print classic. This is because abandonment — stemming from divorce, breakups, death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream — is a challenge faced in every life. No other workbook so directly and practically addresses this issue. Readers learn to face five stages — shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, and lifting — with concrete recovery tools, including discovering and healing old, underlying issues; identifying self-defeating behaviors of mistrust and insecurity; and building self-esteem. While healing from heartbreak and freedom from pain are the goals of most sufferers, readers also lay the foundation for experiencing a renewed, perhaps better-than-ever, sense of self and a profound ability to love and be loved.

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Book SynopsisOn Divorce, the Break Up, and a Broken Heart"Kingma deals with love so directly . . . that Coming Apart brings immediate comfort to anyone in pain." ― LA Weekly, ReviewOriginally published in 1987, and continuously in print since then, Coming Apart has been an important resource for hundreds of thousands of readers experiencing painful breakups. Whether going through a divorce, separation, or break up, bestselling author, Daphne Rose Kingma, offers the tools and validation needed to move forward.Bad breakups and stressful situations. Love is great; a broken heart, not so much. Usually accompanied by insomnia, loss of appetite, and depression, the end of a relationship is a hard time for anyone. Getting over a breakup requires grit and understanding. This breakup first aid kit helps you get through heartbreak without falling apart and with your self-esteem intact.Uncoupling and understanding. While only time can heal wounds, understanding what transpired in each of our relationships is what allows us to finally let go and move on. With a refreshing perspective on relationships, Coming Apart helps us understand that all relationships come with lessons to be learned. So, rather than obsess over your ex, explore the critical facets of relationship breakdowns: Why we choose who we choose What relationships are really about The life span of love How to get through the end A personal workbook to process and move forward With a foreword by the author of Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas, this new edition is sure to impress fans of, How to Survive the Loss of a Love, Getting Past Your Breakup, The Breakup Bible, Uncoupling, and other divorce books for women.Table of ContentsContentsForeword A Note to My Readers Introduction to the Revised Edition 1 A Hand to Hold 2 Why Is Breaking Up So Hard to Do? 3 Exploding the Love Myths: Why Are We Really in Relationships? 4 Charting the Life-Span of Love: Seven Relationships and Why They Ended 5 The Emotional Process of Parting 6 The Unconscious Process of Parting 7 Binding the Wounds: How to Get Through the Ending 8 The Postscript Relationship: An Antidote to Love 9 Finding Resolution: A Personal Workbook 10 Is There Love after Love? 11 A Ritual for Parting A Diagnostic Coda: When Love No Longer Works—Signs and Symptoms of Ending

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Book SynopsisHey! I think you should know that there is nothing your parents are more proud of... than YOU!'This simple graphic story helps children whose parents are separating to feel better. The book says why some parents have to live in different places, reminds the child how special they are to both parents, and reassures them that both parents will keep looking after them, and love them just as before.Getting to the heart of what children need to hear in what can be a confusing time, the story lets your child know that they are loved and safe, and that this will not change. Ideal for children aged 3-7.Trade ReviewA difficult subject sensitively handled. Chandler uses gentle humour to show that change doesn't have to be feared. -- David O’Connell, author of 'Jampires' and 'When I'm a Monster Like You, Dad!’A sweet and thoughtful picture book that helps children to deal with their family separating. -- Peter Bunzl, author of 'Cogheart’ and ‘ Moonlocket’In this straightforward and reassuring resource, British comics creator Chandler addresses children directly, underscoring the consistence of parental love amid separation or divorce. The artwork features a family of three jellybean-shaped, candy-colored creatures. The parents are shown arguing and sitting apart from each other on the sofa: 'They realized that if they stayed living in the same place, things would get very unhappy for everyone.' Though separate homes may seem scary or sad, Chandler maintains that both parents will 'see you lots' and 'take you to fun places,' making the book best suited to families where those statements are true. The characters' lack of gender or ethnicity allows them to speak to a broad audience. Ages 3-7. (Oct.) -- Publishers WeeklyAnything that helps young children cope with traumatic times in their lives is really valuable, and the simple approach of this reassuring book is perfect for 3 to 5 year olds. It shows, through straightforward text and attractive graphic images, why some parents have to live in different places. Despite that, children remain special to both parents; the story reassures them that both parents will keep looking after them, and love them just as before. The love parents retain for children is paramount in the book. -- Parents in TouchThis lovely picture book is written for very young children whose parents are separating. It is illustrated with gender-neutral drawings, in which people are represented by shapes, so that neither the child nor either parent has a definite gender. The reason parents might separate and the feelings this may cause are simply and lovingly portrayed in a positive way. This is a gentle but honest approach to a difficult subject, which will enable parents to commence communication with their child and with confidence. -- Youth In MindSo even though your parents don't agree on everything, the one thing they are both sure of is that you are amazing...and they both love you with all their hearts.'The one thing I am sure of is that this is the best book of its kind for young children that I have seen so far! It's a very difficult subject to put into words, and for word-lacking parents it will prove very special indeed. -- Elizabeth Schlenther, HealthyBooks.org.ukA simple and comforting book for young children that helps explain the reasons parents decide to live apart. Focuses on the message that the child is loved above all else, to help ease worries and fears the experience may bring up.Very simple, abstract characters and no gender specific pronouns allow this book to be used by a broad range of families. By focusing on how much the child is loved, and how both parents will still be around even though things will be different gives the book a positive tone, while explaining a difficult topic. -- Little ParachutesTable of ContentsYou Make Your Parents Super Happy! - the story

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Book Synopsis'The man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce' The New York Times 'One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating' Daily Mail 'Could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages' Literary Review One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. As he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from adoring to angry he realised that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a bad husband. From the raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories he shared about the lessons he's learned from his failed marriage comes this strangely hopeful guide to saving relationships. This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. This is a must-read for people in any stage of a relationship, whether it's near the beginning or nearing the end. Good people can be bad partners - here's how to ensure that isn't you.Trade ReviewFray's insight is to realise that the substance of the dispute isn't that important - it was his reaction to his ex-wife's reaction to the dirty dishes that, over time, hollowed out their marriage ... Makes me want to try harder in future * The Times *One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating * Daily Mail *Fray's disarming personality and the sharing of his own story make people feel like they're not being judged ... His stark message: Don't end up like me * The New York Times *The nuggets of good sense in this book could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages * Literary Review *A fascinating book ... definitely worth a read * Woman's Own *Hard-hitting * Telegraph *Offers a frank and refreshingly modern view, one that never makes dated, flippant assumptions about love languages or Venus and Mars ... [Has] resonance for anyone who's ever had a broken heart - or labored to keep one from cracking -- Salon.comShares how the small things have big repercussions * Grazia *Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor -- Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair PlayHugely resonant * Metro *It's hard to quibble with Fray's central message - that men could learn to "suck less" at marriage by becoming more attentive to their partners' feelings * Financial Times *Transformational -- Zoe Blaskey, The Motherkind podcastAn important book! Especially for men ... He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership -- John Kim, bestselling author of Single On PurposeReveals why we (men and women) get it wrong so often and what we can do to fix it ... Entertaining, honest, and truly practical -- Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My MasculinitySobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious ... gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it - for yourself and for the one you love -- Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful QuestionPuts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies -- Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love

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Book SynopsisAre you feeling broken, perhaps in pieces, not knowing which way to turn? Separation and divorce often catch us at our most vulnerable, at a time when we're especially in need of impartial, solid counsel in order to decide on the best course of action for us. This book's been written by a group of professionals, with many decades of experience in working with separating and divorcing clients. They have worked together to give you an insight into the steps that may be available to you, to answer some frequently asked questions and to offer reassurance that things will get better in time. Sections on family law, mediation, finance, mortgages, mental health and wellbeing are here for you to dip into as and when you need. It's Your Divorce Handbook - It's What You Do Next That Counts.

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Book SynopsisOn Divorce is the debut title in a new portrait photography series by The School of Life. The photographs and accompanying texts were captured and recorded over two years by British photographer Harry Borden (himself divorced). The images are a mirror that can help to correct some of what we think we know of divorce and pull us in a different direction: towards compassion, identification, curiosity, self-reflection and empathy. The book features an introduction by The School of Life, which gives context to Borden’s photographic study. Harry Borden is an acclaimed British portrait photographer. His work is regularly published in major news outlets and is part of the collection of The National Portrait Gallery in London. Previous publications include Single Dad (2021) and Survivor: A Portrait of the Survivors of the Holocaust (2017).

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Book SynopsisWhether you're single by choice or not, becoming a single mother is mentally exhausting. And in a world where negative stereotypes are still rife, it can be difficult to ask for help. This is where Surviving Solo Motherhood steps in, offering emotional support to single mothers of any aged child. Journalist Amy Rose and clinical psychologist Dr Emma Cotterill draw upon the lived experiences of the single parent community and look closely at the effect single-parent life can have on your mental health. Each chapter focuses on a different emotional state, and includes personal, lived experience an array of single mothers from various backgrounds, as well as psychological support and tools. Topics covered within the book include:Anxiety - a look at various triggers single mothers experience and discussion of the different types of anxiety, de-mystifying what it is (a physical response to threat real or perceived) and what it isn't (a sign that you are failing as a parent). Shame - unpicking the broader theme of stereotyping single mothers, while sharing personal experiences of shame from women of various backgrounds. Cover the difference between shame and remorse and how our body processes shame. Grief - understanding how to recognise and process your grief, unlearning everything you knew about your and your child's future and reconstructing what your idea of family looks like. Joy - how to find Joy once more, in the small moments and creating a life you're proud of. Strategies to find joy in hard times By working through the book you will become more resilient and feel stronger, allowing you to be more present for your child. This is the book to reach for when you need somewhere to turn.Table of Contents Introduction 1. Where you are 2. Grief 3. Rage 4. Shame 5. Guilt 6. Anxiety 7. Depression 8. From Powerless to Powerful 9. Joy 10. Finding Romance 11. Love 12. Your New Normal Further reading/resources

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Book SynopsisUnputdownable A perfect summer holiday read' ????? Reader ReviewSparkling sun, strolls in the gorgeous French countryside, that first sip of cool, crisp wine Summer is Kat's favourite season. And this year should be no exceptionFun, emotional and packed with French sunshine. I adored it!' Sunday Times bestselling author Milly JohnsonAs soon as Kat Jenson set foot in the idyllic French village of Kirchhoffen, she knew she'd found her home. Now she has a dreamy boyfriend, a delightful dog and the perfect job managing a bustling book café in the vibrant Parc Lemmel.But when she learns her boyfriend isn't all he seems, it's the start of a difficult summer for Kat. Vindictive troublemakers, work woes and family heartache follow, and the clear blue sky that was her life suddenly seems full of clouds.Then she gets to know the mysterious Noah, and her sun begins to shine brighter than ever. But Noah has problems of his own ones that could scupper their new-found happiness. Together, can theTrade ReviewPraise for Sue Moorcroft: ‘A joyous slice of summer sunshine, gloriously uplifting and the perfect escape.’ Alex Brown 'I was whisked away to sunny France in this fabulously engaging story full of warmth and charm with the added benefit of books and pastries!' Bella Osborne ‘An absolutely gorgeous French escape full of sunshine – I loved it!’ Rachael Lucas ’Sue Moorcroft whisks you away to a stunning French setting with lashings of romance – sheer delight!’ Fiona Gibson ‘Must read!’ Daily Express ‘I love all of Sue Moorcroft’s books!’ Katie Fforde

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Book SynopsisLove and Sex in a New Relationship explores leaving a long relationship and starting a new one, with all the complexities that entails. Using her experience as a relationship therapist, Cate Campbell takes the reader through the journey of loss and renewal, examining the dynamics involved in the end and beginning of a relationship, and how to give new relationships the best chance of survival.Focusing on three main relationship issues, the book considers: how to end a relationship and manage ongoing contact with an ex; how to understand what went wrong in previous relationships; and how to overcome everyday relationship problems and make relationships thrive. Taking into account the effect of technology and social media, and how to make online dating work, the book offers a distinctly modern take on relationships. Similarly, the spectrum of sexuality, gender and sexual relationships is addressed, with many different examples included throughout the book. With practical advice, case studies, quizzes and exercises to help identify and remedy a variety of problems that can occur at any stage of a relationship, Love and Sex in a New Relationship will provide an essential resource for relationship counsellors and their clients.Trade ReviewThis book offers a refreshing approach to the subject of love and sex in new relationships. Accessible as well as scholarly, it covers the end of relationships and the pitfalls which may be encountered when starting again. The author shares her considerable knowledge as a practitioner with the reader, bringing the book alive with case vignettes and offering practical advice and quizzes. Humorous and thought provoking, a highly relevant contemporary look at intimate relationships in the twenty first century. Michèle Logue, MA, relationship and psychosexual therapist, programme leader at the Foundation for Counselling and Relationship Studies at University Centre Doncaster.Table of ContentsCONTENTSIntroduction xPART ONE:A New Start Making decisions xYou and your exxxYour single self xxPART TWO:Looking Forward -- Looking Back How we do relationshipsxxWhy couples arguexxThe unconscious contractxxUnfinished businessxxPART THREE:Managing New RelationshipsUncertainty xxBreaking and avoiding negative cyclesxxxRelationship trauma xxxSexxxxThe relationship lifecyclexxxHappy ever afterIndexxxxxxxEXERCISESPlan your lifexxUsing your younger selfxxTopics for discussionxxVulnerabilityxxQualities xxDriversxxActivity scoringxxxTalking pointxxxWhat kind of life do I want?xxxI am the kind of personxxxQUIZZESBuried concernsxxHow you arguexxHow in touch with the past are you?xxAre you a hoper or a healerxxx

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Book SynopsisYour family lawyer in a book.Whether you are married or living together – with children or without, if you are thinking about or are in the process of splitting up, this book is for you. When a relationship breaks down it’s hugely stressful and emotional – and often very confusing. Who gets to keep what? Will I ever see my kids? What needs to happen and when? What if things get nasty? This all-encompassing book, by family lawyer Laura Naser with years of experience helping couples reach the best solution possible, is here to bring calm and clarity, whatever the situation. She will guide you through the entire process from making sure this is what you really want and knowing what’s at stake, through to detailing all your options (whether you are married or not), what to do and in what order, and with a specific focus on co-parenting, managing money, social media, effective communication and how to resolve tricky issues that come up along the way. See this book as your trusted companion and guide - everything you need to know to get through this and thrive is right here.

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