Separation and divorce / Breaking up Books

Book Synopsis**A SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER**We've all been on promising dates that left us feeling worse in the long run, suffered from breakups we might have mishandled, or stayed in relationships which should have worked but didn't. So what are we missing? Don't panic! Toni Tone is here to give the big sister advice we all need: discovering what we want from a connection, flourishing through heartbreak, and learning the vital importance of difficult conversations for growth and self-respect. Speaking from a place of experience and empathy, she talks through the value of intuition, asking questions, and taking responsibility for the choices we make, offering practical, simple advice to improve any relationship, and insight into our own behaviours.From comfort zones and goal setting to healthy boundaries and keeping yourself centred, Toni offers the loving, healing and authentic common sense lessons that aren't so common.It may just change your life.Trade Review‘Relatable and insightful…Tone’s approach could be characterised as crisp but kind, with a writing style that is eminently accessible and inclusive, providing just the kind of big-sisterly feel she originally aspired to.’CAROLINE SANDERSON, THE BOOKSELLER ‘This book is scarily accurate. There were so many times where I was adamant that Toni was talking specifically to and about me. I can see identical versions of my friends and I in every single lesson, there were so many points where I literally wanted to screenshot a whole page, send it to my friend and say "LOOOOOOOOOK IT'S YOU!” Spoiler alert: Everyone I know is getting a copy of this book for their next birthday.’JULIE ADENUGA, BROADCASTER and CULTURAL CURATOR

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Book SynopsisOn Divorce is the debut title in a new portrait photography series by The School of Life. The photographs and accompanying texts were captured and recorded over two years by British photographer Harry Borden (himself divorced). The images are a mirror that can help to correct some of what we think we know of divorce and pull us in a different direction: towards compassion, identification, curiosity, self-reflection and empathy. The book features an introduction by The School of Life, which gives context to Borden’s photographic study. Harry Borden is an acclaimed British portrait photographer. His work is regularly published in major news outlets and is part of the collection of The National Portrait Gallery in London. Previous publications include Single Dad (2021) and Survivor: A Portrait of the Survivors of the Holocaust (2017).

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Book SynopsisOffers advice to protect children from the results of their parents' animosity. This book details how to distinguish different types of criticism, how and why parents manipulate their children, and how these practices damage children. It also offers parents strategies to preserve and rebuild loving relationships with their children.Trade Review"A godsend to the many divorcees who are bashed by their ex-spouses." -- Publishers Weekly "Divorce Poison is a must read for every parent involved in a hostile divorce." -- Dr. John W. Santrock, professor of psychology, University of Texas at Dallas "With the wisdom and insight of years of professional experience, Dr. Richard A. Warshak shows parents how to avoid the painful repercussions that result when a child becomes the pawn of parental conflicts. If you're divorced and you love your child, read this book!" -- Constance R. Ahrons, Ph.D., senior scholar Council on Contemporary Families, and author of The Good Divorce "An absolute must-read for any parent going through a divorce. Warshak lays bare the evils of parental alienation and gives readers the knowledge they need to defend themselves-and their children-against it." -- Armin Brott, author of The Expentant Father and The Single Father "A breakthrough book... Original, well-written, balanced, and filled with insights, it is perfect for any parent who has been the victim of bad-mouthing." -- Warren Farrell, Ph.D., author of Father and Child Reunion and Why Men Are the Way They Are "Divorce Poison is destined to become a classic. Dr. Warshak's sympathy for mothers, fathers, and relatives struggling to maintain their children's affection is outweighed only by his compassion for the children themselves." -- Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys "This book is a testament to Dr. Warshak's vast experience, erudition, and deep commitment to the prevention, diagnosis, and treatment of the various categories of alienated children." -- Richard A. Gardner, M. D., clinical professor of child psychiatry, Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, author of The Parental Alienation Syndrome "Offers valuable advice, especially for those times when the going gets tough with your ex. It also helps you understand and heal your own hurts without hurting the children you love." -- Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and I'm Okay ... You're a Brat! "Always painful, divorce can turn lethal when one parent attempts to poison the children against an ex-spouse. In this balanced, compassionate book, Richard Warshak offers vital advice to those caught in the emotional maelstrom of a bitter divorce." -- Mark Pendergrast, author of Victims of Memory

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Book SynopsisA funny, tender, utterly beguiling story about a woman's search for happinessTrade ReviewIf Eat Pray Love has become a bible for women wanting to initiate change in their lives, then Gilbert is their patron saint * Sunday Times *A defining work of memoir * Sunday Telegraph *Everyone who reads it has a new best friend * The Times *If you read one book, this should be it * Sun *Life changing * Daily Express *Gilbert’s prose is fueled by a mix of intelligence, wit and colloquial exuberance that is close to irresistible * The New York Times Book Review *An engaging, intelligent, and highly entertaining memoir * Time *A meditation on love in its many forms - love of food, language, humanity, God, and most meaningful for Gilbert, love of self * Los Angeles Times *

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Book SynopsisStop checking your ex’s social media page and start moving on with this guided workbook to help you get over your past relationships. Breakups are hard, but the good news is that there are real, tangible ways to ease the pain and help you through it. The Breakup Workbook is here to help.This workbook starts off with advice for the breakup itself, followed by the recovery stage and how to move through it as painlessly as possible, and then determining what you really want in a relationship (and in yourself) before getting ready to get back out there.With fun exercises like Detox Your Ex-Checklist as well as self-care practices, expert advice, and journal prompts, this workbook is the tool you need to start living your best life today!

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Book SynopsisFINDING FREEDOM IN THE LOST KITCHEN is Erin French’s rollercoaster memoir about her struggle to follow her dream and bring joy to people through food.

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Book SynopsisGrowing up with him was like being in my own war zone, living in perpetual fear of when the bombs would fall.Trade Review“Brilliant and harrowing” Davina McCall "Breathtaking writing. Beautiful and life changing.” Robert Rinder, Talk TV "Highly recommended" Robin Ince, broadcaster and writer "Emotional and brilliant" Hugo Rifkind, Times Radio "A truly remarkable book" Alastair Campbell, Former Downing Street Communications Director and mental health campaigner "It's the unvarnished truth on every page and is enormously powerful. In a way, it makes it own genre, and it's a genre that's accessible without being dumbed down. At their best, authors like Hemingway and Hornby do this." Matthew Parris, The Spectator "Powerful and honest" Rob Crossan, Sunday Express "A beautiful book and in the end one of the most hopeful. I tore through it" Chris Van Tulleken, TV doctor

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Book SynopsisA valuable resource for parents who are transitioning from being married with children to co-parenting together, this handbook will help ensure kids and co-parents thrive. Parents need help to confidently take on the challenges of guiding children through divorce or separation and raising them skillfully in two homes. The authors, both trusted divorce and co-parenting coaches, provide the road map for all family members to safely navigate the difficult emotional terrain through separation/divorce and beyond. Addressing parents' questions about the emotional impact of separation, conflict, grief, and recovery, the authors share their well-tested and reassuring guidance on how to move from angry, hurt partners to constructive, successful co-parents who are able to put their children's needs first. Chock-full of strategies to help resolve day-to-day issues, create boundaries, and establish guidelines.Trade Review"An impressive guide for couples who are divorced or undergoing one. The book details the challenges of raising kids in two different homes with two separate beliefs, rules and how to address those challenges. For couples who are struggling with parenthood after divorce, this is one of the best co-parenting books." -Anna Penenberg, author of Dancing in the Narrows: A Mother-Daughter Odyssey Through Chronic Illness "This book is thorough while also being concise and easy to understand. Kudos to the authors for taking such a big topic and making it accessible and applicable to real life." -Divorce Proofing "A brilliant book that has been needed for a long time . . . Bonnell stresses the importance of putting the child's needs first, putting one's own ego to the side, and co-parenting without being swallowed by the emotional chaos." -Mother "When parents are separated or divorced, they face unique challenges while raising children. However, co-parents can still create healthy family dynamics even if the kids live in more than one home." -New Day Northwest "Bring co-parents together." -DivorcedMoms.com "The Co-Parenting Handbook by Karen Bonnell is a guide to raising well-adjusted kids affected by divorce or separation." -Pagosa Daily Post "The Co-Parenting Handbook helps parents confidently tackle the tough road ahead together as a family." -ParentMap "This book by Karen Bonnell is a practical manual for parents who may be raising children in two separate households ... in a kid-friendly way." -425 Magazine

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Book SynopsisChildren living in separated family situations fare best when their relationship with each of their parents continues to be close. Putting Children First helps mothers and fathers unlock and resolve the conflict around contact with children that can arise during and after separation. Using strategies such as parenting plans, scripted phone calls and parenting meetings, the book will enable parents to communicate effectively on all the most important things in their children''s lives - and make relaxed arrangements for the continued involvement by both parents with their children.Trade Review...quite simply, the best book on separation that we have ever read. Both the authors work at the Centre for Separated Families and have a wealth of experience with this client group. In this clever book - and its associated 'Parenting Plan s' booklet - they guide both mothers and fathers (they have a real understanding of the needs and experiences of both sexes) through the emotional and practical journey of separation and its aftermath. Their explicit aim is to help parents 'put their children first', but the authors know this cannot be achieved until both father and mother can manage and understand their own feelings. Sensitive, practical, beautifully written, we believe this book should be REQUIRED READING for all professionals working in this field; and should always be offered to separating and separated mothers and fathers * Fatherhood Institute *The book is clearly set out and the chapters logically and thoroughly explore all the issues that might arise before reaching a conclusion with sound advice on each topic * Parenting Without Tears *When the authors of a book have been through the scenario and actually run a centre for Separated Families, you know you can trust the content and benefit from the knowledge shared. With family separations being part of today's society, it is important that the children's lives are affected only in a positive way and this can be achieved. It does, however, take a lot of hard work and this is where the book becomes an invaluable tool in the whole process. There could be a tendency to preach but the book focuses on the positive aspects of working together and show light at the end of what can seem a very long tunnel. If you are in this situation, it is great to read this book and know that a happy medium can be reached * From Bump to Grump *

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Book SynopsisHate your ex but love your kids? If so, this much-needed guide offers practical tips and strategies to help you manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for your children. Let's face it-divorce is tough. In a high-conflict divorce, your ex may attempt to undermine your relationship with your children, blame you for the failed marriage, and be hostile toward you in general. Unfortunately, this negativity can affect your kids, too. You need to break the cycle of rage and conflict now, for their sake. This book can help. Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers powerful skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting to help you both take control of your emotions. You'll develop tools to help you identify cycles of conflict, as well as strategies for breaking these cycles before they get out of hand. You'll also learn to effectively communicate with one another and your children in a way that is healthy and productive. If you're going through a high-conflict divorce, you need real tools to help you manage the pain and anger that can follow.This book will give you the skills you need to go from ex to co-parent, and start rebuilding your-and your child's-life.

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Book SynopsisThrough therapists and word-of-mouth, thousands have discovered this formerly out-of-print classic. This is because abandonment — stemming from divorce, breakups, death, or the loss of friendship, health, a job, or a dream — is a challenge faced in every life. No other workbook so directly and practically addresses this issue. Readers learn to face five stages — shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, and lifting — with concrete recovery tools, including discovering and healing old, underlying issues; identifying self-defeating behaviors of mistrust and insecurity; and building self-esteem. While healing from heartbreak and freedom from pain are the goals of most sufferers, readers also lay the foundation for experiencing a renewed, perhaps better-than-ever, sense of self and a profound ability to love and be loved.

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Book Synopsis'The man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce' The New York Times 'One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating' Daily Mail 'Could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages' Literary Review One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. As he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from adoring to angry he realised that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a bad husband. From the raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories he shared about the lessons he's learned from his failed marriage comes this strangely hopeful guide to saving relationships. This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. This is a must-read for people in any stage of a relationship, whether it's near the beginning or nearing the end. Good people can be bad partners - here's how to ensure that isn't you.Trade ReviewFray's insight is to realise that the substance of the dispute isn't that important - it was his reaction to his ex-wife's reaction to the dirty dishes that, over time, hollowed out their marriage ... Makes me want to try harder in future * The Times *One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating * Daily Mail *Fray's disarming personality and the sharing of his own story make people feel like they're not being judged ... His stark message: Don't end up like me * The New York Times *The nuggets of good sense in this book could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages * Literary Review *A fascinating book ... definitely worth a read * Woman's Own *Hard-hitting * Telegraph *Offers a frank and refreshingly modern view, one that never makes dated, flippant assumptions about love languages or Venus and Mars ... [Has] resonance for anyone who's ever had a broken heart - or labored to keep one from cracking -- Salon.comShares how the small things have big repercussions * Grazia *Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor -- Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair PlayHugely resonant * Metro *It's hard to quibble with Fray's central message - that men could learn to "suck less" at marriage by becoming more attentive to their partners' feelings * Financial Times *Transformational -- Zoe Blaskey, The Motherkind podcastAn important book! Especially for men ... He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership -- John Kim, bestselling author of Single On PurposeReveals why we (men and women) get it wrong so often and what we can do to fix it ... Entertaining, honest, and truly practical -- Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My MasculinitySobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious ... gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it - for yourself and for the one you love -- Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful QuestionPuts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies -- Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love

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Book SynopsisCommitting to a long-term relationship is a big deal—especially if you have doubts. With a focus on common sense over emotion, world-renowned sex and relationship therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer offers straight-up advice on whether you should stick it out or cut your losses and move on. In Stay or Go, Dr. Ruth divides troubled couplings into three “flavors”: Dark Toxic (run!), Rocky Road (rough patch ahead), and Merely Troubled (it’s worth the effort). She knows relationships are rarely black and white—there’s always the bad with the good—so here she helps you determine where the scales in your relationship are tipping. Delving into everything from communicating to financial stresses, parenting pressures to long-distance relationships, she helps you to understand your romantic expectations—reasonable and unreasonable—what you can do to save a relationship, and how and when you should say goodbye. And it all comes with the wit and wisdom that has made Dr. Ruth the one to turn to for putting your life together once and for all.Trade Review“Ever practical, Dr. Ruth wants to help you figure out whether you have enough of the whole package—love, lust, trust—to make the union worth saving.” —AARP Magazine “A clearly written, succinct resource for those waffling with the decision to stay or move on from a long-term relationship.” —Library Journal

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Book SynopsisThis book will inform and empower women who have decided to divorce, or are deciding whether to do so.It will give them the `heads up` on what to expect, and the confidence to manage and control the formidable process; from the first meeting with a solicitor to the financial implications, the court processes, communication with the `ex`, and managing children, family and friends.It offers guidance on living arrangements and emotional aspects, and on the characteristics of `extreme` divorces including violence, harassment, custody battles, non-compliance and aggressive financial deprivation.Trade ReviewProvides help and support through what is, undoubtedly, one of the most stressful life events one can experience. - The Times

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Book SynopsisThe #1 New York Times bestselling memoir that reveals the intimate story of Elvis Presley and Priscilla Presley, told by the woman who lived it.THE INSPIRATION FOR THE MAJOR MOTION PICTURE PRISCILLA, DIRECTED BY SOFIA COPPOLADecades after his death, millions of fans continue to worship Elvis the legend. But very few knew him as Elvis the man. Here in her own words, Priscilla Presley tells the story of their love, revealing the details of their first meeting, their marriage, their affairs, their divorce, and the unbreakable bond that has remained long after his tragic death.A tribute to both the man and the legend, Elvis and Me gives Elvis fans the world over an unprecedented look at the true life of the King of Rock 'N' Roll and the woman who loved him.

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Book SynopsisImagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it. Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our abilit

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Book SynopsisUnputdownable A perfect summer holiday read' ????? Reader ReviewSparkling sun, strolls in the gorgeous French countryside, that first sip of cool, crisp wine Summer is Kat's favourite season. And this year should be no exceptionFun, emotional and packed with French sunshine. I adored it!' Sunday Times bestselling author Milly JohnsonAs soon as Kat Jenson set foot in the idyllic French village of Kirchhoffen, she knew she'd found her home. Now she has a dreamy boyfriend, a delightful dog and the perfect job managing a bustling book café in the vibrant Parc Lemmel.But when she learns her boyfriend isn't all he seems, it's the start of a difficult summer for Kat. Vindictive troublemakers, work woes and family heartache follow, and the clear blue sky that was her life suddenly seems full of clouds.Then she gets to know the mysterious Noah, and her sun begins to shine brighter than ever. But Noah has problems of his own ones that could scupper their new-found happiness. Together, can theTrade ReviewPraise for Sue Moorcroft: ‘A joyous slice of summer sunshine, gloriously uplifting and the perfect escape.’ Alex Brown 'I was whisked away to sunny France in this fabulously engaging story full of warmth and charm with the added benefit of books and pastries!' Bella Osborne ‘An absolutely gorgeous French escape full of sunshine – I loved it!’ Rachael Lucas ’Sue Moorcroft whisks you away to a stunning French setting with lashings of romance – sheer delight!’ Fiona Gibson ‘Must read!’ Daily Express ‘I love all of Sue Moorcroft’s books!’ Katie Fforde

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Trade Review"This book is filled with hope, positivity, and all the tools you need to help your relationship to thrive." -- John Gray, PhD and author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus "An essential read for anyone in a relationship. No matter what the state of your relationship you will find tips and strategies in The Love Fix to enhance it, and maximize your own happiness in the process." -- Louann Brizendine, MD and author of The Female Brain and The Male Brain "This is the best relationship book I have ever read. It is wise and modern but most importantly, refreshingly objective, down to earth, direct, and practical." -- Dr. Dean Edell "Tara Fields has combined the best of cutting edge thinking in the fields of holistic psychology, mindfulness, and couple's therapy to arm readers with the skills that will bring forth change and real transformation. A useful guide for both clinicians as well as couples and individuals." -- Ronald Alexander, PhD, MFT

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Book SynopsisYou can’t seem to get over the breakup. You feel stuck in cycles of rumination and pain. This revelatory guide provides brand-new therapeutic tools to revolutionize the way we overcome loss, as well as seek and welcome love, within and outside of ourselves.For the heartbroken, a solid first step toward healing.” —Publishers WeeklyAlice Haddon, psychologist with over twenty-five years of clinical experience, and Ruth Field, bestselling self-help author, show us how we can dissect heartbreaks, mine them for strength and live our most empowered life.In these warm, welcoming pages, you will meet women of different cultural backgrounds and ages who successfully picked themselves back up to become more confident than ever through the work that Alice and Ruth are doing at the Heartbreak Hotel--a therapy retreat providing intensive care to the heartbroken.Bursting with compassion, humor, sass, and courage, this

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Book SynopsisThe process of divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience and, on the practical side, the financial and legal strains can be a major source of stress. But approaching divorce with the right advice and support can help you turn the experience into a chance for personal growth and development, so you can look to the future with a realistic optimism.How to Have a Healthy Divorce will help you to embrace the reality of the situation, gain more understanding of what went wrong in your marriage and help you handle the rollercoaster of emotions involved in a break up. In clear and simple steps, this practical guide will show you how to:- Overcome actual and potential challenges- Accept your past, present and future circumstances- Formulate a personal action plan that includes practical points on financial and legal matters- Build a relationship with your ex so you can communicate effectivelyThis is an accessible, sympathetic and uncomplicate

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Book SynopsisWhen a marriage ends, the most important thing divorcing parents can do is to help their children through this difficult transition and remain united as parents even if they are no longer united as a couple. In Parenting Apart divorce coach Christina McGhee offers practical advice on how to help children adjust and thrive during and after separation and divorce. She looks at all the different issues parents may face with their children of different ages, offering immediate solutions to the most critical parenting problems divorce brings, including:When to tell your children about the divorce and what to say How to create a loving, secure home if your child doesn''t live with you full timeWhat to do if your child is angry or sadHow to manage the legal system, including information on family law and issues of custodyHow to deal with a difficult ex This is an invaluable resource that offers parents quick access to the information you most Trade ReviewThis indispensable resource should be placed in the hands of every separated and divorced parent * Jack Canfield, Co-author of Chicken Soup for the Single Parent’s Soul *Parenting Apart is the book every child wishes their divorced parents would read * Amy McCready, Parenting expert and founder of Positive Parenting Solutions *

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Book SynopsisTrade Review"A panorama of Japanese mores and attitudes toward marriage, many of them in flux as people negotiate dependences and self-interest. . . . Japan isn’t known as a model for marital romance, a sentiment that is reflected in Intimate Disconnections. But in the spirit of anthropology that aims to explain without judgment or prescription, Alexy’s book helps understand a society moving away from equating marriage with normalcy." * Japan Times *“Intimate Disconnections offers an extraordinarily rich account of changing expectations for marriage, intimacy, and relationality in contemporary Japan. Alexy’s deeply empathetic analysis of divorce is destined to enrich our empirical understanding of this globally increasingly common life decision and its legal, economic, and emotional consequences.” * Hirokazu Miyazaki, Northwestern University *“This is a rich ethnographic study about increasing divorce in Japan, public discourses on later-life divorce (jukunen rikon), and popular images of divorced women’s empowerment that Alexy explores in depth. This accessible and carefully crafted book will be an important addition to the fields of cultural anthropology and gender studies, with Alexy’s nuanced depiction of gender dynamics, the labor market, and socioeconomic structures in contemporary Japan.” * Akiko Takeyama, University of Kansas *"I strongly recommend this book to anyone who has an interest in understanding the current marriage and divorce landscape in Japan... the book also includes excellent insights into the legal, economic, and labour realities in contemporary Japan, providing a useful overview of shifts over the past two decades." * New Voices in Japanese Studies *"In Intimate Disconnections, cultural anthropologist Allison Alexy paints an exceptionally nuanced picture of the performance of divorce in early twenty-first century Japan based on several years of participant observational fieldwork, during which she was able to conduct many interviews... Alexy’s interpretation is original and goes beyond the usual simplistic explanations in terms of general dissatisfactions with or ambivalence toward traditional ideals of masculinity and femininity." * Monumenta Nipponica *"Intimate Disconnections is a fascinating study of not just how marriages end through divorce, but the place of discourses about divorce on intimate practices. The strength of Alexy's work lies in her stories, particularly of older men and women, working out the anxieties and fall outs of what later life-divorces foreclose and/or open." * PoLAR *"Intimate Disconnections provides fascinating insight into the troubles of Japanese marriages, gleaned by Alexy over meals or drinks, in one-on-one interviews, and during small group counseling sessions and discussions. . . . The author’s sensitive handling of these intimate, often painful, stories helps us understand the challenges of divorce and the shifting ground of intimacy in marriages during the economic transformations of the last several decades." * Journal of Japanese Studies *"Allison Alexy is utterly sensitive to the situations of the women and men she talks with—several of them her personal friends—who did, or are going through, or will divorce. . . She does a lot of the heavy theoretical lifting as well." * American Ethnologist *Table of ContentsA Note on Names Introduction: Freedom and AnxietyPart I The Beginning of the End 1 Japan’s Intimate Political Economy 2 Tips to Avoid DivorcePart II Legal Dissolutions 3 Constructing Mutuality 4 Families Together and ApartPart III Living as an X 5 The Costs of Divorce 6 Bonds of Disconnection Conclusion: Endings and New Beginnings Acknowledgments Appendix A: Profile Summaries Appendix B: All Quotes in Original Japanese Notes Bibliography Index

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Book SynopsisTrade Review"A panorama of Japanese mores and attitudes toward marriage, many of them in flux as people negotiate dependences and self-interest. . . . Japan isn’t known as a model for marital romance, a sentiment that is reflected in Intimate Disconnections. But in the spirit of anthropology that aims to explain without judgment or prescription, Alexy’s book helps understand a society moving away from equating marriage with normalcy." * Japan Times *“Intimate Disconnections offers an extraordinarily rich account of changing expectations for marriage, intimacy, and relationality in contemporary Japan. Alexy’s deeply empathetic analysis of divorce is destined to enrich our empirical understanding of this globally increasingly common life decision and its legal, economic, and emotional consequences.” * Hirokazu Miyazaki, Northwestern University *“This is a rich ethnographic study about increasing divorce in Japan, public discourses on later-life divorce (jukunen rikon), and popular images of divorced women’s empowerment that Alexy explores in depth. This accessible and carefully crafted book will be an important addition to the fields of cultural anthropology and gender studies, with Alexy’s nuanced depiction of gender dynamics, the labor market, and socioeconomic structures in contemporary Japan.” * Akiko Takeyama, University of Kansas *"I strongly recommend this book to anyone who has an interest in understanding the current marriage and divorce landscape in Japan... the book also includes excellent insights into the legal, economic, and labour realities in contemporary Japan, providing a useful overview of shifts over the past two decades." * New Voices in Japanese Studies *"In Intimate Disconnections, cultural anthropologist Allison Alexy paints an exceptionally nuanced picture of the performance of divorce in early twenty-first century Japan based on several years of participant observational fieldwork, during which she was able to conduct many interviews... Alexy’s interpretation is original and goes beyond the usual simplistic explanations in terms of general dissatisfactions with or ambivalence toward traditional ideals of masculinity and femininity." * Monumenta Nipponica *"Intimate Disconnections is a fascinating study of not just how marriages end through divorce, but the place of discourses about divorce on intimate practices. The strength of Alexy's work lies in her stories, particularly of older men and women, working out the anxieties and fall outs of what later life-divorces foreclose and/or open." * PoLAR *"Intimate Disconnections provides fascinating insight into the troubles of Japanese marriages, gleaned by Alexy over meals or drinks, in one-on-one interviews, and during small group counseling sessions and discussions. . . . The author’s sensitive handling of these intimate, often painful, stories helps us understand the challenges of divorce and the shifting ground of intimacy in marriages during the economic transformations of the last several decades." * Journal of Japanese Studies *"Allison Alexy is utterly sensitive to the situations of the women and men she talks with—several of them her personal friends—who did, or are going through, or will divorce. . . She does a lot of the heavy theoretical lifting as well." * American Ethnologist *Table of ContentsA Note on Names Introduction: Freedom and AnxietyPart I The Beginning of the End 1 Japan’s Intimate Political Economy 2 Tips to Avoid DivorcePart II Legal Dissolutions 3 Constructing Mutuality 4 Families Together and ApartPart III Living as an X 5 The Costs of Divorce 6 Bonds of Disconnection Conclusion: Endings and New Beginnings Acknowledgments Appendix A: Profile Summaries Appendix B: All Quotes in Original Japanese Notes Bibliography Index

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Book SynopsisA bestselling author offers a refreshingly honest, compassionate guide to the sh!tstorm that is divorce: falling apart, staying afloat, and new beginnings (whether you are ready for them or not). After 12 years together, 2 children, 10 pets, and 5 properties, Dawn and her partner decided to call it quits. In the newest installment of her bestselling Sh!t No One Tells You series, Dawn tries to figure out what happened… and what happens next.  Dawn takes you on her own bumpy, meandering, and often absurd journey through the destruction of a life exploded by divorce. She dodges legal hurdles, irrational decisions, alarmed therapists, random hobbies, and a concerning number of dating app profiles that look like the beginning of a true crime podcast. But somehow, she found herself stronger—and happier—on the other side.   Leaning into the mess, Dawn helps you learn the art of embracing Netflix and cry, the healing power of profanity, the importance of assembling the right support squad, how to survive the sh!tshow of co-parenting, and much more. Joined by an insightful chorus of divorced friends, Dawn delivers a true-to-life and funnier-than-it-should-be guide to discovering the unexpected value in the wreckage. What if divorce isn’t just a loss—but an opportunity? 

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Book SynopsisWith a fresh, sympathetic and reassuring approach, Uncoupling provides tried-and-tested advice that will help anyone going through a break-up. It is the book that Sara looked for - and couldn''t find - when going through the process herself, so she is only too well aware how few places people feel they can turn to for compassionate and practical advice.Uncoupling combines Sara''s extensive training in life-coaching techniques, her cutting-edge work with those who are themselves ''uncoupling'', and her own personal experience. Her advice will show you how to navigate the pitfalls and will make the process easier. It is all about being in emotional control and Uncoupling will help you build your personal strength so that you can deal with the rollercoaster of emotions more effectively, enabling you to move forwards. It is all about putting you back in control.Trade ReviewSound, practical advice -- Guardian

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Book SynopsisYour guide to building a life that''s full of joy as a single parentThrough her own experience of becoming a single parent and in her work founding the leading single parent app Frolo, Zoë Desmond heard the same questions over and over again and found that while backgrounds and family setups may vary, single parents everywhere share many of the same concerns. The community she founded has helped thousands of people find a way to not just survive, but thrive, and this book will do the same for you.How to Be a Happy Single Parent will help you build a life that is right for you, and your children. From surviving the first few weeks to moving on, through legal matters, co-parenting negotiations or finding a helping hand as a solo parent and into dating and navigating work, this book will take you step-by-step through the first few days, weeks, months and years of your new life.This book is for all single parents: the co-parents, the widow/erTrade ReviewI wish I had this book when I was starting out as a solo mother - I know it will help so many -- Natalie ImbrugliaA brilliant, comforting and much-needed handbook for those navigating the many ups and (some) downs of single parenting -- Helen Thorn * bestselling author of Get Divorced, Be Happy *The inclusive guide for everyone whose family doesn't look the way they thought it would. -- James Hunt (@storiesaboutautism)

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Book SynopsisThe No Kids in the Middle (Kinderen uit de Knel) intervention programme addresses high-conflict divorce through a multi-family approach. This first English language edition contains descriptions of the therapeutic sessions, references to a homework book (van der Est et al.) for parents and their network, along with extra information about the theoretical foundations of the programme.The book starts with theoretical foundations and a summary of the scientific research behind the methodology before moving on to focus on the methodology of the intervention programme per session, with detailed descriptions of each therapeutic session. Through these session descriptions, the authors demonstrate how the theory of the methodology can be put into practice within a group setting. The methodology is also conveyed in such a way that the key pillars and themes are clear, with a best-practice framework clearly demonstrated. Yet at the same time, the authors leave room for customization deTrade Review"This book provides an incredibly comprehensive, yet rich and sophisticated guide to working with families using the No Kids in the Middle programme. van Lawick and Visser describe the innovative approach and its theoretical underpinnings with clarity, while sensitively addressing the many complexities of working with high conflict separated parents and their children. In the same way that the program aims to help parents, this book will help professionals to see new possibilities for approaching familiar difficulties and finding new solutions with the families they support."Emma Morris, Consultant Clinical Psychologist, Anna Freud National Center for Children and Families, LondonThis positive and creative contribution is the culmination of years of endeavour and practice by experienced therapists and clinicians in the complex arena of conflictual divorce and its consequences for children and their families. It stands as a shining example of effective practice that counteracts the ongoing unproductive conflicts between family members and their networks. In van Lawick and Visser’s approach, children become allies to change, rather than victims of conflict between parents, and their voices are strengthened through group participation. The elegance of this approach is how, in time, parents listen, hear, and are moved by the words of their children and become prepared to respond in more constructive ways as they try to manage life after divorce. The No Kids in the Middle programme is an expression of hope, creativity and resilience that deserves to be promoted widely in organizations offering a post divorce service particularly where adversarial approaches have failed to reach a liveable resolution for all involved." Jim Wilson, UKCP Systemic Family Therapy supervisor, author and international trainer in family therapy"When children get caught up right in the middle of their parents’ chronic and acrimonious conflicts, their mental health is often severely compromised. Creative and effective, this highly innovative approach puts children back in the centre of parental concerns. Essential reading for therapists and parents alike!"Eia Asen, Professor, Anna Freud Centre and University College LondonTable of Contents1. Introduction; Part 1: Theory and Research; 2. Theoretical Basis; 3. Scientific Research; Part 2: Practice; 4. Methodology Outline; 5. The Keystones; 6. Intake and Referral; 7. The Network Meeting; 8. The Parent Group; 9. The Children’s Group; Epilogue; Appendices

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Book SynopsisLove and Sex in a New Relationship explores leaving a long relationship and starting a new one, with all the complexities that entails. Using her experience as a relationship therapist, Cate Campbell takes the reader through the journey of loss and renewal, examining the dynamics involved in the end and beginning of a relationship, and how to give new relationships the best chance of survival.Focusing on three main relationship issues, the book considers: how to end a relationship and manage ongoing contact with an ex; how to understand what went wrong in previous relationships; and how to overcome everyday relationship problems and make relationships thrive. Taking into account the effect of technology and social media, and how to make online dating work, the book offers a distinctly modern take on relationships. Similarly, the spectrum of sexuality, gender and sexual relationships is addressed, with many different examples included throughout the book. With practical advice, case studies, quizzes and exercises to help identify and remedy a variety of problems that can occur at any stage of a relationship, Love and Sex in a New Relationship will provide an essential resource for relationship counsellors and their clients.Trade ReviewThis book offers a refreshing approach to the subject of love and sex in new relationships. Accessible as well as scholarly, it covers the end of relationships and the pitfalls which may be encountered when starting again. The author shares her considerable knowledge as a practitioner with the reader, bringing the book alive with case vignettes and offering practical advice and quizzes. Humorous and thought provoking, a highly relevant contemporary look at intimate relationships in the twenty first century. Michèle Logue, MA, relationship and psychosexual therapist, programme leader at the Foundation for Counselling and Relationship Studies at University Centre Doncaster.Table of ContentsCONTENTSIntroduction xPART ONE:A New Start Making decisions xYou and your exxxYour single self xxPART TWO:Looking Forward -- Looking Back How we do relationshipsxxWhy couples arguexxThe unconscious contractxxUnfinished businessxxPART THREE:Managing New RelationshipsUncertainty xxBreaking and avoiding negative cyclesxxxRelationship trauma xxxSexxxxThe relationship lifecyclexxxHappy ever afterIndexxxxxxxEXERCISESPlan your lifexxUsing your younger selfxxTopics for discussionxxVulnerabilityxxQualities xxDriversxxActivity scoringxxxTalking pointxxxWhat kind of life do I want?xxxI am the kind of personxxxQUIZZESBuried concernsxxHow you arguexxHow in touch with the past are you?xxAre you a hoper or a healerxxx

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Book SynopsisSurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships draws on current research, a wide variety of clinical modalities, and thirty years of clinical work with stepfamily members to describe the special challenges stepfamilies face. The book presents the concept of stepfamily architecture and the five challenges it creates, and delineates three different levels of strategiesâpsychoeducation, building interpersonal skills, and intrapsychic workâfor meeting those challenges in dozens of different settings. The model is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, from a highly trained clinician who needs to know how and when to work on all three levels, to a school counselor or clergy person who may work on the first two levels but refer out for level three. It will also be useful to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel who will practice on the first level, but need to understand the other two to guide their work.Trade Review"Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships is the best clinical book ever written on the topic. Period. It is unique in recognizing the variety of forms of modern stepfamilies and their different treatment needs. And no one writes as eloquently and knowledgeably as Papernow about both the problematic patterns of stepfamilies and the rich variety of helpful interventions available to therapists. This compelling book should be part of the curriculum of every graduate training program and should be read by any therapist who works with couples and families."—Alan S. Gurman, PhD, visiting professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and clinical professor of psychology at the Family Institute at Northwestern University"This is a long awaited and extremely important book that is destined to be a classic. Written by a pioneer in the field who is in her fourth decade of studying and treating stepfamilies, it is a remarkable achievement filled with wisdom both for those who help stepfamilies and for those who live in them. It both authoritative, including all the relevant research, and engaging, sprinkled with clear and well-written examples and practical advice. It is also comprehensive, covering stepfamilies of different ethnicities, sexual orientations, stages of development, and suggesting interventions at a variety of levels. I recommend it to all my students and stepfamily clients."—Richard Schwartz, PhD, developer of the Internal Family Systems model "With Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships Patricia Papernow has written a book that does justice to the complex issues involved here while at the same time being readable, accessible, down-to-earth, and most important, practical and chock full of what to do and how to do it in the face of problems and crises. This book is a great resource for both families and the clinical practitioners seeking to help them effectively. I highly recommend it to both groups."—Diana Fosha, PhD, developer of AEDP (Accelerated Experiential-Dynamic Psychotherapy) and author of The Transforming Power of Affect“The book, and the outline of the stepfamily cycle, gives readers an organized way to identify challenges and find ways around them. Some chapters also offer tips on interpersonal skills and ways to openly communicate. …[H]ers is an easy-to-read book that can help clinicians as well as family members begin to understand the complex nature of stepfamilies. And, hopefully, help them begin to work together.”— Tamara Hill, MS, Psychcentral.comTable of ContentsThe Families Key to Genograms List of Figures Acknowledgements Part I: Laying the Foundation for Stepfamily Architecture 1. A Map for Stepfamilies 2. What Makes Stepfamilies Different? Part II: The Five Challenges 3. The First Challenge: Insider/Outsider Positions are Intense and Stuck 4. The Second Challenge: Children Struggle With Losses, Loyalty Binds, and Too Much Change 5. The Third Challenge: Parenting Tasks Polarize the Adults 6. The Fourth Challenge: Creating a New Family Culture 7. The Fifth Challenge: Ex-Spouses are Part of the Family Part III: Four "Diverse" Stepfamilies 8. Stepfamilies Headed by Lesbian and Gay Couples 9. African American Stepfamilies: Strengths We Can Learn From 10. The Challenges for Latino Stepfamilies 11. New Wrinkles: Later Life Cycle Stepfamilies Part IV: Stepfamilies Over Time 12. The Stepfamily Cycle: Normal Stages of Stepfamily Development 13. Six Patterns of Becoming a Stepfamily Part V: Helping Stepfamilies Thrive 14. Level I: A Tool Box for Psychoeducation 15. Level II: A Tool Box for Interpersonal Skills 16. Level III: A Tool Box for Intrapsychic Work Becoming a Stepfamily is a Process, Not an Event Working with Stepfamily Members Over Time Conclusion Endnotes References

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Book SynopsisThe topic of women divorced at midlife without children is one that has, to date, been absent from professional and academic literature, though these women make up a considerable and growing portion of our population. This book explores the experience, meaning, and impact of divorce at midlife for women without children, and provides insights into the unique stressors and issues confronting these individuals so that the practitioner can better anticipate and meet their needs. Clinical considerations and case examples will be presented via the narrative stories of women who have experienced this unusual role in a world that is still primarily centered on marriage and mothering. This book provides case examples, clinical themes, treatment recommendations, and suggests coping techniques and strategies. Castaldo draws heavily upon social constructionist, feminist, and narrative perspectives as theoretical frameworks for the book, as well as the results of her own qualitative reseTrade Review"...an enlightening and rich piece of qualitative work that held my interest...Debra Castaldo has done a good job of presenting the slim empirical and clinical literature relative to this population, a review of the problem in the women's own voice, and a suggested therapeutic approach that sounds promising, to guide other therapists in serving this population...Castaldo has outlined a therapeutic procedure that should help divorced, childless women avoid becoming "invisible" as they continue to age." - Sex RolesTable of ContentsPrologue: Fairy Tales, Myths, and Legendary Creatures. Introduction. Overview, Trends, Historical Perspectives, and Clinical Issues. Out of Sync in a Married Mothering World. How Did We Get Here? Trends and Concepts. Midlife Divorce for Women in a Married World. Childless in a Mothering World. Telling Life Stories: Constructions, Narratives, and Beliefs. Paralyzing or Empowering: The Power of Socially Constructed Beliefs. Out on a Limb: Beliefs About Role Exit, Transition, and Adjustment. The Women Speak. A Relational/Constructionist Approach. Sponsoring, Re-storying, and Fostering Connection. No Time is a Good Time for Goodbye - The Case of Sara.

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Book SynopsisThere''s no such thing as an easy divorce. On top of the emotional turmoil, there are also numerous other concerns from organising finances and splitting property, to breaking the news to children, and picking the best lawyer. This comprehensive guide shows that, with a clear-head and straight-talking advice, divorce can be swifter and easier than expected, letting you make a clean break and move on with confidence. Divorce For Dummies includes the most up-to-date information on: What to Do First When Things Start to Go Wrong Separation: A Healthy Breather or a Prelude to Divorce? Helping Your Children Get Through Your Divorce Pre-marital Agreements Same-sex and DIY divorces About the author Elizabeth Walsh is a legal expert and the Editor of Family Law, recently voted Legal Journal of the Year'. Thelma Fisher is a former chair of the UK College of Family Mediators anTrade Review"...a great reference book...a comprehensive index of up-to-date social, legal and financial information of high relevance to mediators" (National Family Mediation Bulletin, January 2009) "...reads seamlessly and is well assisted by first-class presentational standards...it is a smashing book" (Family Law, March 2009)Table of ContentsIntroduction. Part I: Trouble in Paradise. Chapter 1: Checking Out Your Divorce Roadmap. Chapter 2: Deciding What to Do First When Things Start to Go Wrong. Chapter 3: Wising Up to Your Family's Money Matters. Chapter 4: Finding Out about Family Law Basics. Chapter 5: Discovering the Basics of Divorce Law. Chapter 6: Considering Separation: A Healthy Breather or a Prelude to Divorce? Part II: Divorce Preliminaries. Chapter 7: Setting Your Divorce in Motion. Chapter 8: Helping Your Children Get Through Your Divorce. Chapter 9: Taking Care of Your Emotional Self. Part III: Decisions, Decisions. Chapter 10: Deciding Who Cares for Your Children. Chapter 11: Dividing Up What You Own. Chapter 12: Looking at Maintenance for You or Your Spouse. Chapter 13: Providing Financially for Your Children. Part IV: Working Out the Terms of Your Divorce Agreement. Chapter 14: Doing Some of the Negotiating Yourself. Chapter 15: Choosing a Family Solicitor. Chapter 16: Using a Mediator to Help You Work Things Out Together. Chapter 17: Helping Your Solicitor Get the Best Results Possible. Chapter 18: Putting the Decisions in the Hands of a Judge. Part V: After Your Divorce Is Finalised. Chapter 19: Handling the Practical Matters of Life after Your Divorce. Chapter 20: Solving the Toughest Post-divorce Problems. Chapter 21: Thinking Ahead: Pre-marital Agreements. Part VI: The Part of Tens. Chapter 22: Ten Ways to Help Make Everything Okay for Your Children. Chapter 23: Ten Tips for Putting Your Divorce Behind You and Moving On. Chapter 24: Ten Strategies for Next Time. Part VII: Appendixes. Appendix A: Glossary of Terms. Appendix B: Useful Divorce Websites. Index.

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Book SynopsisAcclaim for Painful Partings . . . A rare triple threat book--for professionals, students, andlaypersons. Sensitive--wise--comprehensive, Schwartz and Kaslow''swork represents a maturing of a realistic stance toward divorce.--William C. Nichols, EdD, ABPP Atlanta, Georgia This articulate, compassionate, and informed book is essentialreading for all therapists who work with divorced or divorcingfamilies. Scholarly, yet readable, its developmental frameworkgives coherence to an often confusing area of practice. --AugustusY. Napier, PhD Director, The Family Workshop, Atlanta,Georgia [Painful Partings] masters both the legal and mental health issuesof divorce. --Judge Joseph L. Steinberg Superior Court, State ofConnecticut, Regional Family Trial Docket Obtaining a legal divorce may seem fairly straightforward.Emotional divorce, on the other hand, is a much more complicatedprocess. In this book, the reader is taken step by painful stepinto the process of Table of ContentsWHAT PRECEDES THE PARTING? A Family Systems Framework and Life-Cycle Perspective. STAGES AND PHASES OF THE SEPARATION AND DIVORCE PROCESS. Separation and Divorce: An Overview. Individual Differences and Their Impact on Resolution. Therapeutic Issues and Interventions During the DivorceProcess. The Legal Aspects of Divorce. The Economic Issues in Divorce. Parenting and Child Custody Issues. Spiritual and Religious Aspects of Divorce. CONSEQUENCES OF DIVORCE: THE COMMUNITY AND SOCIAL DIVORCE. An Overview of the Aftermath. Effects of Divorce on the Children. Getting on with Life. THE PSYCHIC DIVORCE: HEALING AND CLOSURE. Toward Integration and Wholeness. Appendices. References. Indexes.

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Book SynopsisA source of support and expert guidance through a difficult life passage Like a wise and comforting companion, this unique journal can help you to understand and work through those feelings of anger, fear, confusion, remorse, grief, and hopelessness that come along with the breakup of a marriage.Table of ContentsEmbarking On Your Journey. A Road Map Through Divorce. Destination: Dealing with the Decision. Destination: Adjusting to Loss. Destination: Restoring Self-Esteem. Destination: Finding Support. Destination: Handling the Practicalities. Destination: Helping the Children. Destination: Dealing with Emotions. Destination: Good Health. Destination: Making Civil Peace. Destination: Redefining Relationships. Destination: Seeing with New Eyes. Destination: Reinventing Yourself. Destination: Moving On. As One Journey Ends, Another Begins. Helpful Books. About the Authors. Acknowledgments.

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Book SynopsisCoping with divorce is a hugely traumatic experience at a time when people already feel upset, frightened and confused. This book helps readers find their way through the divorce process as simply and painlessly as possible.

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Book SynopsisA sharp and hilarious collection covering everything from alimony to the division of property--because laughter is cheaper than therapyDivorce is the worst. It's also really, really common. When marriage was invented, people did not typically live past age thirty, which made till death do us part more doable. Part journal, part coloring book, part hilarious and on-point advice on how to move on, The Big Activity Book for Divorced People is an outlet for anyone who wants to laugh through the pain. After all, change can be pretty great (see: evolution).Activities include:the all-time greatest celebrity divorce disastersmatch the song you can never, ever listen to again to its singersee how many words you can make out of the phrase Irreconcilable Differences?statistics to make you feel better when you're lying awake at nightword search: things that are best enjoyed alonemaze: Get through the dating a

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Book SynopsisMichele Weiner Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriente

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