Couple and Family psychology Books

Book SynopsisTrauma counsellor Kelly McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behaviour by taking a hard look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact.An endless ache to love and be loved. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable moods and painful relationships. Sound familiar? Trauma psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviours - and are unable to stop. Mother Hunger destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed, and offers a healing path. You'll find out how to:· reclaim nurturance and protection using breathing exercises, visualization, Reiki and other healing modalities· find guidance and inspiration by creating a celestial mother· finally break the intergenerational cycle of Mother HungerDiscover how to demystify the causes of harmful behaviours, free yourself from limiting beliefs and find a way towards healthy habits and a positive headspace. 'I honestly cannot remember a time I have resonated with anything as much as I do Mother Hunger, if this book has presented itself to you - trust it!' Nancy Levin, author of Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free

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Book SynopsisTherapeutic exercises to help couples nurture patience, forgiveness and humour. Here is a workbook containing the very best exercises that any couple can undertake to help their relationship function optimally; exercises to foster understanding, patience, forgiveness, humour and resilience in the face of the many hurdles that invariably arise when you try to live with someone else for the long term. Couples are guided to have particular conversations, analyse their feelings, explain parts of themselves to one another and undertake rituals that clear the air and help recover hope and passion. The goal is always to unblock channels of feeling and improve communication. Not least, doing exercises together is – at points – simply a lot of fun.

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Book SynopsisA fresh new jacket design brings this classic self-help guide up to date for a contemporary readership. One of the forerunners to today''s pop psych market along with Women Who Love Too Much, this multimillion bestseller shows us how anger affects women''s relationships and explains how to turn this often destructive force into a constructive one.For many women, anger is a destructive force that perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of their most intimate relationships.This classic, inspirational book from internationally respected feminist psychologist Harriet Lerner explores the ways in which anger can lead into a destructive dance' within women's relationships- permanent fighting with your nearest and dearest, distancing yourself through silence or blaming others for the failure of your relationships.Practical and accessible, this book also shows women how the destructive dance of anger' can be turned into a constructive force- women should neither suppress their anger nor vent it thTrade Review‘A careful and compassionate exploration of women’s anger.’ SUSIE ORBACH‘An inspirational book.’ RELATE NEWS‘Provides a whole new way of looking at your problems. A good investment.’ Amazon reader, 2001

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Book SynopsisA book to inspire closeness and connection, helping people not only to find love but to make it last. Few things promise us greater happiness than our relationships – yet few things more reliably deliver misery and frustration. Our error is to suppose that we are born knowing how to love and that managing a relationship might therefore be intuitive and easy. This book starts from a different premise: that love is a skill to be learnt, rather than just an emotion to be felt. It calmly and charmingly takes us around the key issues of relationships, from arguments to sex, forgiveness to communication, making sure that success in love need never again be just a matter of luck. Part of a new essential paperback series from The School of Life, covering a range of emotional lessons needed in order to lead fulfilled and happy lives.Trade ReviewREADER REVIEWS: 'A simple and honest book about what love and relationships really are instead of what we think they should be' 'This book really does challenge stereotypes of love. It opens your eyes to how you have been influenced by romantic love stories unknowingly. Would definitely recommend'

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Book SynopsisRaising a child to be an authentic and mentally robust adult is one of life’s great challenges. It is also, fortunately, not a matter of luck. There are many things to understand about how children’s minds operate and what they need from those who look after them so they can develop into the best version of themselves. The Good Enough Parent is a compendium of lessons, including ideas on how to say ‘no’ to a child one adores, how to look beneath the surface of ‘bad’ behaviour to work out what might really be going on, how to encourage a child to be genuinely kind, how to encourage open self expression, and how to handle the moods and gloom of adolescence. Importantly, this is a book that knows that perfection is not required – and could indeed be unhelpful, because a key job of any parent is to induct a child gently into the imperfect nature of everything. Written in a tone that is encouraging, wry and soaked in years of experience, The Good Enough Parent is an intelligent guide to raising a child who will one day look back on their childhood with just the right mixture of gratitude, humour and love.

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Book Synopsis'A striking memoir...A must-read for anyone healing from complex trauma' Jeanette McCurdy, bestselling author of I'm Glad My Mom DiedEvery cell in my body is filled with the code of generations of trauma, of death, of birth, of migration, of history that I cannot understand. . . . I want to have words for what my bones know. By the age of thirty, Stephanie Foo was successful on paper: she had her dream job as an award-winning radio producer at This American Life and a loving boyfriend. But behind her office door, she was having panic attacks and sobbing at her desk every morning. After years of questioning what was wrong with herself, she was diagnosed with complex PTSD - a condition that occurs when trauma happens continuously, over the course of years. Both of Foo's parents abandoned her when she was a teenager, after years of physical and verbal abuse and neglect. She thought she'd moved on, but her new diagnosis illuminated the way her past continued to threaten her health, relationships, and career. She found limited resources to help her, so Foo set out to heal herself, and to map her experiences onto the scarce literature about C-PTSD. In this deeply personal and thoroughly researched account, Foo interviews scientists and psychologists and tries a variety of innovative therapies. She returns to her hometown in California to investigate the effects of immigrant trauma on the community, and she uncovers family secrets in the country of her birth, Malaysia, to learn how trauma can be inherited through generations. Ultimately, she discovers that you don't move on from trauma - but you can learn to move with it. Powerful, enlightening and hopeful, What My Bones Know is a brave narrative that reckons with the hold of the past over the present, the mind over the body - and examines one woman's ability to reclaim agency from her trauma.Trade ReviewA striking memoir...A must-read for anyone healing from complex trauma -- Jeanette McCurdy, bestselling author of I'M GLAD MY MOM DIEDAn intimate, deeply engrossing story of psychological recovery * The Australian *As Foo sheds necessary light on the little-discussed topic of C-PTSD, she holds out the hope that while 'healing is never final . . . along with the losses are the triumphs' that can positively transform a traumatized life. . . . A sharp, insightful and stirring memoir. * Kirkus Reviews *Foo's writing is shrewdly insightful. In telling her story so compellingly, she joins authors such as Anna Qu and Ly Tran in adding nuance to the 'model minority' myth, if not actively subverting it. . . . Highly recommended. -- Library Journal (starred review)This is a work of immense beauty. * Publishers Weekly *Many trauma survivors struggle to describe the seemingly indescribable sense of carrying something intangibly sharp - something there but not there - inside. But in What My Bones Know, Stephanie Foo details that and more. Her achingly exquisite memoir takes us on a journey through complex trauma, illuminating her path of self-discovery and providing real hope for those who long to heal. -- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONEWhat My Bones Know is an absolute triumph. Foo's beautifully written memoir is a balm and a light for anyone afraid that their early traumas have permanently stunted their capacity for connection, love, and purpose. This book is a must-read for anyone hungry for hope. -- Christie Tate, New York Times bestselling author of GROUPStephanie Foo's incredible memoir speaks to so many things at once: the horrors of an abusive childhood, the enduring power of trauma, the messy science of the brain and the lifelong quest for meaning and healing. Funny and tragic, unflinchingly honest and relentlessly hopeful, What My Bones Know is a marvel of a book. -- Ed Yong, New York Times bestselling author of I CONTAIN MULTITUDESFoo's journalistic eye serves her generously through a hard-won examination of trauma and its aftermath. I cried while turning the pages; I knew that I was witnessing an astonishing literary endeavour. For others who live with C-PTSD, this is a crucial, life-changing book. -- Esmé Weijun Wang, New York Times bestselling author of THE COLLECTED SCHIZOPHRENIASAt turns funny and devastating, terrifying and transcendent, Foo's quest for understanding should be relevant not just to someone with C-PTSD but to anyone seeking to grow and be present in this one life. -- Jenny Odell, New York Times bestselling author of HOW TO DO NOTHINGIn What My Bones Know, Stephanie Foo mines her past in search of answers, uncovering what it means to navigate trauma over generations. With striking candidness, Foo takes readers on her journey to understand her diagnosis of complex PTSD, weaving together reporting and personal history. A testament to Foo's determination, What My Bones Know is an act of reclamation - and a bold, defiant proclamation: "I am here." -- Kat Chow, author of SEEING GHOSTS

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Book SynopsisNow significantly revised with over 70% new material, this is the authoritative presentation of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, which is taught and practiced around the world. IFS reveals how the subpersonalities or parts of each individual's psyche relate to each other like members of a family, and how--just as in a family--polarization among parts can lead to emotional suffering. IFS originator Richard Schwartz and master clinician Martha Sweezy explain core concepts and provide practical guidelines for implementing IFS with clients who are struggling with trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, and other behavioral problems. They also address strategies for treating families and couples. IFS therapy is listed in SAMHSA's National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices. New to This Edition *Extensively revised to reflect 25 years of conceptual refinement, expansion of IFS techniques, and a growing evidence base. *Chapters Trade Review"This book illustrates how the parts who populate our clients' inner worlds are trying to manage an underlying threat that others may not see. The only credible offer of help is one that can resolve this threat. IFS guides us to offer deep understanding and meaningful assistance to clients who long to transform but are stuck in extreme, destructive roles."--Leslie S. Greenberg, PhD, Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus, Department of Psychology, York University, Canada "We are indeed the sum of our parts, and, for over 25 years, Schwartz has been acquainting us with the exiles, managers, and firefighters battling within our psyches. In the second edition of this seminal book, Schwartz and Sweezy provide a more extensive overview of IFS therapy. New chapters address individual and systemic work with each component of the internal family system, as well as research attesting to the model’s effectiveness. This is an invaluable resource for both beginning and experienced practitioners who seek self-integration for their clients--and themselves."--Michael C. LaSala, PhD, LCSW, School of Social Work, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey "Since this book was originally published, the thoroughly innovative principles and practices of IFS therapy have been studied, applied, and advanced by thousands of psychotherapists. The second edition is extensively revised and updated--effective clinical strategies are illustrated with engaging therapist–client dialogues; cutting-edge research reveals the promise of IFS for conditions such as posttraumatic stress disorder; and IFS concepts are applied at and between multiple levels, from the individual to the whole society. Psychotherapists at any stage of their careers will find stimulating concepts and carefully designed tools that will enrich their thinking and improve their practices."--Richard Chasin, MD, former president, American Family Therapy Academy “The outstanding second edition of this classic book presents the preeminent research-supported, integrative family systems approach to working with individuals as well as their couple and family relationships in their larger cultural contexts. The book is beautifully written, the theory is sophisticated and nuanced, and the clinical vignettes demonstrate the details of putting IFS into practice. IFS therapy dovetails wonderfully with the emerging emphasis on body-based psychotherapies, mindfulness practices, and the role of spirituality in mental health and well-being. This book should be read by all therapists--not just those who align with family systems--and should be a core text for graduate programs in all forms of psychotherapy. I will use it in my graduate courses!”--Peter Fraenkel, PhD, Department of Psychology, The City College of the City University of New York “In this updated second edition, Schwartz candidly shares how his work with clients has helped him expand his original thoughts regarding IFS and embrace a more client-led process. Schwartz and Sweezy define the concepts of IFS well, and the book is easy to read. I appreciate the addition of updated IFS research and the way the authors promote healing beyond the individual and family by extending IFS concepts to communities. Master’s- and doctoral-level students may further their ability to address self-of-the-therapist issues by reflecting on how their ‘parts’ interact with the ‘parts’ of clients, thus promoting better therapy outcomes.”--Jenene Case Pease, PhD, LMFT, Department of Human Development and Family Science, Virginia Tech; Clinical Director, The Family Therapy Center of Virginia Tech "This second edition condenses 25 years of clinical innovation since the pioneering first edition was published. All who wish to study and treat family relationships need to read this book. Schwartz and Sweezy have produced a clear, realistic view of the extraordinary complexities of families across time and contexts."--Charles R. Figley, PhD, Kurzweg Distinguished Chair and Professor of Disaster Mental Health and Director, Traumatology Institute, Tulane University-Table of ContentsI. An Overview of Internal Family Systems Therapy 1. The Origins of Internal Family Systems Therapy 2. Individuals as Systems 3. The Self 4. Burdens 5. IFS and the Body 6. The Role of the Therapist in IFS II. How to Practice IFS Therapy with Individuals 7. Setting the Table for Treatment 8. In-Sight and Direct Access 9. Finding, Focusing, and Fleshing Out Protectors 10. Feeling toward, Befriending, and Exploring Protector Fears 11. Changing Protector Polarizations 12. Unburdening Exiles 13. Doing Inner Work Safely III. IFS Therapy with Families, Couples, and Larger Systems 14. The IFS Model's View of Families 15. Releasing Constraints in IFS Family Therapy 16. Unburdening in IFS Family Therapy 17. Treating Couples with IFS Therapy 18. Applying the IFS Model to Social and Cultural Systems IV. Research and Conclusion 19. Research on IFS 20. The Laws of Inner Physics Glossary of Terms

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Book SynopsisRich in clinical examples, this book offers a fresh perspective on the roles of shame and guilt in psychological distress and presents a step-by-step framework for treatment. Martha Sweezy explains how the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy are ideally suited to helping trauma survivors and other clients who struggle with debilitating shame to understand and heal psychic parts wounded in childhood. Annotated case illustrations show and explain IFS techniques in action. Other useful features include boxed therapeutic exercises, decision trees, and pointers to help therapists avoid or overcome common pitfalls. See also Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition, by Richard C. Schwartz and Martha Sweezy, the authoritative presentation of IFS.Trade Review"Shame and guilt are integral to the experience of complex trauma and are among the effects most resistant to change. This volume is particularly pertinent for therapists who want to interrupt intergenerational cycles of trauma that are often fueled by shame and guilt. Whether or not the reader has a background in IFS, this book convincingly makes the case for the relevance and power of this approach. I am already finding it extremely useful in my practice with trauma survivors, and am excited to learn even more about this system of thought."--Pamela C. Alexander, PhD, private practice, Sherborn, Massachusetts "IFS is a compelling model that is capturing the imagination of therapists around the world, especially for the treatment of trauma. IFS is simple and elegant, but there is an art to its application. Sweezy is an artist who explains why and how she applies each brushstroke. With remarkable clarity and sophistication, the author untangles the inner dynamics of shame and guilt, and shows how to address a client's unmet needs compassionately in therapy. This book is generous and deep--no reader will be left untouched."--Christopher Germer, PhD, Co-Founder, Center for Mindful Self-Compassion "This landmark book takes a deep dive into a central topic for all psychotherapists--how to address the pernicious effects of shame and inappropriate guilt on a person's sense of self, psychological functioning, and interpersonal behavior. Sweezy applies IFS theory and practice in exquisite detail, with illuminating clinical vignettes. Her approach is novel and refreshingly nonpathologizing and compassionate. The book shows how to help clients come to view their harsh internal voices as their best attempts to protect the vulnerable core Self, and learn to forge a path of reconciliation among these parts and the Self. This is a complex, nuanced process requiring close attention and creativity on the part of the therapist, but Sweezy provides a clear map with which to traverse this emotionally fraught territory."--Peter Fraenkel, PhD, Department of Psychology, The City College of the City University of New York "This book is a welcome, inspiring guide for all therapists who have struggled with the limitations of pathologizing DSM-based approaches to psychotherapy, in which the therapist is expected to have 'the answers.' Based on her deep experience with IFS, Sweezy wisely focuses on symptom domains such as shame or guilt, rather than on specific disorders. The book reminds us that the answers reside within each individual, and gives powerful examples of how IFS allows individuals to discover their own paths to healing."--Michael Mithoefer, MD, Senior Medical Director for Medical Affairs, Training, and Supervision, MAPS Public Benefit Corporation-Table of ContentsForeword, Richard C. Schwartz Introduction I. The Vulnerable Mind 1. Shame, Guilt, and Psychic Multiplicity 2. The Goal 3. All the Ways We Say No 4. The Shame Cycle 5. Empathy 6. Shame-Based Trauma Bonding: The Child Who Shares Shamefulness 7. Guilt-Based Trauma Bonding: The Child Who Takes Responsibility II. Treatment The First Portion of Therapy 8. Set the Stage 9. Unblend 10. Navigate Obstacles to Unblending The Second Portion of Therapy 11. Witness and Unburden 12. Common Problems 13. Take a Tip to Avoid Pitfalls III. Completion 14. How Therapy Ends References Index

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Book SynopsisFrom couples therapist Dené Logan comes a new perspective on understanding our inner masculine and feminine energetics as the key to experiencing fulfillment in our partnerships.Does something feel off about your intimate relationships? If you haven't been able to pin down exactly what, you aren't alone. While attempting to connect the dots of her own experience to the patterns she observes within the relationships of her clients, couples therapist Dené Logan came to a vital understanding in the search for relational fulfillment: the answer often lies in the inherent interplay of the masculine and feminine energy that everyone possesses.Both masculine and feminine polarities are present in every person and relationship. When we're out of touch with the energetics within ourselves and those around us, it can create an internal struggle and sense of disharmony in our partnerships. Understanding these dynamics is the key to ending the unspoken war of the sexes th

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Book SynopsisFrom licensed therapist and popular Instagram relationship expert Vienna Pharaon comes a profound guide to understanding and overcoming wounds from your family of origin - the foundation of how we relate to others, ourselves, and the world around us.None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don''t serve us - and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn''t have to be that way, says licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better with the right tools.In THE ORIGINS OF YOU, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process to help us understand our family of origin - the family and framework we grew up within - and examine what worked (and didn''t) in that system. Certain dysfunctions (or wounds) in that family of origin will manifest in our adult life in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But when armed with the knowle

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Book SynopsisThis state-of-the-art clinician's guide describes Perinatal ChildâParent Psychotherapy (P-CPP), a treatment for pregnant women and their partners whose readiness to nurture a baby is compromised by traumatic stress and adverse life experiences. P-CPP, an application to pregnancy of the widely disseminated, evidence-based ChildâParent Psychotherapy, spans the prenatal period through the first 6 months of life. Extended cases illustrate ways to help mothers and fathers understand how trauma has affected them, navigate the physical and emotional challenges of becoming parents, build essential caregiving competencies, and ensure the safety of their babies and themselves. Cultural considerations in working with diverse families are addressed through specific intervention examples.Trade Review"Actively helping mothers to raise healthy kids has been shown to be the single most effective mental health intervention there is. Lieberman and her colleagues have decades of clinical experience, and extensive clinical research studies show the effectiveness of P-CPP, which focuses on mitigating how parents’ own trauma histories get in the way of effective parenting. This highly efficacious approach, which includes identifying traumatic experiences and a supportive approach to 'speaking the unspeakable,' has been scientifically shown to improve parent–child relationships and to promote safety and hope. A 'must read' for all of us working with traumatized children and families."--Bessel A. van der Kolk, MD, Founder and President, Trauma Research Foundation, Boston, Massachusetts "An extraordinary and groundbreaking book. Grounded in Lieberman’s enormously influential CPP model, P-CPP addresses a period in the life of a family that is often overlooked by scholars and practitioners. In this tour de force, Lieberman and her colleagues offer a detailed, nuanced, and accessible view of the perinatal period. The book provides a culturally sensitive, trauma-informed framework for clinical intervention with infants and parents during their earliest days as a family. Beautifully written, clinically rich, and highly practical, this book is a gift!"--Arietta Slade, PhD, Yale Child Study Center, Yale University School of Medicine "This book describes an exciting, innovative application of CPP during the perinatal period. The rich clinical examples, detailed explanations, and cultural wisdom throughout the book will allow clinicians to understand the complexities--as well as the enormous benefits--of applying this evidence-based trauma treatment during pregnancy and the first year of life. This book is a gem for infant mental health clinicians."--Judith A. Cohen, MD, Professor of Psychiatry, Allegheny Health Network, Drexel University College of Medicine "Poignant and powerful--often breathtaking. Cases vividly portray the impact of current, past, and historical trauma on parents’ developing relationships with their infants, and demonstrate how sensitive, skillful psychotherapy can facilitate internal and external changes for new parents. Destined to be a classic, this book offers a compelling presentation of the 'why,' 'what,' and 'how' of therapy during the perinatal period--and what it takes to do it well. It is essential reading for all therapists who work with parents in this critical period and will be of interest to everyone concerned about the impact of early experience on the developing child."--Paula Doyle Zeanah, PhD, MSN, RN, Professor and Lafayette General Medical Center/Our Lady of Lourdes Endowed Chair in Nursing, University of Louisiana at Lafayette; Director of Research, Cecil Picard Center for Child Development-Table of ContentsIntroduction I. Pregnancy and the Perinatal Period: Hope and Vicissitudes II. Perinatal Child–Parent Psychotherapy III. Implementing P-CPP: Extended Clinical Cases IV. Common Obstacles to Attuned Caregiving V. Monitoring Fidelity: The “What” and “How” of P-CPP References Index

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Book SynopsisSensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual is an illustrated manual that provides health professionals with specific information on the use of the structured touching opportunities used regularly by Sexologists to address their clients' sexual difficulties (Sensate Focus 1) and enhance intimate relationships (Sensate Focus 2). This book is the only one to: vividly describe and illustrate the specific steps of, activities involved in, and positions associated with Sensate Focus; emphasize the purpose of Sensate Focus as a mindfulness-based practice; and distinguish between the purposes of Sensate Focus 1 and Sensate Focus 2.  Through the use of artful drawings and descriptive text, this manual engages mental health and medical professionals and their clients by appealing to both the visual and the analytical. It discusses how modifications to Sensate Focus can be applied to diverse populations, such as LGBTQ clients, the elderly, the disabled, trauma sTrade Review“This is a much needed book for mental health professionals to update their awareness and comfort in using sensate focus strategies with couples. Senate focus is integral to sex therapy and this updated book both confronts misunderstandings about senate focus and provides a motivating and empowering handbook. This book should be on the shelf of all couple and sex therapists.”— Barry McCarthy, PhD, professor of psychology, American University; author, Rekindling Desire “This book is long overdue!! It is a rich treasure for clinicians seeking the modern roadmap for integrating sensate focus into their work with diverse client populations. The illustrations bring the teaching to life. The whole-person approach—and the emphasis on touching as essential to human thriving—are messages that make this book invaluable. I will be recommending it to all of my students and trainees!”—Patti Britton, PhD, MPH, co-founder, SexCoachU.com; academic dean, Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS); adjunct faculty, The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Pacifica and Saybrook Graduate Institutes, and California Institute for Integral Studies“Sensate focus is one of the longest-standing tools in the toolbox of skilled sex therapists. Weiner and Avery-Clark refresh and revitalize this formidable tool, and apply the lens of mindfulness to understanding the power of this practice. This book will ensure that therapists—both new and seasoned—implement sensate focus effectively and accurately.”— Lori A. Brotto, PhD, professor, Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, University of British Columbia; executive director, Women’s Health Research Institute; registered psychologist"Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy is an amazingly comprehensive, deeply informative manual that will instantly become a classic in the best practice principles of Sex Therapy."—P. Michele Sugg, MSW, LCSW, CST, AASECT certified sex therapist; past-president, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists; sex therapy advisor, Alexander Foundation for Women's HealthTable of ContentsForeword Michael Perelman 1. Introduction 2. Sensate Focus 3. What Sensate Focus Is Not: A Little Bit of History About the Confusions 4. Sexual Dysfunctions: Basic Issues, Assessment Procedures, and Collaborative Treatment Planning 5. Sensate Focus 1: The Non-Demand Touching Suggestions 6. Processing Sensate Focus 1 Instructions 7. Modifications of Sensate Focus 1 for Diverse Client Populations 8. Common Problems and Their Management in Sensate Focus 9. Diverse Populations With Psychological and Physical Concerns 10. Sensate Focus 1 and 2 11. Conclusion References Appendices A. Sexual Dysfunction: History Taking for Sexual Distress B. Sensate Focus 1 Instruction for Clients C. Sensate Focus Special Instructions & Modifications for Different Dysfunctions

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Book SynopsisThe key missing piece of Jon Krakauer's multi million, multi territory bestseller and widely acclaimed Sean Penn film Into the Wild is finally revealed by his best friend and sister, Carine.The story of Chris McCandless, who gave away his savings, hitchhiked to Alaska, walked into the wilderness alone, and starved to death in 1992, fascinated not just New York Times bestselling author Jon Krakauer, but the rest of the nation too. Krakauer's book and a Sean Penn film skyrocketed Chris McCandless to worldwide fame, but the real story of his life and his journey has not yet been told until now.Carine McCandless, Chris's sister, featured in both the book and film, was the person with whom he had the closest bond, and who witnessed firsthand the dysfunctional and violent family dynamic that made Chris willing to embrace the harsh wilderness of Alaska. Growing up in the same troubled and volatile household that sent Chris on his fatal journey into the wild, Carine finally reveals the broade

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Book SynopsisThe fifteenth fostering memoir by Cathy Glass.Danny was petrified and clung to me in desperation as I carried him to my car. Trapped in his own dark world, he couldn''t understand why his parents no longer loved or wanted him, and were sending him away.While Danny's parents have everything they could wish for in material terms, they are unable to care for their only child. This is where Cathy comes in. On a cold dark evening Danny finds a place in her home where he can be himself; away from his parents' impatience and frustration. Often in his own little world, six-year-old Danny finds it difficult to communicate, finding solace in his best friend and confidant George his rabbit.Cathy quickly becomes aware of his obsessively meticulous behaviour in addition to his love of patterns, he sees them everywhere and creates them at any opportunity in his play and also with his food. She realises that patience is the key to looking after Danny as well as her well-tried strategies for managin

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Book Synopsis'A must read' - Esther Perel'My relationship bible' - Gabby Bernstein'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' - Bessel van der KolkMost loving relationships fail, not because of communication or empathy breakdown, but because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for disowned and unloved parts of ourselves, our 'internal family'.Building on the revolutionary Internal Family Systems model of therapy, Dr Richard Schwartz reveals how to reconnect and foster a healthy dialogue with your wise and compassionate 'Self' and your partner. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For will equip you with the essential tools needed to build trust and connection with the one you love.Trade Review'A must-read for anyone seeking a companion on the path toward self-compassion and love' * Esther Perel *'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' * Bessel van der Kolk, author of THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE *'The principles and methods shared in this book have offered me direct access to 'courageous love' and a greater connection to my husband than I ever felt possible.' * Gabby Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author *'This profound and readable book provides clear guidelines for therapists and clients alike ... I enthusiastically recommend this book to anyone serious about improving relationships in the world today! * Terrence Real *'Dr. Richard Schwartz's work on Internal Family Systems, along with his latest book, You Are the One You've Been Waiting For, has profoundly changed my life ... Dr. Schwartz's book is the number one tool I recommend for people who are seeking to find greater compassion and love for themselves and others.' * Krista Williams *

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Book SynopsisEvery couple wants a happy relationship and a meaningful career but how do we balance both?In Couples that Work, Professor Jennifer Petriglieri shifts away from the language of sacrifice and trade-offs and focuses on how couples can successfully tackle the challenges they will face throughout their lives--together. The book explores key questions like: - Can you and your partner have equally important careers or must you prioritise one over the other?- How can you juggle children or family commitments without sacrificing your work?- Does every decision require compromise or can you find solutions that benefit you both?Identifying common triggers and traps, and presenting engaging exercises to help you avoid and overcome them, this book will help every couple design their own unique way to combine love and work at every stage of their journey. ''Hugely insightful. A must-read for all couples'' Susan David, author of Emotional Agility''Managing one career is hard enough; two often seems impossible. In this book, Jennifer shares what she''s learned about how couples can not only survive but thrive'' Adam Grant, author of OriginalsTrade Review"In this provocative and thoughtful book, Professor Petriglieri has created a brilliant conversation road map for anyone navigating a duel career path. I read it with my partner - and suggest you do the same. It's fascinating!" * Lynda Gratton, Professor of Management Practice at the London Business School and bestselling author of The 100-Year Life *"A simple yet profoundly insightful roadmap to the predictable transitions all couples traverse." * Herminia Ibarra, Professor of Organisational, Behaviour London Business School and bestselling author of Act like a Leader, Think like a leader *"Offers practical, executable tasks and conversational prompts to help couples navigate the challenging transitions that confront us all." * Whitney Johnson, Bestselling author of Disrupt Yourself and Build an A-Team *"An inspiring read for anyone looking to both work and love." * Laszlo Bock, CEO Humu, former SVP of People Operations at Google and author of Work Rules! *"Managing one career is hard enough; two often seems impossible. In this book, Jennifer shares what she's learned about how dual-career couples can not only survive, but also thrive." * Adam Grant, author of Originals *"A must read for any couple committed to their relationship and to their careers." * Francesca Gino, Professor of Business Administration Harvard Business School and bestselling author of Rebel Talent *"I wish I had had this book at the beginning and middle of my career. I'm glad to have it in my hands now." * Joanna Barsh, Director Emerita, McKinsey & Company and author of How Remarkable Women Lead *"Offers precious advice for couples who want to help each other thrive at work as well as in their relationships." * Terri Kelly, Former CEO W.L. Gore & Associates *"Hugely insightful. A must-read for all couples." * Susan David, author of Emotional Agility *

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Book SynopsisA must-have guide to raising inclusive, antiracist children from educator and advocate, Britt Hawthorne.Raising antiracist children is a noble goal for any parent, caregiver, or educator, but it can be hard to know where to start. Let Britt Hawthorne—a nationally recognized teacher and advocate—be your guide. Raising Antiracist Children acts as an interactive guide for strategically incorporating the tools of inclusivity into everyday life and parenting. Hawthorne breaks down antiracist parenting into four comprehensive sections: -Healthy bodies—Establishing a safe and body-positive home environment to combat stereotypes and create boundaries. -Radical minds—Encouraging children to be agents of change, accompanied by scripts for teaching advocacy, giving and taking productive feedback, and becoming a coconspirator for change. -Conscious shopping—Raising awareness of how local shopping can empower or hinder a community’s ability to thrive, and teaching readers of all ages how to create shopping habits that support their values. -Thriving communities—Acknowledging the personal power we have to shape our schools, towns, and worlds, accompanied by exercises for instigating change. Full of questionnaires, stories, activities, tips, and tools, Raising Antiracist Children is a must-have, practical guide essential for parents and caregivers everywhere.Trade Review“A must-read that covers an essential topic well and is jam-packed with ideas to implement.” – Library Journal, Starred Review"I’m going to carry around this book in my pocket so I can refer to Britt’s gentle guidance at any time. She makes us reflect on how we are raising our children, recognise where we can do better, and give us the tools to make it happen.” -Simone Davies, Montessori educator and author of The Montessori Toddler “Hawthorne has a gift for making complex, sensitive topics accessible, and her tone is both inspiring and comforting. . . Overall, the creativity, criticality, and compassion make this book is a must-read for parents and caregivers. A stunningly comprehensive, thoughtful, and practical guide to anti-racist parenting.” -Kirkus (starred review)“Hawthorne’s emphasis on “self-love” for parents makes this a resource worth returning to. Parents looking to “reimagine how homes will become liberated spaces” need look no further.” -Publisher's Weekly"The title Raising Antiracist Children doesn’t begin to cover the scope of what’s actually in this outstanding book. Full of anecdotes, tips, tools, activities, and insights from a range of contributors, Britt Hawthorne and Natasha Yglesias, have created and curated a spectacular resource for anyone who want to get smarter about intentionally creating a more just and sustainable world." - Debby Irving, author of Waking Up White, and Finding Myself in the Story of Race

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Book SynopsisHailed as “an absolute must-read” (Jean Twenge) and a book that “will change your kids’ lives” (Jack Canfield), UnSelfie by Dr. Michele Borba explains what parents and educators MUST do to combat the growing empathy crisis among children today—including a 9-step empathy-building program with tips to guide kids from birth through college, and beyond.Teens today are forty percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago. Why is a lack of empathy—which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr. Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome—so dangerous? First, it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors. Also, it correlates with more cheating and less resilience. And once children grow up, a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate, innovate, and problem-solve—all must-have skills for the global economy. In UnSelfie Dr. Borba pinpoints the forcTrade ReviewPraise for Michele Borba:“[The] go-to parent expert.” -- CNN“The most trusted parenting expert in America.” -- Dr. Drew“The Mommy Whisperer.” -- Natalie Morales, TODAY show"In this brilliant and timely book, Michele Borba brings into sharp relief the key skill for children making it in the twenty-first century -- empathy. This beautifully written, eminently actionable book will inspire parents and their children to take on the complex issues of our twenty-first century guided by the power of empathy and kindness. This book offers a roadmap to a much brighter future." -- Dacher Keltner, director of the Greater Good Science Center and author of The Power Paradox: How we Gain and Lose Influence"UnSelfie is an absolute must-read for parents. Want your children to be both caring and successful? UnSelfie shows you how, with easy to implement techniques grounded in the latest research. It turns out that empathy-- understanding other people's feelings -- is not just "nice," but one of the most useful skills your children can learn. An engaging read with vivid stories and practical advice, UnSelfie is the most important parenting book you will read this year." -- Jean M. Twenge, author of Generation Me and co-author of The Narcissism Epidemic“UnSelfie contains everything parents and educators need how to know to give children the ‘empathy advantage’ and raise a new generation of caring, happy, successful kids. Nobody on the planet is better than Michele Borba at showing you how to put empathy into action. Read this book. It will change your kids' lives!” -- Jack Canfield, Coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Parent’s Soul and The Success Principles™"Once again Dr. Michele Borba has written a book that is not only 'good' but essential. By writing about empathy in the context of our children's increased technology use, Dr. Borba penetrates the often hidden world of electronics. She does so with a science-based perspective that mirrors our own common sense. UnSelfie is a must-read for parents, teachers, and policy-makers." -- Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls“Dr. Borba’s 9-step plan for raising successful, happy kids who also are kind, courageous, and resilient provides a revolutionary new framework for learning empathy. Empathetic kids will thrive in the future, but the seeds of success can be planted today—one habit at a time. Read this book to find out how.” -- Madeline Levine, author of The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well“Countless books advise parents on how to foster their children’s achievement and determination. But in order to succeed in today’s world, it’s just as important to be kind, compassionate, and concerned about the well-being of others. If you care about cultivating these traits in your child – and you should – you’ll heed Michele Borba’s wise advice.” -- Laurence Steinberg, Ph.D., author of The Ten Basic Principles of Good Parenting“As a parent and educator, I understand why so many of us are worried about the impact of constant connectivity and self-focus our culture so often glorifies. But Michele Borba's UnSelfie gives us such a powerful tool to counteract these seemingly overwhelming challenges. She has wonderful and practical ways to reconnect with our children and guide them so they can develop healthy relationships with others. And really her advice doesn't only apply to our children--we would all do well to follow Borba's advice.I hadn't even finished it and I was already applying her wisdom to how I am raising my sons.” -- Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees and Wannabes"As the world increasingly values and rewards self-indulgent and narcissistic behavior, it has become more difficult to raise kind, empathetic kids. This is the first book I’ve read that provides clear, practical, research-based steps for for raising empathetic children. UnSelfie is an essential, enjoyable read for parents and educators, a book I plan to keep close at hand as I write, parent, and teach.” -- Jessica Lahey, New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure“For children of every age, Michele Borba shows parents -- and all caregivers-- how a focus on empathy can build moral courage, kindness, teamwork, and self-regulation. She provides a gift to us all in guiding us in nurturing the best capabilities of our most precious resources and showing how natural it is for children to focus on the ‘we’ and not the ‘me.’ UnSelfie show how natural it is for children to live their lives with others at the center, and not themselves. In fact, empathic children are more likely to grow up to be accomplished, admired, cherished,beloved, and to serve as moral exemplars. By taking themselves out of the center of their camera's pictures, our children will find they open up new worlds of perspective, connection, and relationships.” -- Maurice J. Elias, Ph.D., Author of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting and The Other Side of the Report Card“Dr. Borba pulls the veil off of a much needed topic concerning the unhealthy self-centeredness existing in our world today. Her brilliant insight not only reveals the source of the problem, but provides much need applications and skill set training. A must read!” -- Darrell Scott, Founder, Rachel's Challenge"Michele Borba masterfully empowers parents to nurture each child’s inherent goodness. This must-read book reminds us to keep our eyes on the real goal of parenting – building young people who will be the kind of caring, empathetic, contributing adults we hope them to be. If we want our children to THRIVE through good and challenging times we must never forget that it is their ability to reach out to –and give strength to – others that will make the difference. Here is a powerful book that will make a difference for our children today as we prepare them to be the kind of adults we need to lead our world tomorrow.” -- Kenneth R. Ginsburg MD, MS Ed, Author of “Raising Kids to Thrive” and “Building Resilience in Children and Teens”“If I were asked to recommend just one book to parents, caregivers, and educators that serves as an essential research-based, no-nonsense, go-to guide for raising compassionate, caring, empathic, successful and happy children, UnSelfie would be my number one pick. Dr. Michele Borba is spot on with her recommendations, practical strategies, and resources for giving youth the empathy advantage badly needed in today’s and tomorrow’s world. I cannot recommend this book enough!” -- Trudy Ludwig, Children’s Advocate & Bestselling Author of The Invisible Boy“UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World by Dr. Michele Borba provides a research-based road map and practical, empowering strategies to nurture empathy in a self-absorbed world that so desperately needs it. Inspired, hope-filled, insightful and hard to put down - a must read for all parents.” -- Amy McCready, author of The “Me, Me, Me” Epidemic - A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World“This beautiful gem of a book is a must read for all parents who care about the quality of life of their children and the world they inhabit. I can think of no better guide than Dr. Michele Borba to teach parents exactly how to cultivate and nurture the missing ingredient in their children success and happiness: empathy. . . . Dr. Borba explains the very simple, easy-to-implement, age-specific steps for how to change your child's perspective, today. What I love most about this book is the poignant, engaging stories Dr. Borba describes. I immediately began to share them at dinner with my family, and as a parent and psychologist I know this is the best way to teach. Storytelling creates unforgettable memories that will strike a deep and resounding chord. This is how we change the world for our children -- one moment of connection at a time.” -- Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., author of Freeing Your Child from Anxiety and Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking“Michele Borba has written a game-changing guide showing why nurturing empathy in our children isn't optional -- it's essential. This groundbreaking book is an invaluable tool for parents and educators in their quest to raise compassionate, kind, and courageous children in a culture whose only success metric are grades, trophies, and resumes. For our children’s sake, I hope parents heed her sound advice to raise UnSelfies." -- Philip Zimbardo, Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Stanford University President & Founder, Heroic Imagination Project, author, The Lucifer Effect“Empathy helps us develop true friendships and have a happy life, and Michele Borba’s practical insights and advice are a huge help for parents who want to nurture this essential skill in their children." -- Harvey Karp, M.D., author The Happiest Baby on the Block and The Happiest Toddler on the Block“Empathy is a gateway to success for kids across every area of life — and Dr. Michele Borba leads parents on a practical, step-by-step journey to get there. Passionately written and impeccably researched, UnSelfie has practical strategies on every page that you can use right away.” -- Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out and co-founder of Girls Leadership"In this era of increased technology use, UnSelfie emphasizes the important reminder that kindness, caring and being genuinely connected to others is critical for children. Parents are their role models and teachers in this arena. Borba offers numerous suggestions for helping children develop and exhibit empathy and helping families find ways to connect to each other with digital-free activities. A great read." -- Tovah Klein, author of How Toddlers ThriveIn Unselfie, Michele Borba boldly takes on the mistaken modern myths and practices that may lead today’s young into the traps of self-absorption, and she offers us a better way. -- William Damon, Professor and Director, Stanford Center on Adolescence and author of The Path to Purpose“UnSelfie offers a life jacket for those swimming in a sea of selfie culture. Wade in, cast your line and reel in a plan for raising self-regulated empathic children. Three cheers for Michele Borba!” -- Mary Gordon, founder of Roots of Empathy“Luckily for us, Michele Borba has focused her attention on one of our most critical issues-- how we can raise empathic, caring children. And she has brought to this work her great compassion and an exceptional combination of skills. She listens deeply to and earns the trust of children, parents and educators from around the world. She draws on the latest, pioneering research with wisdom and integrity and provides concrete, compelling advice and strategies that parents and educators will eagerly weave into their daily lives with children. She’s a treasure. She makes me hopeful that our next generation of children will be more invested in each other and more committed to creating a better and more just world.” -- Richard Weissbourd, Senior Lecturer, Director of the Human Development and Psychology Program at the Harvard Graduate School of EducationMichele Borba has the rare gift of being able to take insights from cutting-edge research on empathy and character development and turn them into how-to strategies that any parent or teacher can use tomorrow. Every generation has a few child rearing experts who become the go-to persons for wise advice on the toughest challenges facing families and schools. In our time, and around the world, no one is a more trusted voice on character and child behavior than Michele Borba. And no one is better equipped to help us raise more empathic, kinder, happier kids. -- Thomas Lickona, director of the Center for the 4th and 5th Rs (Respect and Responsibility) and author of Character Matters“I have never, ever read a book that combines solid research on a timely and critical subject—the importance of promoting empathy—with so many amazing and creative how-to suggestions that turn this research into action. Unselfie is a must-read!” -- Ellen Galinsky, author of Mind in the Making: the Seven Essential Skills Every Child Needs

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Book SynopsisTrade Review“To Have and to Hold speaks to so many women’s experiences of motherhood and marriage. Molly’s expertise shines on every page, and she writes beautifully. This book is exactly what I would be looking for if I were a new mother.” — Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight “A love note to mothers everywhere, movingly written, To Have and to Hold shines a powerful light on aspects of motherhood too long shrouded in shame. Millwood’s refrain— you are not alone, and what you’re feeling is normal—is as empowering as it is healing.” — Dr. Craig Malkin, lecturer, Harvard Medical School, author of Rethinking Narcissism “In To Have and to Hold, Molly Millwood has rendered an affecting portrait of the complexities of modern motherhood with compassion and empathy. While the mundanities of caring for young children can obscure the beauty of the act—as well as disorient us from ourselves—her gentle guidance will help readers find meaning, connection, and joy amid the chaos.” — Leah Weiss, PhD, author of How We Work, Lecturer at Stanford Business School, and founding faculty member of Stanford’s Compassion Cultivation Program “A compassionate book that affirms that emotional difficulties for new mothers are not anomalous but universal and can extend well past the immediate postpartum period, with profound effects on their relationships with their spouses.” — Publishers Weekly “Although there are books on what to expect during pregnancy, there are few resources that address the major shifts that happen once a family welcomes a new baby. Drawing from research, her clinical practice, and her own life, [psychologist] Millwood explores attachment, marital strife, gender roles, and other essential topics.” — Booklist (starred review) “As a culture, we largely ignore the emotional health and wellbeing of new mothers. To Have and to Hold provides an insightful and nuanced perspective from which to view the challenges facing so many women. Dr. Millwood’s writing is highly readable and her tone deeply kind. Thank you for pulling us out of the shame cave and into the light.” — Amy Mandeville O’Meara, WHNP, DrNP, AGNP, author of Maternity, Newborn, and Women’s Health Nursing “Informative, entertaining, and enlightening research and personal reflections on the multifaceted ways children change a person forever.” — Kirkus Reviews

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Book SynopsisTrade Review“This new, updated edition of After the Affair is a must for anyone going through an affair, recovering from betrayal, or working with a couple who needs advice. If you want your relationship to book, buy this book. Her wisdom applies to all of us.” — Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of When You’re the One Who Cheats “Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “The most comprehensive and balanced book I have ever read on the subject. It is” — Dr. Harville Hendrix “After the Affair is a wonderful guide for couples who want to reconstruct their relationship after one partner has been unfaithful. In clear, sparkling prose, Dr. Spring explains the sources of infidelity and offers sound, sensible guidelines for mending the relationship.” — Aaron Beck, M.D., founder of Cognitive Therapy and author of Love Is Never Enough “For married or cohabitating couples who want to rebuild their relationship after one partner has had an affair, this tough-minded, insightful manual will be eminently practical…This wise book fills a gap on the self-help shelf.” — Publishers Weekly

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Book SynopsisTable of ContentsAbout the Authors xi Preface xiii 1 Introduction: The Science of Intimate Relationships 1 The Science of Intimate Relationships: A Brief History and Analysis 2 Domains of Study 2 An Example 4 Interdisciplinary Links 4 The Relation Between Mind and Body 5 Common Sense and Pop Psychology 5 Research Methods 7 Contents of the Book 8 Summary and Conclusions 9 2 Intimate Relationships in Context: Key Theories, Concepts, and Human Nature 11 Social Psychology 12 A Brief History 12 Interdependence Theory 13 Evolutionary Psychology 15 Darwin 15 Darwinian Evolutionary Theory 16 Selection for Survival 16 Sexual Selection 17 Parental Investment Theory 18 Key Features of Evolutionary Psychology 19 Human Nature and Genes 20 What is Human Nature? 21 Life History Theory 22 Goals of Life History Theory 22 Life History Mysteries and the Critical Role of Tradeoffs 22 The Strange Nature of Human Development 24 Of Human Bondage 24 Humans are Cultural Animals 26 Summary and Conclusions 28 3 The Intimate Relationship Mind 31 Relationship Goals 32 Lay Relationship Theories 33 General Lay Theories 34 A Case Study: Attribution Theory 34 Self‐Esteem 36 General Relationship Lay Theories 37 Local Relationship Theories 38 Self Theories 39 Relationship Evaluations 39 The Functions of Lay Relationship Theories: Back to the Goals 40 On‐Line Cognitive Processing: Unconscious and Automatic Versus Conscious and Controlled 42 When Do People Think Consciously About Relationships? 43 Evidence for This Distinction 44 Role of Stored Relationship Theories 44 Self‐Regulation 45 Interlude and a Caveat 46 Emotions in Relationships 47 Functions of Emotions 47 Lay Emotion Theories and Scripts 47 Basic Emotions 48 Do Emotions Get in the Way of Rational Thought? 50 The Distal Origins of the Intimate Relationship Mind: Evolution and Culture 51 Summary and Conclusions 53 4 The Intimate Relationship Body 55 Why Sexual Reproduction? 56 Human Genitalia and Their Origins 57 The Human Body and Behavior are Windows into Our Mating Past 59 Orgasms, Nipples, Adaptations, and By‐Products 61 Hormones, Sex, and Relationships 62 Sex Hormones 63 Cuddle Hormones 66 Fight or Flight Hormones 67 The Relationship Brain 67 Social Cognition and the Brain 69 The Prefrontal Cortex 69 Emotions and Cognitions Work Together 69 Controlled Versus Automatic Processing 71 Bonding and Love 71 The Cuddle Hormones as Neurotransmitters 71 The Dopamine System 73 Summary 73 Summary and Conclusions 74 5 Intimate Relationships and Health 77 The Impact of Divorce on Children 78 The Path from an Unstable Family Life in Childhood to Health Problems in Adulthood 78 Are Long‐Term Relationships Good for You? 80 A Crucial Caveat: It Depends on Relationship Quality 81 Protective Relationship Factors and Health Outcomes 85 Divorce, Partner Loss, and Health Outcomes 86 Summary and Conclusions 89 6 Born to Bond: From Infancy to Adulthood 91 Attachment Theory 92 Brief Historical Overview 92 Normative Features of Attachment 94 Mother–Infant Synchrony 94 Keeping Close 95 Four Phases of Development 95 Individual Differences in Attachment 96 Attachment in Adolescence and Adulthood 98 Normative Processes and Outcomes in Adulthood 102 Individual Differences and Outcomes in Adulthood 103 Life History Models of Social Development 105 The Development of Individual Differences in Attachment and Mating Strategies 106 Variations on a Theme 108 Controversies 110 Summary and Conclusions 111 7 Selecting Mates 113 Searching for a Mate: What Do People Want? 114 The Nature of Mating Standards 116 Personality Traits, Status, and Resources 116 Physical Attractiveness 117 Summary 119 The Origins of Mate Standards 119 Good Investment 119 Good Genes 120 Within‐Gender Differences in Mating Strategies 121 Sociosexuality and Mating Strategies 121 The Menstrual Cycle and Mate Preferences 122 Gender Differences, Mating Strategies, and Short‐Term Versus Long‐Term Liaisons 124 Physical Attractiveness, Age, Status, Resources, and Personality Traits 124 Sexual Variety 126 Explaining Gender Differences in Mate Selection Strategies 128 Parental Investment Theory 128 Sexual Strategies Theory 129 Social Structural Model 129 Resolution 129 Mate Preferences, Self‐Presentation, and the Self‐Concept 130 How the Mating Game (and the Media) Shape the Self‐Concept 131 Explaining Within‐Gender Differences in Mating Strategies and Preferences 132 Do Mate Preferences Predict Actual Mate Choices? 134 The “New” Social Media World of Dating and Mate Selection 136 Summary and Conclusions 137 8 Family and Friends 139 Alloparenting: The Central Role of the Family 140 Grandparents 141 Mothers and Fathers 142 Romantic and Platonic Love 143 The Incest Taboo 144 Friends and Romance 147 Meet the Parents 149 Summary and Conclusions 152 9 Love, Sweet Love 155 Love as a Commitment Device: Pair Bonding in Humans 156 Romantic Love Is Universal 156 Romantic Love Has Distinctive Emotional and Biological Signatures 157 Romantic Love Suppresses the Search for Mates 158 Monogamy, Polygyny, Polyandry, and Polyamory 161 Infidelity and Divorce: Is Love Meant to Last? 163 Summary 164 The Nature of Love 164 Passionate Love 165 Self‐Expansion 165 Physical Arousal and Stress 166 The Slow Slide in Passion 166 Companionate Love 167 Links Between Passionate and Companionate Love 167 Sternberg’s Triangular Model of Love 169 Nonlove 169 Liking 169 Infatuation 170 Empty Love 170 Romantic Love 170 Companionate Love 170 Fatuous Love 170 Consummate Love 171 The Maintenance of Love and Intimacy 172 Summary and Conclusions 174 10 Reading Minds, Partners, and Relationships 177 Looking Through the Eyes of Love: Reality Versus Illusion in Intimate Relationships 178 Can Bias Be Rational? 179 Research Case Study 179 Projection 180 Can Judgments Be Biased and Accurate at the Same Time? 180 Two Kinds of Accuracy 180 Research Case Study 182 Are People Aware of Bias and Accuracy in Their Relationship Judgments? 182 A puzzle and an Explanation 182 Causes and Consequences of Accuracy and Bias in Partner and Relationship Judgments 184 Links Between Accuracy and Relationship Quality 184 Relationship Stage 185 First Meetings 185 Ongoing Relationships 188 Individual Differences and Context 189 Self‐esteem and Stress 189 Security and Stress 190 Summary 191 Back to Reading Minds 191 Methods 191 Research Findings 192 Individual Differences in Mind‐Reading 193 Summary and Conclusions 196 11 Communication and Interaction 197 Couple Communication During Conflict 199 What Do Communication Behaviors Predict? 199 Toxic Patterns: Negative Reciprocity and Demand‐Withdrawal 201 Moving beyond Conflict 202 Communication Behavior and Cognition 202 Responding to Relationship Threats: Accommodation and Risk Regulation 203 Regulating Risk 204 Regulating Partners 206 Summary 207 Good “Negative” Behaviors and Bad “Negative” Behaviors 207 When Honest Communication Is Healthy and Good Management Fails 208 Stress Is … Well, Stressful 208 Why Adopting One Default Strategy Is Not a Good Idea 209 Providing and Communicating Support 211 Relationship Satisfaction and Support 212 What Recipients of Support Do, Think, and Feel Counts 213 Can Partners Be Too Supportive? 214 Summary 216 Summary and Conclusions 216 12 Sex and Passion 219 The Biology of Sex 220 Sexual Orientation 221 The Origins of Sexual Orientation 221 Hormones, Brain Development, and Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia 222 Genes and Homosexuality in Men 223 Sexual Plasticity in Women 224 Sexual Desire and Relationships 225 Gender Differences in Sex and Sexuality 227 Gender Differences in Sex Drive 227 Gender Differences in Desire for Multiple Sex Partners 229 Gender Differences in Negotiating Sex in Relationships 230 Sexual Jealousy 230 Sex and Relationship Satisfaction 232 Does Better Sex Lead to Better Relationships? 232 Do Better Relationships Lead to Better Sex? 233 Communication May Be Critical 233 Individual Differences in Sociosexuality 234 Summary and Conclusions 237 13 Relationship Violence 239 Gender Differences in Intimate Violence 240 Research Using the Conflict Tactics Scale 240 The Research Bombshell 241 Is the Conflict Tactics Scale Reliable and Valid? 242 What do the Results from the Conflict Tactics Scale Really Mean? 245 Resolving the Paradox 245 All Men are Not Created Equal 246 Severity and Consequences of Physical Violence 247 Summary 248 Till Death Us Do Part 248 Explaining Relationship Violence 249 An Evolutionary Approach 249 A Feminist Perspective 252 A Social Psychological Approach 253 Explaining Variability in Intimate Violence Within and Between Cultures 255 Can Relationship Violence be Prevented, and, if so, How? 257 Summary and Conclusions 258 14 Relationship Dissolution 261 Predicting Relationship Dissolution: What Drives Couples Apart? 263 Socio‐Demographic Variables, Relationship History, and Individual Differences 263 Are the Fates of Relationships Sealed Before they Begin? 265 Relationship‐Level Factors 266 Love and Investment 268 Satisfaction Level 269 Quality of Alternatives 269 Investment Size 269 The Power and Limitations of Relationship Maintenance Strategies 270 Consequences of Relationship Dissolution 273 Moving On and Letting Go 273 Relationship Therapy 275 Traditional Behavioral Couples Therapy 276 Cognitive Behavioral Couples Therapy 276 Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy 277 Emotion Focused Couple Therapy 277 Does Relationship Therapy Work? 278 Summary and Conclusions 279 15 Assembling the Relationship Elephant 281 The Power of Culture and Evolution 282 How Pair‐Bonding and Romantic Love Played Pivotal Roles in the Evolution of Modern Humans 283 Gender Differences 286 Within‐Gender Differences 288 Science and Intimate Relationships 290 Conclusion 290 Glossary 291 References 303 Index 353

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Book SynopsisIn this book the bestselling author and psychoanalyst Massimo Recalcati offers a fundamental re-examination of what ‘being a mother’ means today, in a world where new social and sexual freedoms mean that motherhood is no longer the sole destiny of women. Questioning the belief that a mother’s love is natural and unconditional, he paints a more complex and troubling picture of the mother–child relationship, observing that mothers may even resent their children as a result of unresolved conflicts between different dimensions of love. The mother’s hands not only nurture but can also potentially harm. Recalcati argues that it is precisely in these competing demands that motherhood fulfils its function: only if the mother is ‘not-all-mother’ can a child experience the absence that enables it to access the symbolic and cultural world. Recalcati cuts through conventional wisdom to offer a fresh perspective on the changing nature of motherhood today. An international bestseller, this book will appeal to a wide general readership, as well as to students and scholars of gender studies, psychoanalysis and related disciplines.Trade Review‘This book from one of Italy’s most popular public intellectuals turns our conventional understanding of motherly love on its head, encouraging a complete rethink of what motherhood means today. Written with Recalcati’s typical flair and sagacity, it will be of interest to a very wide readership.’Dany Nobus, Brunel University, London ‘In this poetic and thought-provoking book, Massimo Recalcati explores the many images of the mother to be found in both psychoanalysis and popular culture, urging a questioning of the prejudices and clichés that are so often taken for granted. Without downplaying the complexity and ambivalences of the mother–child relation, he emphasises the positive, life-giving transmission of the mother, and shows us with clarity and elegance the many levels at which this operates.’Darian Leader, Psychoanalyst, Centre for Freudian Analysis and Research

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Book SynopsisA comprehensive handbook for counsellors and therapists working with victims of child abuse - using Parks Inner Child Therapy. Developed by Penny Parks, based on her own experience of recovering from childhood abuse, Parks Inner Child Therapy (PICT) is a flexibly structured approach to inner child work, which works through the 'today' adult to assist resolution of trauma within the 'past' child. Developed specifically for counsellors treating patients using aspects of the PICT method, this guide covers: - The effects of childhood trauma - PICT steps for identifying and changing mistaken beliefs - Sample material and guidelines for use - Dealing with anger and guilt - The four basic Therapy Blocks Widely used by counsellors to help people recover from sexual, physical and emotional abuse during childhood, this is a valuable reference for trained professionals overseeing recovery, as well as a useful guide as part of a self-help programme.Trade ReviewGently producing profound, rapid and lasting change -- mindsite.co.ukHow to achieve resolution without disclosure * Mental Health Today *

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Book SynopsisCountless studies have established the efficacy of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for many manifestations of depression and anxiety. In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Perinatal Distress, Wenzel and Kleiman discuss the benefits of CBT for pregnant and postpartum women who suffer from emotional distress. The myths of CBT as rigid and intrusive are shattered as the authors describe its flexible application for perinatal women. This text teaches practitioners how to successfully integrate CBT structure and strategy into a supportive approach in working with this population. The examples used in the book will be familiar to postpartum specialists, making this an easily comprehensive and useful resource. Trade Review"Wenzel and Kleiman have done a superb job in writing this comprehensive guide utilizing CBT with a unique population. Their clinical expertise, in the care of women living with perinatal distress, informs their presentation, making it easy to read and highly applicable to providers in this specialty practice area." --Jeanne Watson Driscoll, PhD, RN, PC, Co-author ofWomen’s Moods; Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorders: A Clinician’s Guide; and Traumatic Childbirth."We usually think of pregnancy and the postpartum as times of happiness and joy, yet for a number of reasons, depression and anxiety are actually very common experiences during these times. All too often, these problems go unrecognized by healthcare providers. This book, which emphasizes cognitive-behavioral therapy, the most effective treatment for emotional distress, is sure to be of great use to practitioners and patients alike. The many personal examples and illustrations of therapeutic techniques make this a very usable workbook." --Jonathan S. Abramowitz, PhD, Professor and Associate Chair of Psychology, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill"Two experts in the field of perinatal mental health have teamed up to produce an outstanding volume on the identification and management of perinatal distress. This book recognizes that few women present with pure perinatal depression or anxiety and it provides a thorough going guide to working with the perinatal woman who is suffering from a mixture of symptoms. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Perinatal Distress should be read by any clinician or student who works with women suffering from perinatal depression or anxiety." --Michael W. O’Hara, PhD, Professor of Psychology, University of IowaTable of ContentsPerinatal Distress: An Overview. A Cognitive Behavioral Model of Perinatal Distress. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Distress: Evidence and Applicability to Perinatal Women. The Therapeutic Relationship in the Treatment of Perinatal Distress. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Perinatal Distress: An Overview. Evaluating Unhelpful Cognitions. Behavioral Interventions for Perinatal Depression. Behavioral Interventions for Perinatal Anxiety. Problem Solving Training. Communication Skills Training. Relapse Prevention and Termination. Conclusion.

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Book SynopsisRelationships everywhere are in crisis due to our inability to talk about difference without polarizing. Since objection to difference is the core human problem, we need a skill that helps us connect beyond difference. That''s just what New York Times bestselling authors Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt offer in their new book: How To Talk With Anyone About Anything. They call it the Safe Conversations Dialogue process, which everyone can learn and teach, that moves all relationships from danger to safety, making connecting possible.For centuries, most of us humans have talked to others in monologues, believing that the world is the way we see it, that what we say about it is the truth and we have assumed that everyone sees it our way. If they do not, we experience tension and conflict on many levels. On the other hand, few of us have ever listened to others while they are talking and tried to see the world from their point of

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Book SynopsisAn indispensable clinical resource and text, this book offers therapists evidence-based strategies to support families through life's inevitable transitions. Chapters explore typical life cycle stages--couple formation, parenthood, adolescence, young adulthood and midlife, and later life--and describe treatment principles for frequently encountered family challenges. The book normalizes developmental strains and underscores the significance of flexibility, adaptability, and resilience through adversity. Extensive case examples encompass a range of family forms, cultural and individual differences, and life cycle disruptions, including parental separation, illness, and loss.

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Book SynopsisAutPlay Therapy is a behavioral play-based treatment approach to working with children and adolescents with autism spectrum disorder and other developmental disabilities. This innovative new model contains a parent-training component (wherein the therapist trains parents to do directive play therapy interventions in the home) and can be utilized in any setting where children and adolescents with an autism disorder, ADHD, dysregulation issues, or other neurodevelopmental disorders are treated. This comprehensive resource outlines the AutPlay Therapy process and offers a breakdown of treatment phases along with numerous assessment materials and over 30 directive play therapy techniques.Table of ContentsIntroduction. 1 Autism Spectrum Disorder. 2 Developmental Disabilities. 3 Influences on AutPlay Therapy. 4 Play Therapy. 5 Behavioral Therapy. 6 AutPlay Therapy Approach. 7 Emotional Regulation Ability 8 Social Skills Development. 9 Connection (Relationship Development). 10 Parent Training. 11 Phases of AutPlay Therapy. 12 AutPlay Follow Me Approach. 13 Research. 14 Case Studies. 15 Emotional Regulation Interventions. 16 Social Skills Interventions. 17 Connection Interventions. Appendix A: Therapy Inventories. Appendix B: Therapy Treatment Plan Profile. Appendix C: Additional Play Based Treatments. Appendix D: Apps for Autism and Developmental Disorders. Appendix E: Additional Resources.

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Book SynopsisInternal Family Systems Therapy for OCD offers a groundbreaking integration of the compassionate, parts-based IFS approach with evidence-based OCD treatments.This innovative guide introduces IFS for OCD and demonstrates Self-led Exposure and Response Prevention (Self-led ERP), a unique approach that maintains therapeutic effectiveness of treatments that work while enhancing client engagement and facilitating enduring recovery. This approach helps clients develop healing relationships with the protective parts driving the obsessions and compulsions that perpetuate OCD. Through detailed case examples and practical techniques, clinicians learn to help clients access their inherent self-leadership, transform their relationship with uncertainty and fear, and achieve not just symptom reduction but internal balance, harmony and perspective. This vital resource bridges the gap between relational psychotherapy and behavioral interventions, offering hope for clients who haven't fully responded to conventional treatments.This invaluable book is essential reading for family therapists and clinical psychologists who are interested in IFS and treat clients with OCD and other anxiety disorders.

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Book SynopsisExploring the conditions under which children, as a function of their own abuse, become abusive themselves.Trade Review"I wish I had this book when I started my career, and I am thrilled to have it now. Dr. Alexander brilliantly integrates leading theory and research from a wide variety of fields to help readers understand the complex interactions between familial, biological, psychological, and social factors that can lead to intergenerational cycles of violence and trauma. This book will be a valuable resource for clinicians and researchers for years to come." -- Scott R. Woolley, PhD, Distinguished Professor, Couple and Family Therapy California School of Professional Psychology, Alliant International University "This is the best-and in reality only-comprehensive treatment of intergenerational cycles of maltreatment and abuse. It is also one of the best integrations of systemic thinking with attachment theory you are likely to find anywhere. Alexander's book is essential reading for all those working clinically with children and adults, together or individually, who bring experiences of trauma into the consulting room." -- Peter Fonagy, OBE, FMedSci, FBA, PhD, Professor of Psychoanalysis, Head of Research Dept of Clinical, Educational and Health Psychology, University College London; Chief Executive, Anna Freud Centre "This book is essential reading for researchers and clinicians who work in the area of violence and trauma. The compelling case examples help to bring the material to life. Implications for treatment are presented as well as factors that can enhance resilience. This significant volume tackles difficult questions and provides an insightful analysis of the current literature on violence and victimization. It is a foundation for guiding future research." -- Victoria Follette, PhD, Foundation Professor and Chair, Department of Psychology, University of Nevada, Reno "In this beautifully written book, Dr. Pam Alexander has shed light on an important and understudied topic: intergenerational cycles of trauma and violence. She has drawn from a variety of sources and melded them with contemporary findings from the neurosciences and from attachment and family systems theories to offer new insights about intergenerational cycles of violence that affect individuals and families. The information provided here can be used to guide the development of relational and behavioral interventions that offer hope for breaking the cycle, thereby sparing victims from repeated abusive behavior and from revictimization." -- Christine A. Courtois, PhD, ABPP, Psychologist, Private Practice, Washington, DC; National Clinical Trauma Consultant, Elements Behavioral Health, Promises, Malibu

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Book SynopsisIn Group Filial Therapy (GFT), therapists train parents to conduct play sessions with their own children to help meet children's therapeutic needs, and to transfer appropriate skills to family life. Based on parents' application of Child-Centred Play Therapy, taught and supervised by filial therapists, this evidence-based method is highly effective for working with families from diverse backgrounds and locations. This book provides an accessible guide to the theory and practice of GFT, and for the first time offers step-by-step guidelines for implementing the GFT program developed by Dr Guerney, the co-creator of Filial Therapy. Important practical considerations are addressed by Dr Guerney and Dr Ryan, such as how to determine the composition of groups and the duration of programs, and how to conduct Filial Therapy intakes. The facilitative attitudes and skills needed to be an effective Filial Therapy group leader are also described, and comprehensive instructions for implementing Dr Guerney's 20-week model of GFT are provided. The book closes with examples of how the program may be adapted to meet the needs of special groups. Replete with examples and dialogues bringing to life the group process, this definitive guide will enable therapists already familiar with the method, as well as those wishing to learn it, to maximise the fulfilment of therapeutic goals for participating families. Practitioners in mental health, social services and counselling, as well as parenting experts, play and filial therapists and therapists in training will find that this book expands and enriches the services they can offer their clients.Trade ReviewGroup Filial Therapy is an extraordinary read on so many levels. -- BACP Children & Young PeopleGroup Filial Therapy is truly a masterpiece! Guerney and Ryan have detailed a vast amount of sage and practical information guaranteed to heighten practitioners' effectiveness when working with children and their families. Comprehensive, theoretically-grounded, and empirically supported, Group Filial Therapy is a compelling and pragmatic reference that is a must-read for any clinician, at any experience level, working with children, families, and groups of families. It features Filial Therapy as originally conceived and refined during the past 50 years by its founders, Bernard and Louise Guerney. This much-anticipated work will be a classic in the fields of Filial Therapy, play therapy, child psychotherapy, and family therapy. It is a fabulous gift from the authors, and it deserves to be read cover-to-cover. -- Risë VanFleet, Ph.D., RPT-S, CDBC, President, Family Enhancement & Play Therapy Center and author of Filial Therapy: Strengthening Parent-Child-Relationships Through Play, Pennsylvania, USAFilial therapy, co-developed by Louise Guerney, is the most significant happening in the field of mental health in the past 50 years because this innovative approach has the potential to improve a society. Group Filial Therapy is a long-awaited and much-needed book that provides insight into the dynamics of filial therapy and a practical how-to approach for implementing the intricacies of the process. Mental health professionals will want to return to this book again and again for helpful instruction. -- Dr. Garry L. Landreth, Regents Professor, Counseling and Higher Education Department, University of North TexasI am delighted that a very practical, step-by-step manual for conducting the Guerney model of Group Filial Therapy is now available! Kudos to Drs Louise Guerney and Virginia Ryan for preparing this comprehensive, clearly-written handbook which will serve to both improve the practice and strengthen the research base of Filial Therapy. -- Charles E. Schaefer, Ph.D., RPT-S, Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Fairleigh Dickinson University, Teaneck, New Jersey and Co-founder of the Association for Play Therapy, Fresno, CaliforniaThis book is a must-have for all clinicians who work with families. What a gift as a therapist to be able to assist and empower a parent to help and support their child as well as enhance their parent/child relationship via play. This book breaks down why Group Filial Therapy is advantageous for families, how to set up a parent group that is needs-balanced with the optimal number of children and parents, clinical goals, supervision issues to address, how to create play kits, etc. Essentially, the GFT clinician can use this resource from intake to group closure. Case illustrations connect theory with practice and the book ends with additional resources that the GFT clinician can seek out for further information. This will be the book that all clinicians want in their office. -- Theresa Fraser, CYW, M.A., CPT-S, Trauma and Loss Clinical Specialist and President of the Canadian Association for Child and Play TherapyThe book provides detailed guidance, problem solving and resources on how to set-up and run a GFT group... If you work with families where children are traumatised, have emotional difficulties, conduct disorder, poor family relationships, are adopted/fostered, then filial therapy could provide an intervention which effects change where other parenting programmes may not. -- Ms R. Rayner, Independent Clinical social worker * Professional Social Work *The aim of this book is to provide a complete guide to the theory and practice of Group Filial Therapy (GFT)... this book goes into vast amounts of detail and appears to consider every possible problem which may arise... This book would be useful for educational psychologists who work (or are interested in working) therapeutically with parents or carers of children for whom attachment difficulties, early trauma, serious anxiety or emotional regulation have made other interventions problematic. -- Emma Birch, Trainee EP * Debate - British Psychological Society *Table of ContentsIntroduction. 1. An Overview of Filial Therapy and Group Filial Therapy. 2. The Selection of Suitable Participants and the Intake Process for GFT. 3. Guidelines for Conducting Successful GFT Groups. 4. The Main Skills Parents Learn in GFT. 5. Starting the GFT Program: Meeting 1. 6. Starting Play Demonstrations and Skills Learning: Meeting 2. 7. Continuing Demonstrations and Skills Practice: Meeting 3. 8. Continuing Demos and Skills Practice: Meeting 4. 9. Mock Play Sessions and Preparation for Practice Play Sessions: Meeting 5. 10. Beginning Practice Play Sessions: Meeting 6-7. 11. Parents' Second Practice Play Sessions: Meetings 8-10. 12. Transition to Home Play Sessions: Meetings 11-12. 13. Early Home Play Sessions: Meetings 13-15. 14. Generalizing Play Session Skills and Preparation for Ending: Meetings 16-19. 15. Ending the GFT Program: Meeting 20. 16. Applications of the 20 Week GFT Program. References. Appendices 1-21. Index.

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Book SynopsisInternal Family Systems Therapy with Children details the application of IFS in child psychotherapy. The weaving together of theory, step-by-step instruction, and case material gives child therapists a clear roadmap for understanding and utilizing the healing power of this modality. In addition, any IFS therapist will deepen their understanding of the theory and practice of Internal Family Systems by reading how it is practiced with children. This book also covers the use of IFS in parent guidance, an important aspect of any therapeutic work with families or adult individuals with children. The poignant and humorous vignettes of children's therapy along with their IFS artwork make it an enjoyable and informative read. Applies the increasingly-popular Internal Family Systems model to children Integrates theory, step-by-step instruction, and case material to demonstrate to therapists how to use IFS with children Trade Review“Internal Family Systems and children go together like pb&j. Children naturally take to the imagination, play, honesty, and heart of this method. And no voice could be better suited to guide us than that of Lisa Spiegel, a gifted clinician, teacher, and storyteller. With warmth, humor, and deep compassion, she has written the definitive text on the subject. A must read for anyone working with either IFS or with children.”—Terry Real, author, The New Rules of Marriage “Enter Lisa Spiegel. She has over 30 years of experience working with children and has studied and practiced IFS since 2010. She sent me [her] manuscript and I was elated. Not only are her case examples true to IFS theory and technique, they are captivating. This book is an important contribution not only to the growing literature on IFS, but to the field of child therapy in general. I’m very grateful.”— Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, developer of Internal Family Systems Therapy; faculty, Harvard Medical School Table of ContentsAcknowledgements Foreword Richard C Schwartz 1. My Introduction to IFS 2. Key Concepts in IFS 3. The IFS Protocal 4. Finding and Befriending Parts: Percy, Charlotte and Kathleen 5. Negotiating with Protectors: Esther and Talia 6. Externalizing Parts: Hailey and Rain 7. Polarizations: Amelia and Hazel’s Opposing Parts 8. Unburdening Parts: Juliana and Henry 9. Using IFS in Parent Guidance 10. Therapy: Bart’s IFS Therapy Conclusion Glossary Index

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Book SynopsisThis classic volume, now completely revised, has helped tens of thousands of therapists integrate play therapy and family therapy techniques in clinical practice. Eliana Gil demonstrates a broad range of verbal and nonverbal strategies for engaging all family members--including those who are ambivalent toward therapy--and tailoring interventions for different types of presenting problems. Numerous case examples illustrate ways to effectively use puppets, storytelling, art making, the family play genogram, drama, and other expressive techniques with children, adolescents, and their parents. Gil offers specific guidance for becoming a more flexible, creative practitioner and shows how recent advances in neuroscience support her approach. Photographs of client artwork are included.New to This Edition*Incorporates 20 years of clinical experience and the ongoing development of Gil's influential integrative approach.*All-new case material.*Discusses how current brain rTrade Review“Every family and child therapist should read this book! Gil is the most creative family play therapist and teacher I have ever known. This second edition is the culmination of her career spent working in the trenches. She has translated her ability into a highly readable and useful guide that is straightforward and clear without oversimplifying issues, which takes genius. This book will be indispensable for any therapist interested in helping families--which nearly always requires working with children--and vice versa. Gil offers a brilliant summary of the roots of family play therapy and describes her fantastic work with family members to transform their problems and find imaginative solutions.”--Monica McGoldrick, LCSW, PhD (h.c.), Director, Multicultural Family Institute, Highland Park, New Jersey "In the second edition of her pioneering book on family play therapy, Gil has greatly amplified her unique contribution to the field. Gil stands alone in her masterful blend of solid theory; creativity; and spirited, playful engagement with families. The use of metaphor is one of the special gifts of both the author and this book. It features compelling illustrations of a wide range of clinically astute interventions that facilitate secure attachments in families. This positive, hopeful book will be treasured by clinicians and will ignite further enthusiasm for Gil's integrative treatment model."--David A. Crenshaw, PhD, ABPP, RPT-S, Clinical Director, Children's Home of Poughkeepsie, New York "This book has been a valuable resource for me in clinical practice, and for many years has been a required text in the play therapy courses I teach. The second edition provides a number of important updates. Therapists working with children, teens, and their families will benefit from Gil's thoughtful, integrative approach."--John W. Seymour, PhD, LMFT, RPT-S, Department of Counseling and Student Personnel, Minnesota State University, Mankato -The techniques suggested are very specific so that the reader could easily integrate them into family sessions after simply reading the chapter. The activities are also quite flexible, allowing the clinician to alter or modify them to suit the needs of the family….Given that any therapeutic work with children typically includes some level of parental involvement, this book may have broader appeal than to just the clinician who identifies as a family therapist. Even if the primary emphasis is on individual play therapy, clinicians may enjoy occasionally adding some simple family techniques and this book certainly offers resources to do that….Offers effective ideas, resources, and specific interventions for integrating play into therapeutic work with children.--Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 5/31/2017ƒƒProvides the reader with expert guidance for the use of play therapy techniques in work with families and their young children. Case examples are alive and instructive. (on the first edition)--Families in Society, 9/1/1996ƒƒProvides clinicians with information that will effectively help them when working with children and their families. It is certainly a book worth reading and utilizing. (on the first edition)--Journal of Family Psychotherapy, 4/3/2014ƒƒFor child clinicians who engage in play with children individually, this text provides important tools for overcoming barriers that may have made family therapy seem difficult or unworkable at times. (on the first edition)--AFTA Newsletter, 4/3/2014ƒƒEliana Gil, a master in play therapy in the context of family therapy, is an internationally acclaimed family and play therapist. Her trainings in play therapy are considered among the best ways to learn to work with creative arts in the field of family therapy. This book is as useful to beginning therapists as it is to experienced clinicians who want to know more about integrating play therapy in their work with families….This is a masterful work from a master in the field—a must-read for students in family therapy as well as clinicians working with children as well as adults.--Doody's Review Service, 2/26/2015Table of ContentsForeword, Matthew D. Selekman 1. The Rationale for Integrating Play and Family Therapy, Catherine Ford Sori with Eliana Gil 2. Obstacles and Opportunities in Utilizing Family Play Therapy, with Catherine Ford Sori 3. The Development of Clinical Creativity for Use in Family Play Therapy, with Lynn B. Hadley 4. Goldilocks's Peaceful Protest: The Use of Puppets and Storytelling 5. The Wolf Who Wanted to Be King of the World: The Use of Puppets and Storytelling 6. The Shark with a Heart of Gold: A Family Aquarium 7. The Sea Serpent Rises from the Sea: A Family Scribble Drawing Facilitates a Teen's Coming Out 8. The Owl Spreads His Wings: The Family Play Genogram Comes to Life 9. Love Leads the Way: When Clarity Emerges in a Couple's Scribble Drawing 10. "What's That Guy Doing in My Mouth"?: A Shark Story Illustrates the Use of Family Artwork in Assessing Family Dynamics 11. "Take Me to Your Leader": The Use of Drama Therapy Techniques to Provoke Family Change 12. Epilogue

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Book SynopsisFrom the author of the worldwide bestseller Raising Boys, this bind-up of the parenting classics The Secret of Happy Children and More Secrets of Happy Children by parenting expert and child psychologist Steve Biddulph tells parents everything they need to know about raising happy, healthy, confident children from babyhood to teens.This bind-up brings all of Steve's parenting tips and secrets together for the first time.This book shows parents how to be true to themselves while also bringing up secure children who feel loved and respected, with self esteem and responsibility.The book is aimed at a wide age group- from babies and toddlers to older children and teenagers.Authoritative yet accessible, the book is full of case histories and familiar conversations and scenarios, as well as cartoons, that help parents relate to Steve's message.The book covers all the key issues in parenting, including: how and why negative language affects children stopping tantrums before they start curing shyness soft love'- why touch, praise and time are vital- and firm love'- disciplining through teaching and being involved, rather than punishment childcare issues- finding a balance between work and your children's needs raising sons and raising daughters- their different needsTrade Review‘a mix of Billy Connelly and Dr Spock…Steve Biddulph is a publishing phenomenon.’ THE TIMES‘Steve’s advice is easy to follow- and more importantly, it works.’ BBC FAMILY LIFE MAGAZINE‘Biddulph…has a built-in feel good factor. Parenting books too often make one feel inadequate, but Biddulph’s left me refreshed and optimistic.’ THE EXPRESS

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Book SynopsisPreviously unpublished in the UK, this book by best-selling co-author of The One Minute Manager and author of Who Moved My Cheese? shows the quickest way for mothers to help their children learn to like themselves and want to behave themselves.Trade Review"THE ONE MINUTE MOTHER is a masterpiece in the art of communication. Dr Johnson has the ability to be interesting, provocative and succinct. My admiration is complete."Norman Vincent Peale

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Book SynopsisAttachment & Family Therapy offers an integrative, family-based approach to understanding and addressing the psychological and relational needs of distressed children and their parents. The book blends attachment theory and basic developmental research with the diverse insights and methods of all schools of family systems theory. The problems addressed range from mild developmental issues, to autism, ADHD, disability, divorce and separation, psychosomatic disorders, and child protection and out-of-home placement. The solutions described involve not only traditional forms of family therapy, but also formulations and conceptualizations that combine individual, couples, and family work around specified issues. The authors present a sophisticated model of attachment that fits the breadth of clinical variation, focuses on family strengths, and is informed by insights from neurology and information-processing. "This book is a tour de force! The authors have contributed oneTable of ContentsAbout the authorsAcknowledgmentsIntroduction: The rhythm of life - cycles and changes1. Birth and infancy2. Toddlerhood and the beginnings of awareness and intention 3. Preschool: talking and negotiating 4. Four to five years olds: confidence, competence, and other kids 5. Going to school 6. The school years: learning, belonging, and identity 7. Growing and healing: DMM-FST integrative treatmentAppendix 1: Assessments of attachmentAppendix 2: Published DDM case studiesAppendix 3: Published DDM comparative studiesReferencesIndex

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Book SynopsisSince its original publication in 1996, The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy has been the definitive guide for couple therapists, supervisors, and students wishing to practice emotionally focused therapy.This cutting-edge third edition addresses recent changes in the field of couple therapy, including updated research results relating to clinical interventions, expanded understandings of emotion regulation, adult attachment and neuroscience, and dynamic EFT applications for a range of issues such as depression, anxiety, sexual disorders, and PTSD. Chapters introduce micro-interventions for use in EFT couple sessions, as well as a systematic presentation of a macro set of interventions called the EFT Tango. Clinical examples are included throughout, bringing the in-session process of change alive, and two case chapters offer in-depth commentaries of Stage 1 and Stage 2 EFT sessions.Written by the leading authority on emotionally focused therapy, this third edition is an essential reference on all aspects of EFT and its uses for mental health professionals in the field of couple and marital therapy.Trade Review "Susan Johnson’s 15-year update of emotionally focused couple therapy shows how powerful systematic research can be in developing a great theory. This book is a must read for all therapists."John Gottman, author of 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love."In this remarkable book, Susan Johnson provides the definitive summary of state-of-the-art practice in what is surely now the most widely disseminated form of couple therapy. The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy not only comprehensively describes how to do emotionally focused couple therapy, but also concisely summarizes the substantial evidence about emotion and attachment upon which this approach is based and the extensive research demonstrating its impact. This significantly revised and expanded new edition of a classic book highlights the many significant advances in this evidence-based approach since its second edition. Speaking in a voice that is accessible and clinically meaningful to couple therapists, beautifully written, and filled with compelling clinical examples, this book should be an essential part of every couple therapist's library."Jay L. Lebow, Ph.D., ABPP, senior scholar and clinical professor, Family Institute at Northwestern, Evanston, IL "Susan M. Johnson’s 15-year update of emotionally focused couple therapy shows how powerful systematic research can be in developing a great theory. This book is a must read for all therapists."John Gottman, author of 8 Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love."In this remarkable book, Susan M. Johnson provides the definitive summary of state-of-the-art practice in what is surely now the most widely disseminated form of couple therapy. The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy not only comprehensively describes how to do emotionally focused couple therapy, but also concisely summarizes the substantial evidence about emotion and attachment upon which this approach is based and the extensive research demonstrating its impact. This significantly revised and expanded new edition of a classic book highlights the many significant advances in this evidence-based approach since its second edition. Speaking in a voice that is accessible and clinically meaningful to couple therapists, beautifully written, and filled with compelling clinical examples, this book should be an essential part of every couple therapist's library."Jay L. Lebow, Ph.D., ABPP, senior scholar and clinical professor, Family Institute at Northwestern, Evanston, ILTable of Contents1. The Field of Couple Therapy and EFT 2. An Attachment View of Love: The EFT Approach 3. The EFT Theory of Change: Within and Between 4. The Basics of EFT Interventions: Emotions and the Macro-Intervention, the EFT Tango 5. Basic EFT Micro Skills: Experiential and Systemic 6. Assessment: Defining the Dance and Listening to the Music 7. Changing the Music: Toward De-Escalation/Stabilization 8. Deepening Engagement: The Beginning of Stage 2 9. Reaching for Secure Connection 10. The Consolidation of a Secure Base: Stage 3 11. Key Clinical Issues and Solutions: Becoming an EFT Therapist 12. EFFT: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy 13. Relationship Traumas: Addressing Attachment Injuries 14. Live at an EFT Externship: A Stage 1 EFT Session 15. A Stage 2 EFT Session

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Book SynopsisChild-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT), grounded in the attitudes and principles of Child-Centered Play Therapy (CCPT), is based on the belief that a parent acting as an agent for change in place of a play therapist has potential for significant and lasting therapeutic gains. This newly expanded and revised edition of Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT) describes training objectives, essential skills and concepts taught in each session, as well as the format for supervising parents' play sessions. Transcripts of actual sessions demonstrate process and content in the 10 CPRT training sessions. Research demonstrating the effectiveness of CPRT on child and parent outcomes is presented in support of CPRT's designation as an evidence-based treatment model. This second edition is updated to include six new chapters exploring the topics of cultural considerations for working with ethnically and racially diverse families, neuroscience support for CPRT, and adTrade Review"This a true second edition, with six new chapters! The applications for working with toddlers and tweens are specific, detailed, and wonderful. The discussion of how neuroscience aligns with CPRT is insightful. An exploration of CPRT research, along with the evidenced-based designation, adds informative value. Other adds for using CPRT with adoptive families, teachers, and discussion of cultural issues round out the core chapters for the 10-session model! It is a treat to read and experience!"Linda E. Homeyer, PhD, LPC-S, RPT-S, professor emerita at Texas State University and director emerita at the Association for Play Therapy"CPRT has been empirically demonstrated to improve child-parent relationships and child behaviors. This protocol for therapists provides the essentials needed to implement the program successfully. The notebook for parents expands on the principles, allowing parents to apply them to home situations. These resources enable users to experience the full value of CPRT."Louise Guerney, PhD, RPT-S, professor emeritus at Penn State University and co-developer of Filial Therapy and faculty member of the National Institute of Relationship Enhancement (NIRE)Table of ContentsPreface Acknowledgments Contributing Authors 1 History, Development, and Objectives of Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): A 10-SessionFilial Therapy Model 2 Neuroscience and CPRT Raissa M. Miller3 Unique Features of CPRT 4 Training and Supervision of CPRT Filial Therapists 5 Critical Components in Facilitating the Process of CPRT 6 CPRT Skills, Concepts, and Attitudes to Be Taught 7 The 10-Session CPRT Training Process 8 CPRT Training Session 1: Training Objectives and Reflective Responding 9 CPRT Training Session 2: Basic Principles for Play Sessions 10 CPRT Training Session 3: Parent-Child Play Session Skills and Procedures 11 CPRT Training Session 4: Supervision Format and Limit Setting 12 CPRT Training Session 5: Play Session Skills Review 13 CPRT Training Session 6: Supervision and Choice Giving 14 CPRT Training Session 7: Supervision and Self-Esteem-Building Responses 15 CPRT Training Session 8: Supervision and Encouragement vs. Praise 16 CPRT Training Session 9:Supervision and Generalizing Skills 17 CPRT Training Session 10: Evaluation and Summing Up 18 Adapting CPRT for Parents of Toddlers Mary Morrison Bennett and Kara Carnes-Holt19 Adapting CPRT for Parents of Preadolescents Peggy L. Ceballos, Kristin Meany-Walen, and Kara Carnes-Holt20 Adapting CPRT for Adoptive Families Kara Carnes-Holt and Kristie Opiola21 Adapting CPRT for Teachers Mary Morrison Bennett and Wendy Pretz Helker22 Culturally Responsive CPRT Angela I. Sheely-Moore, Peggy L. Ceballos, Yung-Wei Lin, and Yumiko Ogawa

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Book SynopsisAs a practicing child psychiatrist and mother of three, Jodi Gold has a unique understanding of both the mind-boggling benefits and the serious downsides of technology. Dr. Gold weaves together scientific knowledge and everyday practical advice to help you foster your child's healthy relationship to technology, from birth to the teen years. You'll learn: *How much screen time is too much at different ages. *What your kids and teens are actually doing in all those hours online. *How technology affects social, emotional, and cognitive development. *Which apps and games build smarts and let creativity shine. *How your own media habits influence your children. *What you need to know about privacy concerns, cyberbullying, and other dangers. *Ways to set limits that the whole family can live with. Winner (Second Place)âAmerican Journal of Nursing Book of the Year Award, Child Health CategoryTrade Review“No one understands the digital landscape and its complex presence in our children’s lives better than Jodi Gold. This book is a ‘must read’ for all parents who want to protect their children while still giving them access to all of the benefits technology has to offer. Dr. Gold’s realistic approach to navigating the cyber-culture is invaluable--she gives easy-to-follow and commonsensical advice. As parents, many of us are new to the digital world, while our children are naturals. This guide gives spot-on strategies for closing that gap and making the whole family’s approach to technology effortless.”--Holly Phillips, MD, general internist and CBS News Medical Contributor"Dr. Gold gives advice that’s clear, practical, and trustworthy. Every parent should have this book to guide them in making decisions so that their children--from newborns to teens--can reap the benefits of technology while avoiding the pitfalls. I am buying extra copies of this book for my sons, who are both raising young kids."--Peg Dawson, EdD, coauthor of Smart but Scattered"An essential read for any parent or caretaker concerned about the effects of our children being constantly plugged in. Dr. Gold provides invaluable information and guidance, and helps us feel calmer and more comfortable in these heretofore uncharted waters."--Debra Messing, actress and mother"Dr. Gold teaches you everything you need to know about what your kids are doing online, how it may affect their development, and what you can do about it. She reviews just about every form of digital media your kids may experience and brings you up to date so you can speak their language. Great tips are provided on managing screen time at all ages. Pick up a copy or download this book now!"--Mitch Prinstein, PhD, John Van Seters Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill“Dr. Jodi Gold has written the definitive guide to one of the most challenging issues facing parents today--raising kids in a digital age. Drawing on her wealth of experience as a mother and psychiatrist, Dr. Gold provides parents with a blueprint on how to cultivate wise media use at every stage of a child’s development. Thoughtful, well researched, and fun to read, this a book that all parents should have at the top of their reading list. Urgently needed and extremely practical, it is a godsend.”--Ellen Braaten, PhD, author, Bright Kids Who Can’t Keep Up"Dr. Gold provides a comprehensive framework that parents can rely on as they face this new, dynamic, and critical parenting challenge of our time."--Karen L. Bierman, PhD, Evan Pugh University Professor and Professor of Psychology, Human Development, and Family Studies, The Pennsylvania State University"This book is so great! As parents of a second and a fifth grader, it is challenging and, honestly, scary to always be on top of what content they are accessing and whom they are communicating with. Dr. Gold provides practical tools to help us establish digital rules and enforce them consistently. Her writing style is easy to read and digest--it is extremely personable and never judgmental. Reading this book together has encouraged us to talk about how to prepare our kids for their digital journeys and how to actively protect and guide them along the way. We will definitely refer back to Screen-Smart Parenting often as our daughters grow."--Lisa and Steve Freedman, parents"As a parent who lives much of my life online and is at the same time concerned about my children’s media use, this is the book I’ve been waiting for. Here is a nonjudgmental, well-informed voice ringing out from the cacophony of anti-screen hysteria. Dr. Gold spells out in crystal-clear terms how we can help kids build the tech savvy they need to become good digital citizens. Most of all, she has helped me understand that in order to address the concerns many of us share about children's technology use, parents need to develop healthy digital lives ourselves."--Amy Shearn, parent and novelist“Just as our mothers and fathers worried about too much TV, today’s parents worry about their children getting lost in cyberspace....With Screen-Smart Parenting, Dr. Jodi Gold has provided the milestone book that will give important insights to every parent.”--From the Foreword by Tory Burch, CEO, designer, and mother of threeTable of ContentsForeword by Tory Burch Introduction: Throw Away the Rule Book I. The Brave New World 1. Understanding Your Family’s Digital Habitat: Cultivating Online Resilience and Digital Citizenship 2. Digital Milestones: The Facts Behind How Technology Affects Your Child’s Development 3. The Digital Landscape: What You Need to Know about the Tech Terrain 4. From the iPotty to Facebook Fame: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of the Digital Debates II. Growing Up Digital 5. Downloading in Diapers: Managing Your Child's Digital World before Preschool - Ages 0-2 6. Digitods and Technotots: Everything You Need to Know about the Digital World You Learned in Kindergarten - Ages 3-5 7. Digital Magic Years: The Calm before the Digital Storm of Middle School - Ages 6-8 8. Welcome to the Frequent Flyer Club: Equipped with a Digital Boarding Pass and Ready to Take Off - Ages 8-10 9. Tweens and the Texting Revolution: Digital Media Use at Its Peak - Ages 11-14 10. Just Digital: Rewriting the Rules on Independence, Dating, Friends, and School - Ages 15-18 III. One Size Does Not Fit All 11. The Digitally Challenging Child: Modifying the Rules for Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and Depression 12. Don't Take Away the Phone! The Nuts and Bolts of Your Family Digital Technology Agreement Resources

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Book SynopsisThis parenting guide to ODD offers expert information on your child's condition, provides insight and empathy to what they are going through, and equips and empowers you to make practical changes in your parenting approaches. It provides an overview of tried-and-tested techniques from a mother of a child with ODD to support you in response to typical questions you may have:- "Why is my child acting this way?"- "What does this say about me?"- Why doesn't my child respond to punishment or reward?"- "What am I supposed to do next?"Overall this book teaches you how to avoid common mistakes in responding to ODD, the crossover with similar diagnoses such as ADHD, how to distinguish the disorders and how to improve your own resilience and confidence.Trade ReviewReading this book is like sitting down to coffee with a trusted-mom-friend who happens to spend all her free time reading research papers about children and behavior. Amelia Bowler helps parents see kids' challenging behavior from a new perspective offering hope along with practical, realistic advice. Parents will learn how to build resilience, foster connection, and improve communication to help kids who struggle with emotional self-regulation and prioritization. -- Alissa Marquess Zorn, Author of Bounceback Parenting, A Field Guide for Creating Connection Not PerfectionAmelia has a true gift of making really hard things doable. The subject of ODD may seem overwhelming, but she has given us this book to make the research accessible and the strategies easy to implement. She combines science and compassion to make a real difference for families and professionals alike. -- Leanne Page, BCBA, Parenting with ABAIn The Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Amelia Bowler has put together an invaluable resource for parents trying to make sense of their child's diagnosis. She clears up the myths, offers guidance and compassion, and helps parents understand how to best support their child's healthy development. -- Debbie Reber, founder, Tilt Parenting and author of Differently Wired: The Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and HopeTable of ContentsIntroductionPart I: Changing the way you see Oppositional Defiant DisorderChapter 1: Oppositional Defiant Disorder: the view from the outsideChapter 2: Struggles linked with Oppositional Defiant DisorderChapter 3: Cultural competence, misunderstandings and biasChapter 4: Managing Your Frustrations and ExpectationsPart II Changing the way the student sees youChapter 5: Control and AutonomyChapter 6 Leadership without coercionChapter 7: Building trust and connectionChapter 8: Responding to students in distressPART III Understanding your students' goals and needsChapter 9: Looking for the WHY of behaviourChapter 10: Common Classroom Struggles: Invisible DisabilitiesChapter 11: Skills that improve cooperation in the classroomChapter 12: Preparing to write an Individualized Behaviour PlanPART IV: Worksheets

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Book SynopsisWarm, wise and deeply reassuring, I love The Sleep Mums!' Sarah Turner, The Unmumsy MumIt's 2am but your baby thinks it's party time; their routine' seems to change with the wind, and you would do anything to get a good night's sleepWe know how you feel! You might be prepared and reading this before baby arrives, or as they snooze beside you in those early new-born days, knowing that forewarned is forearmed. Or your eyebags may tell their own bedtime storyEither way, if your baby is not sleeping, you have not done anything wrong. Your baby is not broken (although you might feel broken from lack of sleep), and you are not a bad parent. Baby sleep is not linear; it changes a lot during their first few years (they like to keep us on our toes like that). You are here because you want some honest support and real solutions.And the good news? We can give you that.Between us, we Cat and Sarah AKA The Sleep Mums' have over 30 years professional experience, plus hands on practice with having Trade Review‘I love The Sleep Mums! Sleep means everything when you're a parent and Cat and Sarah have helped me to make sense of what really works, in a fun and supportive way. They provide advice that's never judgey and offer a much needed feeling of solidarity to parents everywhere who are worrying that they're on their own.'Sarah Turner, The Unmumsy Mum

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Book SynopsisTHE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLERA powerful, lucid, deeply empathic exploration of the legacy of generational trauma, Emotional Inheritance makes clear that Galit Atlas is not only a gifted psychoanalyst, but a gifted writer as well. I loved this book and was stirred by it. Dani Shapiro, author of InheritanceAtlas''s heady and beautiful book offers much insight, as well as tools for beginning to unpack the stories we''re living, stories that aren''t actually ours to live. Oprah DailyPast family trauma can keep us unconsciously connected to the past. It shapes our lives in ways we don''t always recognise, and can keep us from living to our full potential.In this transformative book, award-winning psychoanalyst Dr. Galit Atlas draws back the veil on the legacy of intergenerational trauma. Entwining the stories of her patients, her own stories, and decades of research, she shows how the people we love and those who ra

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Book SynopsisTHE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER''Essential, clever and kind'' Alain de Botton''I am a huge admirer of Julia''s work'' Elizabeth Day____________________In her bestselling follow-up to Grief Works and This Too Shall Pass, much-loved psychotherapist Julia Samuel invites us into her sessions as she explores the relationships that have the power to touch us and hurt us most: those with our family.Through eight beautifully told case studies, covering a variety of families across multiple generations, she analyses common issues from losing a parent to children leaving home, and from separation to step-relationships. In doing so she shows how much is, in fact, inherited -- and how much can be healed when it is faced together.Every Family Has A Story provides the tools that will help with this work of improving our relationships. Its twelve touchstones for family well-being show how to communicate effectTrade ReviewEngaging, informative and very well written -- Philippa PerryFull of nuggets of wisdom -- Jackie Annesley * Sunday Times *Engrossing, generous . . . excellent advice worth a whole shelf of textbooks -- Bel Mooney * Daily Mail *I am a huge admirer of Julia's work -- Elizabeth DayA profoundly important and compassionate book for understanding family relationships much better. Highly recommended -- Liz Earle

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Book SynopsisPacked with practical tools, this authoritative manual offers a complete guide to implementing the evidence-based Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) program. Jane Ellen Smith and Robert J. Meyers have spent decades developing and refining their approach for helping concerned significant others (CSOs) of treatment-refusing individuals with substance use problems. Structured yet flexible, CRAFT teaches loved ones to change their behavior with the identified patient to encourage treatment entry and enhance their own well-being. The volume features step-by-step implementation guidelines, case examples, sample dialogues, troubleshooting tips, and 28 reproducible forms and handouts that can be downloaded and printed in a convenient 8 1/2 x 11 size.Trade Review"CRAFT is menu-driven but flexible and client centered. It offers a tailored approach to reducing the stress and self-blame of CSOs and helping them communicate and interact more effectively with their loved one. Smith and Meyers provide a host of tools and strategies, as well as realistic therapist-client dialogues that highlight key concepts. This manual will be very useful for any practitioner who works with family and friends of individuals experiencing substance use disorders. It provides a complete picture of the science and practice of this well-established, innovative approach. Trainers and educators of practitioners could use the manual and the rich clinical examples to help students understand CSOs' concerns and conflicts. "--Carlo C. DiClemente, PhD, ABPP, Department of Psychology (Emeritus), University of Maryland, Baltimore County "In this era of tragic overdose deaths, families need more than knowledge and boundaries. They need skills to help their loved one seek treatment, to reduce the loved one’s substance use, and to improve their own quality of life. Smith and Meyers harness decades of research in a practical and easy-to-apply format, designed to uplift concerned families everywhere to become a part of the solution."--Joseph Lee, MD, President and CEO, Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation "A crucial addition to the addiction treatment toolkit. CRAFT provides evidence-based skills for CSOs to cope with their loved one’s substance use and to help the loved one initiate treatment. All of the tools needed for implementing the approach are embedded in this manual. The sample dialogues in every chapter are unusually helpful; they are informative and easy to absorb, and contain masterful clinician material. The reproducible informational handouts, worksheets, and therapy fidelity checklists also will be very useful for everyone from clinicians-in-training to seasoned therapists."--Elizabeth Epstein, PhD, Department of Psychiatry, University of Massachusetts Chan Medical School "What you have in this volume from Bob Meyers and Jane Ellen Smith is seasoned professional advice from the very psychologists who have grown and tested the CRAFT approach, based on their decades of clinical experience and research. CRAFT has been successfully delivered in individual, group, and even self-directed formats. The procedures are specific and learnable, offering hope and change for distressed families who are wondering what to do. It is also very rewarding work, with some of the most motivated clients you will ever see--the CSOs themselves. We who go into helping professions hope that we can contribute to the alleviation of suffering in the world, and here is a very practical and effective way to do it."--from the Foreword by William R. Miller, PhD, Emeritus Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry, The University of New Mexico-Table of ContentsForeword, William R. Miller 1. What Is CRAFT? 2. Informing and Motivating the Concerned Significant Other 3. Functional Analysis of a Loved One’s Drinking or Using Behavior 4. Improving Concerned Significant Others’ Communication Skills 5. Rewarding Non-Using Behavior 6. Functional Analysis of a Loved One’s Fun, Healthy Behavior 7. Withdrawing Rewards for Using Behavior 8. Allowing for Natural, Negative Consequences of Use 9. Problem Solving 10. Helping Concerned Significant Others Enrich Their Own Lives 11. Inviting the Identified Patient to Enter Treatment 12. Using the Community Reinforcement Approach with the Identified Patient 13. Scientific Support for CRAFT References Index

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