Couple and Family psychology Books

Book SynopsisHow can we create more meaningful and intimate connections with our loved-ones? By using moments of discord to strengthen our relationships, explains this original, deeply researched book. You might think that perfect harmony is the defining characteristic of a good relationship, but the truth is that human interactions are messy, complicated, and confusing. The good news, however, is that we are wired to deal with this from birth — and even to grow from it and use it to strengthen our relationships, according to renowned psychologist Ed Tronick and paediatrician Claudia Gold. Scientific research — including Dr Tronick’s famous ‘Still-Face Experiment’ — has shown that working through mismatch and repair in everyday life helps us form deep, lasting, trusting relationships; resilience in times of stress and trauma; and a solid sense of self in the world. This refreshing and original look at our ability to relate to others and to ourselves offers a new way for us to think about our relationships, and will reassure you that conflict is both normal and healthy, building the foundation for stronger connections. Trade Review‘This profoundly wise book sets out how the dance of connection and disconnection with attachment figures molds our nervous system, our emotional lives, our sense of self, and our ability to dance in tune with others. When we miss each other is when we truly learn to turn, reach, and connect. There are no slick tips for perfect relationships with your kids or lovers here. Just a deep understanding of how the imperfections of life and love can make us strong.’ -- Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight‘In this fabulous book, which everyone must own, Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold give all of us a scientifically-based compass for negotiating the messiness of social interaction. Rather than searching for perfection, in this book they teach us that it is the messiness and the mistakes we inevitably make as parents, friends, and lovers, and the repair of our mistakes that really matters. For in repair we ‘co-create a new meaning,’ and relationships thrive and proceed, full of life and good enough. Get this book!’ -- John Gottman, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work‘Lively and riveting — Human connections have the power to heal by engaging us in a new set of moment-to-moment mismatches ... as long as we are open to repair and reconnect.’ -- Dr Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score‘A brilliant overview of our contemporary relational landscape that argues that what people — both children and adults — need most is the messiness of real relationships, with their conflicts, partial resolutions, and imperfect efforts at repair. In trying to make these things work, we practice attention, connection, and listening. We practice our humanity. We learn to put technology in its place. A book for thinking and for practical action. A must-read.’ -- Sherry Turkle, author of Alone Together: why we expect more from technology‘Our relationships with attachment figures are often innately ‘messy’ and filled with discord as mismatches rupture the attuned, resonant alignments that are possible in our relational world. The reconnection established in the mismatch-repair process illuminated in this important work enables us to develop resilience in the face of the inevitable disconnections in these important self-defining close connections in our lives. This wise book will help many to reframe such ruptures as opportunities rather than troublesome burdens, painful yet important challenges that can actually afford us the interactive reconnection experiences that serve as the foundation for flourishing in life.’ -- Dr Daniel J. Siegel, author of Mindsight, and clinical professor at UCLA School of Medicine‘The Power of Discord reveals the secrets to forming deep, lasting, trusting relationships; developing resilience in times of stress and trauma; and nourishing a solid sense of yourself in the world. The book, which naturally begins with the parent-child relationship, offers the key to unlocking better connections with romantic partners, family, friends and colleagues alike.’ -- Hannah Van Sickle * The Berkshire Edge *

Read more less

Book Synopsis'A must read' - Esther Perel'My relationship bible' - Gabby Bernstein'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' - Bessel van der KolkMost loving relationships fail, not because of communication or empathy breakdown, but because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for disowned and unloved parts of ourselves, our 'internal family'.Building on the revolutionary Internal Family Systems model of therapy, Dr Richard Schwartz reveals how to reconnect and foster a healthy dialogue with your wise and compassionate 'Self' and your partner. You Are the One You've Been Waiting For will equip you with the essential tools needed to build trust and connection with the one you love.Trade Review'A must-read for anyone seeking a companion on the path toward self-compassion and love' * Esther Perel *'Releases our capacity to be fully alive in relationships' * Bessel van der Kolk, author of THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE *'The principles and methods shared in this book have offered me direct access to 'courageous love' and a greater connection to my husband than I ever felt possible.' * Gabby Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author *'This profound and readable book provides clear guidelines for therapists and clients alike ... I enthusiastically recommend this book to anyone serious about improving relationships in the world today! * Terrence Real *'Dr. Richard Schwartz's work on Internal Family Systems, along with his latest book, You Are the One You've Been Waiting For, has profoundly changed my life ... Dr. Schwartz's book is the number one tool I recommend for people who are seeking to find greater compassion and love for themselves and others.' * Krista Williams *

Read more less

Book SynopsisTrauma counsellor Kelly McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behaviour by taking a hard look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact.An endless ache to love and be loved. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable moods and painful relationships. Sound familiar? Trauma psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviours - and are unable to stop. Mother Hunger destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed, and offers a healing path. You'll find out how to:· reclaim nurturance and protection using breathing exercises, visualization, Reiki and other healing modalities· find guidance and inspiration by creating a celestial mother· finally break the intergenerational cycle of Mother HungerDiscover how to demystify the causes of harmful behaviours, free yourself from limiting beliefs and find a way towards healthy habits and a positive headspace. 'I honestly cannot remember a time I have resonated with anything as much as I do Mother Hunger, if this book has presented itself to you - trust it!' Nancy Levin, author of Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free

Read more less

Book SynopsisRaising a child to be an authentic and mentally robust adult is one of life’s great challenges. It is also, fortunately, not a matter of luck. There are many things to understand about how children’s minds operate and what they need from those who look after them so they can develop into the best version of themselves. The Good Enough Parent is a compendium of lessons, including ideas on how to say ‘no’ to a child one adores, how to look beneath the surface of ‘bad’ behaviour to work out what might really be going on, how to encourage a child to be genuinely kind, how to encourage open self expression, and how to handle the moods and gloom of adolescence. Importantly, this is a book that knows that perfection is not required – and could indeed be unhelpful, because a key job of any parent is to induct a child gently into the imperfect nature of everything. Written in a tone that is encouraging, wry and soaked in years of experience, The Good Enough Parent is an intelligent guide to raising a child who will one day look back on their childhood with just the right mixture of gratitude, humour and love.

Read more less

Book SynopsisWorld-renowned relationships experts, Dr John Gottman and Dr Julie Schwartz Gottman, bring decades of their ground-breaking research on the science of love to the urgent and timely topic of conflict.Conflict is the number one reason that couples seek help and resources. Fight Right will teach you how to avoid the five critical mistakes that couples often make during conflict, and instead, teach you how to ''fight right'' and use conflict as an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love.Using decades of research, compelling case studies and a new international study, the Gottmans prove that even couples who are truly struggling in conflict and have really lost their way are able to recover and find their way back to each other. For those couples in crisis, or those who want to change their relationship dynamic, Fight Right is the go-to guide to understanding how to fight better, offering urgent and perennial lessons for healthy conflict.''Foundational to finding the love that most of us are searching for'' Steven Bartlett, Diary of a CEO podcast''Couples today really need clear, compassionate, and science-based guidance in this arena, and as the world''s leading love experts, the Gottmans are the trusted voice to guide them'' Jay Shetty, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk Trade Review"Difficulty navigating conflict is one of the most common reasons that couples seek help [...] So who better than John and Julie Gottman to give couples the important tools they need? This book is an indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again." -- —Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and co-host of the “Dear Therapists” podcast"John and Julie Gottman bring their decades of research to the hot topic of what we're fighting about, and how we can fight better. I don't know of another resource out there like this one, with so much landmark science, vivid storytelling, and clear tools in every chapter. This book is a gift to its readers." -- —Susan David, PhD, bestselling author of Emotional Agility"Drs. John and Julie Gottman have crafted a masterful guide about the importance of fighting and the skills needed to grow from having necessary disputes." -- —Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace"John and Julie Gottman, with their decades of experience working intimately with couples, know that the road to finding your purpose and fulfilling your dreams is often through conflict. If we don't learn how to do conflict well, we're going to be stuck, disconnected, and unfulfilled. Couples today really need clear, compassionate, and science-based guidance in this arena, and as the world's leading love experts, the Gottmans are the trusted voice to guide them." -- —Jay Shetty, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk"A profound new take on conflict from the world's leading relationship experts, Fight Right is poised to be the kind of classic that 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work has become. This book is for all couples, from those who are in crisis to those who may think they have a perfect relationship. A brilliant paradigm shift on conflict, with clear guidance for how to repair ruptures right." -- —Daniel Siegel, MD, author of New York Times bestsellers Aware, The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, Brainstorm, and more‘The Gottmans have 50 years’ worth of relationship know-how’ -- The Times:‘The world’s top relationship therapists (who’ve been blissfully married for 36 years!)’ -- Daily Mail

Read more less

Book SynopsisNow significantly revised with over 70% new material, this is the authoritative presentation of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, which is taught and practiced around the world. IFS reveals how the subpersonalities or parts of each individual's psyche relate to each other like members of a family, and how--just as in a family--polarization among parts can lead to emotional suffering. IFS originator Richard Schwartz and master clinician Martha Sweezy explain core concepts and provide practical guidelines for implementing IFS with clients who are struggling with trauma, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, and other behavioral problems. They also address strategies for treating families and couples. IFS therapy is listed in SAMHSA's National Registry of Evidence-Based Programs and Practices. New to This Edition *Extensively revised to reflect 25 years of conceptual refinement, expansion of IFS techniques, and a growing evidence base. *Chapters Trade Review"This book illustrates how the parts who populate our clients' inner worlds are trying to manage an underlying threat that others may not see. The only credible offer of help is one that can resolve this threat. IFS guides us to offer deep understanding and meaningful assistance to clients who long to transform but are stuck in extreme, destructive roles."--Leslie S. Greenberg, PhD, Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus, Department of Psychology, York University, Canada "We are indeed the sum of our parts, and, for over 25 years, Schwartz has been acquainting us with the exiles, managers, and firefighters battling within our psyches. In the second edition of this seminal book, Schwartz and Sweezy provide a more extensive overview of IFS therapy. New chapters address individual and systemic work with each component of the internal family system, as well as research attesting to the model’s effectiveness. This is an invaluable resource for both beginning and experienced practitioners who seek self-integration for their clients--and themselves."--Michael C. LaSala, PhD, LCSW, School of Social Work, Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey "Since this book was originally published, the thoroughly innovative principles and practices of IFS therapy have been studied, applied, and advanced by thousands of psychotherapists. The second edition is extensively revised and updated--effective clinical strategies are illustrated with engaging therapist–client dialogues; cutting-edge research reveals the promise of IFS for conditions such as posttraumatic stress disorder; and IFS concepts are applied at and between multiple levels, from the individual to the whole society. Psychotherapists at any stage of their careers will find stimulating concepts and carefully designed tools that will enrich their thinking and improve their practices."--Richard Chasin, MD, former president, American Family Therapy Academy “The outstanding second edition of this classic book presents the preeminent research-supported, integrative family systems approach to working with individuals as well as their couple and family relationships in their larger cultural contexts. The book is beautifully written, the theory is sophisticated and nuanced, and the clinical vignettes demonstrate the details of putting IFS into practice. IFS therapy dovetails wonderfully with the emerging emphasis on body-based psychotherapies, mindfulness practices, and the role of spirituality in mental health and well-being. This book should be read by all therapists--not just those who align with family systems--and should be a core text for graduate programs in all forms of psychotherapy. I will use it in my graduate courses!”--Peter Fraenkel, PhD, Department of Psychology, The City College of the City University of New York “In this updated second edition, Schwartz candidly shares how his work with clients has helped him expand his original thoughts regarding IFS and embrace a more client-led process. Schwartz and Sweezy define the concepts of IFS well, and the book is easy to read. I appreciate the addition of updated IFS research and the way the authors promote healing beyond the individual and family by extending IFS concepts to communities. Master’s- and doctoral-level students may further their ability to address self-of-the-therapist issues by reflecting on how their ‘parts’ interact with the ‘parts’ of clients, thus promoting better therapy outcomes.”--Jenene Case Pease, PhD, LMFT, Department of Human Development and Family Science, Virginia Tech; Clinical Director, The Family Therapy Center of Virginia Tech "This second edition condenses 25 years of clinical innovation since the pioneering first edition was published. All who wish to study and treat family relationships need to read this book. Schwartz and Sweezy have produced a clear, realistic view of the extraordinary complexities of families across time and contexts."--Charles R. Figley, PhD, Kurzweg Distinguished Chair and Professor of Disaster Mental Health and Director, Traumatology Institute, Tulane University-Table of ContentsI. An Overview of Internal Family Systems Therapy 1. The Origins of Internal Family Systems Therapy 2. Individuals as Systems 3. The Self 4. Burdens 5. IFS and the Body 6. The Role of the Therapist in IFS II. How to Practice IFS Therapy with Individuals 7. Setting the Table for Treatment 8. In-Sight and Direct Access 9. Finding, Focusing, and Fleshing Out Protectors 10. Feeling toward, Befriending, and Exploring Protector Fears 11. Changing Protector Polarizations 12. Unburdening Exiles 13. Doing Inner Work Safely III. IFS Therapy with Families, Couples, and Larger Systems 14. The IFS Model's View of Families 15. Releasing Constraints in IFS Family Therapy 16. Unburdening in IFS Family Therapy 17. Treating Couples with IFS Therapy 18. Applying the IFS Model to Social and Cultural Systems IV. Research and Conclusion 19. Research on IFS 20. The Laws of Inner Physics Glossary of Terms

Read more less

Book SynopsisIThe bestselling guide for understanding how your family made you, and how you can make yourself even better. ''Excellent'' - Brendan O''Connor, RTÉ Radio One''I loved it'' - Síle Seoige, Ready to Be Real * * *Our early years at home are when we lay down the blueprint for being a partner, parent, sibling, friend, colleague, neighbour, and even a citizen. Home is where we become who we are.Even the best of childhoods is imperfect. And if there were difficulties - whether due to simple personality clashes, or issues such as authoritarian parenting, family break-up, illness, loss or addiction - it may be an ongoing struggle to manage our moods and emotions, though we may have no idea why. Psychotherapist Richard Hogan has seen it all when it comes to how the early years shape us - and he knows we can work on ourselves to rewrite the blueprint. In this book he draws on extensive research and thousands of conversations in the therapy room to explain how.Packed full of eye-opening and liberating ideas, fascinating case studies and practical tools, Home is Where the Start Is also includes a remarkable account of Richard''s own challenges as a child and teenager. He knows exactly what it''s like to face the past squarely, grapple with the legacy of childhood unhappiness and work on creating a better future.Home is Where the Start Is will help you become the best version of yourself you can be. And it is an invaluable source of advice for parents to give your child the best possible start.* * *''Filled with articulate and fundamentally encouraging advice'' - Sunday Independent ''A book of hope'' - RSVP ''An essential guide for anyone who wants to break free from the cycles of family dysfunction'' - Irish Examiner''Refreshing . . . for everyone who''s interested in simply living better, with a little more stress and a lot more joy'' - Anglo-Celt Trade ReviewExcellent -- Brendan O'Connor * RTÉ Radio 1 *Filled with articulate and fundamentally encouraging advice * Sunday Independent *An essential guide for anyone who wants to break free from the cycles of family dysfunction * Irish Examiner *Refreshing and encouraging . . . for everyone who's interested in simply living better, with a little less stress and a little more joy * The Anglo-Celt *Focusing on elements such as our family of origin, our personality traits and how we express love, Home is Where the Start Is aims to change how we think and allow us to live more positively * Business Post *

Read more less

Book SynopsisA fresh new jacket design brings this classic self-help guide up to date for a contemporary readership. One of the forerunners to today''s pop psych market along with Women Who Love Too Much, this multimillion bestseller shows us how anger affects women''s relationships and explains how to turn this often destructive force into a constructive one.For many women, anger is a destructive force that perpetuates all the harmful dynamics of their most intimate relationships.This classic, inspirational book from internationally respected feminist psychologist Harriet Lerner explores the ways in which anger can lead into a destructive dance' within women's relationships- permanent fighting with your nearest and dearest, distancing yourself through silence or blaming others for the failure of your relationships.Practical and accessible, this book also shows women how the destructive dance of anger' can be turned into a constructive force- women should neither suppress their anger nor vent it thTrade Review‘A careful and compassionate exploration of women’s anger.’ SUSIE ORBACH‘An inspirational book.’ RELATE NEWS‘Provides a whole new way of looking at your problems. A good investment.’ Amazon reader, 2001

Read more less

Book SynopsisTrade Review“To Have and to Hold speaks to so many women’s experiences of motherhood and marriage. Molly’s expertise shines on every page, and she writes beautifully. This book is exactly what I would be looking for if I were a new mother.” — Dr. Sue Johnson, bestselling author of Hold Me Tight “A love note to mothers everywhere, movingly written, To Have and to Hold shines a powerful light on aspects of motherhood too long shrouded in shame. Millwood’s refrain— you are not alone, and what you’re feeling is normal—is as empowering as it is healing.” — Dr. Craig Malkin, lecturer, Harvard Medical School, author of Rethinking Narcissism “In To Have and to Hold, Molly Millwood has rendered an affecting portrait of the complexities of modern motherhood with compassion and empathy. While the mundanities of caring for young children can obscure the beauty of the act—as well as disorient us from ourselves—her gentle guidance will help readers find meaning, connection, and joy amid the chaos.” — Leah Weiss, PhD, author of How We Work, Lecturer at Stanford Business School, and founding faculty member of Stanford’s Compassion Cultivation Program “A compassionate book that affirms that emotional difficulties for new mothers are not anomalous but universal and can extend well past the immediate postpartum period, with profound effects on their relationships with their spouses.” — Publishers Weekly “Although there are books on what to expect during pregnancy, there are few resources that address the major shifts that happen once a family welcomes a new baby. Drawing from research, her clinical practice, and her own life, [psychologist] Millwood explores attachment, marital strife, gender roles, and other essential topics.” — Booklist (starred review) “As a culture, we largely ignore the emotional health and wellbeing of new mothers. To Have and to Hold provides an insightful and nuanced perspective from which to view the challenges facing so many women. Dr. Millwood’s writing is highly readable and her tone deeply kind. Thank you for pulling us out of the shame cave and into the light.” — Amy Mandeville O’Meara, WHNP, DrNP, AGNP, author of Maternity, Newborn, and Women’s Health Nursing “Informative, entertaining, and enlightening research and personal reflections on the multifaceted ways children change a person forever.” — Kirkus Reviews

Read more less

Book Synopsis'A striking memoir...A must-read for anyone healing from complex trauma' Jeanette McCurdy, bestselling author of I'm Glad My Mom DiedEvery cell in my body is filled with the code of generations of trauma, of death, of birth, of migration, of history that I cannot understand. . . . I want to have words for what my bones know. By the age of thirty, Stephanie Foo was successful on paper: she had her dream job as an award-winning radio producer at This American Life and a loving boyfriend. But behind her office door, she was having panic attacks and sobbing at her desk every morning. After years of questioning what was wrong with herself, she was diagnosed with complex PTSD - a condition that occurs when trauma happens continuously, over the course of years. Both of Foo's parents abandoned her when she was a teenager, after years of physical and verbal abuse and neglect. She thought she'd moved on, but her new diagnosis illuminated the way her past continued to threaten her health, relationships, and career. She found limited resources to help her, so Foo set out to heal herself, and to map her experiences onto the scarce literature about C-PTSD. In this deeply personal and thoroughly researched account, Foo interviews scientists and psychologists and tries a variety of innovative therapies. She returns to her hometown in California to investigate the effects of immigrant trauma on the community, and she uncovers family secrets in the country of her birth, Malaysia, to learn how trauma can be inherited through generations. Ultimately, she discovers that you don't move on from trauma - but you can learn to move with it. Powerful, enlightening and hopeful, What My Bones Know is a brave narrative that reckons with the hold of the past over the present, the mind over the body - and examines one woman's ability to reclaim agency from her trauma.Trade ReviewA striking memoir...A must-read for anyone healing from complex trauma -- Jeanette McCurdy, bestselling author of I'M GLAD MY MOM DIEDAn intimate, deeply engrossing story of psychological recovery * The Australian *As Foo sheds necessary light on the little-discussed topic of C-PTSD, she holds out the hope that while 'healing is never final . . . along with the losses are the triumphs' that can positively transform a traumatized life. . . . A sharp, insightful and stirring memoir. * Kirkus Reviews *Foo's writing is shrewdly insightful. In telling her story so compellingly, she joins authors such as Anna Qu and Ly Tran in adding nuance to the 'model minority' myth, if not actively subverting it. . . . Highly recommended. -- Library Journal (starred review)This is a work of immense beauty. * Publishers Weekly *Many trauma survivors struggle to describe the seemingly indescribable sense of carrying something intangibly sharp - something there but not there - inside. But in What My Bones Know, Stephanie Foo details that and more. Her achingly exquisite memoir takes us on a journey through complex trauma, illuminating her path of self-discovery and providing real hope for those who long to heal. -- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONEWhat My Bones Know is an absolute triumph. Foo's beautifully written memoir is a balm and a light for anyone afraid that their early traumas have permanently stunted their capacity for connection, love, and purpose. This book is a must-read for anyone hungry for hope. -- Christie Tate, New York Times bestselling author of GROUPStephanie Foo's incredible memoir speaks to so many things at once: the horrors of an abusive childhood, the enduring power of trauma, the messy science of the brain and the lifelong quest for meaning and healing. Funny and tragic, unflinchingly honest and relentlessly hopeful, What My Bones Know is a marvel of a book. -- Ed Yong, New York Times bestselling author of I CONTAIN MULTITUDESFoo's journalistic eye serves her generously through a hard-won examination of trauma and its aftermath. I cried while turning the pages; I knew that I was witnessing an astonishing literary endeavour. For others who live with C-PTSD, this is a crucial, life-changing book. -- Esmé Weijun Wang, New York Times bestselling author of THE COLLECTED SCHIZOPHRENIASAt turns funny and devastating, terrifying and transcendent, Foo's quest for understanding should be relevant not just to someone with C-PTSD but to anyone seeking to grow and be present in this one life. -- Jenny Odell, New York Times bestselling author of HOW TO DO NOTHINGIn What My Bones Know, Stephanie Foo mines her past in search of answers, uncovering what it means to navigate trauma over generations. With striking candidness, Foo takes readers on her journey to understand her diagnosis of complex PTSD, weaving together reporting and personal history. A testament to Foo's determination, What My Bones Know is an act of reclamation - and a bold, defiant proclamation: "I am here." -- Kat Chow, author of SEEING GHOSTS

Read more less

Book SynopsisFantastic... Stefanie''s practical, informative, inspiring and highly-accessible approach to addressing psychological phenomena makes this book a hit -- Vex King, bestselling author of Good Vibes, Good LifeI adored this book! Both mind-expanding and easy to digest, it is extremely helpful to me as a person, partner, mother and writer and my life is definitely better -- brighter, more enjoyable, less dominated by fear -- for having read it -- Cathy Rentzenbrink, author of The Last Act of LoveThe breakthrough million-copy international bestseller about how to find happiness by befriending your inner childEveryone longs to be accepted and loved. Ideally, during childhood, we develop the self-confidence and sense of trust that will help us through life as adults. But the traumas that we experience in childhood also unconsciously shape and determine our entire approach to life as adults.In The Child In You, bestselling author and psychologist Stefanie Stahl shares her proven approach for working with - and befriending - our inner child. Powerful, imaginative and practical - with clever exercises, from the three positions of perception to over-writing old memories - she shows how by renouncing our ''shadow child'' and embracing our ''sun child,'' we can learn to resolve conflicts, form better relationships, and find the answer to (almost) any problem.I thoroughly recommend The Child In You, which will help anyone who wants to improve their mental wellbeing. We should all know our inner child, and Stefanie Stahl shows how we can get to do so, exploring this concept with warmth and accessibility -- Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works and This Too Shall PassTrade ReviewStefanie Stahl is compassionate, clear-eyed, and insightful, and her paradigm for getting in touch with your inner child puts your truest self within easy reach. The Child in You is like your own personal therapist that you can carry around with you -- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to SomeoneThis book is a revelation. I can see why so many people all over the world have found in it a path to happiness, self-love, and fulfilling relationships -- Marci Shimoff, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and Chicken Soup for the Woman’s SoulFor anyone who goes on a personal growth journey, it is impossible to reach full wholeness without inner child work. This breakthrough guide is a must-read for anyone who is committed to healing, happiness, and full health. Stefanie Stahl offers effective strategies to help you trust yourself so you can live a fulfilling, authentic, connected life -- Shannon Kaiser, author of The Self-Love Experiment and Joy SeekerA well-researched book that offers numerous exercises as well as approaches for solving problems * Petra *Not only will you read this book more than once, but it will also become a lifelong companion * Psychology Carries You Forward Magazine *Fantastic... it's almost impossible to read this book without contemplating your childhood and identifying areas for expansion and healing. Stefanie's practical, informative, inspiring and highly-accessible approach to addressing psychological phenomena makes this book a hit in my eyes. I highly recommend people buy this book and do the exercises provided -- Vex King, bestselling author of Good Vibes, Good LifeI adored this book! Both mind-expanding and easy to digest, it is extremely helpful to me as a person, partner, mother and writer and my life is definitely better - brighter, more enjoyable, less dominated by fear - for having read it -- Cathy Rentzenbrink, author of The Last Act of LoveI thoroughly recommend The Child In You, which will help anyone who wants to improve their mental wellbeing. We should all know our inner child, and Stefanie Stahl shows how we can get to do so, exploring this concept with warmth and accessibility -- Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works and This Too Shall PassStefanie Stahl is known as Germany's psychotherapist superstar. The Child in You is brilliant . . . I loved how practical the book is. Super simple yet transformational -- Zoe Blaskey * Motherkind Podcast *Psychotherapist superstar helps with energy * Zestology *

Read more less

Book SynopsisTHE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER Give the gift of inspiration: an essential guide to living wisely and well, no matter what challenges the world throws at you - from Alain de Botton, the bestselling author of The Consolations of Philosophy, The Art of Travel and The Course of LoveThis is a book about everything you were never taught at school. It''s about how to understand your emotions, find and sustain love, succeed in your career, fail well and overcome shame and guilt. It''s also about letting go of the myth of a perfect life in order to achieve genuine emotional maturity. Written in a hugely accessible, warm and humane style, The School of Life is the ultimate guide to the emotionally fulfilled lives we all long for - and deserve. This book brings together ten years of essential and transformative research on emotional intelligence, with practical topics including: - how to understand yourself- how to master the dilemmas of relationships- how to become more effective at work - how to endure failure- how to grow more serene and resilient Praise for Alain de Botton:''What he has managed to do is remarkable: to help us think better so that we may live better lives'' Irish Times''A serious and optimistic set of practical ideas that could improve and alter the way we live'' Jeanette Winterson, The Times''Alain de Botton likes to take big, complex subjects and write about them with thoughtful and deceptive innocence'' ObserverTrade Review[Alain] de Botton's injunction to understand ourselves could not matter more. * The Times *It is an amazing book. Beautifully written . . . a beautiful book that you should have in your home * Chris Evans *

Read more less

Book SynopsisTHE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER''Essential, clever and kind'' Alain de Botton''I am a huge admirer of Julia''s work'' Elizabeth Day____________________In her bestselling follow-up to Grief Works and This Too Shall Pass, much-loved psychotherapist Julia Samuel invites us into her sessions as she explores the relationships that have the power to touch us and hurt us most: those with our family.Through eight beautifully told case studies, covering a variety of families across multiple generations, she analyses common issues from losing a parent to children leaving home, and from separation to step-relationships. In doing so she shows how much is, in fact, inherited -- and how much can be healed when it is faced together.Every Family Has A Story provides the tools that will help with this work of improving our relationships. Its twelve touchstones for family well-being show how to communicate effectTrade ReviewEngaging, informative and very well written -- Philippa PerryFull of nuggets of wisdom -- Jackie Annesley * Sunday Times *Engrossing, generous . . . excellent advice worth a whole shelf of textbooks -- Bel Mooney * Daily Mail *I am a huge admirer of Julia's work -- Elizabeth DayA profoundly important and compassionate book for understanding family relationships much better. Highly recommended -- Liz Earle

Read more less

Book SynopsisFrom licensed therapist and popular Instagram relationship expert Vienna Pharaon comes a profound guide to understanding and overcoming wounds from your family of origin - the foundation of how we relate to others, ourselves, and the world around us.None of us had a perfect childhood; we are all carrying around behaviors that don''t serve us - and may in fact be hurting us. But it doesn''t have to be that way, says licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past might create our patterns, but we can change those patterns for the better with the right tools.In THE ORIGINS OF YOU, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process to help us understand our family of origin - the family and framework we grew up within - and examine what worked (and didn''t) in that system. Certain dysfunctions (or wounds) in that family of origin will manifest in our adult life in surprising ways, from work challenges to interpersonal struggles. But when armed with the knowle

Read more less

Book SynopsisTHE INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLERA powerful, lucid, deeply empathic exploration of the legacy of generational trauma, Emotional Inheritance makes clear that Galit Atlas is not only a gifted psychoanalyst, but a gifted writer as well. I loved this book and was stirred by it. Dani Shapiro, author of InheritanceAtlas''s heady and beautiful book offers much insight, as well as tools for beginning to unpack the stories we''re living, stories that aren''t actually ours to live. Oprah DailyPast family trauma can keep us unconsciously connected to the past. It shapes our lives in ways we don''t always recognise, and can keep us from living to our full potential.In this transformative book, award-winning psychoanalyst Dr. Galit Atlas draws back the veil on the legacy of intergenerational trauma. Entwining the stories of her patients, her own stories, and decades of research, she shows how the people we love and those who ra

Read more less

Book SynopsisToday's parents are constantly pressured to be perfect. But in striving to do everything right, we risk missing what children really need for lifelong emotional security. Now the simple, powerful Circle of Security parenting strategies that Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell have taught thousands of families are available in self-help form for the first time. You will learn: *How to balance nurturing and protectiveness with promoting your child's independence. *What emotional needs a toddler or older child may be expressing through difficult behavior. *How your own upbringing affects your parenting style--and what you can do about it. Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyone's reach--self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes. Self-assessment checklists can be downloaded and printed for ease of use. Mental health professionaTrade Review"If you are looking for a practical, wise, science-based, and accessible guide to creating the kind of attachment your child needs to optimize development, you’ve come to the right place!…What a gift Raising a Secure Child is for us, for our children, and for the world….A masterpiece."--from the Foreword by Daniel J. Siegel, MD, coauthor of The Whole-Brain Child"I love this book, and know it will be good to reread during the difficult moments of parenting! The best part of Raising a Secure Child is that you don't have to do anything 'extra' to help your child flourish. Instead, the book reminded me of the essential factor hidden in plain sight--my relationship with my child. It made me feel hopeful and confident about my natural ability as a parent."--Kari G., Spokane, Washington"From the creators of the Circle of Security, which has changed parents' and children's lives around the globe, comes this remarkable guide. Down to earth, witty, and so, so smart about the complexities of parenting, Raising a Secure Child is a revelation. It provides a clear roadmap for all parents who want to give their children the very best beginnings possible. You will wish your parents had read this book, and if your children are grown, you will want to start all over again."--Arietta Slade, PhD, Yale Child Study Center, Yale University School of Medicine"This book is outstanding in every respect--beautifully written, scientifically sound, loaded with excellent examples, and full of deep wisdom. What these authors have learned and are able to teach us can make a huge contribution to the well-being of your children and family."--Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology, University of California, Davis"A 'must read' for parents of young children. The authors translate decades of psychological research into accessible and meaningful advice. Reading this book is an opportunity to learn about yourself--because, it turns out, knowing your own strengths and vulnerabilities is a vital key to parenting.”--Charles H. Zeanah, Jr., MD, Mary Peters Sellars-Polchow Chair in Psychiatry and Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics, Tulane University School of MedicineTable of ContentsForeword, Daniel J. Siegel Introduction I. All Around the Circle: Understanding Attachment and the Importance of Security 1. Attachment: Why It Matters 2. Security: Befriending Imperfection 3. A Map for Attachment: The Circle of Security 4. Being the Hands on the Circle 5. Shark Music: How Our Childhood Echoes in Our Parenting 6. Behavior as Communication: Cues and Miscues II. Creating and Maintaining the Circle: How to Be Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, and Kind—and Good Enough 7. Shark Bones: Exploring Our Core Sensitivities 8. Testing New Waters: Choosing Security 9. Staying Afloat: Choosing Security Over and Over as Your Child Grows Resources

Read more less

Book SynopsisMeet Carly. Carly is a young person caring for her mother who has Multiple Sclerosis and depression.Part of the best-selling Can I Tell You about... series, this book raises awareness about children who live with and care for parents or other relatives in the home. It describes what young carers like Carly do, and the practical and emotional impact caring can have on home and school life, both positive and negative. It also explains what support is available for young carers, including from family, friends and teachers as well as other professionals and online. Carly's story will help young carers explore their worries and concerns, and help family members and professionals support young carers.Trade ReviewI warmly welcome this important new resource for young carers. For much too long young carers have been a 'hidden army', often misunderstood whilst struggling to support a much- loved family member, maintain their education and look to the future. That future can seem very frightening, but this book offers not only a range of practical information for young carers and those who support them. It reminds us of the importance of relationships and peer support and the real possibility of a good and valued life as a young carer. -- Dame Philippa Russell, Vice-President, Carers UKCan I Tell You About Being a Young Carer? is packed with important insights into the range of struggles that children with caring responsibilities will relate to. Presented in a gentle, positive and accessible way it will be helpful to the many children with caring roles, their friends, family and those who support them. -- Daniel Phelps, The University of Winchester, www.youngcarers.infoWhile this story and its good accompanying black and white pictures is aimed at younger people, it will also be excellent for adults who work with young carers and need to understand what they may be dealing with. There are useful resources at the back of the book, both for children and families and for professionals. An excellent and moving story about one young carer and the problems she faces on a daily basis. -- Healthybooks

Read more less

Book SynopsisSensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual is an illustrated manual that provides health professionals with specific information on the use of the structured touching opportunities used regularly by Sexologists to address their clients' sexual difficulties (Sensate Focus 1) and enhance intimate relationships (Sensate Focus 2). This book is the only one to: vividly describe and illustrate the specific steps of, activities involved in, and positions associated with Sensate Focus; emphasize the purpose of Sensate Focus as a mindfulness-based practice; and distinguish between the purposes of Sensate Focus 1 and Sensate Focus 2.  Through the use of artful drawings and descriptive text, this manual engages mental health and medical professionals and their clients by appealing to both the visual and the analytical. It discusses how modifications to Sensate Focus can be applied to diverse populations, such as LGBTQ clients, the elderly, the disabled, trauma sTrade Review“This is a much needed book for mental health professionals to update their awareness and comfort in using sensate focus strategies with couples. Senate focus is integral to sex therapy and this updated book both confronts misunderstandings about senate focus and provides a motivating and empowering handbook. This book should be on the shelf of all couple and sex therapists.”— Barry McCarthy, PhD, professor of psychology, American University; author, Rekindling Desire “This book is long overdue!! It is a rich treasure for clinicians seeking the modern roadmap for integrating sensate focus into their work with diverse client populations. The illustrations bring the teaching to life. The whole-person approach—and the emphasis on touching as essential to human thriving—are messages that make this book invaluable. I will be recommending it to all of my students and trainees!”—Patti Britton, PhD, MPH, co-founder, SexCoachU.com; academic dean, Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS); adjunct faculty, The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Pacifica and Saybrook Graduate Institutes, and California Institute for Integral Studies“Sensate focus is one of the longest-standing tools in the toolbox of skilled sex therapists. Weiner and Avery-Clark refresh and revitalize this formidable tool, and apply the lens of mindfulness to understanding the power of this practice. This book will ensure that therapists—both new and seasoned—implement sensate focus effectively and accurately.”— Lori A. Brotto, PhD, professor, Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, University of British Columbia; executive director, Women’s Health Research Institute; registered psychologist"Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy is an amazingly comprehensive, deeply informative manual that will instantly become a classic in the best practice principles of Sex Therapy."—P. Michele Sugg, MSW, LCSW, CST, AASECT certified sex therapist; past-president, American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists; sex therapy advisor, Alexander Foundation for Women's HealthTable of ContentsForeword Michael Perelman 1. Introduction 2. Sensate Focus 3. What Sensate Focus Is Not: A Little Bit of History About the Confusions 4. Sexual Dysfunctions: Basic Issues, Assessment Procedures, and Collaborative Treatment Planning 5. Sensate Focus 1: The Non-Demand Touching Suggestions 6. Processing Sensate Focus 1 Instructions 7. Modifications of Sensate Focus 1 for Diverse Client Populations 8. Common Problems and Their Management in Sensate Focus 9. Diverse Populations With Psychological and Physical Concerns 10. Sensate Focus 1 and 2 11. Conclusion References Appendices A. Sexual Dysfunction: History Taking for Sexual Distress B. Sensate Focus 1 Instruction for Clients C. Sensate Focus Special Instructions & Modifications for Different Dysfunctions

Read more less

Book SynopsisTrade Review“This new, updated edition of After the Affair is a must for anyone going through an affair, recovering from betrayal, or working with a couple who needs advice. If you want your relationship to book, buy this book. Her wisdom applies to all of us.” — Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., author of When You’re the One Who Cheats “Dr. Spring possesses a remarkable combination of clarity, wisdom, spirit, and heart. This is an extremely helpful and healing book—a gift to us all.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “The most comprehensive and balanced book I have ever read on the subject. It is” — Dr. Harville Hendrix “After the Affair is a wonderful guide for couples who want to reconstruct their relationship after one partner has been unfaithful. In clear, sparkling prose, Dr. Spring explains the sources of infidelity and offers sound, sensible guidelines for mending the relationship.” — Aaron Beck, M.D., founder of Cognitive Therapy and author of Love Is Never Enough “For married or cohabitating couples who want to rebuild their relationship after one partner has had an affair, this tough-minded, insightful manual will be eminently practical…This wise book fills a gap on the self-help shelf.” — Publishers Weekly

Read more less

Book SynopsisOnce it was a family home. Now they are all at sea...When Anna and David receive a phone call late one evening, their lives are upturned. Within minutes, they are travelling to the west coast of Scotland, preparing to care for two young sisters, tragically and suddenly orphaned.It''s a beautiful place, the heather is in bloom, the birds wheel above the waves, the deer graze peacefully in the distance. But the large granite house is no longer a home for the girls, and Anna knows she can never take the place of their mother. Then David invites his friend to stay, to ''ease them through'' and Anna finds herself increasingly isolated, with everything she - and the girls - once knew of life discarded and overruled by a man of whom she is deeply suspicious.Trade ReviewPraise for The Wilderness:'Almost indecently readable . . . Duguid keeps the tension almost at boiling point' * Daily Mail *'Darkly beautiful and exquisitely written, I loved this haunting story' * Eve Chase *'Pungently atmospheric . . . beautiful descriptions' * Metro *'Evocative, stunning and so beautifully written, the landscape of the wilderness smothers Anna as effectively as her marriage has always done. A powerful book about how the needs of men often consume the women and girls around them. I absolutely loved it' * Araminta Hall *'Insightful, moving, and with a gloriously described location where nature rules' * Peterborough Telegraph *'Beautifully written and well-paced - a real page-turner which I read in two sittings . . . I can still picture every corner of the island as though I was there - a place of unease, mystery and wild beauty' * Goodreads reviewer *A slender, intense book that explores grief and love, but with such a sharp attention to detail that I found it very difficult to put down * Netgalley review *A clever exploration of family and grief. Not only is this a very well-written book with wonderfully-interesting characters, but the suspense builds at just the right pace as the story unfolds * Netgalley review *A wonderful, intense, evocative experience' * Carole Hailey *Praise for Look at Me:With characters that are sharply observed with a beady eye for detail, this is a haunting study of family, grief, and loss * Daily Mail *This slender novel puts a fragile family under the spotlight with great effect * Cathy Rentzenbrink *Exquisitely written, with a beautiful balance between darkness and humour * Joanna Cannon *A clever exploration of family and grief * Red *'Swept away in the depth and darkness of her storytelling, the beauty of the landscape and these fragile, damaged relationships' * Emma Stonex *

Read more less

Book SynopsisA must-have guide to raising inclusive, antiracist children from educator and advocate, Britt Hawthorne.Raising antiracist children is a noble goal for any parent, caregiver, or educator, but it can be hard to know where to start. Let Britt Hawthorne—a nationally recognized teacher and advocate—be your guide. Raising Antiracist Children acts as an interactive guide for strategically incorporating the tools of inclusivity into everyday life and parenting. Hawthorne breaks down antiracist parenting into four comprehensive sections: -Healthy bodies—Establishing a safe and body-positive home environment to combat stereotypes and create boundaries. -Radical minds—Encouraging children to be agents of change, accompanied by scripts for teaching advocacy, giving and taking productive feedback, and becoming a coconspirator for change. -Conscious shopping—Raising awareness of how local shopping can empower or hinder a community’s ability to thrive, and teaching readers of all ages how to create shopping habits that support their values. -Thriving communities—Acknowledging the personal power we have to shape our schools, towns, and worlds, accompanied by exercises for instigating change. Full of questionnaires, stories, activities, tips, and tools, Raising Antiracist Children is a must-have, practical guide essential for parents and caregivers everywhere.Trade Review“A must-read that covers an essential topic well and is jam-packed with ideas to implement.” – Library Journal, Starred Review"I’m going to carry around this book in my pocket so I can refer to Britt’s gentle guidance at any time. She makes us reflect on how we are raising our children, recognise where we can do better, and give us the tools to make it happen.” -Simone Davies, Montessori educator and author of The Montessori Toddler “Hawthorne has a gift for making complex, sensitive topics accessible, and her tone is both inspiring and comforting. . . Overall, the creativity, criticality, and compassion make this book is a must-read for parents and caregivers. A stunningly comprehensive, thoughtful, and practical guide to anti-racist parenting.” -Kirkus (starred review)“Hawthorne’s emphasis on “self-love” for parents makes this a resource worth returning to. Parents looking to “reimagine how homes will become liberated spaces” need look no further.” -Publisher's Weekly"The title Raising Antiracist Children doesn’t begin to cover the scope of what’s actually in this outstanding book. Full of anecdotes, tips, tools, activities, and insights from a range of contributors, Britt Hawthorne and Natasha Yglesias, have created and curated a spectacular resource for anyone who want to get smarter about intentionally creating a more just and sustainable world." - Debby Irving, author of Waking Up White, and Finding Myself in the Story of Race

Read more less

Book Synopsis

Read more less

Book Synopsis Alfie Kohn’s landmark challenge to carrot-and-stick psychology, featuring updated reflections and research in a major new afterword by the author   Our basic strategy for raising children, teaching students, and managing workers can be summed up in six words: Do this and you’ll get that. We dangle goodies (from candy bars to sales commissions) in front of people in the same way that we train the family pet.             Since its publication in 1993, this groundbreaking book has persuaded countless parents, teachers, and managers that attempts to manipulate people with incentives may seem to work in the short run, but they ultimately fail and even do lasting harm. Drawing from hundreds of studies, Kohn demonstrates that we actually do inferior work when we are enticed with money, grades, or other incentives—and are apt to lose interest in whatever we were bribed to do.             Promising goodies to children for good behavior, meanwhile, can never produce anything more than temporary obedience. Even praise can become a verbal bribe that gets kids hooked on our approval.             Rewards and punishments are two sides of the same coin—and the coin doesn’t buy much. What is needed, Kohn explains, is an alternative to both ways of controlling people. Hence, he offers practical strategies for parents, teachers, and managers to replace carrots and sticks. Seasoned with humor and familiar examples, Punished by Rewards presents an argument that is unsettling to hear but impossible to dismiss.  

Read more less

Written by leaders in the field of relational integrative psychotherapy, this book offers trainees and experienced therapists a methodology for assisting people in rediscovering their ability to maintain genuine relationships and, thus, better psychological health. This classic edition includes a new preface by Richard G. Erskine that reflects on changes in the field since the book's first publication. Drawing from Rogers'' client-centered therapy, Berne''s transactional analysis, Perls'' Gestalt therapy, Kohut''s self-psychology, and the work of British object-relations theorists, this book accessibly introduces the authors' Keyhole theory while using real life interchanges between therapists and clients to illustrate key concepts. The second part of the book details the application of this method in therapy work and provides transcripts from seven therapy sessions. These include examples of relational psychotherapy, psychotherapeutic regression, working with a parental intr

Read more less

a huge range and FREE tracked UK delivery on ALL orders.

Read more less

Book SynopsisFatherhood today is in crisis. Fathers have gone missing, or have become their children’s playmates, and the symbolic authority of the father has lost its power. What remains of the father today in the wake of this decline, and what should the relation between children and parents now be? In addressing these questions, Massimo Recalcati draws inspiration from the story of Telemachus in Homer’s Odyssey. The Telemachus complex is the reverse of the Oedipus complex. Recalcati argues that children are possessed not just with a desire to annihilate their father, as their key rival in the contest to win the mother’s love, but also with a longing for a father-figure, as someone who brings meaning, structure and order to their lives and who imbues them with a sense of the future. This fresh and insightful account of the changing relations between parents and children in the era of the decline of the father will be of great interest to a wide general readership.Trade Review‘With his customary blend of wisdom, acumen and wit, Recalcati travels deep into the world of Odysseus to re-tell the story of Telemachus for our times. This book shows the Italian master at his thought-provoking best. All fathers shall prescribe it to their children!’Dany Nobus, Professor of Psychoanalytic Psychology, Brunel University London Table of ContentsIntroduction 1. The Law of the Word and the New Hell Praying Is No Longer Like Breathing; Aphonia and the Father’s Amnesia; The Hell of Salò; The Law of the Word; How Do We Transmit the Word of the Law?; We are A Scream in the Night; Escape From Freedom; The Fantasy of Freedom As a Hypermodern Fantasy; Mass Freedom; Dying to Work 2. The Confusion Between Generations The Parents’ Task; The Law and the laws; Adulterations; Transgression, or an Appeal to the Law?; A New Discontent of Youth; The Trauma of the Non-Existence of the Sexual Relationship; Femicidal Violence; The Technological Object and Depression in Youth; Evaporation and Invention 3. From Oedipus to Telemachus Four Types of Child; The Child-as-Oedipus; The Anti-Oedipal Child; The Child-as-Narcissus; The Child-as-Telemachus 4. What Does It Mean To Be A Rightful Heir? Inheritance as Reclamation; An Excess of Memory; The Anti-Melancholy of Jesus and Nietzsche; The Negation of Symbolic Debt; Telemachus Is The Rightful Heir; What Does Inheritance Mean?; The Recognition of the Symbolic Debt; The Symbolic Difference Between Generations; Act, Faith and Promise Epilogue: Reading Pain on the Leaves Index of Names

Read more less

Book SynopsisThe impact of finding out your child is disabled can be wide ranging. The author’s experience as a psychologist and parent of a disabled child informs this book which focuses on what helps, and hinders, parent-carers’ emotional wellbeing. Research shows that mental health, relationships, family life, access to work and leisure activities, as well as finances can all be affected. For many parents the focus of those around them is solely on the child and their own needs become neglected. The author re-focuses attention onto the wellbeing of the parent. This includes acknowledging emotions, connecting with positive others, empowering yourself, regularly engaging in self-care and finding your own sense of meaning and purpose in life. Identifying the myriad of different emotions parents may experience as an understandable reaction to an unexpected situation the book includes quotes from parent carers. Connecting to psychological theories, such as positive re-framing and post-traumatic growth, the book applies these in practical ways to the parent-carer experience. Acknowledging that the journey is neither linear nor simple and transitions such as secondary school, puberty and adulthood require further periods of adjustment. Parents rarely get the time or support to stop and reflect on how they are feeling as they are caught up in the day to day busyness of caring. The difficulty is exacerbated by limited resources and battling for services. Building on the author’s Doctoral research and having supported parent carers in different roles over the last 13 years this book provides a compass to ensure parents know they are not alone.

Read more less

Book SynopsisTherapeutic exercises to help couples nurture patience, forgiveness and humour. Here is a workbook containing the very best exercises that any couple can undertake to help their relationship function optimally; exercises to foster understanding, patience, forgiveness, humour and resilience in the face of the many hurdles that invariably arise when you try to live with someone else for the long term. Couples are guided to have particular conversations, analyse their feelings, explain parts of themselves to one another and undertake rituals that clear the air and help recover hope and passion. The goal is always to unblock channels of feeling and improve communication. Not least, doing exercises together is – at points – simply a lot of fun.

Read more less

Book SynopsisRich in clinical examples, this book offers a fresh perspective on the roles of shame and guilt in psychological distress and presents a step-by-step framework for treatment. Martha Sweezy explains how the principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy are ideally suited to helping trauma survivors and other clients who struggle with debilitating shame to understand and heal psychic parts wounded in childhood. Annotated case illustrations show and explain IFS techniques in action. Other useful features include boxed therapeutic exercises, decision trees, and pointers to help therapists avoid or overcome common pitfalls. See also Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition, by Richard C. Schwartz and Martha Sweezy, the authoritative presentation of IFS.Trade Review"Shame and guilt are integral to the experience of complex trauma and are among the effects most resistant to change. This volume is particularly pertinent for therapists who want to interrupt intergenerational cycles of trauma that are often fueled by shame and guilt. Whether or not the reader has a background in IFS, this book convincingly makes the case for the relevance and power of this approach. I am already finding it extremely useful in my practice with trauma survivors, and am excited to learn even more about this system of thought."--Pamela C. Alexander, PhD, private practice, Sherborn, Massachusetts "IFS is a compelling model that is capturing the imagination of therapists around the world, especially for the treatment of trauma. IFS is simple and elegant, but there is an art to its application. Sweezy is an artist who explains why and how she applies each brushstroke. With remarkable clarity and sophistication, the author untangles the inner dynamics of shame and guilt, and shows how to address a client's unmet needs compassionately in therapy. This book is generous and deep--no reader will be left untouched."--Christopher Germer, PhD, Co-Founder, Center for Mindful Self-Compassion "This landmark book takes a deep dive into a central topic for all psychotherapists--how to address the pernicious effects of shame and inappropriate guilt on a person's sense of self, psychological functioning, and interpersonal behavior. Sweezy applies IFS theory and practice in exquisite detail, with illuminating clinical vignettes. Her approach is novel and refreshingly nonpathologizing and compassionate. The book shows how to help clients come to view their harsh internal voices as their best attempts to protect the vulnerable core Self, and learn to forge a path of reconciliation among these parts and the Self. This is a complex, nuanced process requiring close attention and creativity on the part of the therapist, but Sweezy provides a clear map with which to traverse this emotionally fraught territory."--Peter Fraenkel, PhD, Department of Psychology, The City College of the City University of New York "This book is a welcome, inspiring guide for all therapists who have struggled with the limitations of pathologizing DSM-based approaches to psychotherapy, in which the therapist is expected to have 'the answers.' Based on her deep experience with IFS, Sweezy wisely focuses on symptom domains such as shame or guilt, rather than on specific disorders. The book reminds us that the answers reside within each individual, and gives powerful examples of how IFS allows individuals to discover their own paths to healing."--Michael Mithoefer, MD, Senior Medical Director for Medical Affairs, Training, and Supervision, MAPS Public Benefit Corporation-Table of ContentsForeword, Richard C. Schwartz Introduction I. The Vulnerable Mind 1. Shame, Guilt, and Psychic Multiplicity 2. The Goal 3. All the Ways We Say No 4. The Shame Cycle 5. Empathy 6. Shame-Based Trauma Bonding: The Child Who Shares Shamefulness 7. Guilt-Based Trauma Bonding: The Child Who Takes Responsibility II. Treatment The First Portion of Therapy 8. Set the Stage 9. Unblend 10. Navigate Obstacles to Unblending The Second Portion of Therapy 11. Witness and Unburden 12. Common Problems 13. Take a Tip to Avoid Pitfalls III. Completion 14. How Therapy Ends References Index

Read more less

Book SynopsisPreviously published as No Family is Perfect.'Provides a fresh context for exploring issues that engage us throughout our lives ... It will change how we think and write about families' Terri Apter, author of Difficult Mothers and The Sister KnotWhat makes a good parent?How can sibling relationships survive to adulthood?Should familial love really be unconditional?Dr Lucy Blake looks at how the expectations we have affect and hinder our interactions with family members. Drawing on interviews with hundreds of family members – of all backgrounds – she explores the unrealistic ideas many of us have. Exposing the truth of what a family really is, Blake explores how to better understand and appreciate our loved ones, whether we choose to do so from up close or from a distance.Home Truths is a fascinating examination of the messy and beautiful reality of family life.'Blake examines the many aspects of family life and addresses the many ways that family relationships can be strained ... This book will be helpful to anyone interested in learning more about their own families' Dr Joshua Coleman, Council on Contemporary FamiliesTrade Review'Blake examines many aspects of family life and addresses many ways that family relationships can be close or strained ... This book will be helpful to anyone interested in learning more about their own families. I highly recommend it' -- Dr Joshua Coleman, Council on Contemporary Families'A wonderfully optimistic and original book ... I enjoyed reading it and learned a lot ... No doubt it will be extremely reassuring for readers and everyone will find some nuggets that are helpful to them' -- Professor Susan Golombok, Director of the Centre for Family Research, University of Cambridge'Provides a fresh context for exploring issues that engage us throughout our lives ... It will change how we think and write about families' -- Terri Apter, author of Difficult Mothers and The Sister Knot

Read more less

Book Synopsis

Read more less

Book SynopsisFrom the bestselling author of SET BOUNDARIES, FIND PEACE, a road map for understanding and moving past family struggles - and living your life, your way.Every family has a story. For some of us, our family of origin is a solid foundation that feeds our confidence and helps us navigate life''s challenges. For others, it''s a source of pain, hurt, and conflict that can feel like a lifelong burden. In this empowering guide, licensed therapist and bestselling relationship expert Nedra Glover Tawwab offers clear advice for identifying dysfunctional family patterns and choosing the best path to breaking the cycle and moving forward.Covering topics ranging from the trauma of emotional neglect, to the legacy of addicted or absent parents, to mental health struggles in siblings and other relatives, and more, this clear and compassionate guide will help you take control of your own life - and honour the person you truly are.Trade ReviewWithout a fresh perspective and the belief that we can break the cycle, we can get stuck in family patterns rather than living as our whole selves. With compassion and clarity, Nedra Tawwab offers a much-needed guide to understanding our upbringing - and becoming an agent for change in our own lives -- Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE and co-host of the Dear Therapists podcastIn DRAMA FREE, therapist Nedra Tawwab gives us the tools to understand family relationships and manage them in a healthier way - while staying true to who we are and what we need. This book offers a powerful path forward -- Charlamagne Tha God, New York Times bestselling author and co-host of The Breakfast ClubMany people go to therapy to work through the issues in their heads, overlooking that their biggest challenges often lie in their family relationships. In this book, therapist Nedra Tawwab offers practical wisdom to help you handle problems with parents, siblings, children, and yes, even in-laws. In a time when mental health is finally getting the attention it deserves, this is a vital guide to building healthier families -- Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of THINK AGAIN and host of the TED podcast Re:ThinkingDRAMA FREE is an engaging and relatable guide to understanding what's really going on within our families, offering practical steps for creating healthy changes as needed -- Myleik Teele, CURLBOX founderThe family dynamics we grew up with can feel like an immutable fact of life - a set of patterns and rules we carry with us, for better or worse. In this empowering book, Nedra Tawwab upends this assumption, unpacking these complex relationships and offering tools for positive change -- Judson Brewer, MD, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of UNWINDING ANXIETY

Read more less

Book Synopsis In care at four. A runaway at six. On the streets at fifteen. For some kids, there''s no hope. Rosie Goodwin writes an unforgettable saga in The Boy From Nowhere, a tale of a young boy''s desperate search for a place to call home. Perfect for fans of Lindsey Hutchinson and Cathy Sharp.''A touching and powerful new novel from a wonderful writer'' - BooksellerAlex never stood a chance. After one ''accident'' too many, he''s taken into care aged four. Although his mother promises to get him back, he''s adopted by a childless couple and renamed Franky. It should be a fresh start, but his new dad has a twisted idea of fatherhood. Abused and alone, Franky escapes - but his freedom is short-lived, and after a series of foster homes no one can get through to him. He says he''s ''the boy from nowhere'', but deep down he''s still waiting for his mum to take him home.Franky slips into a dangerous world on the strTrade ReviewPraise for Rosie's first novel, THE BAD APPLE: 'Rosie Goodwin is a born storyteller - she'll make you cry, she'll make you laugh, but most of all you'll care for her characters and lose yourself in her story. An author destined for the top * Jeannie Johnson, author of THE REST OF OUR DAYS *Rosie deserves all her success. She is a talented storyteller and will go all the way to the top * Dee Williams *The tearjerker of the season...[a] heart-rending tale * Western Mail *A promising and well-drawn debut * Lancashire Evening Post *A good tearjerker...compelling * Reading Evening Post *A gifted writer... Not only is Goodwin's characterisation and dialogue compelling, but her descriptive writing is a joy * Nottingham Evening Post *A heart-throbber of a story from Goodwin that puts many other so-called emotional blockbusters in the shade * Northern Echo *Goodwin is a fabulous writer...she reels the reader in surprisingly quickly and her style involves lots of twists and turns that are in no way predictable * Worcester Evening News *A touching and powerful new novel from a wonderful writer * Bookseller *

Read more less

Book SynopsisWhen Mothers Talk is an intimate book about early child development and motherhood which offers an extraordinary view of the first three years of life and practical information that rarely gets talked about.Ilene Lefcourt's unique experience leading groups for over 35 years with mothers, their babies, and toddlers informs every page. Lefcourt sensitively links mothers' childhood memories with current mother-child interactions, and exquisitely details mothers' unfolding insights. Vivid examples of mothers' memories, with hidden answers to typical questions and concerns, trigger the reader's own memories, self-reflection, and new ideas. The narrative approach of When Mothers Talk speaks directly to the reader and activates an experience similar to being in a supportive mother-baby-toddler group.Experienced and new mothers, infant mental health students, and experienced professionals will find this original book, grounded in long-established ideas, exception

Read more less

Book SynopsisThis vibrant book examines individual and societal factors contributing to the rise of lying, cheating, bullying, and narcissism, with emphasis on the influence of Trumpism and the valuing of getting things done over the importance of self-discipline and issues of morality.George Bear explores individual and environmental factors that influence the development of self-discipline. He examines reasons for the growing prevalence of lying, cheating, bullying, and narcissism and their underlying factors, and the role of parenting and peer relationships in their development. The volume highlights the critical roles that moral reasoning, moral emotions, and mechanisms of moral disengagement play in dishonest and harmful behavior.Lying, Cheating, Bullying, and Narcissism is for students and scholars of child development, parenting, psychopathology, and criminology; professionals in psychology, mental health, and education; as well as others interested in the prevalTable of Contents1. Getting Things Done: Trumpism and The New Normal 2. Lying 3. Trump: A role model for lying 4. Cheating 5. Trump: A role model for cheating 6. Bullying 7. Trump: A role model for bullying 8. Narcissism 9. Trump: A role model for narcissism 10. Moral reasoning, moral emotions, and mechanisms of moral disengagement 11. How Trump lies, cheats, and bullies while still loving himself 12. Development of a liar, cheat, bully, and narcissist 13. Implications and recommendations

Read more less

Book SynopsisIntense emotions â whether your own or your childâs â can make it incredibly difficult to be the parent you want to be. This book is designed to help you become a more emotionally agile parent so you can better navigate whatever emotional storms you inevitably encounter. Emotion-Savvy Parenting is an empowering, science-informed guide for breaking free of the hold that unwanted emotions so often have over parents. With compassion and wit, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Alissa Jerud draws on decades of research to present a refreshing, theory-driven approach that encourages parents to focus on changing the only behaviors they truly have control over: their own. Rooted in highly effective, cognitive-behavioral strategies and a respectful, relationship-centered stance, her ART (Accept, Regulate, and Tolerate) framework enables parents to relate more skillfully to challenging emotions, model invaluable lessons, connect more deeply with their k

Read more less

Book SynopsisIn this complementary workbook to How to Talk with Anyone about Anything, New York Times bestselling authors Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt give applicable tips on how to have Safe Conversations with everyone.For centuries, our methods of communication have resulted in disagreement, which has led to frustration, anxiety, and anger. Conversations have become angry, anxious ones. We see polarization not only in our personal lives and work environment, but certainly in the political arena. Clearly, the world needs a new communication method so people can talk to each other successfully.In the How to Talk with Anyone about Anything workbook, Harville and Helen share the wisdom of Safe Conversations and four skills that are structured and teachable: Dialogue: practice shifting from monologue to dialogue to foster safety and collaboration A commitment to zero negativi

Read more less

a huge range and FREE tracked UK delivery on ALL orders.

Read more less

Book SynopsisThere’s a quiet epidemic in our culture: The fastest-growing type of family unit is grandparents charged with the task of raising their children’s children. Though there are myriad reasons for this—the death of one’s adult child, parental drug addiction, abusive living situations, or incarceration, to name a few—the effects tend to be the same: Senior citizens who expected to spend their golden years relaxing or traveling are now seeing their dreams dashed. Those on limited incomes are feeling the strain and are frightened about their futures. And the mental, spiritual, and physical exhaustion of parenting and disciplining children many decades their junior, exacerbated by a technology gap, is overwhelmingly real. And yet, through their sacrificial service, these seniors are acting as kinsman-redeemers for their grandchildren—keeping them out of the foster care system and giving them the best shot possible for a successful life. In When Grandparents Become Parents, experienced author Rick Johnson details both the challenges and solutions these heroic seniors face, offering strategies and resources (including real advice from other grandparents) to deal with major areas of stress—incorporating humor, common sense, and practical advice along the way.

Read more less

Book Synopsis

Read more less

Book SynopsisThe fifteenth fostering memoir by Cathy Glass.Danny was petrified and clung to me in desperation as I carried him to my car. Trapped in his own dark world, he couldn''t understand why his parents no longer loved or wanted him, and were sending him away.While Danny's parents have everything they could wish for in material terms, they are unable to care for their only child. This is where Cathy comes in. On a cold dark evening Danny finds a place in her home where he can be himself; away from his parents' impatience and frustration. Often in his own little world, six-year-old Danny finds it difficult to communicate, finding solace in his best friend and confidant George his rabbit.Cathy quickly becomes aware of his obsessively meticulous behaviour in addition to his love of patterns, he sees them everywhere and creates them at any opportunity in his play and also with his food. She realises that patience is the key to looking after Danny as well as her well-tried strategies for managin

Read more less

Book SynopsisRelationships everywhere are in crisis due to our inability to talk about difference without polarizing. Since objection to difference is the core human problem, we need a skill that helps us connect beyond difference. That''s just what New York Times bestselling authors Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt offer in their new book: How To Talk With Anyone About Anything. They call it the Safe Conversations Dialogue process, which everyone can learn and teach, that moves all relationships from danger to safety, making connecting possible.For centuries, most of us humans have talked to others in monologues, believing that the world is the way we see it, that what we say about it is the truth and we have assumed that everyone sees it our way. If they do not, we experience tension and conflict on many levels. On the other hand, few of us have ever listened to others while they are talking and tried to see the world from their point of

Read more less

Book SynopsisThis classic volume, now completely revised, has helped tens of thousands of therapists integrate play therapy and family therapy techniques in clinical practice. Eliana Gil demonstrates a broad range of verbal and nonverbal strategies for engaging all family members--including those who are ambivalent toward therapy--and tailoring interventions for different types of presenting problems. Numerous case examples illustrate ways to effectively use puppets, storytelling, art making, the family play genogram, drama, and other expressive techniques with children, adolescents, and their parents. Gil offers specific guidance for becoming a more flexible, creative practitioner and shows how recent advances in neuroscience support her approach. Photographs of client artwork are included.New to This Edition*Incorporates 20 years of clinical experience and the ongoing development of Gil's influential integrative approach.*All-new case material.*Discusses how current brain rTrade Review“Every family and child therapist should read this book! Gil is the most creative family play therapist and teacher I have ever known. This second edition is the culmination of her career spent working in the trenches. She has translated her ability into a highly readable and useful guide that is straightforward and clear without oversimplifying issues, which takes genius. This book will be indispensable for any therapist interested in helping families--which nearly always requires working with children--and vice versa. Gil offers a brilliant summary of the roots of family play therapy and describes her fantastic work with family members to transform their problems and find imaginative solutions.”--Monica McGoldrick, LCSW, PhD (h.c.), Director, Multicultural Family Institute, Highland Park, New Jersey "In the second edition of her pioneering book on family play therapy, Gil has greatly amplified her unique contribution to the field. Gil stands alone in her masterful blend of solid theory; creativity; and spirited, playful engagement with families. The use of metaphor is one of the special gifts of both the author and this book. It features compelling illustrations of a wide range of clinically astute interventions that facilitate secure attachments in families. This positive, hopeful book will be treasured by clinicians and will ignite further enthusiasm for Gil's integrative treatment model."--David A. Crenshaw, PhD, ABPP, RPT-S, Clinical Director, Children's Home of Poughkeepsie, New York "This book has been a valuable resource for me in clinical practice, and for many years has been a required text in the play therapy courses I teach. The second edition provides a number of important updates. Therapists working with children, teens, and their families will benefit from Gil's thoughtful, integrative approach."--John W. Seymour, PhD, LMFT, RPT-S, Department of Counseling and Student Personnel, Minnesota State University, Mankato -The techniques suggested are very specific so that the reader could easily integrate them into family sessions after simply reading the chapter. The activities are also quite flexible, allowing the clinician to alter or modify them to suit the needs of the family….Given that any therapeutic work with children typically includes some level of parental involvement, this book may have broader appeal than to just the clinician who identifies as a family therapist. Even if the primary emphasis is on individual play therapy, clinicians may enjoy occasionally adding some simple family techniques and this book certainly offers resources to do that….Offers effective ideas, resources, and specific interventions for integrating play into therapeutic work with children.--Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 5/31/2017ƒƒProvides the reader with expert guidance for the use of play therapy techniques in work with families and their young children. Case examples are alive and instructive. (on the first edition)--Families in Society, 9/1/1996ƒƒProvides clinicians with information that will effectively help them when working with children and their families. It is certainly a book worth reading and utilizing. (on the first edition)--Journal of Family Psychotherapy, 4/3/2014ƒƒFor child clinicians who engage in play with children individually, this text provides important tools for overcoming barriers that may have made family therapy seem difficult or unworkable at times. (on the first edition)--AFTA Newsletter, 4/3/2014ƒƒEliana Gil, a master in play therapy in the context of family therapy, is an internationally acclaimed family and play therapist. Her trainings in play therapy are considered among the best ways to learn to work with creative arts in the field of family therapy. This book is as useful to beginning therapists as it is to experienced clinicians who want to know more about integrating play therapy in their work with families….This is a masterful work from a master in the field—a must-read for students in family therapy as well as clinicians working with children as well as adults.--Doody's Review Service, 2/26/2015Table of ContentsForeword, Matthew D. Selekman 1. The Rationale for Integrating Play and Family Therapy, Catherine Ford Sori with Eliana Gil 2. Obstacles and Opportunities in Utilizing Family Play Therapy, with Catherine Ford Sori 3. The Development of Clinical Creativity for Use in Family Play Therapy, with Lynn B. Hadley 4. Goldilocks's Peaceful Protest: The Use of Puppets and Storytelling 5. The Wolf Who Wanted to Be King of the World: The Use of Puppets and Storytelling 6. The Shark with a Heart of Gold: A Family Aquarium 7. The Sea Serpent Rises from the Sea: A Family Scribble Drawing Facilitates a Teen's Coming Out 8. The Owl Spreads His Wings: The Family Play Genogram Comes to Life 9. Love Leads the Way: When Clarity Emerges in a Couple's Scribble Drawing 10. "What's That Guy Doing in My Mouth"?: A Shark Story Illustrates the Use of Family Artwork in Assessing Family Dynamics 11. "Take Me to Your Leader": The Use of Drama Therapy Techniques to Provoke Family Change 12. Epilogue

Read more less

Book SynopsisThis parenting guide to ODD offers expert information on your child's condition, provides insight and empathy to what they are going through, and equips and empowers you to make practical changes in your parenting approaches. It provides an overview of tried-and-tested techniques from a mother of a child with ODD to support you in response to typical questions you may have:- "Why is my child acting this way?"- "What does this say about me?"- Why doesn't my child respond to punishment or reward?"- "What am I supposed to do next?"Overall this book teaches you how to avoid common mistakes in responding to ODD, the crossover with similar diagnoses such as ADHD, how to distinguish the disorders and how to improve your own resilience and confidence.Trade ReviewReading this book is like sitting down to coffee with a trusted-mom-friend who happens to spend all her free time reading research papers about children and behavior. Amelia Bowler helps parents see kids' challenging behavior from a new perspective offering hope along with practical, realistic advice. Parents will learn how to build resilience, foster connection, and improve communication to help kids who struggle with emotional self-regulation and prioritization. -- Alissa Marquess Zorn, Author of Bounceback Parenting, A Field Guide for Creating Connection Not PerfectionAmelia has a true gift of making really hard things doable. The subject of ODD may seem overwhelming, but she has given us this book to make the research accessible and the strategies easy to implement. She combines science and compassion to make a real difference for families and professionals alike. -- Leanne Page, BCBA, Parenting with ABAIn The Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Amelia Bowler has put together an invaluable resource for parents trying to make sense of their child's diagnosis. She clears up the myths, offers guidance and compassion, and helps parents understand how to best support their child's healthy development. -- Debbie Reber, founder, Tilt Parenting and author of Differently Wired: The Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and HopeTable of ContentsIntroductionPart I: Changing the way you see Oppositional Defiant DisorderChapter 1: Oppositional Defiant Disorder: the view from the outsideChapter 2: Struggles linked with Oppositional Defiant DisorderChapter 3: Cultural competence, misunderstandings and biasChapter 4: Managing Your Frustrations and ExpectationsPart II Changing the way the student sees youChapter 5: Control and AutonomyChapter 6 Leadership without coercionChapter 7: Building trust and connectionChapter 8: Responding to students in distressPART III Understanding your students' goals and needsChapter 9: Looking for the WHY of behaviourChapter 10: Common Classroom Struggles: Invisible DisabilitiesChapter 11: Skills that improve cooperation in the classroomChapter 12: Preparing to write an Individualized Behaviour PlanPART IV: Worksheets

Read more less

Book SynopsisThis book presents Nonviolent Resistance (NVR) for traumaâfocused care, adopting a systemic and traumaâorientated approach to aggressive and selfâdestructive behaviours in young people. Based on systemic therapy methods and principles in socioâpolitical NVR, NVR targets aggressive and selfâdestructive child behaviours in a relational way to help parents develop selfâefficacy in responding to the problematic behaviour and grow a supportive community around the family. In this book, Peter Jakob integrates the original NVR model with aspects of trauma and attachment theory, solutionâfocused therapy and narrative therapy, in order to expand the efficacy of NVR in traumaâfocused work. Grounded in Jakobâs extensive clinical experience and research, the book will help the reader navigate the complexity of working across various systems in family therapy and counselling, particularly within challenging contexts such as multiâstressed families, adoptive families, fosterâ and residential care

Read more less

Book SynopsisTrade Review“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “Clear, insightful . . . a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.” — Publishers Weekly “Finally a book has been written that teaches couples how to make genuine forgiveness a reality without rushing toward a superficial peace. This book can help couples construct a marriage that never existed before, one based on deep understanding and trust.” — John Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Relationship Cure “This book is a treasure—practical, authentic, illuminating, and wise. It’s like a breath of fresh air that puts forgiveness in a new and revealing light and provides clear steps to turn wounds into wisdom.” — Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy People “This book is a treasure trove for anyone who has ever felt betrayed or hurt in a personal relationship. Dr. Spring cuts through all the clichés surrounding forgiveness and views it within a broad spectrum of common relationships—mother-daughter, father-son, student-teacher, husband-wife. We owe her a debt of gratitude for this enlightened and penetrating view of a universal human dilemma.” — Peggy Papp, author of Couples on the Fault Line: New Directions for Therapists “A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge. A clinically informed personal guide for the offender and the offended. How Can I Forgive You? should be read by us all.” — Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want “Spring really shines. . . . Armed with her insights, offenders and those they’ve offended have hope of recovery.” — Bellingham Herald

Read more less

Book SynopsisAn essential new exploration of motherhood, illuminated with the very latest discoveries and research in biology, psychology and social scienceTrade ReviewTHE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX does for mothers in particular what INVISIBLE WOMEN did for women as a whole: exposes the myriad ways in which the system is stacked against us, while celebrating the strengths and successes we achieve in spite of it all. A meticulously researched investigation, and a movingly intimate memoir -- Leah Hazard * author of HARD PUSHED *A wonderful, compassionate, honest and scientific book. A must-read for mothers - and fathers too -- Professor Alice RobertsAn upbeat, authoritative tirade on the contradiction between what we think motherhood is supposed to be like and what it is really like ... Hogenboom unfurls a proper anatomy of motherhood, delving into the physical and emotional changes ... This book is reassuring, warm and subtly challenging -- Viv Groskop * Observer *[Melissa is] a really exciting thinker who has that wonderful ability to take lots of bits of information ... and then clarify in a way that makes it open and digestible -- Sophie Ellis-Bextor * Spinning Plates *A welcome, refreshing and clear-eyed look at the twenty-first century expectations of motherhood and what they can do to twenty-first century mothers. From the biological consequences, such as the self-fulfilling prophecies of a belief in the 'mummy' brain, to the political and legal consequences of the 'pregnant then screwed' type (all played out on the stage of social media), this book catalogues how the demands of parenting can damage women who become mothers. Women feel like less, so they have to do more! But it also offers uplifting insights into the more relaxed alternatives seen in other cultures. This is a wake-up call to encourage more positive ways of thinking about women-as-mothers, both to the parents themselves, to enjoy what they are doing, and to the society to which they are contributing, to value this contribution -- Gina Rippon * author of THE GENDERED BRAIN *Brilliant. Beautifully written and rigorously researched. A much-needed evidence-based voice in a world of so much taboo and sexist nonsense -- Lucy Jones * author of LOSING EDEN *THE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX offers a fascinating and deeply engrossing portrait of identity change after one of life's biggest events. Along the way, Melissa Hogenboom debunks many parenting myths, and dissects the paradoxical demands placed on mothers at home and in the workplace. THE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX shows that we need more open and honest conversations about our society's expectations of mothers. Anyone who cares about gender equality should read this book -- David Robson * author of THE INTELLIGENCE TRAP *Thank you Melissa Hogenboom for telling it like it is! Blending case studies with scientific findings, mums can now understand and appreciate their changing identity and use best practices as they journey through parenthood. A must-read from a superb and insightful writer and mum -- Kathy Hirsh-Pasek * Professor at Temple University; senior fellow, Brookings Institution; author of EINSTEIN NEVER USED FLASHCARDS and BECOMING BRILLIANT *

Read more less

Book SynopsisLoveSex and Relationships introduces a pleasure-focused rather than reproductive model of sex, exploring how our brains, minds, bodies and emotions interact to create our experience of sexuality.This book challenges the cultural commodification of sex and sexuality, and it encourages the reader to experience being sexual' rather than doing sex' or looking sexy'. This is crucial to our development of sexual selfesteem, particularly in the digital era of pornography, dating and hookup apps. Bringing the material of the first edition up to date, chapters include anatomical diagrams and social commentary with a focus on trauma and Polyvagal Theory. Diversity and cultural changes are also addressed, including a more expansive understanding of gender identity, and greater awareness of the impact of power and rank in sexual relationships. Lastly, each chapter features a new partnered exercise alongside every solo exercise from the first edition.The bookTrade Review‘LoveSex and Relationships takes the readers on an all-round tour of the brain, mind, body and emotions, in a jargon-free yet in-depth exploration of human sexuality and intimate relationships. Written in a warm tone and with a sex-positive philosophy, this book is the essential guide for anyone who wants to know more about sex and relationships. Cabby Laffy and Polly McAfee offer many reflective exercises that will help readers improve their sex lives and relationships. The authors expertly lift the lid on sensitive subjects that are often unspoken.’ Silva Neves, COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, speaker and author. ‘LoveSex and Relationships is an inclusive, up-to-date, accessible and engaging book about how sex and intimacy work. Drawing on a wide range of relevant theory and research, the authors present a compelling understanding of how mind, brain, body, and feeling work together - within our social and relational context - to shape our experience of love and desire. This book is a must-read for all sex and relationship practitioners and will be very helpful to share with clients who are grappling with these issues too.’Meg-John Barker, author of a number of popular books on sex, gender, and relationships, including graphic guides to Queer, Gender, and Sexuality, How To Understand Your Gender, Life Isn’t Binary, Enjoy Sex (How, When, and IF You Want To), Rewriting the Rules, and Hell Yeah Self Care. They have also written a number of books for scholars and counsellors on these topics, drawing on their own years of academic work and therapeutic practice. 'This book contains a systematic but delightful guide full of information and a model to work with for both students and qualified therapists looking for information on love and sex. Not only does the updated information provide solid knowledge but also embraces the nuances of the modern-day issues that affect mental and physical health. The texts and diagrams specifically help therapist to keep easy note of how to work with sexual dysfunctions and relationship issues. This book has already added a wealth of knowledge developing this field and the update will make a huge difference to the newcomers in the profession not forgetting those who will be encouraged to join the profession having read this book.' Rima Hawkins, AccCOSRT Psychosexual & Relationship Psychotherapist (Individuals, Couples & Polycules) AccCOSRT Supervisor Trauma Therapist - (EMDR Europe Accredited Practitioner - MEMDRAssoc - UK) Response to Domestic & Sexual Violence Specialist – Accredited Expert Witness in Court Gender Sexuality & Relationship Diversity (GSRD)/LGBTQiA plus Friendly Therapist - Adv. Accred GS&RD Therapist (Pink Therapy) Mentor for Pink Therapy Tutor for CICS Course Director – Dip. In Clinical Supervision, CICS.‘I would describe this book as beautiful. It offers an accessible and inclusive way to think about human sexuality in the contemporary context, uniquely and deftly integrating science based information with an acute awareness of and sensitivity to the impact of dominant social systems. It navigates the multidimensional human experience of love, sex and relationships across cultures and identities, with the depth of consideration reflective of the authors’ extensive psychotherapeutic experience. It is beautiful and important and will immediately go to the top of our recommended reading list.’ Julie Sale, COSRT Senior Accredited Sex and Relationship Therapist and UKCP Registered Psychotherapist, Director of the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology. ‘So much of how we talk and learn about sex is from a limited perspective, which further limits our capacity for sexual wellness and getting to our best sexual relationship with ourself and others, and LoveSex and Relationships is the antithesis of that. Using the homeodynamic model examines sex through a holistic lens encompassing the huge breadth of factors that are influencing us and making us the sexual person that we are today. Most importantly LoveSex and Relationships is pleasure focused and sex positive meaning that it pushes back against so much we are taught about sex which is through a shame-based model. It’s a must read for all, but especially for clinicians working with those in mental health and psychological contexts.’Kate Moyle, BSc, PGDip, MA, AccCOSRT, Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist, Accredited Member of COSRT & Registered by UKCP, EFS & ESSM Certified Psycho-Sexologist, Host of The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast.Table of Contents1. LoveSex and Relationships 2. A New Model for Sexuality 3. The Sexploration Exercises 4. Mind 5. Body 6. Brain 7. Emotion 8. Conclusion 9. About the Authors 10. References and Further Reading

Read more less