Dating and relationships Books

Book SynopsisHow to let love into our lives, and how to express that love to the world at large—the latest from a best-selling author.We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. It’s nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but knowing that doesn’t make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. We’re often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to share love with those around us—and love that isn''t shared leaves us feeling flat and unfulfilled. David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others. The first challenge is that we have a hard time letting love in: recognizing it, accepting it from others. We''re afraid of it, of getting hurt. The second, related problem is that we''re unable to share love with those around us--and love that isn''t shared isn''t truly love. The first step to learning to love and be loved, according to Richo''s model, is to identify the different levels of love so that you can hit each one separately. He breaks it down to three:   • Level One: Positive Connection. As simple as being courteous, respectful, helpful, and honest, and decent in all our dealings. Pretty basic, but it makes the world a better place, and it''s the essential foundation for growing in love.    • Level Two: Caring and Personal Connection. Intimacy and commitment to friends, family, partners, lovers. Commitment to others.    • Level Three: Unconditional and Universal. Transcending the love of individuals to the love of all beings; self-sacrificing. The love expressed in the Sermon on the Mount and the Bodhicharyavatara. This level of love isn''t for a heroic few, it''s everyone''s calling. He then shows us how to incorporate these varieties of love into our lives. It''s a relief to know that even just aspiring to incorporate them really changes things. He also provides exercises and guided meditations for identifying and getting through the things that keep you from getting and giving love at each of these three levels.Through the lens of these types of love, Richo covers topics such as: how to still be yourself while loving another; how to embrace your dark side; what to do when the one who loves you dies; need versus fear; clinging; healthy sexuality, including fantasies and how to experience pleasure without guilt; how to break distructive patterns in your relationships; and how to have safe conversations with your loved one.Richo provides wisdom from Buddhism, psychology, and a range of spiritual traditions, along with a wealth of practices both for avoiding the pitfalls that can occur in love relationships and for enhancing the way love shows up in our lives. He then leads us on to love’s inevitable outcome: developing a heart that loves universally and indiscriminately. This transcendent and unconditional love isn’t just for a heroic few, Richo shows, it’s everyone’s magnificent calling.

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Book SynopsisWith exercises, practical tools, and inspiring stories, Deeper Dating will guide you on a journey to find the love?and personal fulfillment?you long forLose weight. Be confident. Keep your partner guessing. At the end of the day, this soulless approach to dating doesn''t lead to love but to insecurity and desperation. In Deeper Dating, Ken Page presents a new path to love. Out of his decades of work as a psychotherapist and his own personal struggle to find love, Pageteaches that the greatest magnet for real love lies in our "Core Gifts"?the places of our deepest sensitivity, longing, and passion.Deeper Dating guides us to discover our own Core Gifts and empowers us to express them with courage, generosity, and discrimination in our dating life. When we do this, something miraculous happens: we begin to attract people who love us for who we are, we become more self-assured and emotionally available, and we lose our taste for relationships that chip away at our self-esteem. Without losing a pound, changing our hairstyle, or buying a single new accessory, we find healthy love moving closer . . .Deeper Dating integrates the best of human intimacy theory with timeless spiritual truths and translates them into a practical, step-by-step process.

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Book SynopsisDating is drastically different now than it used to be. Years ago, divorce was considered socially taboo, and people married for life; today, however, having multiple marriages and committed relationships has become the norm, making it essential for those who are single (and seeking relationships) to shift in their search to find the right partner.A relatable reference for each stage of the dating process, Stow Your Luggage When Dating directly speaks to the reader’s need for healing from previous relationships and the importance of self-worth before getting back into the dating game. Marlisse Testa, L.M.H.C., offers valuable tools and strategies for daters of any age or experience level. She outlines all the information necessary for those entering the dating pool, preparing for a date, connecting with others, and selecting a partner for life.

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Book SynopsisA lighthearted, cheeky, and judgment-free handbook from sober sexpert Tawny Lara on how to have better sex, better dates, and better partnerships without relying on alcohol! When you re intimidated or overwhelmed, it s easy to turn to alcohol to feel more relaxed and outgoing. But what if you want to cut back or cut out alcohol from your life? What do you do on dates? How do you soothe worries and hang-ups? And how the heck do you get up the nerve to be naked with someone new? In Dry Humping, you will learn how to have better dates, sex, and partnerships with tools like: Booze-free date ideas Scripts for awkward conversations Interviews with experts Thought-provoking prompts Perspectives from a diverse range of regular people And more! You don t need alcohol to have a fun, carefree, fulfilling dating life. Dry Humping offers you the tools to step away from alcohol, for however long you want to, while also having more fun in and out of the bedroom.Trade Review“An insider view on what it means to date and live sober and offers tips for readers struggling with things like body dysmorphia, addiction, and just plain bad dates. Lara’s authentic approach may inspire readers to take action to improve their own lives”—Library Journal“Tawny Lara is the Esther Perel of sober dating. Whether you're cutting back on alcohol or cutting it out entirely, she has all the tips and advice you need to find the relationship and sex life of your dreams. Dry Humping is one of the most empathetic and hilarious books I've read this year.”—Gigi Engle, certified sex educator, psychotherapist, and author of All The F*cking Mistakes“As a therapist specializing in substance use, sex and dating are often the biggest barriers that prevent folks from getting sober or cutting back. Tawny has written THE definitive guide to both. I cannot wait to share this book with clients!”—Amanda E. White, LPC, @therapyforwomen and author of Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love “Dry Humping is an insightful, digestible, and amusing guide to sober dating and sex. Tawny Lara is truly the sober sexpert of this generation. A must-read for anybody who's interested in sober living and relating in this booze-ful world!”—Dr. Tara, world famous sex and relationship coach, tenured professor, author, and tech advisor“We’ve been sold a phony film narrative in every movie since we watched our first teen rom-com in junior high: that liquid courage leads to lifelong romance. Tawny Lara’s Dry Humping expertly explains why that’s a lie and teaches how to reframe drinking in the dating discourse. Dry Humping is an uplifting, down-to-earth, meet-you-where-you’re-at guide guaranteed to change the story of alcohol in your life.”—Ted Mandell, Notre Dame Professor of Drunk on Film: The Psychology of Storytelling with Alcohol and Its Effects on Alcohol Consumption“Dry Humping is an absolute gem. From the title on, I was drawn in by Tawny’s humor, knowledge, and tact with topics like emotional intimacy, sex, and communication. As a person with long-term sobriety and in a long-term committed relationship, I wasn’t expecting to learn much, but I was wrong! This is a must-read for anyone who wants to strengthen their intimate relationships.”—Emily Lynn Paulson, founder of Sober Mom Squad and author of Hey, Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and the Other Lies Behind Multilevel Marketing“Tawny Lara is the sober sex guru of our generation...a brilliant example of a sexy sober person living boldly. With this guide, we will know ourselves better and choose better partners because of it. Sober-curious or not, we all need this book."—Paulina Pinsky, co-author of It Doesn't Have to Be Awkward“Dry Humping is the ultimate wingman (or woman! Or person!) for anyone looking to navigate the dating world sober-style. Tawny Lara’s insights and booze-free date ideas will leave you feeling confident and in control of your love life and empowered. Dry Humping is the sober dating bible you never knew you needed. With Tawny Lara’s help, you’ll learn how to charm your way through any awkward situation, no alcohol required.”—Erin Lee Carr, author of All That You Leave Behind: a Memoir“A fresh, enlightening, and inclusive look into sober dating, sex, love, relationships...and everything in between (the sheets)!”—Amanda Kuda, Author of Unbottled Potential: Break Up with Alcohol and Break Through to Your Best Life“Dry Humping is the book I was missing when I first quit drinking. Tawny brings such warmth and relatability to the subject that even the most fearful of sober daters will come out of this read more optimistic. There's a universality to her advice that extends far beyond people who recently quit drinking. I recommend this book to anyone looking to explore dating with fresh eyes.”—Ginny Hogan, author of I'm More Dateable than a Plate of Refried Beans“Dry Humping gives you a roadmap that’s not only inspiring, transformative, humorous, and engaging from the very first page; Tawny gifts you with a manifesto that cuts through the BS and will equip you with practical tools so you can reclaim yourself and your sex life. Count me the heck in!”—Africa Brooke, Consultant, Mentor, Writer

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Book SynopsisPartners of people in transition go through their own transitions and may or may not be conflicted as to whether they will remain in their relationship. This unique self-help workbook was created for and focuses on the partner's perspective and own journey. By providing the support and structure needed for partners to reflect, this resource helps navigate the unexpected transition that affects both of their lives. Providing an essential tool that is currently missing, this book gives guidance and advice specifically designed for this situation, alongside activities, quizzes, and personal anecdotes. By combining portions of the author's self-exploration-as the partner of someone who began to transition after 17 years of being in their relationship- with the experiences shared by those who attended her workshops, this workbook examines the challenges, uncertainties, and possible grieving some partners experience throughout the transition process. With space for responding to reflective questions, exercises and games, this workbook offers partners a safe haven to discover their own wants and needs and will be of interest to both couples and individual counselors.Trade ReviewA definitive text, destined to be widely recommended by health professionals caring for partners of trans and gender non-conforming people everywhere. -- John C. Capozuca, PhD, Charter Member, Board of Directors, United States Professional Association for Transgender Health (USPATH) and Licensed Psychologist, New York CityThis book brings together the author's own experience, her passion for education, and her commitment to giving voice to the underrepresented partners of those in transition, in an informative and insightful manner! -- Denise Lasiuk, wife of a transgender person and advocate of the communityThis book is desperately needed in the field of transgender mental health. I would recommend it to my patients who want resources for partners to help them adjust to their loved-one's transition. -- Katherine Rachlin, PhD, Clinical Psychologist and former member of the Board of Directors of the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)

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Book SynopsisRelationships are fundamental to our quality of life and we strive to understand them and make them better. The tarot persuades us to look deeply and more carefully at every aspect of both our love and our work relationships.In both our love lives and work relationships, tarot readings can instil a sense of deeper understanding and more careful consideration. Whether you feel let down by your best friend, stuck in a stagnant relationship, or sensing friction at work the Tarot can be a powerful tool for making decisions.From the triumphs to the heartbreaks, it can help us to assess current situations or future events with extraordinary accuracy, and its 78 cards allow it to cover a huge variety of possibilities. Tarot for Love & Relationships includes sample readings using both classic spreads and new arrangements, and illustrated with the classic Rider Waite deck, this is a complete guide to navigating relationships with the Tarot.

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Book Synopsis'A superb romcom, with relatable and loveable characters that literally burst from the pages. With laugh-out-loud moments, woven between a heartwarming and hopeful story, it charmed me from the first page'Carmel HarringtonTrue love is only just a swipe away? Right?Iris lives by numbers. The only thing missing from her perfectly calibrated life is a partner - and not for lack of trying. After decades of disappointment, Iris practically has a PhD in online dating. But something still eludes her: that unquantifiable spark.Kim is too busy being the life of the party to look for love. Her terrible dates make great stories for her friends and co-workers, as long as she's not caught by her tyrannical boss, Iris.Connie, Kim's recently widowed mum, is single for the first time since the 1970s. The dating game has changed a lot since her day . . .Sick of being let down, Iris takes matters into her own hands - using her analytical skills to create the first real formula for love. With Kim and Connie on board, they launch Analyzed, a dating app like no other.As Analyzed takes the world by storm, are the three women in over their heads? Is love really just a numbers game?'A laugh on every page, entirely empathetic characters and a warm heart in the middle of the story. I found this book highly entertaining and totally satisfying' Liz NugentPraise for Claudia Carroll:'Brilliantly funny' Sun'An immensely talented writer' Sinéad Moriarty'Brilliant' BellaTrade ReviewA superb romcom, with relatable and loveable characters that literally burst from the pages. With laugh-out-loud moments, woven between a heartwarming and hopeful story, it charmed me from the first page. In short, I couldn't put it down, the perfect summer read! * Carmel Harrington *A laugh on every page, entirely empathetic characters and a warm heart in the middle of the story. I found this book highly entertaining and totally satisfying * Liz Nugent *

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Book SynopsisBangkok, 1980. As the decades pass, figures fall in and out of the relentless city: Pea and Nam, who arrive in search of a better life; a Thai Elvis impersonator and his only daughter, Pinky; Benz, Tintin and Big, a brotherhood of orphaned strayboys; Rick, the white American patriarch who abandons his Thai family when the going gets tough; Hasmah, whose bloody, hidden work is driven by secessionist rage. Sex tourism, Buddhist cults, gambling rings and skin-whitening routines threaten to take over a city reeling from financial crisis - in a nation constantly reinventing itself, anything can happen...

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Book SynopsisShare memories, affection, and promises with the one you love with this unique and inspiring book of letters. Part of the blockbuster bestsellingLetters to . . . series!*An Oprah's Favorite Things Pick*The must-have romance book! Nothing is more romantic than a handwritten love letter. Declare your affection in this keepsake collection of aerograms that capture a moment in time and serve as an enduring expression of love. Like a dozen grand gestures in one, this innovative format invites romantics to declare their affection to their beloved in 12 fold-and-mail letters to be opened in the future.Letters to My Love includes 12 letters that each begin with a unique prompt, such as:- When we first met . . . - What I love about us . . . - It's the little things, like when . . . - I promise to you . . . Plus two blank templates to personalize with your own ideas, these letters will inspire love notes to remind your sweetheart how much your relationship means to you. Postdate each envelope, seal with a kiss (and one of the included stickers), and gift this book of love to your sweetheart for future opening.THE GIFT OF LOVE: Ideal gift for Valentine's Day, wedding anniversaries, long-distance relationships, or engaged couples. Creator and recipient will treasure this paper time capsule of their time together for years to come. TIME-TESTED AND ENDURINGLY POPULAR: Created by Lea Redmond, author of the bestselling Letters to . . . book series that has sold more than 2 million copies worldwide and includes Letters to My Mom, Letters to My Baby, and Letters to My Grandparent. LETTERS TO OPEN WHEN: The finished set of special notes makes a great gift for a wedding day, anniversary, or milestone birthday. Fans have praised the special value of having a sample of a loved one's handwriting to cherish always.Perfect for:- Valentine's Day, anniversary, engagement, or wedding shower gift - A fresh twist on a guided journal or memory book to capture special moments with a significant other to share in the future - An engaging way to record family history for posterity - Fans and users of other bestsellers in the Letters to . . . series

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Book SynopsisWhen was the last time you asked your romantic partner a truly thought-provoking question that illuminated what was special about your connection? This essential guide by the creator of The Skin Deep's bestselling conversation decks unveils a powerful set of questions to spark meaningful conversations. These 12 questions - such as “What is the pain in me you wish you could heal?” - have been proven to nurture authentic intimacy and amplify joy in your relationship, regardless of age, gender, or sexuality. Drawn from countless hours observing (and holding space for) intimate conversations unfold, author Topaz Adizes shows you how to be braver, go deeper, discover the profound power of vulnerability, and uncover the magic that awaits when you dare to ask the real questions. This book provides the path to feeling more connected with your partner than ever before.Trade Review“I’ve known Topaz for over a decade, and 12 Questions for Love is a perfect example of the incredibly curious, open, and uniting person behind {THE AND}. These seemingly simple questions distill years of observations, encouraging us to discuss what matters most and allow our relationships to thrive. Empowering and insightful, with heartfelt solutions to real-life problems, this is the book I wish I could’ve given to my younger self.”—Jodie Whittaker, actor“In today’s info-saturated world, answers are easy to come by—but powerful, connective questions are what we need more than ever. In this game-changing book, inspired by his award-winning film series, Topaz Adizes shares a dozen questions that can deepen and enrich the most important relationships in your life. Buy this book not just for yourself, but for the people you truly care about.”—Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful Question“Save yourself another round of heartbreak and breakups and read this first. Topaz condenses years of wisdom into 12 powerful questions that will give you the keys to unlock real, true, and profound love so you don’t have to keep searching (or suffering) in disconnected relationships.”—Natalie Kuhn, spiritual teacher and co-CEO of The Class“When we pose a question to someone we love and listen deeply to their reply, we not only learn, we deepen our human bond with them. In this moving book, Topaz Adizes gives us the profound gift of questions that will transform our relationships, and our lives, forever.”—Jeff Wetzler, author of Ask: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You

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Book SynopsisSweet, fun, and lighthearted, I Wrote a Book About You is designed to be filled out by you and given to someone you like a lot--a spouse, a best friend, a sister, or even an awesome co-worker.

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Book SynopsisThis collection of essays proposes that we don't need perfection to be happy. So long as we enter our relationships in the right spirit, we have every chance of coping well enough with, and even delighting in, the inevitable and distinctive wrongness that lies in ourselves and our beloveds.

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Book SynopsisArguably the most memorable speaker ever on the subject of love, Leo Buscaglia’s talks to earlier generations connected with millions. Remarkably, the content and messages of his talks remain as relevant today as they were when first delivered. Living, Loving and Learning is a delightful collection of Buscaglia's informative and amusing lectures, delivered worldwide between 1970 and 1981. This inspirational book is for all those eager to accept the challenge of life and to profit from the wonder of love. “An investment in life is an investment in change . . . When you are changing all the time, you’ve got to continue to keep adjusting to change, which means that you are going to be constantly facing new obstacles. That’s the joy of living. And once you are involved in the process of becoming, there is no stopping. You’re doomed! You’re gone! But what a fantastic journey!”

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Book SynopsisWhy didn't he call you back? Why doesn't he talk to your friends? Why does he keep putting off your dates? This book has the answers. Now the international bestseller is re-released to change the lives of a new generation.This is a hilarious, playful, honest explanation of male behaviour from a writer and a consultant of Sex and the City. Stop wasting your time chasing after men who aren''t into you, and find men who are! Greg Behrendt provides the insight you need to move on and find them.The idea behind He's Just Not That Into You' came from a conversation between Greg Behrendt and his fellow (female) SATC writers, when they asked his advice one day. This conversation became the seed of an episode which struck a powerful chord with viewers. Before long, Greg became aware that this simple phrase had the power to change women's lives.He's Just Not That Into You' is now a worldwide phenomenon. Over 100k copies have been sold across all editions, it has topped bestseller charts internatiTrade Review‘The publishing sensation of the year.’ The Daily Telegraph ‘A new dating book, HJNTIY, is taking Britain by storm… The book cuts to the core of men's behaviour.’ Daily Mail ‘Sometimes an idea for a new book is so blindingly obvious that we think we should have written it ourselves. The concept behind He's Just Not That Into You is simple but speaks universal truth about the excuses men come up with to fob off women.’ Daily Express ‘This book, by the relationship consultants on Sex and the City, will be something of a godsend, as it aims to make life easier for women who want to get past the crappy get-out lines fellas use. It's wickedly hilarious, and it's sure to turn you into a stronger, better-equipped gal!’ OK Magazine 'This book should be on every single woman's nightstand!…Six words to change your life forever.’ Oprah Winfrey

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Book Synopsis"A brilliantly observed book that decodes modern dating from A to Z... Brilliantly witty translation of what men really mean." - Femail, Daily MailTinder Translator is a hilarious and revealing feminist commentary on dating apps and the patriarchy, from Aileen Barratt of @TinderTranslators. Ten years after the introduction of Tinder, dating apps have changed the terrain of human interaction, but many feel like they’ve been sent into the wilderness without a guide. For those dating cis-het men especially, the blatant misogyny encountered during every swipe session is depressing and enraging in equal measure. And then there is the not-so-blatant stuff. Scrolling through profile after profile, you’ll see the same stock phrases: Good vibes only. Must have banter. Just ask. But what do they actually mean? Through her Instagram account, Aileen has heard from thousands of people on their dating experiences, in addition to her own years spent on dating apps. This dictionary of douchebaggery is part reference, part rant and part rallying cry for anyone navigating the sometimes gross and exhausting experience of dating, but also just for everyone who is sick of the patriarchy, whatever their relationship status. A fun small hardback, Tinder Translator is the perfect gift for friends (or for yourself) – whether they're dating or not. It will make you laugh, sigh, think, and leave you feeling empowered and resilient. Trade Review‘Incisive social commentary delivered with a spoonful of arsenic.’ – Clementine Ford 'Never have I felt more seen within the scope of dating than while reading this book.' – Stephanie Yeboah 'A must-read for anyone who wants to read between the lines on dating apps.' – Lalaletmeexplain ‘Ruining the minds of decent women.’ –Angry Internet Man

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Book SynopsisThe perfect gift for newly engaged couple, the newly married couple, or those who have been married for years ! It all began with 'As You Grow', the wildly popular modern baby book by artist Korie Herold. In her second book, 'As We Grow: A Modern Memory Book for Married Couples', Korie creates a place to celebrate and remember the details of your marriage. Record the story of how you live and love and preserve it in writing – a treasure you can pass to your children and grandchildren. Sections include: How We Met; The Engagement; Guest Book for Wedding Day; Our Wedding and Honeymoon; Our First Year; Anniversaries; Beliefs, Traditions, & Holidays We Celebrate; Kids, Vacations, and the Times That Shaped Us; Letters to Each Other. Special features include: Chic, timeless design; Elegant linen cover; Ample space for photos; Lay-flat design for writing; Pocket section dividers to safely store keepsakes; Acid-free and archival paper; Thoughtful prompts to encourage you to reflect and celebrate.

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Book SynopsisThe author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time returns with an updated guide for today's generation. Two decades ago, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus revolutionized the way we thought about love and partnership. John Gray's work has helped countless readers improve and even save their relationships. But as society evolves, relationships do, too. It's time to move beyond Mars and Venus, toward a new relationship model for modern couples. Today, men and women are no longer trapped by rigid societal roles. Now more than ever, we have the freedom to be our authentic selves. Women can access their masculine side, and men can embrace their feminine side. This new freedom is a good thing, but it also brings new challenges. Men and women still need the right tools and skills to help build stronger relation- ships. While previous generations sought "role mate" relationships, based on the more rigid gender roles of the time, today's couples need a new kind of relationship: a "soul mate" relationship. These more emotionally satisfying relationships require a deeper understanding of our partners' individual needs. In Beyond Mars and Venus, Gray teaches you how to strengthen your bond and grow in love together, so you and your loved one can meet each other's needs in the best way possible, bringing you lasting happiness and a fulfilling partnership.Trade Review"No one delivers greater wisdom about relationships than John Gray. In Beyond Mars and Venus, he provides much-needed guidance as to how to navigate the path of love in complicated times like these." Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author "A true expert understands that as times change, tried-and-true methods must be reexamined and updated. John Gray not only embraces the unique challenges in modern relationships, but his tools and wisdom are every bit as helpful today as ever." Jack Canfield, New York Times bestselling author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series "Twenty years after his earth-shaking Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray has opened up a whole new universe of helpful relationship advice in Beyond Mars and Venus. His explanation of love and intimacy in the 21st century will rock your world." Harvey Mackay, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive "Leave it to John Gray, whose creativity framed gender differences in planetary terms as Mars and Venus, starting a never-ending conversation about the differences between men and women, to go Beyond Mars and Venus and make the discussion relevant for contemporary couples. All couples, traditional or modern, will be informed by this perceptive thinker about relationships." Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, authors of Getting the Love You Want and Making Marriage Simple "How do we achieve true love in today's stressful, chaotic world? . . . Becoming comfortable in our new roles allows for each of us to be seen, heard, and affectionate with one another. Being able to express these inherent sides of ourselves clearly determines our strengths and need for stress management and choosing balance. Greater intimacy and deep love are the gifts. I love this book." Suzanne Somers "John Gray's famous book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has changed countless lives for the better (including mine) and has helped so many people live in greater happiness. This new guide offers tools and wisdom that are as helpful today as ever." Marci Shimoff, professional speaker, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason and Love for No Reason, and coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul "John Gray provides brilliant guidance for the rapidly changing state of gender roles in our relationships. Beyond Mars and Venus is required reading for all couples who are serious about growing and thriving in love together." Arielle Ford, author of Turn Your Mate into Your SoulmateTable of ContentsIntroduction Beyond Mars and Venus From Role Mate to Soul Mate Your Unique Self Differences Attract and Create Lasting Passion Testosterone Is from Mars Estrogen Is from Venus The Risks of Taking Hormones Women, Hormones, and Happiness You Time, Me Time, We Time She Needs to Be Heard and He Needs to Be Appreciated His Love Needs, Her Love Needs Mars and Venus Come Together The Complaint-Free Relationship Epilogue Acknowledgments About the Author

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Book Synopsis“If you want to be a better lover and have an amazing relationship (now or in the future), Cupid''s Poisoned Arrow is a must-read.” —real reader review Eyes met, sparks flew—all fireworks and passion. In the beginning, it felt like magic…but somewhere along the way, the flame burnt out. That cute quirk you used to love doesn’t seem so cute anymore. The connection and fire that brought you together are lost—and you may feel hurt, unsure, or disconnected. You might be trying in vain to change your partner. You may even resign yourself to a passionless fate.Ancient sages recognized the lull in intimacy, passion, and connection that happens in even the most solid relationships—and hinted at the ways we can overcome it. With an entertaining blend of personal experiences, neuroscientific research, and amorous insights from around the world, Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow shows that we can use lovemaking to balance one another—and let harmony arise naturally.Here, you’ll discover the twenty-one Exchanges, a series of intimacy-building activities that can help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. These exchanges speak directly to the part of your brain that can fall in love—and stay in love—and are based on touch, eye contact, and attentiveness.By focusing on generous pampering rather than self-stimulation, you can create a nourishing cocoon of comfort and safety…and deepen your connection through bonding-based intimacy. Incorporating the principles of yin and yang, the Exchanges offer a balanced approach that emphasizes giving and receiving to spark a fulfilling sexual connection between you and your partner.Discover why real readers are saying “It works!” and “I wish I had read this book 10 years ago.” You’ll never look back.

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Book SynopsisGet the most out of any relationship-based reading with this practical guide.

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Book SynopsisThis updated edition of Maxine Aston's workbook is packed full of insightful, helpful and easily accessible activities for couples where one or both partners is on the autism spectrum to understand and accept their differences. This book expands on topics including verbal and non-verbal communication, sexual issues, socialising and parenting, with case studies from couples who have successfully worked through their issues. This edition is fully updated for the DSM-V and features new research into alexithymia, further insights into couples counselling, digital communication and sensory sensitivity, with new worksheets and opportunities for collaboration and reflection. Combining advice, guidance and activities, this book can be used independently by a couple at home or in conjunction with a therapist, encouraging communication and empathy to help make a neurodiverse relationship successful.Trade ReviewEvery day I hear from either the ASD or non-ASD partner asking me what to do and what strategies to apply in their relationships. Chock-full of practical tips and perceptive illustrations, Maxine's book has long been a go-to resource for me as a clinician and a trusted companion to so many couples around the world and this updated edition is even better! -- Eva A. Mendes, author of Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger’s Syndrome for The New Autistic Couple's WorkbookFull of practical advice and insights this book will undoubtedly be of help to couples negotiating the unique challenges when one partner is on the autism spectrum. -- Joanna Pike, founder of Different Together and author of Neurodiverse RelationshipsTable of Contents1. Understanding Difference 2. Communication 3. Expressing Feelings and Alexithymia 4. Non-Verbal Communication 5. Meltdowns 6. Social Interaction 7. Sensory Sensitivity 8. Sexual Issues9. Parenting 10. Home Life 11. The Four Stumbling Blocks in AS/NT Relationships12. Couple Therapy 13. Diagnosis 14. Who to Tell about Asperger? 15. What is Cassandra? 16. Maintaining the Relationship Together 17. Difference Can Work

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Book SynopsisJoin the nation''s favourite married couple and chart-topping podcast hosts, Abbey Clancy and Peter Crouch, as they discuss the realities of modern relationships in this hilarious and relatable guide.From the moment you swipe right or lock eyes across a crowded bar, you step onto a rollercoaster ride of dating, first kisses and romantic weekends away. Then before you know it, you''re meeting the in-laws, moving in together and walking down the aisle. It''s not all highs, there are lows too: you''ve got your other half''s annoying habits to discover and you need to learn how to win every argument in pursuit of always being right.When kids come along, sexy text messages make way for school whatsapp groups and suddenly you have no time for one another. Life is a blur of nappies, sleepless nights and chauffeuring as your offspring embark on a more colourful social life than you could dream of. That first date might just be the start of a relationship that l

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Book SynopsisAn accessible and fun guide to kinky practices for everyoneEverything you wanted to know about kinky practices is covered in this highly entertaining and readable book. Known for her bold, witty prose on all matters related to the bedroom, Kate Sloan makes this an accessible subject for anyone curious about new ways to spice up their sex lives. Whether you are looking for ideas, clarification, or just an enjoyable read, there is plenty here to keep you intrigued. The text is accompanied by helpful tips and illustrations.

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Book SynopsisFrom John Gray, author of the phenomenal multi-million copy bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, comes the definitive book for men and women seeking lasting love in the face of modern pressures.Trade ReviewPraise for Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: ‘The Daddy of all such studies’ The Telegraph ‘Devoted readers praise Mr. Gray as the saviour of their marriages and his book as the brick that finally knocks some sense into their mates’ Washington Times ‘When I was 21 and freshly dumped by Harry, my first really grown-up boyfriend, where did I turn but John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus? It was reassuring to know the reason I’d been dumped wasn’t because I was rubbish in bed’ New Woman ‘Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus has shed light on countless relationship problems, offering an explanation for many social inequalities… a hot topic of debate in households and offices throughout the world’ Eastern Daily Press

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Book SynopsisShows you how to take control of your romantic destiny by using the Law of Attraction.Trade Review"[T]here is an undeniably upbeat sweetness to Ford's New Age guide to finding love... Be open to the world and its possibilities." -- USA Today "The Soulmate Secret will inspire you and give you a glimpse that this can be a magical journey and you can truly attract, manifest and find your soulmate." -- Deepak Chopra, New York Times bestselling author of Buddha "Arielle Ford provides a beautiful way to let go of any hurts of the past and bring new love into your life today. Practical, inspiring, and hopeful, The Soulmate Secret leaves even the most cynical about love ready to find a soulmate." -- Marianne Williamson, bestselling author of A Return to Love "Read this inspiring book! Arielle Ford has written an entertaining, insightful guide to attracting genuine love into your life. Best of all, Arielle's thriving marriage is living proof that the tools she gives you can produce magical results." -- Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving and Spirit-Centered Relationships "This is a wonderful book, full of hope and wisdom." -- Christiane Northrup, MD, author of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom "Those who find their soul mate through this work will thank Arielle Ford forever." -- Neale Donald Walsch, author of Conversations with God "Arielle Ford, in inspiring and encouraging terms, offers from her direct experience how to prepare in consciousness, heart and spirit to magnetize, recognize and respond to the soul's call for an authentic, conscious love relationship." -- Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation "To find the love of your life and delight, read this book and manifest the one for you in the sweet now-and-now." -- Mark Victor Hansen, co-creator Chicken Soup for the Soul "The Soulmate Secret contains the recipe for love, romance, and unimaginable futures, a recipe that I watched my sister Arielle Ford create and live. This book outlines all the ingredients for getting the love that you truly desire and deserve. Read it now and let the love begin." -- Debbie Ford, author of Why Good People Do Bad Things "This book could bring miracles to your love life...This simple but profound little book presents a highly interesting and informative plan..." -- Beliefnet.com

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Book Synopsis'The man who coaches husbands on how to avoid divorce' The New York Times 'One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating' Daily Mail 'Could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages' Literary Review One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a phone-in-therapist's advice to 'journal his feelings,' Matthew Fray started a blog. As he tried to piece together how his ex-wife went from adoring to angry he realised that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a bad husband. From the raw, uncomfortable and darkly humorous stories he shared about the lessons he's learned from his failed marriage comes this strangely hopeful guide to saving relationships. This is How Your Marriage Ends offers immediately actionable advice to help readers identify toxic behaviour patterns in their own lives, and break them out of the cycles of dysfunction that ruin relationships. This is a must-read for people in any stage of a relationship, whether it's near the beginning or nearing the end. Good people can be bad partners - here's how to ensure that isn't you.Trade ReviewFray's insight is to realise that the substance of the dispute isn't that important - it was his reaction to his ex-wife's reaction to the dirty dishes that, over time, hollowed out their marriage ... Makes me want to try harder in future * The Times *One husband's confession you might be tempted to hand to your other half next time he does something infuriating * Daily Mail *Fray's disarming personality and the sharing of his own story make people feel like they're not being judged ... His stark message: Don't end up like me * The New York Times *The nuggets of good sense in this book could genuinely help save a few rocky marriages * Literary Review *A fascinating book ... definitely worth a read * Woman's Own *Hard-hitting * Telegraph *Offers a frank and refreshingly modern view, one that never makes dated, flippant assumptions about love languages or Venus and Mars ... [Has] resonance for anyone who's ever had a broken heart - or labored to keep one from cracking -- Salon.comShares how the small things have big repercussions * Grazia *Funny and poignant ... a beautiful exposition on partnerships, love, and unpaid labor -- Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair PlayHugely resonant * Metro *It's hard to quibble with Fray's central message - that men could learn to "suck less" at marriage by becoming more attentive to their partners' feelings * Financial Times *Transformational -- Zoe Blaskey, The Motherkind podcastAn important book! Especially for men ... He shines two lights, a black light over why marriages fail but also sunlight by injecting hope and encouraging couples to take ownership -- John Kim, bestselling author of Single On PurposeReveals why we (men and women) get it wrong so often and what we can do to fix it ... Entertaining, honest, and truly practical -- Justin Baldoni, bestselling author of Man Enough: Undefining My MasculinitySobering and inspiring, heartbreaking and hilarious ... gets to the root of questions that can make or break a life partnership. Read it, heed it, act on it - for yourself and for the one you love -- Warren Berger, bestselling author of A More Beautiful QuestionPuts words to the human experience in a way that allows us to feel not only witnessed, but also to have hope rise from our all-too-common relational tragedies -- Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and Founder of Create the Love

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Book Synopsis52 Weeks of Newlywed Devotionals for Navigating a God-Centered MarriageMarriage is a journey of both hills and valleys, and newlyweds are just beginning this great adventure. By following God's way and making him the center of their marriage from the start, couples can avoid rockier paths and create stronger foundations. In this spiritual and practical devotional, marriage coaches Chris and Jamie Bailey speak to the particular challenges that every newlywed couple faces and provide both inspiration and guidance.Newlywed Couple's Devotional features: 52 Weekly Devotionals that explore common issues and themes every couple experiences, such as intimacy, love, commitment, household duties, finances, and more Everyday Scripture and Reflective Bible Studies that provide practical solutions to bringing marriages closer to God Action-Oriented Discussion Prompts that hold couples accountable for maintaining their Go

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Book SynopsisThe classic guide on how to build loving relationships. In this exploration of loving and living, bestselling author Leo Buscaglia addresses the intricacies and challenges of love relationships. He asks such important questions, as: How do we best interweave our lives with our loved ones? Do we change our way of relating depending on the circumstances? If we fail in one relationship, can we succeed in others? In this exhilarating book, Leo doesn't give pat answers. He presents alternatives and suggests behaviour that opens the way to truly loving each other. He recalls with heartwarming detail the importance of his own family and friendships in helping him to be open to grow and to love.

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Book SynopsisPositive, practical and realistic, this book offers a wealth of information on women, dating and relationships for men with Asperger Syndrome (AS).Many AS men are totally confused and bewildered by women and relationships and find it hard to know what to do, what to say and how to get it right. For these men, understanding the emotional side to relationships and women's needs can be a complete mystery and they often get it disastrously wrong. This practical handbook provides the answers to Asperger men's most frequently asked questions about women, dating and relationships, helping them to understand the way relationships work and increasing their confidence and ability to have successful relationships.This comprehensive handbook is essential reading for men with Asperger Syndrome (and their partners). It will also be of immeasurable use to counsellors and other professionals working with such individuals.Trade ReviewThis book is a definite must for partners in a Aspergerrelationship and Aspergers, who want to enter into an affair and relationship. -- Nederlandse Vereniging voor AutismeThis is the best book I've come across for explaining what is going on in typical "mixed" relationship, and, although it's aimed at men who have Asperger's, their partners will also be able to gain some insight... she pulls no punches, including one possible solution to relationship difficulties which other books I've read have ignored or not discussed seriously: you could leave... she states plainly when things will be hard, sometimes putting the onus on one partner, sometimes the other, and always justifying why some resolutions can't be shared. I wish more books reached this standard. -- Asperger United...a wealth of detailed and practical advice, useful to AS males, their partners, and to counsellors who may meet them in their counselling rooms. And an attitude of realistic, but genuine optimism for these relationships. -- Relate NewsletterThis book provides information and wisdom on how someone with Asperger syndrome can achieve, maintain and enjoy a successful long-term relationship. The content resonates with my experience of supporting and guiding so many adults with Asperger syndrome seeking a partner or requesting relationship counselling, from a couple who have only recently fallen in love to those who have been together for decades and become grandparents. If you have Asperger syndrome or are in a relationship with someone who has Asperger syndrome this book will change your life for the better. -- From the Foreword by Professor Tony Attwood, Minds and Hearts Clinic, Brisbane, AustraliaBuilding on her previous work, Maxine gifts the autism community a resource I could have sorely benefitted from when dating and in the early years of marriage. Although I have been with my wife for over two decades, insights within this book contain valuable information that will help my spouse and me form ever closer bonds as we travel the journey of life together. -- Stephen Shore, Ed.D., Assistant Professor of Special Education, Adelphi University, internationally renowned author, consultant, and presenter, and person on the autism spectrumMaxine Aston has written the book that thousands of people have been waiting for. Whilst it primarily focuses on helping men with Asperger Syndrome (AS) understand the complex thoughts, feelings and behaviours of women, it will also greatly benefit partners, family members and professionals who have tried for years to describe the neurotypical way of thinking. With this book about dating and relationships, Maxine enlightens readers once more with her outstanding knowledge, her incredible insight, her amazing sensibility and her great skill in sensing exactly what people want to know. -- Katrin Bentley, AS couples counsellor and author of Alone Together: Making an Asperger Marriage WorkWhat a relief men with Asperger syndrome will feel after they've educated themselves about women and all that comes with them with Maxine Aston's spot on wisdom. And my, oh my how much smarter am I now that I've learned the meanings and motives behind neurotypical women's vast array of behaviors. What an interesting and important read this book is! -- Liane Holliday Willey, EdD, author of Safety Skills for Asperger Women and Pretending to be NormalTable of ContentsForeword by Tony Attwood. Acknowledgements. Introduction. Dating and Courtship. 1. Where is the best place to meet a prospective partner? 2. How do I know if she is attracted to me? 3. How do I ask her out? 4. Where do I take her on the first date and what can I do to make a good first impression? 5. What should I talk about on the first date? 6. How do I know when or if to take it further? 7. When is it OK to expect sex? 8. What if she rejects me? How can I avoid this happening? The Relationship. 9. Why are women so complicated? 10. I feel that whatever I do it will be wrong, especially when she is upset. If I say nothing it is wrong, if I say something that will be wrong too. So is it all my fault? 11. I get to a point that I feel I want to run away, as I cannot discuss or argue anymore. Why won't she just let me go? 12. She asks me what I feel or why I love her and before I can answer she has become reactive/angry/upset/critical. Why? 13. She tells me I have a communication problem, yet I have been complimented on my communication at work. Who is right here? 14. I feel like she purposefully pushes me until I react and then acts the victim and blames me for getting angry. Why does she do this? 15. Why is she always criticising me? 16. Why does she exaggerate so often? 17. If I keep quiet it is wrong and if I speak up it is wrong! Why? 18. My only purpose seems to be to work and earn the money. Is this all I am worth? Why doesn't she appreciate all I do for her (and the family)? 19. Why does my partner expect me to come in from work and immediately start discussing the day with her? 20. My partner keeps nagging me to get rid of some of my possessions. She does not understand how much stress this causes me. What can I do? 21. My wife does not seem to know how to load a dishwasher and yet when I rearrange the contents she gets really mad at me. Why won't she just do things the correct way? 22. Why does my partner constantly disrupt my plans and routines? 23. Why does my partner have to announce everything we do on Facebook? Surely I am entitled to some privacy in my life? 24. She constantly accuses me of not listening to her and forgetting what she has told me. Is she making this up to put me down or do I really have memory problems? 25. My partner complains I spend too much time on the internet and not enough time with her, and yet when I try to spend time with her she just wants to watch soaps! I think she is being unreasonable. Is she? 26. My partner discovered I had been looking at porn on the internet. She is now threatening me with divorce. Why is she taking it so out of proportion? 27. I feel I am living with Jekyll and Hyde. For two weeks out of every month my partner seems to have a personality change. She blames it on PMT. Is it really that bad? 28. Why does she get angry/upset if I don't call or text her at least once a day? 29. Why are cards and gifts so important to her? 30. Why does she need me to keep telling her I love her? 31. How can I keep saying 'I love you' and other nice things without sounding false? 32. How can I tell the difference between when she just wants a hug and when she wants to have sex? 33. Why won't she have sex with me? And then there were three…34. We have recently had our first child. I feel my whole life has been turned upside down. My wife has become totally unpredictable; one minute she is happy and the next she is crying her eyes out. What's wrong with her? 35. Our baby seems to scream all the time and I cannot cope with the noise. I am not getting any sleep. My partner does not understand how hard it is for me and gets angry if I complain. Why? 36. I spend all day at work and when I get home my partner expects me to take on the childcare, yet she has been at home all day. This feels unreasonable. Is it? 37. My partner said she cannot trust me to look after the children. I would never hurt the children so why is she doing this? 38. I feel totally on the outside and alienated from the family. It feels like it is them and me, yet my partner gets angry and accuses me of not being involved enough with them. Who is right? 39. Why does she say I am too serious with the children/grandchildren? Conclusion. 40. Do you have a list of what I can do to try to make her happy in our relationship? 41. Are AS/non AS relationships ever successful? References.

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Book SynopsisThe Compatibility Game is designed to help two people in a relationship (romantic or otherwise) assess their level of compatibility. It helps to a) identify areas of alignment and divergence in their values, ambitions, goals or beliefs and b) discuss the significance of these. Crucially, the game does not suggest that incompatibilities cannot be overcome: the basis of successful relationships is not compatibility but compromise. The box contains two sets of 80 cards (2 x 75 ‘statement’ cards plus 5 ‘blank’ cards) - each person has their own set Each card contains a statement of opinion or belief: ‘I’m a spiritual person’; ‘Extreme left wing views annoy me’; ‘I’m a morning person’, and so on. The cards are arranged into five themes — Values, Psychology, Habits, Leisure and Politics The ‘game’ involves two players choosing the cards that most closely accord with their own POV and comparing their choices with the other player to assess their levels of compatibility

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Book SynopsisWe jumped in at the deep end and bought a farm! A reluctant wife, a couple of crazy kids and a husband whose knowledge of farming you could write on the back of a stamp What could go wrong?!' KelvinExactly! And the journey has only just begun' LizJoin the Fletchers as they navigate the peaks and troughs of life on a lively farm.When Kelvin and Liz Fletcher left their happy home in Oldham for a 120-acre farm in the Peak District, they were totally unaware of the surprises that lay in store. Come along for the ride as they navigate the Mishaps, like shearing sheep in a way that costs more than the price for the wool; the Lessons, such as never turn your back on a flock of sheep or, put simply, always close the gate!' and the Adventures, going from self-professed townies' to farmhands overnight.In Fletchers on the Farm, childhood sweethearts Kelvin and Liz reflect on their history, their future and their daily balancing act of juggling acting careers, four young children and a farmyar

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Book SynopsisTrade Review“If you are struggling with issues of betrayal—or the challenge of whether and how to forgive—here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.” — Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger “Clear, insightful . . . a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.” — Publishers Weekly “Finally a book has been written that teaches couples how to make genuine forgiveness a reality without rushing toward a superficial peace. This book can help couples construct a marriage that never existed before, one based on deep understanding and trust.” — John Gottman, Ph.D., author of The Relationship Cure “This book is a treasure—practical, authentic, illuminating, and wise. It’s like a breath of fresh air that puts forgiveness in a new and revealing light and provides clear steps to turn wounds into wisdom.” — Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind and Inner Peace for Busy People “This book is a treasure trove for anyone who has ever felt betrayed or hurt in a personal relationship. Dr. Spring cuts through all the clichés surrounding forgiveness and views it within a broad spectrum of common relationships—mother-daughter, father-son, student-teacher, husband-wife. We owe her a debt of gratitude for this enlightened and penetrating view of a universal human dilemma.” — Peggy Papp, author of Couples on the Fault Line: New Directions for Therapists “A fresh and original approach to an ancient challenge. A clinically informed personal guide for the offender and the offended. How Can I Forgive You? should be read by us all.” — Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want “Spring really shines. . . . Armed with her insights, offenders and those they’ve offended have hope of recovery.” — Bellingham Herald

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Book SynopsisAn Amazon Editors Pick “You can trust him.” --Tabitha BrownIT AIN’T EASY GETTING YOUR SHIT TOGETHER THIS BOOK IS THE SOLUTION If any of this sounds like you, it’s best you start reading this book now! You seek more fulfilling relationships and dating experiences You’re ready to shake off shame about past mistakes and step into your power You want to say “see ya” to the toxic people and emotional gut-punchers Your “people pleaser” days are over and it’s time to learn how to effectively say no MJ Harris has got a lot of “best friends”—over five million to be exact. His hilarious, straightforward, raw advice has made him the go-to person across social media for everything you need to know about getting your shit together.    He knows you ne

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Book SynopsisAfter experiencing the age-old cliché of their sex life drying up in their long-term relationship, Lacey and Flynn decided to do something about it. After years of dedicated effort exploring and understanding their sexual woes, they began having the best sex of their lives, and decided to share their findings with the world. This book is a manifesto and guide, showing singles and couples who have ever struggled with lacklustre sex or a desire-divide how to create a thriving sex life for both. Gone are the days of rejection, obligatory sex and dry spells. It''s time now for elevated sex that''s deep, meaningful and hugely pleasurable for both partners. Come Together is a no-nonsense guide, replete with unconventional teachings distilled from personal and professional experience delivered in a way that shows that Lacey and Flynn have done the work, shared the work and know the work works. They saved their relationship through better sex, and they might just be

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Book SynopsisTable of ContentsAcknowledgments xi About the Author xiii Introduction to Second Edition xv Part One Identifying and Understanding Emotional Abuse Chapter 1 Emotional Abuse— The Destroyer of Relationships 3 What Is Emotional Abuse? 6 How Emotional Abuse Does Damage 7 Determining Whether You Are Being Emotionally Abusive 10 No Monsters Here 12 Ending Emotional Abuse 15 Chapter 2 Patterns of Abuse 17 Domination 19 Verbal Assaults 20 Constant Criticism/Continual Blaming 21 Abusive Expectations 22 Emotional Blackmail 22 Unpredictable Responses 24 Constant Chaos/Creating Crisis 25 Character Assassination 25 Gaslighting 26 Sexual Harassment 27 Clear and Consistent Patterns 28 Overt and Covert Abuse 28 Intentional and Unintentional Abuse 29 Chapter 3 Not All Emotionally Abusive Relationships Are Alike 33 The Seven Types of Emotionally Abusive Relationships 35 Part Two Healing Your Childhood and Your Unhealthy Patterns Chapter 4 Patterns That Begin in Childhood: Why We Abuse and Why We Take It 47 The Repetition Compulsion 50 The Core of the Compulsion— An Abusive Childhood 53 Abusive Styles of Parenting 55 The Power of Unfinished Business 58 Your Original Abuser 59 Another Pattern: Victim or Abuser? 60 Anger In, Anger Out—Male and Female Patterns 61 How Shame Affects Victims of Abuse 62 Chapter 5 Complete Your Unfinished Business (For Both Victims and Abusers) 65 1. Admit the Fact That You Were the Victim of Abuse or Neglect 67 2. Acknowledge to Yourself That You Have Unexpressed Feelings of Anger, Pain, Fear, and Shame Because of Your Childhood Experiences of Neglect, Abandonment, or Abuse 73 3. Allow Yourself to Feel and Express Your Emotions Connected to the Neglect or Abuse You Experienced 75 4. Find Safe, Constructive Ways of Releasing or Expressing These Feelings 77 5. Confront Your Abuser(s) (Indirectly Preferred) 79 6. Resolve Your Relationship With Your Original Abuser(s) (Set Boundaries, Temporary or Permanent Separation, Forgive) 80 Chapter 6 Healing Your Shame with Self- Compassion 81 The Cure for Shame: Self-Compassion 86 Repeating the Cycle of Abuse 92 Part Three Stopping the Abuse Chapter 7 Action Steps for Those Being Abused 99 The Program 103 Specific Advice and Strategies 121 Chapter 8 Action Steps for the Abusive Partner 123 The Program 126 Chapter 9 Action Steps for the Abusive Couple 147 Stop Blaming Each Other 150 The Program 152 Chapter 10 When Your Partner Has a Personality Disorder 161 Determining Whether Your Partner Suffers from BPD 164 Twin Fears— Abandonment and Engulfment 166 Strategies to Help You Cope and to Stop the Emotional Abuse 168 Determining Whether Your Partner Suffers from NPD 171 Strategies to Help You Cope and Stop the Emotional Abuse 174 Should You Tell Your Partner that You Suspect They Have a Personality Disorder? 177 When You Both Suffer from a Personality Disorder 178 Chapter 11 When Your Abusiveness Stems from Your Personality Disorder 179 Do You Suffer from BPD? 182 How BPD Can Lead to Emotionally Abusive Behavior 183 How You Can Begin to Change Your Emotionally Abusive Behavior 186 Strategies for Specific Borderline Behaviors 191 Do You Suffer from NPD? 191 How NPD Leads to Abusive Behavior 193 How You Can Begin to Change Your Emotionally Abusive Behavior 194 My Personal Program for Overcoming Narcissistic Tendencies 196 Part Four Where Do You Go from Here? Chapter 12 Should You Stay or Should You Leave? 201 Strong Reasons to Stay 203 You May Still Need to Leave 205 Strong Reasons to Leave 205 When You Definitely Need to Leave 206 When You Are Resisting Leaving 209 Trust and Forgiveness 209 Chapter 13 Preventing Emotional Abuse in the Future 211 For the Abused Partner 213 For the Abusive Partner— Catch Yourself in the Act 217 For Both Partners 218 Chapter 14 Continuing to Recover 221 True Power Comes from Knowing You Have Choices 223 Key Issues for Victims and Abusers 224 Specific Strategies for the Abused Partner 228 Recovery for the Abusive Partner 230 For Both Partners— Finding the Right Therapist 232 Treatment for BPD and NPD 233 Be Realistic about Your Partner Changing 234 Epilogue 235 References 237 Further Reading 239 Index 243

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Book SynopsisLearn how to create healthy personal and relationship boundaries Boundaries are limits we establish for ourselves and implement through action or communication. Personal Boundaries For Dummies gives you all the basics on what boundaries look like (spoiler: they aren't one-size-fits-all), along with step-by-step instructions for figuring out what your boundaries are and communicating them with others. When you start to level-up your boundaries, you might experience pushback from the people in your life, but don't worrythis book also helps you navigate these challenges. Create clarity, mutual respect, and harmony in all your relationshipsespecially your relationship with yourselfwith this clear and helpful Dummies guide. Explore the different types of boundaries and how they work in relationshipsIdentify your own limits and non-negotiables so you can set boundaries with othersGet advice on what to do when people don't respect your boundariesLearn when to seek professional helpSetting bou

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Book SynopsisGemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper''s Bazaar in September 2017 called ''Women Aren''t Nags - We''re Just Fed Up'', which instantly went viral.The piece, and this book, are about ''emotional labour'', i.e. the unpaid, often unnoticed effort and work that goes into keeping everyone around you comfortable and happy.The Problem That Had No Name tackles the big issues surrounding emotional labour: the historical underpinnings and roots in feminism, the benefits and burdens of this kind of effort, and the specific contexts where emotional labour plays a major but undervalued role, including relationships, work, sex, parenting, politics and self-care.

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Book SynopsisBeautiful Words, Inspiring Thoughts A Gift of Love… ...in words that encourage, inspire, affirm, and lift up, in quotes and sayings and private thoughts that put a bloom in the heart of the reader. A Gift of Beauty… ...in hand-lettering and calligraphy, in paper-cuts and colorful collages, in drawings and prints—and in the joy found on every page. Relish life, love, and friendship—and share it with everyone you love. Created by the editors of Flow magazine, Everything Grows with Love features dozens of uplifting quotes and sayings in original graphics and hand-lettering by 20 contributing artists and illustrators. On each page, affirmations, motivational sayings, and quotes are illuminated in gorgeous calligraphy, playful photomontages, and exquisite embroidery. These are sweet expressions of inspiration and wonder: From little things big things grow. You’ve got to have a little rain to make a rainbow. Love is all you need. Collect moments, not things. Life is beautiful. Be happy, so that when others look at you they are happy too. Perfect for Valentine’s Day, wedding showers, birthdays, or simply as a pick-me-up for a friend or relative, it’s an ode to creativity, inspiration, and, above all else, love.

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Book SynopsisA dating guide - with bite! For fans of Twilight, The Vampire Diaries and all things supernatural comes a self-help guide you can really sink your teeth in to. Dating isn''t always easy, especially when your crush is a night owl, suspiciously knowledgable at history (it''s like they lived through it!) and likes their steak on the bloodier side.You might already have an intense connection (move over Bella and Edward) or perhaps you''re still in your enemies-to-lovers era (Buffy and Spike, who?), but getting past that ''I like you'' moment is proving tricky. Enter Crimson Angel Mercy, the supernatural agony aunt, who will spare you the agony as you dip your toe in the dating pool. In The Love Languages of Vampires, Crimson will show you how to dodge the red flags, move on from serial ghosters and spot the bloodsuckers before you fall in love at first bite. Discover the five love languages that are essential to a happy relationship and find o

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Book Synopsis'Bitingly funny, infectiously inquisitive and ferociously sharp. Adored!' ATTITUDE 'A fascinating interrogation' GRAZIA 'An incisive, witty and moving look at marriage - as an achievement, a compromise, a selling-out, a practical solution' REFINERY29 It was one thing to get married when your parents, your neighbours, your community insisted on it, when a sacred union for heterosexuals was not just one option but the only option. It’s quite another to keep doing it in when free of that societal and religious pressure. What is the allure of an institution grounded in patriarchy, in elitism, in white supremacy in the West, an institution that invalidated all but one kind of love till quite recently? Why do so many of us fight against these social ills while also posting pictures of proposals on Instagram? Is it possible to be married while subverting the institution by doing it one’s own way, or is marriage having the last laugh after all? Tom Rasmussen comes from a Northern, working class family, for whom marriage in the centrepiece of life. They are also a male-bodied, non-binary queer person in a relationship with a man. Journeying through wildly different weddings, visits to wedding planners, interviews with the much-married, those who have questioned their decision to marry, and those who would never consider matrimony, this is an incisive, witty and moving look at marriage - as an achievement, a compromise, a selling-out, a practical solution. Tom Rasmussen examines what marriage means across the spectrum of sexuality and class, and what the future looks like for this most historic and universal of institutions. 'An incisive, compassionate probing of the pleasures and pitfalls of marriage ... A deft deconstruction of normativity today' DAZED 'Tom Rasmussen is a smart and accomplished storyteller ... Anyone - queer or straight - who's considering marriage, or for that matter anyone who's deeply in love should read this unputdownable book' KATE BORNSTEIN 'I love Tom Rasmussen and adore their writing' TRAVIS ALABANZA 'An interrogation and an investigation ... A deeply funny and optimistic read' JUNO ROCHETrade ReviewBitingly funny, infectiously inquisitive and ferociously sharp. Adored! * ATTITUDE *Tom Rasmussen is a smart and accomplished storyteller ... Anyone - queer or straight - who's considering marriage, or for that matter anyone who's deeply in love should read this unputdownable book -- KATE BORNSTEINI absolutely loved this book. A fascinating, funny and ultimately moving exploration of marriage in the 21st century, voiced flawlessly - each interjection more perfect that the last -- EVIE WYLDI love Tom Rasmussen and adore their writing -- TRAVIS ALABANZAA fascinating interrogation * GRAZIA *An incisive, witty and moving look at marriage - as an achievement, a compromise, a selling-out, a practical solution * REFINERY29 *An interrogation and an investigation ... A deeply funny and optimistic read -- JUNO ROCHEAn incisive, compassionate probing of the pleasures and pitfalls of marriage ... A deft deconstruction of normativity today * DAZED *PRAISE FOR DIARY OF A DRAG QUEEN: A riotous portrayal of the contemporary queer experience * DAZED *Diary of a Drag Queen is a heartfelt memoir of queerness and non-conformity * VOGUE *Tom covers the nuance, doubt, and uncertainty of being a drag queen. Crystal covers the transcendence ... Charisma and quick intelligence - two qualities that have long been prerequisites for drag ... Diary puts on technicolor display * NEW YORKER *Truthful, revealing and obscenely hilarious […] Strident and unapologetic but really sweet, too * ATTITUDE *A proud voice for the non-binary community * GAY TIMES *This book honestly changed my life. Tom’s honesty, vulnerability and fearlessness jumps out of every page and every word. It is the queer bible I’ve always needed and I don’t remember life BT (before Tom) -- SAM SMITH

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