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Book SynopsisTrade Review"Stories are the meeting place between history and literature and in 100 Jewish Brides we get so many intriguing individual narratives that add up to an overarching point. In these personal memories of a universal phenomenon women's individual voices resound with one hundred varieties."—Hasia Diner, Professor Emerita, New York University"100 Jewish Brides: Stories from Around the World captures an astounding array of matrimonial customs, rituals, and rites through emotionally powerful first-person accounts of Jewish marriage by women from every corner of the globe! Vinick and Reinharz have brilliantly provided needed gendered insight into these all too often neglected dimensions of the Jewish wedding. 100 Jewish Brides offers an unequaled understanding of the lives and feelings of Jewish women and constitutes a stunning anthropological and feminist achievement that speaks to the dazzling holistic panorama of the Jewish world!"—David Ellenson - Chancellor Emeritus of Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion"It's a rapid flight through hundreds of cultures in countries where Jews have celebrated their comings together. You will be a guest at weddings through time and space. It's scrumptious and without calories. You don't need to get dressed or do your hair. This book is a delight"—Viva Hammer"In this uplifting book, diverse Jewish traditions around the world are described by brides who celebrate their heritage in their courtships, betrothals, and joyous weddings."—Susannah Heschel, Eli M. Black Distinguished Professor, Dartmouth College"Mazal tov! A kaleidoscopic survey of joy and gladness; a testament to the historic diversity of Jewish life worldwide and through the ages."—Anita Diamant, author of The Jewish Wedding Now and The Red Tent"These are utterly fascinating, charming, never-before told stories of Jewish love, family, and marriage rituals. Readable, informative, enjoyable."—Phyllis Chesler, women's rights leader and prize winning author of An American Bride in Kabul: A Memoir"In this beautiful mosaic of women's stories, we learn how each bride finds her unique path toward love and liberation and ultimately her place in Jewish history and hope for the future. 100 Jewish Brides is a stunning book and I recommend it to all readers seeking an understanding of the many routes that lead to saying "I do"."—Ruth Behar, author of The Vulnerable Observer: Anthropology That Breaks Your Heart"What a brilliant idea – to chronicle contemporary Jewish life, recent historical events, customs ancient and new, ethnic influences, binding traditions, social mores, family relationships, halakhic practices, ritual creativity, diaspora diversity all this and much more tracked through the preparation/celebration of courtship and marriage. / There are so many subtle takeaways. Despite foreboding contemporary statistics on intermarriage, one gets a sense of the powerful desire to preserve Jewishness through marriage. Huge variations in diaspora communities notwithstanding, the unbroken connection to our heritage exists in every isolated place on earth. Traditions count. Regarding marital choice, the laws of propinquity (the boy next door) and the popular Saturday night shul dances have been replaced by online dating services and meeting in the workplace. The lavish wedding is as poignant as the frugal one or the one in the refugee camp with the bride's gown hand-sewn from white US Air Force parachute material. The reader is treated to an inside view of ultra-orthodox marriage, of intermarriage, of family weddings of three generations, of destination weddings whose cache is their novelty. We read of falling out of love, tales of grandparents' weddings told a hundred years later as family lore, as well as the satisfaction of contemporary shidduch (matchmaker) weddings and the instant wedding with meeting, engagement, ceremony and party completed in three weeks. / Oh, and one more thing. Read this book for pure enjoyment. You will tear up with emotion on this page and laugh out loud on that one. Bravo to Shula Reinharz and Barbara Vinick."—Blu Greenberg, known as the mother of Orthodox feminism, is author of On Women and Judaism: A view from Tradition.

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Book SynopsisDespite current concerns for family values and the dissolution of marriages, Amy A. and Leon R. Kass see very little attention being paid to what makes for marital success. They argue there are no longer socially prescribed forms of conduct that help guide young men and women in the direction of matrimony; the very concepts of wooing and courting seem archaic. Yet they see major discontent with the present situation and detect among their students certain longingsfor friendship, for wholeness, for a life that is serious and deep, and for associations that are trustworthy and lastinglongings they do not realize could be largely satisfied by marrying well. Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar: Courting and Marrying is an anthology of source readings offered as a response to the contemporary cultural silence surrounding love that leads to marriage. It addresses important questions that emerge not from theory, but from practice: Why marry? Is this love? How can I find and win the right one tTrade Review“What once seemed self-evident connections between love and marriage are today obscured and widely denied. This book . . . is a corrective that both instructs and delights. In order to lift up the charms and complexities of man and woman’s need for each other, the Kasses enlist the help of Homer, Aquinas, Shakespeare, Austen, Tolstoy, C. S. Lewis, and a host of other worthies. Their extended introduction is rare wisdom distilled through their own marriage and in lively conversation with the best that has been thought and said about keeping faith with the promise of love. This is a book to return to again and again, tasting and testing the wondrous diversity of ways in which that promise has been, and can be, lived. There are also powerful cautionary tales about the tragic consequences of the promise betrayed. Highly recommended for both personal reflection and classroom use.” —First Things“Wing to Wing, Oar to Oar is essentially a Book of Virtues for lovers and lovers-to-be. It teaches a higher form of sex education—a form which cultivates awe for the depth and breadth of marital love while showing respect for the fragility of the human heart. Get your hands on the Kasses’ book and consider its wise counsel.” —USA Today“The wisdom contained in this anthology is well-suited to direct our judgments about how to live.” —Wall Street Journal“For many rich insights into the rewards of the common life, there is no better place to start than with this book.” —Commentary“Wing to Wing cannot help awaken a salutary awareness of our often contradictory desires. Most of all, it opens up vistas of human potential for our malnourished youth, stunted by years of gender theory, Fox TV, and parents who laugh at naked dorms.” —The Public Interest“A splendid collection that reminds us of what we are in danger of forgetting—the great Western tradition of marriage and courtship. The resources the Kasses have brought together are rich, complex, diverse, and often powerful.” —Jean Bethke Elshtain, Laura Spelman Rockefeller Professor of Political and Social Ethics, The University of Chicago, and author of Democracy on Trial.“Here is a splendid introduction to the romance missing in our lives today: how to think about romance, how to control it, how to enjoy it.” —Harvey Mansfield, Professor of Government, Harvard University“‘Courting’ has long been archaic. ‘Marrying’ is threatening to become so. This book is not only a theoretical defense of the older concepts but a practical manual, a guide to the perplexed. The introduction alone, by Amy and Leon Kass, is worth the price of the book, and the readings, ranging from Homer to Miss Manners, are a fount of wisdom.” —Gertrude Himmelfarb, author of The De-Moralization of Society: From Victorian Virtues to Modern Values“Man’s desire for woman and woman’s need of man are the beginning, middle, and end of the human story. In our current modern condition of deaf self-regard—and at God knows what cost—most of us pay scant attention to this story. In the present volume Leon and Amy Kass invite us precisely to stop and listen. They are healers, then, and at the same time in the most profound sense of the term they are also entertainers.” —Midge Decter, author of The New Chastity and Other Arguments Against Women’s Liberation“Reading this book is the next best thing to gaining a coveted seat in one of the University of Chicago seminars taught by Amy and Leon Kass. In an era when fashionable opinion speaks of courting and marrying in ironic tones or not at all, the Kasses do something unfashionable. They put us in touch with thinkers, past and present, who treat the task of finding and winning a marriage mate for what it is: a pursuit central to human life and happiness. At a time when young people are floundering and failing in their search for the right person to marry, this splendid selection of readings comes not a minute too soon.” —Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, author of The Divorce Culture: Rethinking Our Commitments to Marriage and the Family

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Book SynopsisThe richest, most fulfilling love of your life is yet to come! The Authentic Heart offers practical, wise, and compassionate guidance for midlife love.--Jack Kornfield, author of A Path with Heart and After the Ecstasy, the Laundry The Authentic Heart is a groundbreaking, insightful, warmly written book that I highly recommend to anyone wanting more loving, joyful relationships. John Amodeo addresses with great clarity, wisdom, and practicality the key steps that are necessary for building authentic, mature, loving connections--not only with others, but also with oneself.--John Bradshaw, New York Times bestselling author of Healing the Shame that Binds You Just what millions want to know--not only how to make love last but how to make lasting love new again and again. This warmhearted and clearheaded book is full of practical wisdom.--Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., and Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., authors of Conscious Loving and The Conscious Heart Table of ContentsAcknowledgments. Introduction. THE FIRST STEP: PREPARE YOUR UNDERSTANDING: FROM YOUNG LOVE TO MATURE LOVE. New Beginnings. Comparative Love 101. THE SECOND STEP: IDENTIFY THE SHAME THAT KEEPS LOVE AWAY. The Nature of Shame. Your Inner Critic: The Voice of Shame. THE THIRD STEP: SUMMON THE COURAGE TO AFFIRM THE AUTHENTIC YOU. Getting to Authenticity. Celebrate Your Authentic Self. THE FOURTH STEP: RESPECT YOURSELF THROUGH BOUNDARIES. Boundaries as a Foundation for Intimacy. THE FIFTH STEP: PRACTICE SELF-SOOTHING AND SELF-CONNECTION. The Softening Ingredient. Focusing: A Path to Befriending Yourself. Spiritual Self-Soothing. THE SIX STEP: RESPECT OTHERS THROUGH KIND CONVERSATION. Gentle Honesty. Speak and Connect from Your Authentic Heart. THE SEVENTH STEP: BUILD TRUST THROUGH A PROCESS COMMITMENT. Being Committed to the Process. The Key Ingredients of Trust. THE EIGHT STEP: DEEPEN YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF LOVE AND SEXUALITY. The Ingredients of Love. A Deepening Sexuality. Conclusion: Toward a Mature Spirituality. References. A Guide to Resources. Index.

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Book SynopsisIn Crunch Time,Aliya Hamid Rao gets up close and personal with college-educated, unemployed men, women, and spouses to explain how comparable men and women have starkly different experiences of unemployment. Traditionally gendered understandings of workthat it's a requirement for men and optional for womenloom large in this process, even for marriages that had been not organized in gender-traditional ways. These beliefs serve to make men's unemployment an urgent problem, while women's unemploymentcocooned within a narrative of staying at homeis almost a non-issue. Crunch Timereveals the minutiae of how gendered norms and behaviors are actively maintained by spouses at a time when they could be dismantled, and how gender is central to the ways couples react to and make sense of unemployment.Trade ReviewThis is a must read for students and scholars interested in the gendered negotiations and gendered patterns of work for pay and housework. The book is well researched and situated in the relevant literature, but it is also accessible and could be used in any undergraduate course on gender, work, and the family. . . . Essential. * CHOICE *“Crunch Time is a necessary addition to the sociological research on unemployment that has been surprisingly lacking in a gendered/work-family lens. . . . engagingly written and accessible to a wide audience.” * LSE Review of Books *"Rao joins the community of distinguished scholars who have carefully uncovered how economic pressures seep into family life, tracing the taken-for-granted cultural logics. . . people rely on to order their lives when confronting the challenge of economic instability.” * Contemporary Sociology *"Timely, important, and masterfully crafted." * American Journal of Sociology *"Rao persuasively shows how traditional gender norms shape the navigation of anxieties about social status, economic uncertainty, and job-searching demands. She further demonstrates how following these norms, in turn, advantages men's reemployment. The study offers crucial insights into the barriers to transforming gender relations while raising pressing questions about the prospects of gender egalitarian family life." * Gender & Society *“Crunch Time is an example of qualitative sociological analysis at its best: Rao carefully scrutinizes the taken-for-granted to precisely articulate the social processes that generate everyday inequalities. . . . This book is an important addition to the scholarship on work and employment, marriage and family, and gender that will undoubtedly frame our conversations as families navigate the current labor market precarity of the COVID-19 pandemic era.” * Industrial and Labor Relations Review *Table of ContentsList of Tables Acknowledgments Introduction: A Tale of Two Unemployments part i gender and space during unemployment 1. Men at Home 2. Idealizing the Home and Spurning the Workplace? part ii gendered time in job searching 3. Dinner Table Diaries 4. Can Women Be Ideal Job-Seekers? part iii gendered time in housework 5. Why Don’t Unemployed Men Do More Housework? 6. Why Do Unemployed Women Do Even More Housework? Conclusion: Unemployment and Inequality in an Age of Uncertainty Appendix A: Methodology Appendix B: Interview Guide for Unemployed Professionals and Spouses Notes References Index

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Book SynopsisIf you put your wife first, your marriage will flourish. Research supports this - and you will be amazed!Trade Review"Many married men find themselves shocked and surprised when their wife tells them she wants a divorce a few years after kids come along. This scenario is provocatively and powerfully explained by this book. More importantly, Kate and Harry Benson explain how married fathers can renew their marriages when their wives are leaning towards leaving. Every dad should read this book." -- W Bradford Wilcox, Director of the National Marriage Project, University of Virginia, and Senior Fellow, Institute for Family Studies“I love you but you just don’t seem interested in in me.” With those few words Kate and Harry Benson began a journey that eventually led to this book. Over many years I have found their story a true inspiration. -- Rob Parsons, OBE, author of The Sixty Minute Father"Once picked up, this fantastic book just won't let you put it down! Harry and Kate have successfully combined real life experiences – including ,very honestly ,their own – with hard earned wisdom and plenty of practical tips to help us strengthen the most special relationships in our lives, whatever age or stage we're at." -- Fiona Bruce MPWe have known Harry and Kate for many years. They are the real deal. Having rescued their marriage from the brink, they write with great honesty and give sound, practical advice, backed up by the latest research, that will give hope to many couples who can't see a way forward. Everyone will enjoy and benefit from this book, but for some it will be life-changing. -- Nicky and Sila Lee, authors of The Marriage Course“This book has so much for couples to grab hold of to give them hope for the future: great stories that ooze with optimism seamlessly interwoven with important research findings that make mincemeat of the myth that the breakdown of marriage and relationships is inevitable. Most importantly Harry and Kate are super-practical about what to look for when you are looking for help. Read this whatever the State of your Union.” -- Dr Samantha Callan, former advisor to David Cameron on Family and Society“Since we can't all have Harry and Kate as our own private love guidance gurus, we will have to make do with this super book, which is really practical and immensely readable – reading it is like breathing fresh air.” -- Richard and Maria Kane, founders of Marriage Week InternationalTable of ContentsContentsForeword 9Acknowledgments 11Introduction 13Chapter One Dear mum 16Chapter Two Dear dad 24Chapter Three It wasn’t meant to be like this… 34Chapter Four For the sake of the children? 47Chapter Five Happy wife, happy life 65Chapter Six What mums want 87Chapter Seven Learning to love 109Chapter Eight For better, for worse 129Chapter Nine I love you and want to be close to you 143Chapter Ten Back from the brink 162Chapter Eleven Wise friends 174Appendix 192Notes 201

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Book SynopsisThe 'Two Year Rule' and Other Principles for Finding Reliable Love. Great resource for building a committed relationship.Table of ContentsForeword 9Acknowledgments 13 Preface Their future: In her head 16Lauren was eyeing up wedding rings. Lee was eyeing up somebody else. Introduction All change in the game of love 18Birth control has changed the game of relationships over the last fifty years. But we are not playing it very well. Chapter 1 Stuck on you 27Time and time again I hear stories of women living in what should be a perfectly good relationship but which is going nowhere. Stuck. Chapter 2 Looking for reliable love 36All of us want reliable love. We need somebody to whom we can commit and who will commit to us. But what does commitment mean? Chapter 3 Decide or slide? 50Some good things in life happen by accident. Most happen because somebody made a plan. Why should relationships be any different? Chapter 4 Do you love me? 67An essential ingredient of any successful relationship is the resolution of any lingering anxiety and ambiguity. What we all need is clarity. Chapter 5 Rules for romance 78You’d choose a business partner with great care. And so it should be with a life partner. Here are two simple rules that will help you choose well. Chapter 6 All you need is love? 88What puts a marriage at risk in the early years is not a lack of love. It’s the way we treat each other badly. Here are four STOP signs to watch out for. Chapter 7 To marry or not? 101The odds are stacked in your favour if you marry – and against if you don’t – because marriage has all the ingredients needed to make a relationship work. Chapter 8 The two-year rule 114It’s easy for a relationship to drift without a plan or clear intentions. Is there a right time to have that conversation? Yes. It’s the two-year rule. Chapter 9 Commit or quit! 123We’ve lost confidence in our ability to give wise advice to younger couples who are drifting. But that’s exactly what they need and want. Notes 132 All the references and a bit more detail for the studies cited inthis book.

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Book SynopsisHer energy level is higher than a charged particle. People Her manner is down-to-earth and reassuring.... She tries to make people feel better, value themselves, trust their instincts. Ladies' Home Journal In today's world of instant gratification people have lost the knack for keeping romance alive. Rather than take the time to rekindle the flame that once burned so brightly, we let the fire die out, thinking we'll find something more lasting with someone else. Often, the result is that we find ourselves repeating the same pattern over and over again or giving up on romance altogether. But true romance never really dies it only goes into hibernation, waiting for somebody to wake it up. Are you bored with your relationship? Does your love life seem routine? Don't throw in the towel! Let Americas star sexologist (TV Guide), Dr. Ruth Westheimer shows you how to inspire a romantic Renaissance in your relationship. With the help of self-exams and easy exercises, she shows you how to: RTable of ContentsIntroduction. PART I: HOW TO WIN YOUR MATE ALL OVER AGAIN. Chapter 1: How Does Your Relationship Rate? A Self-Assessment. Chapter 2: Say It and Show It: Improving Communications. Chapter 3: Conquering Conflict. Chapter 4: Renewing Respect. PART II: INSPIRING A ROMANTIC REVIVAL. Chapter 5: The Art of Romance: Keeping Love Fresh. Chapter 6: Taking Commitment to a Higher Level. Chapter 7: Renewing Your Marriage Vows. Chapter 8: Getting Away from It All: Romantic Getaways. PART III: HEATING UP YOUR SEX LIFE. Chapter 9: Rethinking Your Approach to Sex. Chapter 10: Feeling Attractive: Be Sexy, You're Worth It. Chapter 11: Let's Get Physical: Excercises to Improve Your Sex Life. Chapter 12: Great Sex in Your Senior Years. PART IV: ROMANCING REAL LIFE. Chapter 13: Finding the Romance in Pregnancy. Chapter 14: Managing Romance with Parenthood: From Infants to Teens. Chapter 15: Heating Up the Empty Nest. Chapter 16: Working Too Hard for Romance? Chapter 17: Romancing Financial Difficulties. Chapter 18: Rescuing Romance from Life's Hardships. PART V: TROUBLESHOOTING YOUR LOVE LIFE. Chapter 19: Navigating Common Traps and Pitfalls: TV to the Internet. Chapter 20: When the Two of You Can't Make It Alone: Going for Therapy. Chapter 21: Medical Matters: When You May Need to See a Doctor. PART IV: THE PARTS OF TENS. Chapter 22: Ten Romantic Getaways Sure to Create a Spark. Chapter 23: Ten Great Ways to Date Your Mate. Chapter 24: Ten New Twists on Your Everyday Sex Life. Chapter 25: Ten Romantic Web Sites. Index. Book Registration Information.

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Book SynopsisEleven diverse scholars interrogate the belief that polygamy is inherently harmful, questioning the ways in which society assigns value to family and intimacy, and its right to do so.Table of ContentsIntroduction: Is Polygamy Inherently Harmful? / Lori G. Beaman1 Plus Ça Change ... ? Bountiful’s Diverse and Durable Marriage Practices / Angela Campbell2 How Should Public Institutions Assess Religious Identity? The Case of Polygamy / Avigail Eisenberg3 Polygamy and the Predicament of Contemporary Criminal Law / Benjamin L. Berger4 Are They Not Us? A Personal Reflection on Polygamy / Arta Blanche Johnson5 Reflecting on Polygamy: What’s the Harm? / Rebecca Johnson6 Polygamy in the Parisian Banlieues: Debate and Discourse on the 2005 French Suburban Riots / Jennifer A. Selby7 Polygamy and Race-Thinking: A Genealogy / Margaret Denike8 Making Them Fit: The Australian National Census and Aboriginal Family Forms / Frances Morphy9 The Raids at Short Creek and Yearning for Zion Ranch and the Law of Unintended Consequences / Martha Bradley-EvansConclusion: “To the Exclusion of All Others” – Polygamy, Monogamy, and the Legal Family in Canada / Gillian CalderBibliographyIndex

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Book SynopsisCouples with great marriages know one simple truth: the best marriages are made up of many everyday decisions that say 'I love you' rather than those that say 'I love me.' When we put the other person first, even in little ways, we find true fulfillment.This book offers wives powerful, practical, hands-on advice to start applying immediately. Maybe you are just entering into marriage and want to start off on the right foot. Maybe you have made some mistakes along the way and are struggling to connect. Or maybe you want your marriage to go from good to great. Wherever you currently are in your relationship, let Lisa Jacobson help you learn how to love your husband well.

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Book SynopsisBestselling author and founder of FaithfulMan.com offers biblically based words of affirmation and love to daily encourage and uplift your wife, cultivating a positive relationship to enjoy the marriage God designed for you.

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Book SynopsisGod wants his children to have a lasting relationship and great sex--the results of a deep, meaningful love that is rooted in commitment. Now updated and with a fresh new cover, Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships helps readers walk a path to true love that is more fulfilling than they ever imagined. 'There''s a better way to find love, stay in love, and grow in intimacy for a lifetime,' says Chip Ingram. It''s God''s way. Whether single or married, happy or searching for hope, readers will discover that by following God''s prescription, they can create a love that lasts.

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Book SynopsisA few generations ago, college students showed their romantic commitments by exchanging special objects: rings, pins, varsity letter jackets. Pins and rings were handy, telling everyone in local communities that you were spoken for, and when you broke up, the absence of a ring let everyone know you were available again. Is being Facebook official really more complicated, or are status updates just a new version of these old tokens?Many people are now fascinated by how new media has affected the intricacies of relationships and their dissolution. People often talk about Facebook and Twitter as platforms that have led to a seismic shift in transparency and (over)sharing. What are the new rules for breaking up? These rules are argued over and mocked in venues from the New York Times to lamebook.com, but well-thought-out and informed considerations of the topic are rare.Ilana Gershon was intrigued by the degree to which her students used new media to communicate important Trade ReviewBreaking up is hard to do, and, as Ilana Gershon observes, it can be even harder when technology is brought into the mix. Gershon interviewed over 70 people (many of them college students) to examine how they used chatting, email, texting, and social networking websites in conjunction with their relationships and found that opinions and social rules governing the intersection of romance and technology are still highly variable. Why would some people rather break up through email, while others prefer instant messaging? What kind of problems arise when a couple has different ideas about how to digitally negotiate the end of their relationship? How do the social and public aspects of sites like Facebook affect one's actions during a relationship and after its dissolution? Mindful of the complicated nature of the topic, Gershon never attempts to define which behaviors are right or wrong but instead concentrates on exploring the ways people think about these tools and what their beliefs show about society's responses to technology. Though written with an academic focus, this is an intriguing read for anyone interested in how social conventions for new media develop and the ways that technology is changing romantic relationships. * Library Journal *In her surprisingly gripping first book, Gershon argues that Facebook and other forms of new media social networking have radically changed the playing field of accepted interactions. Generations navigate these new forms differently and a whole new set of norms is being developed to judge behavior. No subject has dominated the discussion more than the ways in which we handle romantic relationships: when they begin, when to go public, and how to bring them to an end. Do people really break up via text message? The answer is yes, and Gershon asserts that in this case 'the medium is at odds with the message.' A professor of communications, the author takes a distinctly academic approach, lending legitimacy to what might otherwise be easily dismissed. She understands how new media shapes social communications and addresses its constant evolution. Readers interested in communication theory and new media evolution will appreciate the author's excellent balance of analysis, anecdote, and readability. * Publishers Weekly *Table of ContentsIntroduction1 Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover: Media Ideologies and Idioms of Practice2 E-mail My Heart: The Structure of Technology and Heartache3 Remediation and Heartache4 How Do You Know?5 Breaking Up in a PublicConclusion Bibliography Index

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Book SynopsisExploring the legal perspective on love, sex, and marriage—and their complications—in contemporary Japan.Trade ReviewNobody else explores the law in Japan quite like Mark West, bringing it to life and close to home. Lovesick Japan is an entertaining and insightful examination of the courts, pulling eye-popping gems from judges' opinions that speak volumes about their proclivity for peeping, prodding, moralizing and otherwise creeping into the bedroom in adjudicating marriage, divorce, rape, stalking and pornography.... But there is much more to Lovesick Japan than a series of absurd rulings; here we are shown how sermonizing judges try to shape society in their own image.... Often they go well beyond the law to decide cases based on nonfactual, subjective elements, sometimes with unfortunate consequences. -- Jeff Kingston * Japan Times *Tranquil, according to Mark D. West, Japanese love is not. Happy it is not. And comforting it is not.... A prolific and brilliant legal scholar, West draws these conclusions from Japanese court opinions. Some of them concern criminal prosecutions for rape or murder. Others involve civil suits for divorce or damages. West carefully and thoughtfully combs these opinions for discussions of love, sex, marriage, and romance, teasing out what judges think about it all.... West reads these court opinions with care and intelligence (with, frankly, extraordinary care and intelligence). -- J. Mark Ramseyer * Monumenta Nipponica *Table of ContentsIntroduction 1. Judging 2. Love 3. Coupling 4. Private Sex 5. Commodified Sex 6. Divorce ConclusionNotes Index

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Book SynopsisA few generations ago, college students showed their romantic commitments by exchanging special objects: rings, pins, varsity letter jackets. Pins and rings were handy, telling everyone in local communities that you were spoken for, and when you broke up, the absence of a ring let everyone know you were available again. Is being Facebook official really more complicated, or are status updates just a new version of these old tokens?Many people are now fascinated by how new media has affected the intricacies of relationships and their dissolution. People often talk about Facebook and Twitter as platforms that have led to a seismic shift in transparency and (over)sharing. What are the new rules for breaking up? These rules are argued over and mocked in venues from the New York Times to lamebook.com, but well-thought-out and informed considerations of the topic are rare.Ilana Gershon was intrigued by the degree to which her students used new media to communicate important Trade ReviewBreaking up is hard to do, and, as Ilana Gershon observes, it can be even harder when technology is brought into the mix. Gershon interviewed over 70 people (many of them college students) to examine how they used chatting, email, texting, and social networking websites in conjunction with their relationships and found that opinions and social rules governing the intersection of romance and technology are still highly variable. Why would some people rather break up through email, while others prefer instant messaging? What kind of problems arise when a couple has different ideas about how to digitally negotiate the end of their relationship? How do the social and public aspects of sites like Facebook affect one's actions during a relationship and after its dissolution? Mindful of the complicated nature of the topic, Gershon never attempts to define which behaviors are right or wrong but instead concentrates on exploring the ways people think about these tools and what their beliefs show about society's responses to technology. Though written with an academic focus, this is an intriguing read for anyone interested in how social conventions for new media develop and the ways that technology is changing romantic relationships. * Library Journal *In her surprisingly gripping first book, Gershon argues that Facebook and other forms of new media social networking have radically changed the playing field of accepted interactions. Generations navigate these new forms differently and a whole new set of norms is being developed to judge behavior. No subject has dominated the discussion more than the ways in which we handle romantic relationships: when they begin, when to go public, and how to bring them to an end. Do people really break up via text message? The answer is yes, and Gershon asserts that in this case 'the medium is at odds with the message.' A professor of communications, the author takes a distinctly academic approach, lending legitimacy to what might otherwise be easily dismissed. She understands how new media shapes social communications and addresses its constant evolution. Readers interested in communication theory and new media evolution will appreciate the author's excellent balance of analysis, anecdote, and readability. * Publishers Weekly *Table of ContentsIntroduction1 Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover: Media Ideologies and Idioms of Practice2 E-mail My Heart: The Structure of Technology and Heartache3 Remediation and Heartache4 How Do You Know?5 Breaking Up in a PublicConclusion Bibliography Index

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Book Synopsis"Whether or not we've come a long way since then, this engaging study of courtship shows that at least half the fun is in reading about getting there."--'St. Louis Post-Dispatch.'Trade ReviewWhether or not we've come a long way since then, this engaging study of courtship shows that at least half the fun is in reading about getting there. St. Louis Post-Dispatch. As entertaining as it is informative. Bailey documents sources from Margaret Mead to advertising's hokey hype in her comprehensive analysis of the rituals of American amore, exploring the themes of 'control, competition, consumption, the sexual economy, etiquette and gender.'. Booklist A fascinating study of an important part of our recent past. The Nation Whether or not we've come a long way since then, this engaging study of courtship shows that at least half the fun is in reading about getting there. St. Louis Post-DispatchTable of ContentsAcknowledgmentsIntroductionChapter 1. Calling Cards and MoneyChapter 2. The Economy of DatingChapter 3. The Worth of a DateChapter 4. Sex ControlChapter 5. The Etiquette of Masculinity and FemininityChapter 6. Scientific Truth and LoveEpilogueNotesIndex

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Book SynopsisTrade ReviewMakes a distinctive contribution to the field of family ethics…This clearly written and engaging text will provoke discussion in the classroom and among scholars of virtue ethics, as it challenges widely held theological claims about marriage and understandings of the good life." – Theological Studies

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Book SynopsisMoves beyond the stereotypes that conflate arranged marriages with forced marriages. Using in-depth interviews and participant observations, this book assembles a rich and diverse array of everyday marriage narratives and trajectories and highlights how considerations of romantic love are woven into traditional arranged marriage practices.Trade Review"Marriage never went out of fashion, certainly among South Asians, though its forms, culture, and politics were never static. Learning to Love gives us a fine grained narration of fluid, changing practices and negotiations shaping ‘arranged marriage’ and intimacy through the voices of two generations of British Indians. Raksha Pande uncovers their making of culture, tradition, choice, modernity, and claims to citizenship contesting the stereotypes that prevail in the ‘west’." -- Rajni Palriwala * co-editor of Marrying in South Asia: Shifting Concepts, Changing Practices in a Globalising World *"Amidst rising anti-immigrant sentiment, Learning to Love is a welcome intervention into entrenched, nationalist discourses of ‘arranged marriage’ that present it as anachronistic and utterly different from love marriage. Pande highlights the hopes and strategies of British-Indians, young and old, who talk of ‘rishta,’ matchmaking, intergenerational negotiation, modernity, and falling in love with the right person. A breath of fresh air!" -- Meena Khandelwal * author of Women in Ochre Robes *"Theoretically robust, lucid in style, and presented in an accessible manner. It is a welcome addition to the literature on marriage and spousal selection in general and diasporic marriages in particular. It will be of interest to scholars in the domain of geography, social anthropology, sociology, and gender studies working on questions of diaspora, marriage migration, and (informal) citizenship and anyone interested in the theme of marriage and transnational lives." * Gender, Place & Culture *Table of ContentsSeries Foreword by Péter Berta Preface and Acknowledgments 1 The Politics of Marriage and Migration in Postcolonial Britain 2 Becoming Modern and British: Enacting Citizenship through Arranged Marriages 3 Continuing Traditions as a Matter of Arrangement 4 Becoming a “Suitable Boy” and a “Good Girl” 5 Learning to Love 6 The Ties That Bind: Marriage, Belonging, and Identity 7 Conclusion References Index

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Book SynopsisA Wonderfully Supportive Guide from an Internationally Recognized Authority on Affairs "Emily Brown has written a must-read book for anyone going through the searing pain of infidelity.Table of ContentsPreface. Acknowledgments. Chapter 1 The Five Types of Affairs. Chapter 2 The Two Sides of Telling: Will I, Won't I . . . / Do I Want toKnow? Chapter 3 Facing the Affair. Chapter 4 Flashpoints for Violence. Chapter 5 Letting Go of Obsession. Chapter 6 Working on the Marriage: Building a Sense of Trust and Belonging. Chapter 7 Working on Your Self: Healing Childhood Wounds. Chapter 8 Rebuilding When Your Marriage Ends with an Affair. Chapter 9 Getting Help That Is Helpful. Chapter 10 Talking with Your Children, Your Friends, and Your Family. Chapter 11 Examining the Single Side of the Triangle. Chapter 12 Making Peace, Moving On. Notes. Recommended Reading. Resources. About the Author. About the Affairs. Help Web Site. Index.

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Book SynopsisDATING PHILOSOPHY FOR EVERYONE Speed dating, online dating, group blind dating, dating consultants A booming dating industry is catering to an ever-increasing number of single adults in the twenty-first century, with the market for a mate now pulling in more than a billion dollars a year in the United States. So, how do we successfully attempt to navigate the dating minefield? Progressing from the first flirtatious moment of eye contact to the selection of a mate, Dating Philosophy for Everyone includes a number of playful yet relevant essays for anyone who has dated, is dating, or intends to date again. It offers fascinating philosophical explorations of topics such as: The taboos of dating and how to play the dating game Should science teach men how to attract women? The problem of having too much choice The vicissitudes of dating and mating are explored from a number of perspectives, all of which will help demystify couplinTrade Review"If you enjoy philosophy and are dating (or find the topic interesting), then by all means this is a book you would want to check out." (Littleredrails.com, January 2011) Table of ContentsForeword viiiJoshua Wolf Shenk Acknowledgments xiKristie Miller and Marlene Clark Flirting with Big Ideas: An Introduction to Dating – Philosophy for Everyone 1Kristie Miller and Marlene Clark Part I GETTING STARTED: From Flirting to Dating 11 1 The Philosophy of Flirting 13Carrie S. Jenkins 2 Good Girls Don’t, but Boys Don’t Either: Toward a Conservative Position on Male Flirting 19Emily Langan 3 Love for Sale: Dating as a Calculated Exchange 37Jennifer A. Samp and Andrew I. Cohen 4 The Dating Elevator: Pushing the Right Buttons and Moving from Floor to Floor 49John Rowan and Patricia Hallen Part II NO-NO’S: Dating Taboos 65 5 “Crazy in Love”: The Nature of Romantic Love 67Mary Beth Yount 6 I’m Dating My Sister, and Other Taboos 76Kristie Miller 7 Just Pushy Enough 90Anne Barnhill 8 Buy My Love: On Sex Workers, Gold Diggers, and “Rules Girls” 101Kyla Reid and Tinashe Dune Part III ROLLING RIGHT ALONG: Dating Like a Pro 115 9 Against Matchmaking 117Joshua S. Heter 10 Hitting the Bars with Aristotle: Dating in a Time of Uncertainty 126Richard Paul Hamilton 11 I’ve Never Been on a Date (yet Somehow I Got Married!) 139Andrew Terjesen 12 Morality, Spontaneity, and the Art of Getting (Truly) Lucky on the First Date 151Christopher Brown and David W. Tien Part IV ANOTHER WORLD: Cyber-Rendezvous 165 13 Dating and Play in Virtual Worlds 167Bo Brinkman 14 How To Be Yourself in an Online World 180Dan Silber Part V FROM DATE TO MATE: “Natural” Selection? 195 15 Evolutionary Psychology and Seduction Strategies: Should Science Teach Men How to Attract Women? 197Hichem Naar and Alberto Masala 16 Mating, Dating, and Mathematics: It’s All in the Game 211Mark Colyvan 17 Why Less May Be More: Dating and the City 221Marlene Clark Notes on Contributors 233

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Book SynopsisWhether you are on the verge of leaving your partner, find yourself getting increasingly unhappy or simply questioning if you are in the right relationship, Stay or Leave will help you make one of the most difficult decisions – staying in or leaving a relationship that just doesn't feel right. Chartered psychologist Beverley Stone helps you work step by step through the decision. She explains the life-sapping harm caused by failing to be decisive and helps you work through your fears and anxieties in order to make the best choice for yourself. Part I will encourage you to reflect on your current relationship and what is making you so indecisive. Part II will allow you to question the intentions and consequences of your decision, giving you room to self-reflect and apply each exercise to your own relationship. Part III offers six life-changing steps to bring about positive change in your life, whether by leaving the relationship or following Beverley’s practical strategies to turning a bad relationship into a good one. With a focus on taking responsibility for your decisions, learning you have a choice and discovering how to be your authentic self, Stay or Leave will help you live your best life. Whether alone or in your current relationship, Beverley will offer you tips and techniques to be the best you.

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Book SynopsisWhat course?s? do intimate relationships usually take? And why do they often seem to go wrong? ?A? concise, brief guide aimed at finding and maintaining peaceful, harmonious relationships?, Miracle Relationships: A Path to Freedom and Joy w?i?ll help you understand the? ?purpose ?of these relationships ?and the gifts they? have to? offer. Understand the healing opportunities in every relationship and the real reason we choose the partners we choose. End the cycle of repeated painful patterns? and discover that there is no 'failed' relationship.

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Book SynopsisOnline dating is at an all-time high. Its industry is worth nearly $7 billion. And its popularity has increased in proportion to the increases of loneliness and social isolation brought on by Covid. Finding your soulmate in a largely online world can be tricky enough as it is, and this book aims to help you find a compatible partner without having to kiss too many frogs. Deciding to write the book she couldn’t find on the market, author Janine Lowe set her aim toward helping people find their way every day with relationships, life, health, and wealth through Chinese Horoscopes and Feng Shui. Using thousands of years of Chinese Zodiac knowledge to help you find your soulmate, Love, Date, Marry, Avoid is a funny, practical, irreverent, and accessible guide to Chinese astrology, geared to help you learn what makes your personal sign tick and which animal signs are your most -- and least -- compatible. In these pages, Janine will help you work out which animal you are -- the Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog, or Pig? -- and identify great date options, as she gives her verdict on whether to date, love, marry, or avoid. After all, there’s no point taking a Rat to the gym, you’ll never see him again!

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Book SynopsisJo interviewed eleven very different couples for this book. The theme is not marriage, rather how to reach the decision to marry. The couples represent various situations, and include a couple whose marriage was arranged, an older couple, and a couple for whom previous marriages had failed. Jo comments: 'There is no "right way" of choosing whom to marry. I believe God gives us enormous discretion. I want to talk about the enduring value of marriage as an institution, the factors that go into finding a spouse, and the way we can discern whether we can make it work." This delightful and entertaining book includes thought-provoking questions at the end of each chapter. It would be ideal reading for a young couple who are wondering whether this is The One.

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Book SynopsisThe biography of Marie-Louise Bouchard Labelle tells of a youngCanadian woman of humble background who, at the turn of the 20thcentury, discovers love with the priest of her village, a man 33 yearsolder. After three children and 15 years of happy life together, herspouse returns to the priesthood, just before the Great Depression.Trépanier narrates this brave woman's struggle to raise theirchildren alone. Her story raises questions on the mandatory celibacy ofCatholic priests and the status of women in the eyes of the CatholicChurch.Trade Review"This is the biography of an extraordinary woman who had the courage to fully embrace her love for a priest, knowing all the consequences. The author tells us the story of Marie-Louise Bouchard Labelle with respect and admiration. Thank you to Claire Trepanier for this touching narration and thank you also to Marie-Louise's children and grandchildren who told the author the story of their mother and grandmother. - Laurier L. LaPierre"Table of ContentsTable of Contents Foreword Acknowledgements Preface Family Trees Family of Georgianne Tremblay and her two spouses Family of Marie-Louise Bouchard Labelle and Joseph Ray Prologue CHAPTER ONE: From Les Escoumins to Hanmer (1891–1906) Marie-Louise Bouchard Marie-Louise Labelle Arrival in Hanmer Life of Hanmer’s First Settlers Marie-Louise’s Education Primary School Tough Love And What of the Future? Spiritual Life in the Hamlet CHAPTER TWO: The New Arrival (1858–1906) Father Joseph A. Roy The Francophone Catholic Clergy in the Canadian West Wolseley, Saskatchewan Vernon, British Columbia Hanmer, Ontario (August 1906) First Meeting with Marie-Louise CHAPTER THREE: The Turning Point (1906–1916) Regular Meetings with Marie-Louise Presbytery Maid? Against All Comers Flight Impact of Their Departure CHAPTER FOUR: Family Life (1916–1928) New Identities Ottawa Rideau Park (May 1917) Life as a Couple Daily Life Intellectual Life Spiritual Life First Return to Hanmer (November 1920) Birth of Lorne 1921–1926 Gertrude’s First Communion Facing Facts Synchronicity The Big Decision (1928) CHAPTER FIVE: “Widow” with Three Children(1928–1935) Heartbreak Unexpected Visits Living Day to Day Free to Explore Life Napoléon’s Visit The Crash, 24 October 1929 Family Ties Homeowner Impact of Joseph’s Departure Religion after Joseph’s Departure The French–English Question Life During the Great Depression Bank Street (1930–1932) and Sunnyside Street(1932–1933) Stanley Avenue (1933–1935) Social Life Convalescent Home Kiosk CHAPTER SIX: Living from Hand to Mouth (1935–1944) James Street (1935–1936) Lisgar Street (1936–1937) Nepean Street (1937–1939) Rideau Street, Corner of Chapel (1939) Slater Street (1940) Central Avenue (1941) Acquaintance Changes (1942–1944) CHAPTER SEVEN: Nanny (1944–1965) Grandmother Sewing and Knitting In the Kitchen “Breaking Camp” Mother-in-Law Jake and the Kid God Back to Ottawa (1957–1965) Ogilvy’s Cinema The Countess of Ségur A Busy Room (1962–1965) The Secret CHAPTER EIGHT: Return to Her Roots (1960–1964) Graduation (1960) The Two Gossips Inner Peace The Trip to the Yukon CHAPTER NINE: Old Age, Humour and Tenderness (1965–1970) A Time to Relax Always Keeping the Secret Reminiscences of Long Ago The Bloomers The Braid Thieves CHAPTER TEN: Living in Peace (1970–1973) Housewarming A Time to Enjoy Life Artist A Time to Die Epilogue Postscript Appendices Appendix One: Arrival in Hanmer Appendix Two: House in Hanmer Appendix Three: Landowner Appendix Four: Amour Immaculé / Immaculate Love Family Documents List of People Interviewed List of People Who Helped Me in My Research Abbreviated Chronology Notes Bibliography Index

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