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Book SynopsisThe 'Two Year Rule' and Other Principles for Finding Reliable Love. Great resource for building a committed relationship.
Table of ContentsForeword 9
Acknowledgments 13
Preface Their future: In her head 16
Lauren was eyeing up wedding rings. Lee was eyeing up somebody else.
Introduction All change in the game of love 18
Birth control has changed the game of relationships over the last fifty years. But we are not playing it very well.
Chapter 1 Stuck on you 27
Time and time again I hear stories of women living in what should be a perfectly good relationship but which is going nowhere. Stuck.
Chapter 2 Looking for reliable love 36
All of us want reliable love. We need somebody to whom we can commit and who will commit to us. But what does commitment mean?
Chapter 3 Decide or slide? 50
Some good things in life happen by accident. Most happen because somebody made a plan. Why should relationships be any different?
Chapter 4 Do you love me? 67
An essential ingredient of any successful relationship is the resolution of any lingering anxiety and ambiguity. What we all need is clarity.
Chapter 5 Rules for romance 78
You’d choose a business partner with great care. And so it should be with a life partner. Here are two simple rules that will help you choose well.
Chapter 6 All you need is love? 88
What puts a marriage at risk in the early years is not a lack of love. It’s the way we treat each other badly. Here are four STOP signs to watch out for.
Chapter 7 To marry or not? 101
The odds are stacked in your favour if you marry – and against if you don’t – because marriage has all the ingredients needed to make a relationship work.
Chapter 8 The two-year rule 114
It’s easy for a relationship to drift without a plan or clear intentions. Is there a right time to have that conversation? Yes. It’s the two-year rule.
Chapter 9 Commit or quit! 123
We’ve lost confidence in our ability to give wise advice to younger couples who are drifting. But that’s exactly what they need and want.
Notes 132
All the references and a bit more detail for the studies cited in
this book.
