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Book SynopsisThose affected by complex PTSD commonly feel as though there is something fundamentally wrong with them - that somewhere inside there is a part of them that needs to be fixed. Though untrue, such beliefs can feel extremely real and frightening. Difficult as it may be, facing one's PTSD from unresolved childhood trauma is a brave, courageous act - and with the right guidance, healing from PTSD is possible.Clinical psychologist Dr Arielle Schwartz has spent years helping those with C-PTSD find their way to wholeness. She also knows the territory of the healing firsthand, having walked it herself. This book provides a map to the complicated, and often overwhelming, terrain of C-PTSD with Dr. Schwartz's knowledgeable guidance helping you find your way.In The Complex PTSD Workbook, you'll learn all about C-PTSD and gain valuable insight into the types of symptoms associated with unresolved childhood trauma, while applying a strength-based perspective to integrate positive beliefs and behaviours.Examples and exercises through which you'll discover your own instances of trauma through relating to PTSD experiences other than your own, such as the following:* Information about common PTSD misdiagnoses such as bipolar disorder, ADHD, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder, and substance abuse, among others.* Explorations of common methods of PTSD therapy including somatic therapy, EMDR, CBT, DBT, and mind-body perspectives.* Chapter takeaways that encourage thoughtful consideration and writing to explore how you feel as you review the material presented in relation to your PTSD symptoms.The Complex PTSD Workbook aims to empower you with a thorough understanding of the psychology and physiology of C-PTSD so you can make informed choices about the path to healing that is right for you and discover a life of wellness, free of C-PTSD, that used to seem just out of reach.Trade ReviewThis is a practical guide for all those who have experienced childhood trauma. Drawing upon her extensive practice as a body-centered psychotherapist, Dr. Schwartz has created a self-care plan that includes reflective questions and easy to use mindfulness exercises that can be implemented immediately. * Barb Maiberger, author of EMDR Essentials: A Guide for Clients and Therapists and founder of the Maiberger Institute, an EMDRIA-approved provider of EMDR Trainings *Dr. Arielle Schwartz combines simplicity, compassion, humility, and deep knowledge of the field in this book for sufferers of Complex PTSD. The Complex PTSD Workbook is an immensely useful guide to negotiating the turbulent waters of this all too common human malady. * Betty Cannon, Ph.D., author of Sartre and Psychoanalysis and Founder of Applied Existential Psychotherapy (AEP) *I highly recommend this book to anyone who struggles with childhood trauma and neglect, and their painful aftermath. Step-by-step, you will find rich resources to help yourself on your journey to wholeness. Therapists who work with both mind and body will also find this a welcoming and integrative book. * Kathy Steele, MN, CS, private practice and co-author of Treating Trauma-related Dissociation, Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation, and The Haunted Self *The Complex PTSD Workbook offers powerful somatic therapy tools for deep healing, complemented by mindfulness strategies to increase stabilization and enhance overall wellbeing. Dr. Schwartz's emphasis on finding 'wholeness' will strengthen your resilience wherever you are in your life. * Donna Roe Daniell, LCSW, Balance Your Life Coaching & Psychotherapy, creator of the “Midlife Transition Healing Wave” and toolbox for Women in Midlife Transitions *Those who suffer from traumatic stress sometimes find beginning a personal practice intimidating. The Complex PTSD Workbook, with Dr. Arielle Schwartz as a compassionate guide, helps readers create a personal practice using yoga and mindfulness in the service of healing trauma. * Rob Schware, Executive Director, The Give Back Yoga Foundation *Healing from trauma is a profound process, one that undoubtedly involves confronting outstanding pain and suffering. In this book, Dr. Arielle Schwartz offers a unique emphasis on resilience and growth as related to Complex PTSD by providing a profoundly supportive and essential method for healing from trauma and grief. * Wendy Stern, Founder and Executive Director, The Grief Support Network *This is a comprehensive and usable guide to understanding and transforming complex trauma. Through relatable vignettes, The Complex PTSD Workbook explores trauma and treatment methods in accessible language suited for everyday use. Readers are invited to use journalling and self-reflection exercises to review and integrate what they've learned, so that the journey through the workbook is not only informational but experientially relevant as well. * J. Ryan Kennedy, PsyD, Executive Director, Noeticus Counseling Center and Training Institute *

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Book Synopsis'A masterclass in understanding' ANNIE GRACE, author of This Naked MindTen questions to ask yourself, right now:* Do you have a sense that something is wrong, but you don't know what it is?* Do you have a feeling that you are hollow inside, that you are empty or have a void within?* Do you react badly to rejection?* Do you often feel sad, unhappy or down for no obvious reason?* Would you describe yourself as highly sensitive?* Do you have problems with relationships and intimacy?* Do you engage in addictive behaviour - alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, food, sex, work, exercise?* Do you have low self-esteem or self-worth - are you not 'good enough'?* Do you have a sense of being numb to your feelings?* Do you rarely experience true joy and happiness?If you have answered 'yes' to most of these questions, there is a strong chance you have experienced emotional neglect or trauma as a child. An emotionally neglected child may struggle to form strong and secure attachments as an adult. They may feel hollow or empty, worthless (or overly important), judge themselves harshly and struggle with addictive tendencies - drinking, eating or exercising too much, for example. If this describes you, Heal Your Inner Child will change your life and give you back the love, compassion and authenticity you needed as a child, and deserve as an adult.Fomer heavy drinker turned sobriety coach Simon Chapple is - like you - a survivor of childhood trauma. His unique brand of straight-talking, practical yet reflective and relatable advice has helped thousands of people quit drinking, and he can help you now to move on from childhood emotional neglect to a place of happiness free from past trauma. How to Heal Your Inner Child is a stepped and safe approach to confronting your past, with space for reflective and supportive strategies that will help you to foster self-compassion and break free from the destructive behaviours that have blighted your life. Clinically endorsed and verified by a psychotherapist, this deeply personal, unflinchingly honest exploration is designed to unlock your own epiphany and support you as you journey to a happier, less troubled and more authentic self.Trade ReviewSimon takes [readers] by the hand and walks them through the incredible process of change. * Annie Grace, Author of 'This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness and Change Your Life' *Incredibly important... a great resource for anyone looking to be more whole, healed and fully alive! * Jenn Kautsch, Founder, SoberSis *Packed full of wisdom, understanding and practical techniques that help readers to recognize and release their inner child... A hugely important book. * Robert Sanders, Therapist and Coach *Simon Chapple has done it again... clear and powerful, a book that guides us expertly as we learn to navigate our own landscapes of healing and growth. * Rob Wolman, Recoverfreedom.org *For a long time I felt like something was missing, that I was stuck... I've read many self help books without seeing much progress, but this one is different. It's packed full of practical tips that genuinely work; a brilliant, straightforward approach. I can't recommend this book highly enough. * Sarah O., London *How to Heal Your Inner Child provides everything required to help readers find understanding, purpose, peace and happiness in their lives by gently unpacking and making sense of their past. Filled with useful tactics and delivered in an easy-to-digest style, this book will help transform your life. * Lou Lebentz, Trauma Thrivers *Masterfully written and relatable; a must read for anyone seeking help with addiction, alcoholism, substance abuse, dysfunctional relationships, career loss, or ongoing problematic situations. * Lois Badey *Honest, self-aware and warm. * Katya Lamb *

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Book SynopsisA guide that helps survivors of sexual abuse to improve their relationships and discover the joys of sexual intimacy. It takes them step-by-step through the recovery process using groundbreaking exercises and techniques. It helps them to create a positive meaning for sex and develop a healthy sexual self-concept.

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Book Synopsis'Why am I not white like everybody else?' Nan came and sat on the edge of my bed. 'What do you mean?' A tender finger brushed against my cheek. 'Well, everyone in this house is white. Why am I Black?'A generation of Nigerian children were born in Britain in the fifties and sixties, privately fostered by white families, then taken to Nigeria by their parents. Coconut is the story of one of those children.1963, North London. Nan fosters one-year-old Florence Olájídé and calls her 'Ann.' Florence adores her foster mother more than anything but Nan, and the children around her, all have white skin and she can't help but feel different. Then, four years later, after a weekend visit to her birth parents, Florence never returns to Nan. Two months after, sandwiched between her mother and father plus her three siblings, six-year-old Florence steps off a ship in Lagos to the fierce heat of the African sun.Swapping the lovely, comfortable bed in her room at Nan's for a mat on the floor of the living room in her new home, Florence finds herself struggling to adjust. She wants to embrace her cultural heritage but doesn't speak Yoruba and knows nothing of the customs. Clashes with her grandmother, Mama, the matriarch of the family, result in frequent beatings. Torn between her early childhood experiences and the expectations of her African culture, she begins to question who she is. Nigerian, British, both? Florence's story is an unputdownable tale of loss and loneliness, surviving poverty, maltreatment and fighting to get an education. Most of all, it's a moving, uplifting and inspiring account of one woman's self-determination to discover who she is and find her way to a place she can call home. Perfect for fans of Lemn Sissay's My Name is Why and Tara Westover's Educated. Audiobook narrated by Adjoa Andoh and featured on the Graham Norton BookclubWhat readers are saying about Coconut:'Wow, how do I even do this book justice... I absolutely loved this... I would recommend this book to everyone... important and powerful... completely captivating and fascinating... stunning.' Sibzzreads, 5 stars'Heart-breaking... eye-opening... heart-warming... I couldn't recommend this enough... fantastic!' NetGalley reviewer'Extraordinarily moving...a stunning read, beautifully written with searing honesty and humor.' Abi Daré, international bestselling author of The Girl with the Louding Voice'One of the best non-fiction books I have read...Amazing.' NetGalley reviewer'I sped through it as I could not put it down.' Goodreads reviewer'Remarkable...with grace, wit, insight and not a little heartbreak.' Adjoa Andoh, actress and star of Netflix series Bridgerton'Incredible... There were places I was shocked; places I was saddened; places I was amazed, and places where I laughed... Florence is now right up there at the top of my mental list of 'inspirational people'. NetGalley reviewer, 5 stars'I found myself completely immersed from the start! Florence writes with honesty, beauty and courage...delving deeply into some of the most important issues of our times.' Christy Lefteri, international bestselling author of The Beekeeper of Aleppo'A piece of poetic resilience, Coconut is an integral intervention in our understanding of race, identity and belonging.' David Lammy'Fascinating, emotional and enlightening... I felt myself rooting for Florence all the way... captivating. Highly recommended.' Karen King

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Book SynopsisCutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt.Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way.In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships.Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.

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Book SynopsisDo you want to be the best parent you can be? We all want to be good parents, but our pasts hold us back. We all feel like we''re failing at parenting. In Grow Up, personal development guru Gary John Bishop shows us how to let go of what came before and start taking action. Gary argues we''re never going to measure up to the perfect parent model - this book will equip you to think about how you show up in the world to nurture your children in the present.No more tips and tricks, Grow Up will help you take charge of the direction of your life and show your kids how to follow theirs.

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Book Synopsis‘And then came the session where I felt I would give up. I felt frustrated as I’d worked so hard on trying to speak but the most important words; the worst ones, had simply not come out. I implied I would not necessarily come back the following week and as I got up to leave the room, Pat said, ‘Try detaching from it entirely. Try writing it as a fairy story. Start with the words, once upon a time there was a little girl’. That evening, I tried. I sat on my bed and typed on the note’s app of my phone Once Upon A Time … and finally, four decades after the abuse began, the words started to flow.’ This book documents the therapeutic journey undertaken by Sophie and her therapist, Pat. It includes all chapters of the fairy tale and the drawings Sophie created to help her make sense of her experiences and to reconnect with herself. It also contains the many in-between session conversations Pat and Sophie had by email, WhatsApp, and texts, with important insights into how to work safely with trauma. Essential reading for all therapists, counsellors, health professionals, educators, and social workers, interested in understanding or working with survivors of child sexual abuse, and for those who are survivors of sexual abuse, The Flying Child – A Cautionary Fairy Tale for Adults- Finding a purposeful life after Child Sexual Abuse through compassionate and creative therapy – is a must- have for your bookshelf. Today, Sophie is a survivor activist, writer, founder and managing director of The Flying Child: a non-profit, National Lottery Community Funded organisation improving the awareness of child sexual abuse and the consequences of trauma. The core aim of The Flying Child is to normalise speaking about CSA. The Flying Child Project brings lived experience into the heart of professional settings, providing training in Education, Social Work and Healthcare. Pat Walsh is an experiential and intuitive counsellor with over forty years’ experience of working in trauma. Her background in nursing and occupational therapy taught her that to heal properly, wounds must be deeply cleansed, and purpose and meaning must be established to build any long -lasting recovery. She brings these learnings into her therapeutic work with survivors of sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse.

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Book SynopsisMany of us experience pain in our childhoods, and young people face trauma all over the world. How is it possible to recover? Do those abused always go on to hurt others? This incredible bestseller has overturned the way we view trauma, by showing how the extraordinary power of resilience can heal damaged lives. Renowned psychoanalyst Boris Cyrulnik has dealt with many young victims of distress and he relates stories of children who have been abused, orphaned, fought in wars and escaped genocide, yet who have not only survived, but grown in the face of adversity. By the way we deal with our memories and emotions, he shows, we can reshape our lives and transform pain into something stronger - just as a grain of sand in an oyster becomes a pearl. Resilience is not just about resisting; it is about learning to live. This life-changing book points the way towards hope and happiness.

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Book SynopsisBe Not Afraid of Love is a stunning collection of interconnected essays and affirmations that follow Mimi Zhu’s journey toward embodying and re-learning love after a violent relationship. In their early twenties, queer Chinese-Australian writer and artist Mimi Zhu was a survivor of intimate-partner abuse. This left them broken, in search of ways to heal and find love again. They found that in words. In sharing their own intimate encounters with oppression, healing, joy and community, Mimi invites readers all over the world to reflect deeply on their own experiences, with the intention of acting as a guide to undoing the hurt or uncertainty within them. This book is a continuation of that re-learning, exploring the intersections of love and fear in self-esteem, friendship, family dynamics and romantic relationships, and extending out to its effects on society and the greater political realm. Mimi's powerful and provocative words will guide and inspire readers to lean into love with softness. Heartrending and revolutionary, Be Not Afraid of Love is a testament to the strength and adaptability all humans possess, and a tribute to love in all its forms. Trade Review'A radical and revolutionary act of love, transcendently written.' – Jonny Sun, New York Times bestselling author of Goodbye, Again 'Tender, insightful and deeply affirming.' – Yrsa Daley-Ward, poet and author of bone, The Terrible, and The How 'Zhu conveys their story with such honesty and clarity that it forges connections to your heart straight through the page.' —Yung Pueblo, New York Times bestselling author of Clarity & Connection'This book will sit close to my heart for a long time. I am so grateful for Zhu's words, mind and existence.' – Fariha Róisín, author of Like a Bird, How to Cure a Ghost, and Who Is Wellness For?

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Book SynopsisAged nine Joss came home from school to discover her father''s suicide. She''s never gotten over it.This is the true story of Joss, 13 who is angry and out of control. At the age of nine, Joss finds her father's dead body. He has committed suicide. Then her mother remarries and Joss bitterly resents her step-father who abuses her mentally and physically.Cathy takes Joss under her wing but will she ever be able to get through to the warm-hearted girl she sees glimpses of underneath the vehement outbreaks of anger that dominate the house, and will Cathy be able to build up Joss's trust so she can learn the full truth of the terrible situation?Trade ReviewThe multi-million copy bestselling author.

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Book SynopsisA groundbreaking book that will expand your thinking, whether you are a trauma survivor, a clinician, someone who loves a survivor, or someone seeking to understand abuse. In Reclaim, expert forensic and clinical psychologist Dr Ahona Guha explores complex traumas, how survivors can recover and heal, and the nature of those who abuse. She shines a light on the ‘difficult’ trauma victims that society often ignores, and tackles vital questions that plague us: ‘Why are psychological abuse and coercive control so difficult to spot?’, ‘What kinds of behaviours should we see as red flags?’, and ‘Why do some people harm others, and how do we protect ourselves from them?’ In her forensic work, Dr Guha has had extensive experience with those who perpetrate harm, and she has a deep understanding of the psychological and social factors that cause people to abuse, bully, and harass others. In turn, her clinical work has led her to recognise the impacts of complex trauma, and the way our systems fail those who have been victimised. By emphasising compassion above all else, Dr Guha gives a call to action: one that will help us reclaim a safer, healthier society for everyone.Trade Review‘What drew me to this book was the fact that its author works as both a clinical and forensic psychologist. As someone with a trauma history I’m always looking for new better ways to manage its impacts. As someone with a psychology degree (the most expensive piece of paper I own) I am interested in the why behind the what when people act in ways that victimise others. I love that this book delves into something that most people conveniently ignore: sometimes a person is both victim and perpetrator … A blend of theory and case studies (composites so as not to breach confidentiality) this book would be of interest to both trauma survivors and those who work in helping professions.’ -- Schizanthus Nerd, starred review‘Powerfully, accessibly, and with a clinician’s depth of detail, Dr Guha writes directly about the violence we prefer to drape in darkness. She shows that it is only by seeking to understand its causes and consequences that we can work towards creating safer, fairer communities. I’m grateful to her for this illuminating, and urgently necessary, book.‘ -- Sarah Krasnostein, author of The Trauma Cleaner and The Believer“Reclaim gave me a better understanding of my own trauma. Huge gratitude to Dr Guha for this well-crafted book … A must-read for everyone.” -- Veronica Gorrie, author of Black and Blue‘In a world that so often turns away from the complexities of trauma and abuse, this book turns towards them … Reclaim is a game-changer.’ -- Chris Cheers, psychologist and author of The New Rulebook‘Reclaim is for victims of abuse, for their families and loved ones, but above all for anyone who wants to understand human behaviour.’ -- Mark Rubbo, Managing Director of Readings‘Reclaim is one of those books I will revisit again, whenever I need to process certain events or experiences.’ -- Dr Yumiko Kadota, author of Emotional Female‘Dr Guha provides a highly accessible work that covers a lot of ground, and is illustrated by composite case studies of her own patients, and some detail about her own experience of trauma … Reclaim is a fascinating insight into different types of trauma, survivors, abusers, institutional abuse and invites the reader to enter a full and open discussion about these issues … This book is a nuanced exploration of the nature of trauma, the people it affects, and how we might, both as individuals and as a society, reduce its harm.’ -- Cass Moriarty, author of The Promise Seed and Parting Words‘Guha’s willingness to confront this murky terrain is courageous, a clinical psychologist and forensic expert, has penned a book about trauma that is not literary, academic, or self-help: it is a clear-eyed analysis by a professionally qualified, socially engaged and intimately informed author. Guha purportedly wrote the book to redress fallacies in “a world that is beset by trauma.” … The most admirable thing [Reclaim] is its advocacy for those caught in the darkest realms of trauma’s slipstream: the least likeable among us, who act out in the most socially unacceptable ways. Guha demands we seek to understand not only traumatised sweethearts (those who invite sympathy) but also people who exhibit alienating, infuriating or frightening trauma-fuelled traits … Reclaim [pushes] back against common value judgements that less traumatised – and more privileged – people make about those living with complex trauma … by looking around soberly – and inviting us to build a “trauma-informed community” and move toward a more just future.’ -- Dr Meera Atkinson * The Conversation *‘[Reclaim] is an excellent starting point for anyone wanting clarification about the impact of trauma, with further information on where to find therapy and support.’ -- Cheryl Akle * The Australian *

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Book SynopsisA psychologist offers a roadmap for those looking to break free of toxic family relationships and thrive in the aftermath.Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by toxic family members, and the second is someone’s denial of the ways in which abusers treat and harm them. Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best. But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath.Inside, Dr. Sherrie Campbell clarifies:How parents, adult children, siblings, grandparents, and in-laws can be toxicThe difference between flawed and toxic family membersExplaining the cutting of ties to children and others who may not understandSpiritual and religious views on forgivenessThe definition of cutting ties and what No Contact actually meansWhen readers are able to bring closure to those toxic relationships, they give themselves the space to love those family members from a distance, as fellow human beings, with the knowledge that it is unwise to remain connected. Readers learn how to love themselves in the process and fundamentally change their lives for the better!

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Book SynopsisA heartbreaking and inspiring collection of true fostering stories perfect for fans of Cathy Glass and Rosie Lewis. Contains previously published stories Too Scared To Cry, The Girl No One Wanted and A Family For Christmas - brought together in this heartwarming and inspiring collection for the first time. *****Maggie Hartley is one of the UK''s most prolific foster mothers. This inspiring collection includes three heartbreaking, true short stories about the children who have passed through Maggie''s care. TOO SCARED TO CRYWhen Ben and Damien arrive on Maggie''s doorstep, the two toddlers are too scared to speak. More disturbingly still, their baby half-brother Noah is completely unresponsive - he doesn''t smile or play or crawl. The three siblings have been conditioned to be seen and not heard, and it''s up to Maggie to unpick what has caused this terrible void. THE GIRL NO ONE WANTEDEleven-year-old L

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Book SynopsisDoes your partner blame you for his or her own problems?Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others?Is your partner impossible to please?Are you convinced something is wrong with you?Are you too ashamed to admit you are being abused?In Escaping Emotional Abuse, Beverly Engel, world-renowned therapist and expert in emotional abuse, exposes techniques an abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control - and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve.By using your deepest fears against you, the abuser strips you of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity - making you feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But you possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows you how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps you jumpstart the process of reTrade ReviewAn extremely informative and comprehensive guide to understanding and overcoming emotional abuse. Beverly Engel gives you all the information you need to stop blaming yourself and get control of your life back -- Lundy Bancroft * author of WHY DOES HE DO THAT? *A warm, compassionate, and incredibly insightful guide through the recovery journey. Engel's words are a powerful antidote to the seemingly unshakeable shame that comes from emotional abuse. There is hope, healing, and wisdom to be found on every page -- Jackson MacKenzie * author of PSYCHOPATH FREE *I highly recommend this book for anyone-female or male-who suspects they are being emotionally abused. I especially appreciate the information on how emotional abuse can be shaming, which is dangerous to a person's self-esteem and sense of self -- Randi Kreger * co-author of STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS and author of THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER *

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Book SynopsisTable of ContentsIntroduction 1 Part 1: Reflecting on Narcissism 5 Chapter 1: Narcissism: The Big Picture 7 Chapter 2: Taking a Closer Look at Narcissism 19 Chapter 3: Better Together? Considering Collective Narcissism 35 Chapter 4: Tracing the Roots of Narcissism to Parenting 45 Part 2: Interacting with Narcissists 59 Chapter 5: Dealing with Narcissistic Partners 61 Chapter 6: The Effects of Narcissistic Parenting 85 Chapter 7: Close Encounters with Narcissists 107 Chapter 8: Exploring Vulnerabilities: Who Attracts a Narcissist 121 Chapter 9: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse: A Tool Kit 131 Part 3: Recognizing Narcissists’ Emotions and Behaviors 151 Chapter 10: Exploring the Nuances of Self-Esteem and Narcissism 153 Chapter 11: Assessing Narcissistic Aggression 163 Chapter 12: Feeling Entitled to Everything 179 Chapter 13: The Struggling Narcissist: Coping with Co-Occurring Disorders 191 Chapter 14: Success Is in the Eye of the (Narcissistic) Beholder 203 Part 4: How Culture Cultivates Narcissism 213 Chapter 15: Staying Connected but Alone: Narcissism and the Social Media Effect 215 Chapter 16: Everyone Is Just So Special: How Culture Fans the Narcissist’s Flame 225 Chapter 17: Incivility and Narcissism: A Growing Concern 233 Part 5: Treating Narcissism 241 Chapter 18: Seeking Help 243 Chapter 19: Taking the Psychodynamic Approach to Treating Narcissism 255 Chapter 20: Changing Thoughts and Behaviors with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 265 Chapter 21: Coping Skills for Narcissists: Dialectical Behavior Therapy 285 Part 6: The Part of Tens 303 Chapter 22: Ten Quick Ways to Diffuse Narcissistic Behavior 305 Chapter 23: Ten Tips for Leaving a Narcissistic Relationship 311 Index 315

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Book SynopsisHelp, support and comprehensive resources for survivors of child sexual abuse.Trade ReviewThe voice of the cowed, betrayed and helpless sexually abused child speaks powerfully throughout this book. * British Journal of Psychiatry *'The way the book instils hope is inspiring' * Journal of Social Work Practice *

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Book SynopsisA GLOBE AND MAIL TOP 100 BEST BOOKS OF 2022 WINNER ONTARIO HISTORICAL SOCIETY ALISON PRENTICE AWARD BRASS KNUCKLES AWARD FOR BEST NONFICTION CRIME BOOK 2023 FINALISTA former United Church minister massacres his family. What led to this act of femicide, and why were his victims forgotten?On May 2, 1963, Robert Killins, a former United Church minister, slaughtered every woman in his family but one. She (and her brother) lived to tell the story of what motivated a talented man who had been widely admired, a scholar and graduate from Queen's University, to stalk and terrorize the women in his family for almost twenty years and then murder them.Through extensive oral histories, Cook and Carson painstakingly trace the causes of a femicide in which four women and two unborn babies were murdered over the course of one bloody evening. While they situate this murderous rampage in the literature on domestic abuse and mass murders, they also explore hTrade ReviewA gripping true tale of a man’s spiral into murderous rage and a woman’s vulnerability — but it also explores the power of oral history and asks how childhood traumas can ever be alleviated. * Charlotte Gray, historian and bestselling author *The Castleton Massacre is a compelling, and meticulously researched, examination of an appalling Ontario tragedy. It is also a fascinating social history of settler families in the first half of the 20th century, and, most important, an urgent call for action regarding the many Canadian women and children who are still living with violent domestic abuse. * Jane Urquhart, award-winning author *Living with this story for sixty years, Cook and Carson have restored a voice to those silenced through horrendous violence. The authors separate fact from fiction and rumour from reality as they narrate the chilling descent of a killer from jealousy and rage to madness and murder. The Castleton Massacre will resonate in contemporary Canada where still too many women are killed by their partners. This is a story you will not soon forget. * Tim Cook, author of The Fight for History: 75 Years of Forgetting, Remembering, and Remaking Canada’s Second World War *Cook and Carson’s account of the massacre committed by Robert Killins...illuminates the lack of supports for abused rural women and the social beliefs about men’s entitlements and women’s duties that bind women to abusers. * Elizabeth Sheehy, Professor Emerita, University of Ottawa *This book makes an important and timely contribution. Detailed and sustained historical research combined with a willingness to consider the larger Canadian context in all its complexity, makes this horrifying account a must-read. Following a pandemic that led to a distressing increase in domestic violence cases, this story from many decades ago allows the reader to consider both this singular family drama and the sadly perennial aspect of domestic abuse. * Marie-Hélène Brunet, Associate Professor, University of Ottawa *The Castleton Massacre is a compelling memoir that delves deeply into the family dynamics that preceded and followed an unthinkable tragedy: the slaughter of three women, a young child and two unborn babies in one dreadful evening of mayhem and murder in a small Ontario town. * Adele Matsalla *Table of ContentsContents Prologue Chapter 1 The Great Migration West, 1900–1920: The Backstory of Robert’s Family Chapter 2 Two Canadian Families: The Killinses and the Frasers, 1920–1931 Chapter 3 Pursuing New Paths: The 1930s Chapter 4 Reality Strikes: 1940–1956 Chapter 5 A Perfect Storm, 1956–1963 Chapter 6 Murder Premeditated Chapter 7 Aftershock Chapter 8 Taking Stock After the Familicide Chapter 9 Gathering the Fragments: Addressing Childhood Trauma Epilogue: Sober Reflection Acknowledgements Endnotes

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Book Synopsis''I Never Said I Love You is one of the most electric, enchanting, engrossing and energising memoirs of self-harm, self-loathing, grief, eating disorders, suicide - and sex - that you will read.'' The Sunday Times''Indecently entertaining... one of the most uplifting and eccentric memoirs I have ever read.'' Observer''Brutally honest and relentlessly funny.'' Adam Kay, author of ''This is Going to Hurt''''A brilliant memoir full of gasp-inducing honesty about depression and family and taking control of your own pain. Funny, sad, hopeful, I Never Said I Loved You is an irresistible, strangely empowering read.'' Matt Haig''This mind-blowingly wonderful memoir had me convulsing with laughter even while my heart was breaking. It''s utterly effing BEAUTIFUL.'' Marian Keyes''I found myself blindsided by this extraordinary book ... I was deeply moved by its capacity both to depict paiTrade ReviewBoth funny and touching. * Telegraph *I Never Said I Love You is one of the most electric, enchanting, engrossing and energising memoirs of self-harm, self-loathing, grief, eating disorders, suicide - and sex - that you will read. * The Sunday Times *Indecently entertaining... one of the most uplifting and eccentric memoirs I have ever read. * Observer *This mind-blowingly wonderful memoir had me convulsing with laughter even while my heart was breaking. It's utterly effing BEAUTIFUL. * Marian Keyes *I found myself blindsided by this extraordinary book ... I was deeply moved by its capacity both to depict pain, and offer consolation. I loved it, and won't ever forget it. * Sarah Perry *Brutally honest and relentlessly funny. * Adam Kay *Both unputdownable and beautifully-written, bracing and consoling. A book that tackles mental health and the darkest things with razor-sharp wit and mordant laughs aplenty ... read this. * Sharlene Teo *Touching, funny, wildly readable ... Look out for it. * Sathnam Sanghera *No one writes better, or more sweetly, about how it feels to feel. Even the darkest times are shot through with glorious, bright beams of wit. * Janet Ellis *It's honest and funny (and beautifully painful and brutal at times), but also - oh goodness - it's so elegant. The writing is graceful and kind, even when it hurts a little to remember it's a memoir. * Joanna Cannon *Equal parts hilarious and heartbreaking. What an absolutely riveting read. * Nikita Gill *Heartbreaking, funny, raw, brave and - yes! - even better than the egg thing. * Erin Kelly *I have always loved Rhik Samadder's writing. And now there's a whole book! * Jessie Burton *A stunning memoir about grief and love, about vulnerability and the strength required to embrace it... this book will have its hooks in me for a long time yet. -- Leaf Arbuthnot * The Times *completely charming and genuinely funny * Grazia *Roars with humour * inews *A feel good mental health memoir... both touching and funny * Daily Telegraph Magazine *A brave blaze of a book... Samadder is a stubborn talent and a gifted storyteller. * The Sunday Times *eloquent, funny, and moving... truly beautiful * Culturefly *A memoir that'll break - then make - your heart... speaking on mental health, grief, disorders and more with frank honesty, Rhik creates a powerful read worth everyone's time. * Topman Blog *

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Book SynopsisChildhood sexual abuse (or child sexual abuse/CSA) is not only an assault on the body—it is an assault on the mind and on the spirit. It is an insult to the victim’s integrity, her self-esteem, his very being. Besides imposing a significantly higher risk of conditions like depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), sexual exploitation, intimate partner violence, suicidality, substance abuse, and learning & educational difficulties, the most devastating consequence of childhood sexual abuse is shame. Freedom at Last will help victims of this form of abuse recover from all aspects of this extreme shame and its damaging after-effects.Not only does shame from CSA cause a multitude of problems, but this very same shame stands in the way of a victim’s ability to recover and heal. Victims often struggle with shame’s correlation with dissociation, difficulty forming relationships, emotional barriers to disclosing abuse and seeking help, and a lasting negative effect on victim’s sense of self. In this groundbreaking book, leading psychologist Dr. Beverly Engel reveals the truth about how CSA affects victims, dispels common myths surrounding this type of abuse, explains the nuances behind the emotion of shame, and teaches readers how to develop more self-awareness about how shame has manifested in their lives along with powerful and effective shame-reduction strategies. Freedom at Last offers effective strategies for not only healing the negative effects of abuse-related shame, but also to help overcome the shame that keeps survivors from seeking help. Using the most recent research along with her 35-year career working with victims of child sexual abuse, Dr. Engel provides a blueprint for readers and their loved ones to overcome the debilitating effects of shame, including strategies for emotional release, encouragement to free themselves from their secrets, teaching self-forgiveness, eliminating shame-causing behaviors, and removing shame from unhealthy behaviors and attitudes.

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Book SynopsisShortlisted for The Romantic Novelists' Association Historical Romantic Novel Award 2021The world was crumbling, but her love stayed strongNovember 1915. For young housemaid, Anwen Rhys, life is hard in the Welsh mining village of Dorcalon, deep in the Rhymney Valley. She cares for her ill mother and beloved younger sister Sara, all while shielding them from her father’s drunken, violent temper. Anwen comforts herself with her love for childhood sweetheart, Idris Hughes, away fighting in the Great War. Yet when Idris returns, he is a changed man; no longer the innocent boy she loved, he is harder, more distant, quickly breaking off their engagement. And when tragedy once again strikes her family, Anwen’s heart is completely broken.But when an explosion at the pit brings unimaginable heartache to Dorcalon, Anwen and Idris put their feelings aside to unite their mining community.In the midst of despair, can Anwen find hope again? And will she ever find the happiness she deserves?A beautiful, emotional and heart-breaking saga set in the Welsh Valleys of the Great War that fans of Rosie Goodwin and Sheila Newbury will love.Readers are falling in love with Francesca Capaldi's debut novel:‘this is a really emotional book…I really enjoyed this book and fully recommend it. Worth all the stars’ ☆☆☆☆☆ Reader Review‘worthy of a 5 star rating… a good book that commands your attention and emotions.’ ☆☆☆☆☆ Reader Review'A lovely debut saga!... Great story line and wonderful period details.’ ☆☆☆☆☆ Reader Review‘I loved this book… I would heartily recommend it for anyone who enjoys family saga or historical fiction.’ Reader Review‘an all-engrossing story that swept me along with it. It is a wonderful historical saga… With a hint of romance… It had me go through an array of emotions’ ☆☆☆☆☆ Reader Review‘this is such a warm-hearted book… I would ask all readers to read this book. I loved it’ ☆☆☆☆☆ Reader Review

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Book Synopsis"Parenting a distressed child puts us in an extraordinary situation, which demands extraordinary parenting."The reasons why distressed children may behave violently can be complex; this book sets out the biological, psychological, and environmental reasons as to why your child may be displaying violent behaviours and helps you develop strategies to reduce the incidence of violence, de-escalate violent situations and repair relationships following incidents. With the aid of this guide, develop a language to enable children to understand their emotional states in a safe environment. Expertly written by award-winning author, columnist and adoptive parent Sally Donovan and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapist Carly Kingswood; learn how to care for yourself and the children in your lives.Trade ReviewThese two amazing women totally have your corner! They've lived this stuff, but they've also researched it, read it, listened, and thought about it endlessly. Their wisdom is matched only by their empathy and their easy style of writing. This is a no-messing-about guide - grounded and earthy. Laughter and tears are both permitted and may well occur, as they lead you to a more hopeful place. -- Helen Bonnick, Consultant, Speaker and Trainer on child to parent violence and abuse

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Book SynopsisThis book will help the sufferer understand the links between past trauma and present difficulties and offers ways to gain control over these problems, allowing the individual to deal with intrusive memories, manage mood swings and build better relationships in adulthood.

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Book SynopsisCounselling Survivors of Domestic Abuse explains how counsellors can facilitate recovery from domestic abuse within a secure, supportive therapeutic relationship.There has been growing awareness in recent years of the impact and consequences of domestic abuse, especially the relationship between domestic abuse and mental health. To appreciate the nature of trauma caused by domestic abuse, professionals need to understand its complex nature and the psychobiological impact of repeated exposure to control and terror. This book examines the therapeutic techniques and specific challenges, such as secondary traumatic stress, faced by professionals when working with survivors of domestic abuse. The author stresses the importance of identifying domestic abuse so that it can be addressed in the therapeutic process to aid recovery, and explores issues such as safety and protection, the long-term effects of abuse and the importance of grieving to the restoration of hope.This book is essential reading for counsellors, therapists, social workers, mental health professionals, health care professionals including GPs and midwives, managers of refuges, legal professionals and all those working with survivors of domestic abuse.Trade ReviewThis book is comprehensive in approach and challenging in content. -- AccordOverall, Counselling Survivors of Domestic Abuse provides an excellent resource for counsellors and health professionals who work with domestic abuse. I would suggest that it is an essential read not only to better understand the phenomenology of survivors, but also to facilitate self-reflection and self-understanding. -- Healthcare Counselling and Psychotherapy JournalThe book is hugely on psychosocial aspects of domestic abuse as well as drawing together applicable clinical thinking from a wide range of theoretical orientations, with extensive bibliography and indexes. A holistic approach is reflected in chapters on understanding the domestic abuse relationship, assessing risk, clinical engagement, hope and, importantly, impact on the professional. This is a useful teaching and study aid, a reference book for agencies to keep to hand, as well as a 'secure base' for domestic abuse specialists to develop and refresh their skills, thinking and case management. -- Therapy TodayThis is a thoughtful, informative and thorough response to the complex and sensitive issues surrounding counselling for those who have experienced domestic abuse. Initially, the book examines the extent and nature of domestic abuse, before turning its attention to the therapeutic role of working with survivors highlighting the importance of safety and the restoration of self-empowerment. It is a great book and will be invaluable to professionals working within the therapeutic process, whether GPs, mental health professionals, counsellors, midwives, social workers or independent domestic violence advisors, to name but a few. Students of various disciplines reflected by these professions whould be recommended this book as essential reading. -- Professional Social WorkTable of ContentsAcknowledgements. Introduction. 1. Understanding Domestic Abuse. 2. Understanding the Impact and Long-Term Effects of Domestic Abuse. 3. Understanding Survivors of Domestic Abuse. 4. Working with Survivors of Domestic Abuse. 5. Working with Safety and Protection Strategies. 6. Working with Trauma of Domestic Abuse. 7. Working with Self-Aspects of Domestic Abuse. 8. Working with Relational Aspects of Domestic Abuse. 9. Working with Loss and the Restoration of Hope. 10. Professional Issues when Working with Survivors of Domestic Abuse. Resources. Bibliography. Subject Index. Author Index.

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Book SynopsisThis is an interactive self-help workbook and psychological road map to enable survivors of coercive, cultic and spiritual abuse to find healing, recovery and growth.This book provides a comprehensive guide to recovery, based on a tested model of post-cult counselling, and years of research and clinical experience. It is designed to help survivors of diverse abusive settings, including religious and spiritual, political, gangs, business, therapy and wellness and one-on-one relationships. The reader follows a beautifully illustrated journey through four Phases of recovery and growth, one Milestone at a time, to make sense of what has happened to them, learn how to walk free from psychological control and find resources for healing. The author includes stories from her own experience, detailing her path towards recovery and how she learned to come to terms with and overcome what happened to her. Written in accessible language, this workbook serves as both a self-hTrade Review‘The world today is experiencing a massive proliferation of destructive cultic groups - religious, political, terrorist, commercial, self-help, healing, recovery, and many other kinds of groups that use deceptive recruitment tactics and coercive control of members. To the very few books meant to help those leaving cults, Dr. Jenkinson adds this comprehensive and essential volume. Having herself traversed the daunting path from traumatic abuse in a cult to freedom and recovery, Dr. Jenkinson offers the reader decades of wisdom gleaned from her therapeutic work with survivors, distilled into this eminently readable and usable volume. Both survivors and therapists alike will welcome and treasure this essential and urgently needed addition to the cult recovery literature.’Daniel Shaw, psychoanalyst and author of Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation and Traumatic Narcissism and Recovery: Leaving the Prison of Shame and Fear‘Gillie Jenkinson has provided former members and those who counsel them with a unique gift, which will profoundly impact the recovery field. After leaving cult life's cognitive and emotional confusion, Dr. Jenkinson uses the perfect grounding metaphor of a physical journey (with illustrations) to give former cult members a step-by-step ‘psychological roadmap’. Like the best kind of guide, she offers wisdom gained from her own cult experience and her years as a therapist in the cult recovery field. With each step forward, as the ‘fog’ of cult life begins to clear, former members can finally arrive at a place where they gain their authentic identity with a wide range of feelings and a clearer sense of reality. This workbook is a remarkable achievement.’ Lorna Goldberg, LCSW, PsyA, Past President, International Cultic Studies Association and Director, Institute for Psychoanalytic Studies‘Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is one of the most thoughtful and insightful clinicians in the cultic studies field. In this book, she applies her personal experience and many years of research and clinical work to construct a practical workbook for people leaving cultic groups. This is not simply an explanation of why people join and leave cults. The book provides what would be called ‘homework’ in some counseling approaches. It is interactive and asks ‘participants’ (they are much more than readers) to think and write, to complete forms, to wrestle with their memories, thoughts, and goals for the future. ‘Participating’ in this handbook could be worth thousands of dollars in consultation time. The book is a wonderful resource, especially for those former members who do not have the resources to travel and pay for professional consultation. I recommend it highly.’Michael D. Langone, PhD, Executive Director, International Cultic Studies Association‘This is a unique book and should be essential reading. It was forged in the fire of painful experience and refined by a keen mind. Gillie offers a clear pathway enabling others to make their own choices and find their own freedom. It is a remarkable story of personal transformation and hope.’Alistair Ross, Associate Professor, Psychotherapy, Oxford University‘Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is a professional I know and trust. Her work has helped in the education, awareness and healing of countless people.’Steven Hassan, PhD, MA, MEd, LMHC, NCC, Freedom of Mind Resource Center, Inc. ‘This valuable book is a sensitively written, practical guide to cult recovery. Based on her own experiences, first as a former member, and then as a therapist specializing in cult recovery, Dr. Jenkinson shares her knowledge and offers guidance for the difficult process of integrating into the non-cult world in a healthy way.’Alexandra Stein, PhD, visiting research fellow, London South Bank University‘There is a new tool to help former cult members and other survivors of abusive groups and relationships, and I will be recommending it to every former cult member who consults with me. In this ground-breaking book, Gillie Jenkinson literally takes her readers on a step-by-step journey to recovery. She doesn’t use jargon and she doesn’t list aspirational goals and leave the ‘how’ to the reader’s imagination. Instead, she offers clear exercises and examples that untangle the process of recovery. The whimsical illustrations help the reader to visualize the recommended steps and invite the reader to participate. I recommend this workbook without reservation.’Bill Goldberg, clinical social worker and psychoanalyst, formerly Program Supervisor for Rehabilitative Services for Rockland County, New York (retired)Table of ContentsPart One: Setting the scene Part Two: Who am I? Part Three: Preparing for the journey Part Four: The Walking Free journey Region 1: Leave physically so you can begin to recover psychologically Milestone 1: Leaving physically Region 2: Leaving psychologically Milestone 2: Face your doubts Milestone 3: Diagnose your group or relationship Milestone 4: How confluent were you? Milestone 5: Introjects, critical thinking and phobias milestone 6: Who are YOU? Milestone 7: Understanding traumatic stress Milestone 8: Boundary-setting assertive anger – and rage Milestone 9: Healthy self-love Milestone 10: Thought reform Milestone 11: Recognising other controlling dynamics Milestone 12: Unmasking the leader Region 3: Heal emotionally Milestone 13: Emotional healing Region 4: Walking Free Milestone 14: Reflections Milestone 15: Moving on and Walking Free! Part Five: Seeking therapy Part Six: Advice for therapists

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Book SynopsisA comprehensive and timely resource for students, activists, educators, and advocates, Domestic Violence and Abuse: A Reference Handbook provides a rich and scholarly assessment of this important social issue while also including stories and profiles for a more personal understanding.Domestic Violence and Abuse: A Reference Handbook provides a thorough review of the most recent research about intimate partner violence. Additionally, a historical review provides readers with a sense of how views on domestic violence have changed over time and how different policies and practices have and have not been successful. Appropriate for readers at the high school level and above, the volume focuses on the scope, extent, and characteristics of domestic violence and offers several unique elements, including profiles of significant individuals, personal stories from advocates, activists and survivors, and a review of controversial issues. The volume also includes a chronology of key Trade ReviewRecommended. Two-year program students and general readers through graduate students. * Choice *Table of ContentsPreface, Acknowledgments, 1 Background and History, A Global Overview, Risk of Victimization, Understanding Abusers, Insights from Criminology Theory, Effect on Victims, Criminal Justice Interventions, Services for Victims, Prevention Programs, History of Efforts to End Domestic Violence in the United States, Current Issues, References, 2 Problems, Controversies, and Solutions, Introduction, Do Athletes Commit More Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence? Are Men Abused as Frequently as Women? Which Groups Are Disproportionally Victimized and Why? What Happens When Abuse Occurs within Progressive Groups or Organizations? Should Domestic Violence Be Automatic Grounds for Asylum or Refugee Status? Should Children Be Removed from Abusive Homes? What Is the Connection between Pet Abuse and Domestic Violence? Is Arming Victims of Domestic Violence an Appropriate Intervention to Stop Abuse? Should Domestic Violence Offenders Be Allowed to Own Firearms? What Role Does Mass Media Play in Domestic Violence? Are Restraining Orders a Good Way to Protect Victims? Do Mandatory Arrest Policies in Domestic Violence Cases Work? Is a Feminist Perspective the Best Approach to Domestic Violence Advocacy? What Is the Role of Health-Care Professionals in Domestic Violence Cases? Is the Shelter Model of Domestic Violence Services the Best Way to Help Victims? What Role Can Self-Defense Classes Play in Efforts to Prevent Sexual or Domestic Violence? How Accurate Is Battered Woman Syndrome? How Effective Are Batterer Intervention Programs? References, 3 Perspectives, Introduction, Why I Am an Advocate against Domestic Violence in the Bahamas: We Must Continue to Strive Camille Smith, Moving On from Dating Violence Amanda Pagano, Rolling with the Punches Amy Daumit, Abuse from a Male Survivor's Perspective Dustin LeBrun and Erin Moloney, Why I Volunteer with Victims of Domestic Violence Anya Finley, Abuse Is Everywhere, But We Can Stop It Somy Ali, A Counselor's Perspective Alison Morris, How Abuse Can Turn You into Something You're Not and How to Reclaim Yourself Rebecca Smith, 4 Profiles, People, Jimmie Briggs, Sarah Deer, Salma Hayek, Francine Hughes, Jackson Katz, Nicole Kidman, Michael Kimmel, Paul Kivel, Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn, Erin Pizzey, Tony Porter, Lynn Rosenthal, Susan Schechter, Sir Patrick Stewart, Murray Straus, Lenore Walker, Reese Witherspoon, Organizations, Avon Foundation for Women, Break the Cycle, Futures without Violence, INCITE! Women, Gender Non-Conforming, and Trans People of Color against Violence, National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), NO MORE, No More Tears, Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN), U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women (OVW), References, 5 Data and Documents, Data, Table 5.1. Lifetime Prevalence of Contact Sexual Violence, Physical Violence, or Stalking Victimization by an Intimate Partner, 2015, Figure 5.1. Lifetime Prevalence of Sexual Violence Victimization (Percentage), 2015, Figure 5.2. Lifetime Prevalence of Psychological Aggression by an Intimate Partner, 2015, Table 5.2. Violent Victimization Resulting in Injury and Medical Treatment, by Victim–Offender Relationship, 2003–2012, Figure 5.3. Composition of Victim–Offender Relationships in Domestic Violence Victimizations, by Victim's Sex, 2003–2012, Table 5.3. Rate of Violent Victimization, by Victim Characteristics and Victim–Offender Relationship, 2003–2012, Documents, The Jessica Gonzales Case (2011), Reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act (2013), United Nations Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination against Women (CEDAW) (1979), United States v. Hayes (2009), United States v. Castleman (2014), Voisine v. United States (2016), 6 Resources, Reports, Studies, and Articles, Journals and Magazines, Books, Curricula, Manuals, and Handbooks, Documentaries, Short Videos, State and National Coalitions, Organizations, 7 Chronology, Glossary, Index, About the Author,

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Book SynopsisIt's hard to be left taking care of your family all by yourself. Parenting alone in the wake of domestic violence, intense conflict or traumatic, unexpected events, makes being 'the parent who stayed' even more difficult. Are you standing in the ruins of your family wondering what the hell you have to do to get back to being ok again? Has the amount of conflict, aggression and shame that came with separation/divorce floored your and your kids? You deserve to be happy, no matter how awful this has been. Parenting alone after traumatic family breakdown is relentless, lonely, scary and hard. The nights you sit on the stairs crying after the kids finally fall asleep. The days you can barely get out of bed but push on through because no-one else is going to pick up the pieces. The times you watch your children crumple into anger, despair and frustration and you simply don’t know what to do. If you feel that you’re stuck in the trenches, this book is for you. It's for you, if even lifting your eyes to the path ahead feels like putting yourself in the firing line. It is for you if you’re just about getting through the day you’re in. It's for you if you know that life cannot change when you have no perspective, no vision, and no plan. You can figure out how to pick up all the broken pieces of your life and put them back together again. Nina Farr, TED Speaker, Author and Leadership Coach (plus ex-lone parent to two under two), can show you how, because she's been there.Trade ReviewAmazon reviews: "An empowering and overwhelmingly positive book so beautifully written that every sentence is worthy of transformation into an inspiring Instagram meme!I love that the reader is gently encouraged into practical action. I cannot wait for my hard copy which before long will no doubt be decorated with my own personal reflections and annotations. I believe that this book will support me as I strive for a better life for me and my daughter." Caroline Danks"This been book could have been my best friend back in the days when I found myself alone, in a new house at a new town, with no friends and family, raising a four year old on my own. No money, no furniture, had to leave uni, and just trying to figure out life again." Sea Dancer"Absolutely loved it, made me realise all the things I was feeling and experiencing were totally normal, great insight and advice for how to work through your challenges. Definitely recommend for any single parent or someone helping support a single parent." Emma M"Nina's book is a beacon to guide you out of the fog. It's ideal for parents moving forward from conflict, trauma and/or domestic abuse. She writes about practical steps you can make to change your thought patterns, and how to rediscover which values you want to live by. She gives inspiring examples of women who have worked through her step-by-step guides, and empowers you to first visualise, then shape, your future.Nothing is spoon-fed to you - you have to put the work in to change your own mindset - but she gives you tools to choose a new definition of stability and a new direction for you and your family." Michaela S"The Parent Who Stayed is an amazing and helpful read for people going through a difficult breakup. I could have done with this book 5 years ago when my own marriage ended unexpectedly in a traumatic way. Nina really has an amazing insight into this and having been through it is very well placed to assist other people on the same journey. She understands what you will be facing and wants to help you through it.The book is designed to be read in useful chunks and helps to guide you on the path to taking charge of your new life and the changes to your family unit. Nina presents the facts very well and gives very good advice and help on how to move along the path, whilst describing and understanding the feelings that you will be going through. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who becomes a single parent but especially those in trauma." Karen Chugg"Absolutely brilliant. For anyone (male or female) who has ever felt the overwhelming, crushing responsibility of lone parenting." Rachel Bradford"I have really enjoyed this book. Nina speaks honestly about her own lone parent journey. It is well written, clear and easy to understand . I would like to keep this as a handbook for life , to support me whilst parenting my own two children. As well as the practical guidance offered in the book I particularly enjoyed reading the case studies. I love reading actual accounts of people like me, women from different backgrounds arriving at the same place as me. Reading how people were able to take an active role in their and their children's lives is encouraging and helps me to have a feeling of solidarity with others and to feel less alone in my situation. Above all this book gives me hope and offers structure where there often is none, many parents have that feeling of coasting, give this a try to help you to regain control and become a leader for your family.""This was such an easy read which is great when you don't have the headspace to focus for long. I found a lot of aha moments and felt the author was walking with me each step of the way and I love that you can become part of a supportive community of others all experiencing similar feelings. I felt it was written with love and conviction and would recommend to any mother feeling stuck. I say mother because it is more aimed at that role but would equally work for fathers." J T Christie"Nina such a beautiful, well written book. I don't even have children and I felt the powerful emotions and rawness of this book. You hold the reader who in her hours of need as she reaches out for your wisdom needs to be held, soothed and supported to carry on being the parent who stayed..With practical advice, guidance and support you show us that it is possible to lead your family from the front even when your world is thrown upside down." Emma Heptonstall, Former Lawyer, Family Mediator and Divorce Coach"I love Nina's honest style of writing, suddenly going through huge changes feel insurmountable. It's like having an amazing friend take your hand and guide you through the dark woods to safety. Gorgeous book x" Miss A K Challacombe "Loved it, worth its weight in gold if you are a single parent."'If you're feeling lost, alone and overwhelmed by your new life situation, this book will take you by the hand and empower you to create a beautiful new life for you and your family.It's a practical guide... but more than this, Nina is someone who's navigated this situation successfully herself and then created a powerful compass to help others in the same situation...Nina's writing is full of empathy, courage, and hope.At a time when you may be feeling the most lost and alone, 'I Am The Parent Who Stayed' is a lifeline and a guide to a new life that you may not even believe is possible yet...Nina's story (and the many case studies) will show you that 'all is not lost'... and the easy to follow steps are the perfect way to change any 'I can't' thoughts into 'I can, and I will... watch me'!''A refreshingly, inspiring approach to support lone parents. This books takes you on an empowering journey from victim to leader, developing a shared vision for a parent and their child. Nina guides the reader on a journey of self and family development, through the complexities of parenting and growing together, flourishing in order to realise your dreams. As someone who has worked in children's services for over twenty years, alongside parenting alone, I find this a supportive and effective, positive model to motivate and change family lives.''After watching Nina's TED talk on 'broken families' and being involved in her Family Vision course, I had to read this book. As ever, Nina's wisdom shines through and knowing that she has lived every word of this book makes it so much more than a 'how-to-divorce' book, it's a manual for a happy and fulfilled life, written by someone who lives by her words. I'm going to give a copy of "I Am The Parent Who Stayed" to any of my friends who end up standing at the precipice of separation, worried about the future as a lone parent. It is uplifting and inspiring while including some real world advice to strengthen your family, whatever it's size and shape.''I've been working in parenting and domestic abuse research for years, and evaluating what works best for vulnerable parents. This book and the Family Vision programme are amazing tools that take a really innovative, strength based and personal approach to the journey of parenting alone. I think the book is insightful and takes an empowering approach to this incredible role of parent leader. I can't wait to see its results when it is handed out to the wider world; it deserves to be shared and we all deserve to share in it.''I can't recommend this book highly enough! Nina writes with heart and soul and offers solid, practical support to solo parents recovering from all manner of abandonment situations. You don't have to sacrifice a happy family when the going gets tough. You've Got This. Now you've got Nina Farr too!A total winner.''Oh my goodness this could have been my story. Beautifully written and poignant. A must read for anyone who finds themselves being a single mum or indeed for those who have previously been there. Highly recommend this book.''Such an amazing, powerful and inspiring book. I will be recommending it to all of my single mum friends- I literally feel like a load has been taken off my shoulders!'

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Book SynopsisThis updated and expanded edition provides comprehensive coverage of the theory and practice of counselling survivors of child sexual abuse (CSA). In a reasoned and thoughtful approach, common stereotypes of abusers and their victims are replaced with current knowledge on the incidence of CSA and its long-term impacts on adult survivors.Christiane Sanderson explores the therapeutic relationship from building trust and meeting the client's needs to establishing boundaries, addressing transference issues and avoiding secondary traumatic stress. She evaluates various treatment approaches and techniques, and discusses the advantages and disadvantages of group therapy. Stand-alone chapters provide in-depth coverage of:* CSA's impact on survivors' sense of self and their relationships with others* self-harming behaviour, including self-injury, substance abuse and eating disorders* how memory is constructed and reconstructed, including the controversial issues surrounding recovered memories* useful approaches to coping with fear and loss from working with other types of trauma* normal sexual development and typical sexual difficulties for survivors* working with shame and dissociation.Counselling Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse honestly addresses the complex issues in this important area of work. It provides practical strategies for those new to counselling in this field and valuable new insights for experienced counsellors.Trade ReviewThis is an expanded and revised third edition of a well-respected text, and I cannot imagine there is a more comprehensive, account of the impact of sexual abuse on the adult survivors. -- Mental Health Today, Feb 2007The publication of this edition should be welcomed. It has been totally updated and revised, with a different structure of chapter titles that are both clear and informative. Sanderson really thought hard about how to build on the earlier edition. -- Community Care Magazine, January 2007There has been a large increase in awareness, knowledge and understanding of the issues that permeate childhood sexual abuse (CSA), both within the counselling field and the public. Much of this is down to the work of researchers and writers, such as Christine, who strive to bring together and report into the public domain what life is like, long term, for a survivor of CSA and the issues they have. There is much new material in this updated edition, such as in-depth chapters on self-harming behaviour, memory, sexuality and many more - all serving to provide the reader with a book that, despite the subject matter, is easy to read, follow and understand. In my opinion this book will be of great value to those already working with CSA survivors and essential for those who are considering such work. -- Therapy TodayThe third edition of this helpful book is shaped by current research and the author's clinical experience, and links current knowledge in child sexual abuse (CSA) with its impact and long-term effects. There is a great deal to take in... but the effort is worthwhile. -- The PsychologistThis excellent book is comprehensive in addressing the complex issues of working with child sexual abuse (CSA). This thought-provoking and optimistic book gives valuable new insights surrounding CSA and its impact. Suitable for experienced practitioners and those new to counselling, both will be able to use it as a reference guide when working with survivors who have specific presenting symptoms, how best to work with such symptoms, and how they relate to CSA. I have worked within this field for almost 20 years and I welcome this valuable resource, it has increased both my understanding and knowledge, this helps me to be more effective in enabling a client move from, as Christiane states, "Victim to survivor to Feeling Alive". -- Accord MagazinePraise for the second edition:'Counselling Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse addresses the myths and mysteries while propelling a lifeline to both the health professional and the adult survivor. This is probably the most complete book on sexual abuse in publication.' -- Nursing Ethicsthis excellent book strikes a good balance between theory, data and practical advice for workers and includes illustrative case material and practical strategies for counsellors. It conveys both the experiences of survivors and the enormous amount that can be achieved. It is a stimulating and optimistic book which would be suitable for all workers in this important area. -- Criminal Behaviour and Mental HealthChristiane Sanderson's book is a comprehensive text on the subject of working with adult survivors of child sexual abuse. It is through in its exploration of the many facets of this work. This is a shocking subject, and the author does not protect us from the harsh realities, which is one of the book's strengths. -- HCPJ, January 2007Counselling adult survivors of child sexual abuse is an essential addition to the libraries of clinics and counselling services, and essential reading for counsellors and researchers working in the field. -- HCPJ January 2007Table of ContentsPreface 1. Understanding Child Sexual Abuse. 2. The Impact and Long Term Effects of Child Sexual Abuse on Ault Survivors. 3. Understanding Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. 4. Working with Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. 5. Working with Child Sexual Abuse and Trauma. 6. Working with Child Sexual Abuse and Dissociation. 7. Working with Child Sexual Abuse and Memory. 8. Working with Child Sexual Abuse and Self-Harm. 9. Working with the Shattered Self. 10. Working with Shame. 11. Working with Sexuality. 12. Professional issues. References. Indexes.

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Book SynopsisThe trauma caused by rape and sexual assault can often be further compounded by unthinking or insensitive comments from people who may judge, disbelieve or disparage the victim.This authoritative resource draws together advice for all people in the helping professions on how to work with victims of rape and sexual violence. The wide-ranging topics cover the effects of rape, male rape, childhood sexual abuse, sex trafficking and prostitution, and sexually transmitted infections, giving best practice advice on how to offer effective and compassionate support to help survivors.Trade ReviewThis guide will provide an outstanding resource to support all of those who work in this field. It is well written by someone who has a profound knowledge and understanding of this subject and sensitively details, real case studies, clarity on rape, power and control, consequences and how to support. The author Sue Daniels, is credible and demonstrates a passion and commitment to making a difference in the sphere of all forms of abuse. An essential read. -- Cheryl George, Consultant in Public HealthMs. Daniels admirably disseminates good, hands-on information for professionals of any discipline whose work intersects with male and female survivors of sexual assault. This book is an excellent guide for ensuring the most therapeutic outcomes for survivors, and not doing the further harms that have sometimes been the product of ignorance. -- Louise McOrmond-Plummer, Intimate partner sexual violence author and specialist, AustraliaI think Sue has done a great service producing this well researched book on such a grim subject. She describes the many forms of abusive behaviour and the symptoms they produce with great clarity and compassion. It will help many who struggle to heal the tortured souls of victims. -- Ivan Tyrrell, Director of Human Givens College and co-author of Human Givens: A new approach to emotional Health and Clear ThinkingTable of Contents1. The Traumatic Effects of Rape and Sexual Violence. 2. Male Rape, Sexual Assault and Violence. 3. (DFSA) Drug Facilitated Sexual assault. 4. Childhood Sexual Abuse, Sibling Sexual Abusive Behaviour and Grooming and Conditioning Behaviours. 5. Internet Child Pornography and Pseudo Paedophilia. 6. Child Sex Trafficking and Prostitution. 7. (STIs) Sexually Transmitted Infections. 8. (FME) Forensic Medical Examination. 9. Rape and the Law. 10. Sex Offender Patterns of Behaviour and Sex Offenders Register. 11. Reflective Case Histories. 12. Working with Victims and the Aftermath and The Benefit of Intervention.

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Book SynopsisCoercive control is a severe form of domestic violence experienced by millions of children worldwide. It involves a perpetrator using a range of tactics to intimidate, humiliate, degrade, exploit, isolate and control a partner or family member. Some coercive control perpetrators use violence, others do not.Drawing on interviews with children and mothers who have experienced coercive control-based domestic violence, this groundbreaking book sheds light on the impacts of coercive control on children, how it is perpetrators who must be held accountable for those impacts, and how resistance by children and mothers occurs. Resistance happens in everyday life, not just in response to incidents of violence. Breaking free from coercive control is not a one-off event but a sustained battle for safety and recovery in which child and adult survivors need supports and professional interventions that work.Written accessibly for students, researchers, practitioners, survivors of domestic violence, aTrade ReviewThe author does discuss the interaction between mothers and children in dealing with situations of domestic abuse...the book notes that children are victims of domestic abuse just as their mothers are. * Choice *This book advances understanding of DV by adding to existing practice perspectives. Coercive Control in Children's and Mothers' Lives is an excellent addition to the extant literature on comprehending and addressing DV and abuse. * Kyunghee Ma, Affilia: Feminist Inquiry in Social Work *This is the book on coercive control and children that professionals and survivors have been waiting for. By giving the voices of mothers and their children equal weight, Dr Emma Katz elegantly lays bare the flimsily and artificial walls, created by professionals, between domestic violence and child maltreatment. This book is a journey into the everyday, crazy-making, scary, painful, petty minutiae of coercive control. It sharpens our vision of perpetrators as parents, opening the door to new accountability efforts. It offers hope through intimate narratives of safety, love, and healing between adult and child survivors. By tying the voices of survivors to an incisive analysis of policy and systems failures, Dr Katz offers the domestic violence informed practice change road map we need. * David Mandel, Executive Director and Founder, Safe & Together Institute *Amidst the failure of police, courts and child welfare to hold the male perpetrators accountable, Emma Katz follows fifteen families through their harrowing years of abuse and recovery. In a pioneering work that shows that children are subjected to the same abusive tactics as their mothers, she applies the new paradigm of coercive control to amazing effect, evoking the voices of women and children to identify the multiple forms of harm inflicted, the tactics perpetrators use to co-opt or weaponize children, how children resist and how some women break free. The book depicts a disturbing reality. But the ultimate message of survival against adversity is uplifting. This book will change how we understand and respond to children's experience of woman abuse. * Evan Stark, PhD, MSW, Author of Coercive Control and Professor Emeritus, Rutgers University, New Jersey *Dr Emma Katz is one of the world's leading experts on coercive control, and with this text she has done something rare: centred the voices of children. This will become a seminal text for all who seek to understand and respond to coercive control. It will also be a lifeline for people who have grown up navigating the impossible terrain of coercive control in their family homes: finally, there is a text that honours their agency, their strategic nous, and the sheer act of will it took for them to survive. * Jess Hill, investigative journalist and author of See What You Made Me Do: Power, Control and Domestic Abuse *Dr Emma Katz gets right to the heart of the matter of how coercive controllers harm their children. With great knowledge and care she 'connects the dots' of how children are victims of coercive control and domestic violence, and how that coercive control impacts critical aspects of their lives and emotional and social development. Throughout the book she demonstrates that the failure to hold abusers accountable as parents is endangering kids; that children should be listened to, believed, and heard; and that children's fear, trauma and the danger being caused by the abuser must be taken seriously. Thank you for hearing the voices of children & honoring the reality of our experiences. * Ruth Stearns Mandel, survivor professional, Safe & Together Institute E-Learning, Communications & Strategic Relationship Manager *Written by the world's leading expert on coercively controlling abuse and children, this book provides a powerful detailing of children's direct experiences of coercively controlling abuse by (mostly) fathers and the multi-faceted harms they suffer, calling for courts and service providers to recognize children as direct victims, not merely incidental witnesses, of coercive control. * Professor Joan Meier, Professor of Law and Director of the National Family Violence Law Center, George Washington University Law School *This is a timely book addressing an under-researched area of domestic abuse — the impact of coercive control on children. Katz begins with a powerful sentence, "if a situation of coercive control was a political system it would be a dictatorship", setting out clearly the entrapment victims experience. It has hitherto been popularly considered that children merely witness abuse and control, but this book graphically documents the experiences of both mothers and children showing that children are victims in their own right. It should be compulsory reading for every child protection professional and every family court judge. * Professor Jane Monckton Smith, Professor of Public Protection, University of Gloucestershire *Table of Contents1 Understanding coercive control 2 Coercive control and the agentic child 3 Interviewing children and mothers about coercive control 4 Coercive control: Harms to children 5 Mother-child relationships under coercive control 6 Ready to recover? Challenges faced when breaking free of coercive control 7 Helping each other to recover: Mothers' and children's strategies 8 And they lived happily ever after? Outcomes for mother-child relationships after coercive control 9 A new way of life: Mutuality and closeness between mothers and children 10 Ways ahead

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Book SynopsisI hope with the women who break their silence and contribute to this survey some very much needed changes will take place. God knows we need them.This book is the result of a nationwide survey of 2300 letters from women and 97 from men about rape and sexual abuse. Patricia Easteal analysed the materials primarily from women who have experienced abuse from husbands, estranged husbands, relatives, dates, bosses, priests, acquaintances and strangers.

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Book SynopsisAs I stepped over smashed crockery, broken glass, pools of milk, juice and water in my kitchen, I felt a surge of anger and recalled the pain of the many black eyes, cut lips, and broken bones that Michael had inflicted on me, and I thought, ENOUGH. So many of us ask, How can this be happening? How did love turn into abuse and violence? These are the questions that Patricia Hughes, renowned author of Daughters of Nazareth, continually asked herself. Like so many women, she stayed in an abusive relationship. Convinced that she somehow was responsible. She writes powerfully of being pulled into the cycle of fear, abuse, giving in, forgiving. Enough is a story rarely told, and she tells it without self-pity, sentimentality or blind anger. Overcoming huge hurdles Patricia Hughes provides the reader with an honest account of all the ups and downs she encountered.Enough is both an inspirational story and a first hand guide for any woman in an abusive relationship.Trade Review"This is an articulate, thoughtful, accessible look at the phenomenon of violence ... This sympathetic first-hand account of finding life after abuse is destined to help all those who find themselves in a similar position." -- Shaunagh O'Connor, Herald Sun."[T]he momentum of Enough carries the reader along. You want to know what happens next, how Patricia will extricate herself from her nightmarish situation. The brave tale of ojne woman's survival could be a useful manual to the many thousands of women in our society living with domestic violence." -- Janet Graham, North and West Melbourne NewsTable of ContentsMeaning; Urda; Origins; Futhorc; Magical inscriptions; Memorial stones; Fascism; Titles; Cosmology; Nature; Qabala; Vision; Werdandi; Rune stance; Breathing/ Vowel song; Problems; Tune in; Health?; Divination; Alignments; Sigil sorcery; Seiethr and Seething; Energy; lda; Rune companion; Sources.

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Book SynopsisHer abusive father and controlling mother hampered Tricia Cook but did not prevent her from accomplishing a lot in life. A stressful childhood in Yorkshire, with bombing, rationing and often being shut up in a cupboard, was followed by nursing school, marriage and children.Then came emigration —surviving the cold of northern Canada — before moving to theVancouver area, where she worked in extended health care. When her back gave out, she experienced the fate of a disabled worker. Forced to retire, she took courses and volunteered for decades in hospice and arthritis care, ultimately becoming a counsellor. After group psychology and finding out her younger sister had also been abused, she knew she had to warn others to speak up.

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Book SynopsisThe author of the bestselling Please Daddy No reveals more harrowing experiences of his neglected childhood.Trade ReviewPraise for ‘Please, Daddy, No’: ‘Truly moving.’ Fern Britten, This Morning

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