Coping with / advice about abuse Books

Book SynopsisA guide that helps survivors of sexual abuse to improve their relationships and discover the joys of sexual intimacy. It takes them step-by-step through the recovery process using groundbreaking exercises and techniques. It helps them to create a positive meaning for sex and develop a healthy sexual self-concept.

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Book SynopsisThe trauma caused by rape and sexual assault can often be further compounded by unthinking or insensitive comments from people who may judge, disbelieve or disparage the victim.This authoritative resource draws together advice for all people in the helping professions on how to work with victims of rape and sexual violence. The wide-ranging topics cover the effects of rape, male rape, childhood sexual abuse, sex trafficking and prostitution, and sexually transmitted infections, giving best practice advice on how to offer effective and compassionate support to help survivors.Trade ReviewThis guide will provide an outstanding resource to support all of those who work in this field. It is well written by someone who has a profound knowledge and understanding of this subject and sensitively details, real case studies, clarity on rape, power and control, consequences and how to support. The author Sue Daniels, is credible and demonstrates a passion and commitment to making a difference in the sphere of all forms of abuse. An essential read. -- Cheryl George, Consultant in Public HealthMs. Daniels admirably disseminates good, hands-on information for professionals of any discipline whose work intersects with male and female survivors of sexual assault. This book is an excellent guide for ensuring the most therapeutic outcomes for survivors, and not doing the further harms that have sometimes been the product of ignorance. -- Louise McOrmond-Plummer, Intimate partner sexual violence author and specialist, AustraliaI think Sue has done a great service producing this well researched book on such a grim subject. She describes the many forms of abusive behaviour and the symptoms they produce with great clarity and compassion. It will help many who struggle to heal the tortured souls of victims. -- Ivan Tyrrell, Director of Human Givens College and co-author of Human Givens: A new approach to emotional Health and Clear ThinkingTable of Contents1. The Traumatic Effects of Rape and Sexual Violence. 2. Male Rape, Sexual Assault and Violence. 3. (DFSA) Drug Facilitated Sexual assault. 4. Childhood Sexual Abuse, Sibling Sexual Abusive Behaviour and Grooming and Conditioning Behaviours. 5. Internet Child Pornography and Pseudo Paedophilia. 6. Child Sex Trafficking and Prostitution. 7. (STIs) Sexually Transmitted Infections. 8. (FME) Forensic Medical Examination. 9. Rape and the Law. 10. Sex Offender Patterns of Behaviour and Sex Offenders Register. 11. Reflective Case Histories. 12. Working with Victims and the Aftermath and The Benefit of Intervention.

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Book SynopsisAged nine Joss came home from school to discover her father''s suicide. She''s never gotten over it.This is the true story of Joss, 13 who is angry and out of control. At the age of nine, Joss finds her father's dead body. He has committed suicide. Then her mother remarries and Joss bitterly resents her step-father who abuses her mentally and physically.Cathy takes Joss under her wing but will she ever be able to get through to the warm-hearted girl she sees glimpses of underneath the vehement outbreaks of anger that dominate the house, and will Cathy be able to build up Joss's trust so she can learn the full truth of the terrible situation?Trade ReviewThe multi-million copy bestselling author.

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Book SynopsisCutting ties with a toxic family member is a crucial step away from a legacy of dysfunction and toward healing and happiness. This compassionate guide will help you embrace your decision with a sense of pride, validation, and faith in yourself; and provides powerful tools for creating boundaries, coping with judgment, and overcoming self-doubt.Do you have a toxic family member? Do you feel like cutting ties with this person—even as painful and scary as that may sound—would dramatically increase your well-being and improve your life? You’re not alone. Severing ties with a family member can be devastating; and cutting this toxic person out of your life may bring up feelings of guilt and uncertainty—especially if you feel judged by others regarding your decision. Fortunately, you can free yourself from this toxic family member in a healthy, responsible, and liberating way.In Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members, psychologist and toxic-family survivor Sherrie Campbell offers effective strategies for setting strong boundaries after ending contact with a toxic family member, and provides powerful tools to help you heal from shame, self-doubt, and stigma. You’ll find the validation you need to embrace your decision with pride and acknowledgement of your self-worth. You’ll learn how to let go of negative thoughts and feelings. And finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to rediscover self-care, self-love, self-reliance, and healthy loving relationships.Whether you’re ready to sever ties with a toxic family member, or already have, this book will help guide you, every step of the way.

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Book Synopsis‘And then came the session where I felt I would give up. I felt frustrated as I’d worked so hard on trying to speak but the most important words; the worst ones, had simply not come out. I implied I would not necessarily come back the following week and as I got up to leave the room, Pat said, ‘Try detaching from it entirely. Try writing it as a fairy story. Start with the words, once upon a time there was a little girl’. That evening, I tried. I sat on my bed and typed on the note’s app of my phone Once Upon A Time … and finally, four decades after the abuse began, the words started to flow.’ This book documents the therapeutic journey undertaken by Sophie and her therapist, Pat. It includes all chapters of the fairy tale and the drawings Sophie created to help her make sense of her experiences and to reconnect with herself. It also contains the many in-between session conversations Pat and Sophie had by email, WhatsApp, and texts, with important insights into how to work safely with trauma. Essential reading for all therapists, counsellors, health professionals, educators, and social workers, interested in understanding or working with survivors of child sexual abuse, and for those who are survivors of sexual abuse, The Flying Child – A Cautionary Fairy Tale for Adults- Finding a purposeful life after Child Sexual Abuse through compassionate and creative therapy – is a must- have for your bookshelf. Today, Sophie is a survivor activist, writer, founder and managing director of The Flying Child: a non-profit, National Lottery Community Funded organisation improving the awareness of child sexual abuse and the consequences of trauma. The core aim of The Flying Child is to normalise speaking about CSA. The Flying Child Project brings lived experience into the heart of professional settings, providing training in Education, Social Work and Healthcare. Pat Walsh is an experiential and intuitive counsellor with over forty years’ experience of working in trauma. Her background in nursing and occupational therapy taught her that to heal properly, wounds must be deeply cleansed, and purpose and meaning must be established to build any long -lasting recovery. She brings these learnings into her therapeutic work with survivors of sexual violence and childhood sexual abuse.

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Book SynopsisMany of us experience pain in our childhoods, and young people face trauma all over the world. How is it possible to recover? Do those abused always go on to hurt others? This incredible bestseller has overturned the way we view trauma, by showing how the extraordinary power of resilience can heal damaged lives. Renowned psychoanalyst Boris Cyrulnik has dealt with many young victims of distress and he relates stories of children who have been abused, orphaned, fought in wars and escaped genocide, yet who have not only survived, but grown in the face of adversity. By the way we deal with our memories and emotions, he shows, we can reshape our lives and transform pain into something stronger - just as a grain of sand in an oyster becomes a pearl. Resilience is not just about resisting; it is about learning to live. This life-changing book points the way towards hope and happiness.

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Book SynopsisA psychologist offers a roadmap for those looking to break free of toxic family relationships and thrive in the aftermath.Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by toxic family members, and the second is someone’s denial of the ways in which abusers treat and harm them. Loving someone doesn’t always mean having a relationship with them, just like forgiveness doesn’t always mean reconciliation. A significant part of healing comes with accepting that there are some relationships that are so poisonous that they destroy one’s ability to be healthy and function best. But It’s Your Family is a remarkable account of what it means to cut ties to toxic family abuse and thrive in the aftermath.Inside, Dr. Sherrie Campbell clarifies:How parents, adult children, siblings, grandparents, and in-laws can be toxicThe difference between flawed and toxic family membersExplaining the cutting of ties to children and others who may not understandSpiritual and religious views on forgivenessThe definition of cutting ties and what No Contact actually meansWhen readers are able to bring closure to those toxic relationships, they give themselves the space to love those family members from a distance, as fellow human beings, with the knowledge that it is unwise to remain connected. Readers learn how to love themselves in the process and fundamentally change their lives for the better!

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Book SynopsisThe author of the bestselling Please Daddy No reveals more harrowing experiences of his neglected childhood.Trade ReviewPraise for ‘Please, Daddy, No’: ‘Truly moving.’ Fern Britten, This Morning

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Book SynopsisA daughter’s remarkable and unflinching exploration of the unconventionally intimate relationship she shared with her mother—a brilliant and charismatic woman haunted by past trauma. When her daughter is eight, Leah McLaren’s mother abruptly fled her life as rural house wife in search a glamorous career in the city. In the chaotic years that follow, Cecily lurches from one apartment, job and toxic romance to the next. In a home without rules or emotional boundaries, Leah and Cecily become confidants—a state of enmeshment that suits them both. Their bond is loving but also marked by casual indifference. Cecily’s self-described parenting style of “benign neglect” is a hilarious party joke, but for her daughter it’s reality.In Leah’s first year of high school, Cecily makes a disclosure that will forever alter their relationship: From 12 to 15, Cecily confides, she was the lover of her 45-year-old

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Book SynopsisIn this powerful and moving history of family violence, historian Linda Gordon traces policies on child abuse and neglect, wife-beating, and incest from 1880 to 1960. Drawing on hundreds of case records from social agencies devoted to dealing with the problem, she chronicles the changing visibility of family violence.Trade Review"Feminist scholarship at its best."--New York Times Book ReviewTable of Contents1 INTRODUCTION 2 "THE CRUELTY": CHILD PROTECTION, 1880-1910 3 THE PROGRESSIVE-ERA TRANSFORMATION OF CHILD PROTECTION, 1900-1920 4 SINGLE MOTHERS AND THE CONTRADICTIONS OF CHILD-PROTECTION POLICY 5 "SO MUCH FOR THE CHILDREN NOW, SO LITTLE BEFORE"; CHILD NEGLECT AND PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY 6 "ONLY TO BRING MY CHILDREN UP GOOD": CHILD ABUSE AND SOCIAL CHANGE 7 "BE CAREFUL ABOUT FATHER": INCEST, GIRLS' RESISTANCE, AND THE CONSTRUCTION OF FEMININITY 8 "THE POWERS OF THE WEAK": WIFE-BEATING AND BATTERED WOMEN'S RSEISTANCE 9 CONCLUSION: SOCIAL CONTROL AND THE "POWERS OF THE WEAK" APPENDIX A RESEARCH AND ANALYSIS METHODS APPENDIX B CLIENT CHARACTERISTICS NOTES INDEX

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Book SynopsisThe sexual abuse of a child creates a devastating family crisis. Parents want to know what to do and say to help their child, both immediately and in the long term. This book offers guidance for parents who face the days and months after a child's abuse. It discusses each stage of a child's recovery.Table of ContentsIntroduction Notes on Using this Book Acknowledgments 1. Right Away. . . "I believe you." 2. The Legal System. . . "They'll be asking a lot of questions." 3. Family and Friends' Responses. . . "She cares, she just doesn't understand." 4. Children's Reactions and Everyday Life. . . "It's okay to be angry." 5. Grieving. . . "I'm crying, but I can still take care of you." 6. Rebuilding Self-Esteem. . . "It wasn't your fault." 7. Sexuality. . . "You are still lovable." 8. Self-Protection. . . "Never Again." 9. As Children Grow. . . "We'll need to talk again." 10. Moving on. . . "It's better now." Selected Resources What is Sexual Abuse? Offender Information: "How could he?"

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Book SynopsisDoes your partner blame you for his or her own problems?Does your partner humiliate you, especially in front of others?Is your partner impossible to please?Are you convinced something is wrong with you?Are you too ashamed to admit you are being abused?In Escaping Emotional Abuse, Beverly Engel, world-renowned therapist and expert in emotional abuse, exposes techniques an abuser uses to break your spirit and gain control - and guides you in how to free yourself from the shame that can keep you from the life, and the love, that you deserve.By using your deepest fears against you, the abuser strips you of self-esteem, dignity, and humanity - making you feel unworthy and utterly powerless to escape. But you possess a potent tool with which to combat shame: self-compassion. In these pages, Engel shows you how to access it. Using her highly effective Shame Reduction Program, she helps you jumpstart the process of reTrade ReviewAn extremely informative and comprehensive guide to understanding and overcoming emotional abuse. Beverly Engel gives you all the information you need to stop blaming yourself and get control of your life back -- Lundy Bancroft * author of WHY DOES HE DO THAT? *A warm, compassionate, and incredibly insightful guide through the recovery journey. Engel's words are a powerful antidote to the seemingly unshakeable shame that comes from emotional abuse. There is hope, healing, and wisdom to be found on every page -- Jackson MacKenzie * author of PSYCHOPATH FREE *I highly recommend this book for anyone-female or male-who suspects they are being emotionally abused. I especially appreciate the information on how emotional abuse can be shaming, which is dangerous to a person's self-esteem and sense of self -- Randi Kreger * co-author of STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS and author of THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER *

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Book SynopsisA Restorative Approach to Family Violence looks back at an early and successful demonstration of a family and culturally based model to stop severe family violence. This conferencing model, called family group decision making, was applied by three diverse Canadian communitiesInuit, rural, and urbanto the benefit of child and adult family members. Narrative inquiry identifies how engaging the family and relatives resets the narrative from misrecognition to recognition of their competence and caring. Family violence poses some of the most long-term and controversial questions in restorative justice. Should we use a restorative approach to stop gendered and intergenerational harm? Or will bringing together those who have been harmed, those causing harm, and their supporters only incite more violence? Underlying these questions is a profound distrust of families and their cultural networks. This distrust has stalled turning away from carceral interventions that particulaTrade Review"This important and beautifully written book narrates a history of brave innovation confronting family violence at its roots in Newfoundland and Labrador. It empowered First Peoples and First Nations to innovate in ways that allow us all to learn from their wisdom, and from histories of our colonial suppression of that wisdom. Evocative theoretical themes include feminist kin-making that moves patriarchal family structures from taking to tending. Joan Pennell draws upon deep wells of feminist activism in the shelter movement. She is an inspiring visionary, returning social work to its Hull House origins of doing with, away from doing for, from doing to."John Braithwaite, University of Maryland and Australian National University; Distinguished Professor Emeritus, School of Regulation and Global Governance (RegNet)"A Restorative Approach to Family Violence: Feminist Kin-making provides strong evidence for how, among other things, resetting externally imposed cultural narratives and re-centering the value of kinship ties are necessary steps towards addressing family violence. These steps may potentially change how child welfare systems engage with communities in which solutions can most effectively be found within their cultural roots."Kwesi Brookins, Professor of Psychology and Africana Studies, North Carolina State University; Director, Center for Family and Community Engagement"In this fantastic book, Professor Joan Pennell offers an exciting theoretical re-framing of the well-known Newfoundland and Labrador FGDM project led by Professor Gale Burford and her in the 1990s. The passage of time allows the author to reflect back and to add rich, multi-dimensional and state-of-the-art layers of theory to the program, which was ahead of its time when implemented. The book is a "Must read" for anyone working in the field of family violence, child protection and restorative justice: The "mother" of family group decision making re-organizes the building blocks of the project’s long-lasting success, and constructs a new framework that combines feminist, intergenerational, relational, cultural-sensitive and regulatory theories together. With this new framework, the strengths of the restorative justice approach become even more apparent; the development of new programs becomes more structured; and the evaluation of operating programs can be far more robust."Tali Gal, Head, School of Criminology, University of Haifa, Israel"In this valuable and timely book, Joan Pennell persuasively addresses one of the dilemmas confronting the modern development and application of restorative practices—family violence. Among RJ practitioners, the application of restorative values, principles, and practices to family violence has been thought to be very risky. It was feared that it might result in revictimization by those responsible due to power imbalances, subtle communication cues, and later retaliation. Based on an early demonstration project by Gale Burford and Joan, this book demonstrates that while careful preparation and coordination are necessary to decrease the odds of additional harm, Family Group Decision Making rooted in restorative practices may be uniquely suited to help families heal the harms, change attitudes and behaviors, and allow respectful relationships to be reestablished." ​Michael J. Gilbert, Professor Emeritus of Criminology & Criminal Justice, University of Texas at San Antonio; Executive Director, National Association of Community and Restorative Justice"This important book is written by one of the key developers of our practice and thinking around restorative approaches to family violence. It draws on both contemporary research and the author’s reflections on the trail-blazing use of restorative approaches in Canada in the 1990s. Characteristically, the book does not duck the challenges of family violence but is founded in a feminist kinship approach that carries hope and belief in families’ and communities’ abilities to address it, with the right support. The book also brings an important focus on the centrality of narratives to this work—the importance of questioning narratives which create stereotypes that disempower families and communities, and the revolutionary power of personal narratives as a means of grasping agency and making meaning from experience."Robin Sen, Lecturer, Social Work, University of Edinburgh, Scotland; Editor, Practice: Social Work in Action"Joan Pennell pioneered Family Group Conferencing. She has envisioned and evaluated countless innovations in family and child welfare. The book is about human connection. It interweaves the perspectives of kin-making, restorative principles, cultural world-views, feminism, movements harmful to families such as mass incarceration, masculinities, resilience, and trust. Within this context, Joan critiques and envisions new directions for nurturing troubled relationships. The reader comes away with a newfound respect for humble listening, faith in the power of people and families, and revitalized hope for a hybrid of allies." Mary P. Koss, Regent’s Professor of Public Health, Mel and Enid Zuckerman College of Public Health at the University of Arizona, USA"In reflecting on her thirty years of experience with Family Group Decision Making, the revolutionary approach to family violence that she helped to create in Canada and the U.S., Pennell demonstrates why this culturally- and family-based restorative justice process is uniquely suited to respond to the needs of families with a history of violence. Pennell brings her characteristic thoughtful analysis to the critical question of how to support anti-violence in families who have suffered ongoing colonial, racial, and economic injustice. This is a must-read for child welfare reformers, feminist anti-violence advocates, community organizers, restorative justice supporters – and all who are concerned with building a peaceful and just world."Professor Donna Coker, Dean's Distinguished Scholar, University of Miami School of Law, Florida, USAThis new book arrives at a time when calls for change have reached a crescendo with voices from families and professionals in agreement that our current adversarial responses are not serving families who experience violence well. Many families report experiences of harm when interacting with systems rooted in colonial and patriarchal values. A Restorative Approach to Family Violence: Feminist Kin-Making charts new paths that can help us move towards human and family-centered responses of care defined by feminist and relational approaches and the recognition that families can take steps to heal and that these steps impact this generation and those to come.Nancy Ross, PhD, RSW, Assistant Professor, School of Social Work, Dalhousie University, K’jipuktuk Halifax, Nova Scotia and Principle Investigator of a research project funded by Justice Canada titled Trauma and violence-informed and family-centered responses to intimate partner violence: Charting a new course for Nova ScotiaPennell’s book has the potential to speak to many different types of audiences, both social workers and other related professionals. In highlighting numerous concepts, historical narratives, and lessons learned, this book could be selected and engaged with among practitioners, students, researchers, educators, policymakers, and activists. Pennell holds together multiple narratives, themes, tensions, and hope throughout her writing as she encourages social workers to be more intentional and diligent in rethinking safety, families, violence, restorative justice, gender norms, feminist theories, and community engagement.Molly C. Driessen, University of Saint Joseph, West Hartford, CT, USA, Affilia: Feminist Inquiry in Social WorkTable of ContentsChapter 1. A Restorative Approach—Narrative Threads Chapter 2. FGDM Example—A Newfoundland Story Chapter 3. FGDM Project Planning—Local Organizing, Emergent Responsive Regulation Chapter 4. FGDM Conferencing—Resetting Narrative, Revitalizing Culture Chapter 5. Concluding Possibilities—Cascading Trust in Families and Cultural Networks

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Book SynopsisOriginally published in 1984, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware explodes Freud''s notions of infantile sexuality and helps to bring to the world''s attention the brutal reality of child abuse, changing forever our thoughts of traditional methods of child-rearing. Dr. Miller exposes the harsh truths behind children''s fantasies by examining case histories, works of literature, dreams, and the lives of such people as Franz Kafka, Virginia Woolf, Gustave Flaubert, and Samuel Beckett. Now with a new preface by Lloyd de Mause and a new introduction by the author, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware continues to bring an essential understanding to the confrontation and treatment of the devastating effects of child abuse.

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Book SynopsisTrade Review"The book is beautifully written and a powerful demonstration of gendered governance in the field of domestic violence. It is a must-read for anyone interested in domestic violence, victimization, feminist anti-violence work, the shelter movement, professionalization processes, the trauma discourse, and medicalization of social problems." * Social Forces *"The Politics of Surviving is a brilliant contribution to sociology and the multidisciplinary field of feminist scholarship. It is a necessary text for scholars of violence, social movements, and gender and sexuality." * Affilia: Feminist Inquiry in Social Work *"A valuable resource for scholars and students of gender-based violence. . . . Sweet…helps us understand, viscerally, the implications of this trauma revolution." * American Journal of Sociology *Table of ContentsAcknowledgments List of Acronyms Introduction: Domestic Violence and the Politics of Trauma Part I Survivorhood 1. Building a Therapeutic Movement 2. The Trauma Revolution 3. Administering Trauma Part II Surviving 4. Becoming Legible 5. Gaslighting 6. Surviving Heterosexuality Conclusion: Traumatic Citizenship Methodological Appendix Notes References Index

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Book SynopsisThe relationship between class and intimate violence against women is much misunderstood. While many studies of intimate violence focus on poor and working-class women, few examine the issue comparatively in terms of class privilege and class disadvantage. James Ptacek draws on in-depth interviews with sixty women from wealthy, professional, working-class, and poor communities to investigate how social class shapes both women's experiences of violence and the responses of their communities to this violence. Ptacek's framing of women's victimization as social entrapment links private violence to public responses and connects social inequalities to the dilemmas that women face.Trade Review"Destined to become a classic." * ACJS Today *Table of ContentsContents Preface 1. Conversations with Women about Abuse 2. The Hidden Dramas of Masculinity 3. Failed Femininity and Psychological Cruelty 4. Terror, Fear, and Caution: Physical Violence and Threats 5. The Continuum of Sexual Abuse 6. Economic Abuse: Control, Sabotage, and Exploitation 7. The Emotional Dynamics of Entrapment: Love, Fear, Anger, Guilt, and Shame 8. Separation, Healing, and Justice Conclusion: Intimate Violence as Social Entrapment Notes Bibliography Index

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Book SynopsisThe relationship between class and intimate violence against women is much misunderstood. While many studies of intimate violence focus on poor and working-class women, few examine the issue comparatively in terms of class privilege and class disadvantage. James Ptacek draws on in-depth interviews with sixty women from wealthy, professional, working-class, and poor communities to investigate how social class shapes both women's experiences of violence and the responses of their communities to this violence. Ptacek's framing of women's victimization as social entrapment links private violence to public responses and connects social inequalities to the dilemmas that women face.Trade Review"Destined to become a classic." * ACJS Today *Table of ContentsContents Preface 1. Conversations with Women about Abuse 2. The Hidden Dramas of Masculinity 3. Failed Femininity and Psychological Cruelty 4. Terror, Fear, and Caution: Physical Violence and Threats 5. The Continuum of Sexual Abuse 6. Economic Abuse: Control, Sabotage, and Exploitation 7. The Emotional Dynamics of Entrapment: Love, Fear, Anger, Guilt, and Shame 8. Separation, Healing, and Justice Conclusion: Intimate Violence as Social Entrapment Notes Bibliography Index

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Book SynopsisA groundbreaking work by an internationally acclaimed forensic psychotherapist that looks at women who commit extreme acts of violence and cruelty and at the underlying oppression and abuse often at the heart of these crimesWomen can be murderers and child abusers. They can commit acts of extreme and sadistic brutality. And those who do, are outcasts from society and from womanhood itself. They are seen as monsters and angels of death: and must be kept at a safe distance.Anna Motz is a renowned clinical and forensic psychologist in London and New York. Writing with candor, compassion, and a clear-eyed perspective, she explores in depth the shockingly underexamined psychological underpinnings of female violence. Far from the heartless and inhuman monsters we might believe them to be, these women are often victims of a culture of violence and emotional trauma.Already hailed as a landmark, Motz's daring book, bursting with humanity, makes

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Book SynopsisTeaches you that the criminal justice system may actually be making the problem of domestic violence worse. Addressing the real dynamics of intimate abuse and incorporating proven methods of restorative justice, this work focuses on healing and transformation rather than shame or punishment.Trade Review"A bold new book guaranteed to cause a stir among mainstream feminists as well as among mental health and law-enforcement professionals."--Publishers Weekly "Drawing both on research and on her own experience in the field, Mills concludes that the conventional feminist paradigm of domestic violence as a form of patriarchal oppression is woefully inadequate... [Mills's] message needs to be heard by politicians, judges, prosecutors and many others. It took the 'mainstream' feminists about 30 years to establish their monopoly on the public debate about domestic violence. Mills's book may be the first step in dismantling that monopoly."--Cathy Young, Boston Globe "The real strength of Mill's book lies in her repudiation of a one-size-fits-all approach to domestic violence... As a challenge tocurrent dogma, it is a breath of fresh air. One can only hope that its alternative message will be heard in the courses and seminars held across the country to educate counselors, law enforcement, and judges about domestic violence."--Cathy Young, ReasonTable of ContentsGiving Thanks xi Prologue 1 PART I: Rethinking Our Responses to Intimate Abuse One: The Ground Zero of Intimate Abuse 19 Two: Mandatory Policies as Crime Reduction Strategies: Do They Work? 22 Three: Power over Women in Abusive Relationships 50 Four: Are Women as Aggressive as Men? 67 PART II: Fixing the Failures Five: The Dynamic of Intimate Abuse 87 Six: Changing the System 101 Seven: Learning to Listen to Narratives of Intimate Abuse 119 Eight: A Better Way 134 Notes 149 Index 171

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Book SynopsisIn this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works, how you can decide which relationships can be saved and which you have to walk away from—and how to gasproof your life so you'll avoid gaslighting relationship.Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time.Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back, you wonder if your mother is right and figure that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this can’t happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. Are you being gaslighted

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Book SynopsisContributors contemplate the evolution of child protection policy and practice in BC, addressing political influences on structural arrangements, cultural traditions of First Nations clients, and establishing community control over services.Table of ContentsForeword / Deryck ThomsonIntroduction: People, Politics, and Child Welfare / Brian Wharf1 Rethinking Child Welfare Reform in British Columbia, 1900-60 / Marilyn Callahan and Christopher Walmsley2 Trends in Child Welfare: What Do the Data Show? / Leslie T. Foster3 The Community Resource Board Experience / Brian Wharf4 Child Welfare in the 1980s: A Time of Turbulence and Change / Sandra Scarth and Richard Sullivan5 Witnessing Wild Woman: Resistance and Resilience in Aboriginal Child Welfare / Maggie Kovachs, Robina Thomas, Monty Montgomery, Jacquie Green, and Leslie Brown6 The Community Advocate Minister: Attempting Major Changes / Riley Hern and John Cossom7 Thomas Gove: A Commission of Inquiry Puts Children First and Proposes Community Governance and Integration of Services / Andrew Armitage and Elaine Murray8 Great Expectations and Unintended Consequences: Risk Assessment in Child Welfare in British Columbia / Marilyn Callahan and Karen Swift9 Back to the Future: Toward Community Governance / Leslie T. Foster10 Views from Other Provinces / Brad McKenzie, Sally Palmer, and Wanda Thomas Barnard11 The Case for a Comprehensive Vision for Child Welfare / Brian Wharf12 From Child Protection to Safeguarding: The English Context / Tony Morrison13 Final Thoughts / Brian WharfAppendix 1: Key Events in British Columbia Child Welfare, 1863 to May 2006Appendix 2: Key Government Decision Makers in British Columbia Child Welfare, 1947 to May 2006Appendix 3: Delegated Aboriginal Child and Family Service Agencies’ Status, May 2006List of ContributorsIndex

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Book SynopsisSupriya Singh tells the stories of 12 Anglo-Celtic and Indian women in Australia who survived economic abuse. She describes the lived experience of coercive control underlying economic abuse across cultures. Each story shows how the woman was trapped and lost her freedom because her husband denied her money, appropriated her assets and sabotaged her ability to be in paid work. These stories are about silence, shame and embarrassment that this could happen despite professional and graduate education. Some of the women were the main earners in their household. Women spoke of being afraid, of trying to leave, of losing their sense of self. Many suffered physical and mental ill-health, not knowing what would trigger the violence. Some attempted suicide. None of the women fully realised they were suffering family violence through economic abuse, whilst it was happening to them.The stories of Anglo-Celtic and Indian women show economic abuse is not associated with a specificTrade ReviewBlending deep empathy with sociological insight, Supriya Singh offers a pathbreaking account of domestic financial abuse. As public visibility of physical violence against women has increased, Singh reveals the equally devastating effects of economic violence. Drawing from poignant interviews, the book’s discoveries will instruct social scientists, inform policy makers, and engage all readers concerned with understanding families, money, and love. Viviana A. Zelizer is the Lloyd Cotsen ’50 Professor of Sociology at Princeton University. She is the author of Economic Lives: How Culture Shapes the Economy. See Supriya Singh's Ted Talk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=id6kPfzHVr8Table of Contents1 Introduction: Economic abuse is the untold story of family violence 2 Carol: The joint account becomes a medium of abuse 3 Ekta: The ‘good son’ sends her money to his parents 4 Rina: Dowry is economic, emotional and physical abuse 5 Geeta: He gave me coins, not notes 6 Karen: ‘I’ve been a single mother for most of my married life’ 7 Asha: ‘You now belong to my family and your money is mine’ 8 Chitra: He and his family abused her for she did not behave ‘like a good wife’ 9 Prema: He married her to get permanent residence 10 Betty: After he died she recognised it as economic abuse 11 Heer: She knew she should leave but was in a silent ‘cultural bind’ 12 Bala: A story of torture, survival and empowerment 13 Enid: Talking of money 14 Conclusion

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Book SynopsisThis is an interactive self-help workbook and psychological road map to enable survivors of coercive, cultic and spiritual abuse to find healing, recovery and growth.This book provides a comprehensive guide to recovery, based on a tested model of post-cult counselling, and years of research and clinical experience. It is designed to help survivors of diverse abusive settings, including religious and spiritual, political, gangs, business, therapy and wellness and one-on-one relationships. The reader follows a beautifully illustrated journey through four Phases of recovery and growth, one Milestone at a time, to make sense of what has happened to them, learn how to walk free from psychological control and find resources for healing. The author includes stories from her own experience, detailing her path towards recovery and how she learned to come to terms with and overcome what happened to her. Written in accessible language, this workbook serves as both a self-hTrade Review‘The world today is experiencing a massive proliferation of destructive cultic groups - religious, political, terrorist, commercial, self-help, healing, recovery, and many other kinds of groups that use deceptive recruitment tactics and coercive control of members. To the very few books meant to help those leaving cults, Dr. Jenkinson adds this comprehensive and essential volume. Having herself traversed the daunting path from traumatic abuse in a cult to freedom and recovery, Dr. Jenkinson offers the reader decades of wisdom gleaned from her therapeutic work with survivors, distilled into this eminently readable and usable volume. Both survivors and therapists alike will welcome and treasure this essential and urgently needed addition to the cult recovery literature.’Daniel Shaw, psychoanalyst and author of Traumatic Narcissism: Relational Systems of Subjugation and Traumatic Narcissism and Recovery: Leaving the Prison of Shame and Fear‘Gillie Jenkinson has provided former members and those who counsel them with a unique gift, which will profoundly impact the recovery field. After leaving cult life's cognitive and emotional confusion, Dr. Jenkinson uses the perfect grounding metaphor of a physical journey (with illustrations) to give former cult members a step-by-step ‘psychological roadmap’. Like the best kind of guide, she offers wisdom gained from her own cult experience and her years as a therapist in the cult recovery field. With each step forward, as the ‘fog’ of cult life begins to clear, former members can finally arrive at a place where they gain their authentic identity with a wide range of feelings and a clearer sense of reality. This workbook is a remarkable achievement.’ Lorna Goldberg, LCSW, PsyA, Past President, International Cultic Studies Association and Director, Institute for Psychoanalytic Studies‘Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is one of the most thoughtful and insightful clinicians in the cultic studies field. In this book, she applies her personal experience and many years of research and clinical work to construct a practical workbook for people leaving cultic groups. This is not simply an explanation of why people join and leave cults. The book provides what would be called ‘homework’ in some counseling approaches. It is interactive and asks ‘participants’ (they are much more than readers) to think and write, to complete forms, to wrestle with their memories, thoughts, and goals for the future. ‘Participating’ in this handbook could be worth thousands of dollars in consultation time. The book is a wonderful resource, especially for those former members who do not have the resources to travel and pay for professional consultation. I recommend it highly.’Michael D. Langone, PhD, Executive Director, International Cultic Studies Association‘This is a unique book and should be essential reading. It was forged in the fire of painful experience and refined by a keen mind. Gillie offers a clear pathway enabling others to make their own choices and find their own freedom. It is a remarkable story of personal transformation and hope.’Alistair Ross, Associate Professor, Psychotherapy, Oxford University‘Dr. Gillie Jenkinson is a professional I know and trust. Her work has helped in the education, awareness and healing of countless people.’Steven Hassan, PhD, MA, MEd, LMHC, NCC, Freedom of Mind Resource Center, Inc. ‘This valuable book is a sensitively written, practical guide to cult recovery. Based on her own experiences, first as a former member, and then as a therapist specializing in cult recovery, Dr. Jenkinson shares her knowledge and offers guidance for the difficult process of integrating into the non-cult world in a healthy way.’Alexandra Stein, PhD, visiting research fellow, London South Bank University‘There is a new tool to help former cult members and other survivors of abusive groups and relationships, and I will be recommending it to every former cult member who consults with me. In this ground-breaking book, Gillie Jenkinson literally takes her readers on a step-by-step journey to recovery. She doesn’t use jargon and she doesn’t list aspirational goals and leave the ‘how’ to the reader’s imagination. Instead, she offers clear exercises and examples that untangle the process of recovery. The whimsical illustrations help the reader to visualize the recommended steps and invite the reader to participate. I recommend this workbook without reservation.’Bill Goldberg, clinical social worker and psychoanalyst, formerly Program Supervisor for Rehabilitative Services for Rockland County, New York (retired)Table of ContentsPart One: Setting the scene Part Two: Who am I? Part Three: Preparing for the journey Part Four: The Walking Free journey Region 1: Leave physically so you can begin to recover psychologically Milestone 1: Leaving physically Region 2: Leaving psychologically Milestone 2: Face your doubts Milestone 3: Diagnose your group or relationship Milestone 4: How confluent were you? Milestone 5: Introjects, critical thinking and phobias milestone 6: Who are YOU? Milestone 7: Understanding traumatic stress Milestone 8: Boundary-setting assertive anger – and rage Milestone 9: Healthy self-love Milestone 10: Thought reform Milestone 11: Recognising other controlling dynamics Milestone 12: Unmasking the leader Region 3: Heal emotionally Milestone 13: Emotional healing Region 4: Walking Free Milestone 14: Reflections Milestone 15: Moving on and Walking Free! Part Five: Seeking therapy Part Six: Advice for therapists

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