Intergenerational relationships Books

Book SynopsisIn 1937, at the age of nineteen, Ralph Hall, suicidal, revealed his sexual orientation to his grandmother, knowing she would comfort him. He was out for three years afterwards, until an indiscretion sent him back into the closet. At twenty-four, while in the army, he met and married Irene. The couple made their home on the San Francisco Peninsula and had four children. Ralph was an attentive husband and father—albeit with an intense interest in interior design, flower arranging, and fine objects—and a diligent worker who rose to payroll accountant at Standard Oil. It wasn't until 1975 that Ralph came out to his middle daughter, Laura, telling her that he had once considered his sexuality an aberration, an affliction. She was shocked, as the possibility her father might be gay had never crossed her mind. Irene had known Ralph’s secret for eighteen years, but the two remained married until she died. It was only then that this charismatic man and devoted father, by now in his eighties, could freely express his authentic, gay self.Here, Laura paints a vivid and honest portrait of her beloved father and the effect his secret had on her own life. Trade Review“A deeply moving personal remembrance.” —Kirkus Reviews “This moving memoir is about not just a daughter, not just a father, but a whole family, one that’s impossible not to love. Hall's writing is honest and insightful and her story a comfort and a gem.” —Victoria Loustalot, author of This is How You Say Goodbye and Living Like Audrey: Life Lessons from the Fairest Lady of All “This book shares a vital perspective that, until now, was missing from the LGBTQ community’s understanding of its own history. Hall finally adds the missing puzzle piece: the voice of the children of gay parents, a group that has long stood in the shadows. We are given a rare and precious gift as she warmly invites the reader into the world of her closeted family and shares a perspective that is deeply loving and raw in its honesty.” —Robin Marquis, former national program director of COLAGE “Affliction is a loving and tender portrait of a relationship and a family. It’s also an important addition to the history of gay parents in America and of the particular challenges faced by gay men and women in the years before Stonewall.” —Alysia Abbott, author of Fairyland: A Memoir of My Father, now a Sofia Coppola-produced movie “Affliction is one of the most moving and compelling books I've ever read. It reveals the bravery and the suffering of the gay men who hid their secrets and carried on. They married, often, and had children. Laura Hall is one of those children, and she wouldn't trade her father for anybody’s.” —Adair Lara, author of Naked, Drunk, and Writing and columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle “Laura’s book is one that will touch the heart of anyone who has dealt with coming out in a family setting.” —Mark Segal, the nation’s most award-winning commentator in LGBTQ media and author of And Then I Danced “Hall’s conversational tone and attention to the small details of home life, as well as to larger issues and emotions, make this a captivating and sympathetic family story. There are undoubtedly other families with queer parents who were out to their spouses but not to the outside world, but many such stories remain hidden. Thanks to Hall for sharing hers and reminding us not only of the long history of queer parents but also of the many ways that queer parents and our children have existed and survived, by choice or circumstance.” —Dana Rudolph, publisher of the GLAAD Media Award–winning blog Mombian

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Book SynopsisAt age fifty, Susan Morris is diagnosed with breast cancer—and she’s floored. Desperate to pinpoint the cause, one night she decides to type a question into her search engine: “What are the risk factors of getting breast cancer?” She’s surprised to discover research showing that long-term exposure to stress and traumatic childhood experiences can both increase the risk of breast cancer. The Sensitive One is a braided memoir that alternates between Morris’s childhood—as a sensitive child and then teenager who shouldered the burden of caring for her younger siblings as her dad’s alcoholism tore at the threads of their home life—and an adult who for a decade-plus has been living a trauma-free life with a caring husband and rewarding career in nursing . . . only to be diagnosed with breast cancer. This is a story of redemption—of a woman who manages to escape harrowing circumstances and start anew—but it’s also a story of how our legacy lives within us, and how healing from the adverse effects of childhood can truly take a lifetime.Trade Review2021 Foreword Indie Gold Winner in Autobiography & Memoir“Susan Morris weaves together a compelling memoir, taking the reader through the darkness of childhood abuse and its effects on a family, an individual life, and a body. As a somatic psychotherapist specializing in trauma, her story is an act of compassion reflecting her life’s journey in attempts to understand, heal, and transform. —Ann Saffi Biasetti, PhD, LCSWR, C-IAYT, author of Befriending Your Body: A Self-Compassionate Approach to Freeing Yourself from Disordered Eating “Susan Morris’s courageous story The Sensitive One will inspire you to learn how healing is possible despite a lifetime of traumas, physical and emotional. Susan shows that love, joy in life, therapy, and a gritty determination to overcome it all are a powerful combination to change darkness to light and live a richer life.” —Linda Joy Myers, president of the National Association of Memoir Writers and author of Song of the Plains “Morris’s insights into how adverse childhood experiences influence our health later in life are cutting-edge. The book is a delight to read. I am sure that it will become loved by women and their families, particularly those who are living through the diagnosis of breast cancer.” —Rebecca G. Rogers, MD

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