Coping with / advice about death and bereavement Books

Book Synopsis"The milkman cried when I told him you were dead.'Last night,' I said, 'Mark died.'"This collection brings together 30 short stories and poems about dying and bereavement. Written by mothers, fathers, daughters, sons, wives, husbands and dying people, these moving pieces talk honestly about how it feels to care for someone who is dying, to grieve for a loved one, and to face death oneself. A candid story about a daughter's relationship with her mother's carer; an internal monologue on dementia; a deeply moving poem about losing a son to cot death; and a heartfelt story about a mother's end of life are some of the poignant pieces included. This collection provides an opportunity to think and talk about death and dying, too often a taboo subject, and offers readers the rare comfort and support of shared experience.Trade ReviewA collection such as this is bound to be very moving and sympathetic: the subject makes it inevitable. But the pieces in this collection are much more than cries of grief. For all their sadness, they are also brave, resolute, clever, and sometimes even funny. This means the book has a kind of stoic nobility, as well as a warm humanity. It's a very powerful combination. -- Sir Andrew Motion, former Poet LaureateThe poems and prose in this small volume are a revelation. Written by some who grieve and others who are close to death, they do not invite a casual skim. They are by turns raw and harrowing, wry and bleak. But they have in common a compelling honesty that is touching and illuminating…At some point we will all face that inevitable terminus, the end of life. I think you will find that by facing that implacable fact, Final Chapters makes this shared prospect less daunting and therefore, perhaps, more bearable as well. -- from the Foreword by Jonathan Dimbleby, Chair of Dimbleby Cancer Care, UKVery interesting book... The stories are well written, sensitive and provide good insight into the differing worlds of those facing loss... This book would be a very useful addition to any library and for those entering the services and professionals who wish to gain insight into dying death and bereavement. -- Alex James, MBACP Founder of Bereavement.co.uk * Bereavement Care *Some [contributions] are uplifting and inspirational while others left me thinking why and wanting to run with my soap box to the nearest street corner and draw to public attention the true state of care for our elderly and lack of support for those facing dementia and terminal illness (unless of course you are fortunate enough to live in an area that is well provided for!) -- Alex James, founder of Bereavement.co.ukI can happily recommend this book to anyone who works in palliative care, who I think will be interested to read how others see what we see every day. -- Dr. Roger Woodruff, International Association for Hospice & Palliative Care, AustraliaFinal Chapters...symbolises a somber acknowledgment of the tension encountered when cancer becomes the subject of our experiences. On a dual note, the book is also an opportunity for the bringing together of the suppressed moments of our society. There is an unveiling of the strange silence that the existence of cancer leaves in its trail....Whilst the book is an internal monologue of the contributors, there is a somewhat beautiful quality to the narratives for creating an entrance into the space of individual final chapters. We learn through the passages of the final chapters that even the last breath holds a story that transcends beyond the moment life surrendered. -- Dr Ayesha Ahmad, BMJ Medical Humanities Journal's online blogTable of ContentsForeword by Jonathan Dimbleby, Chair of Dimbleby Cancer Care. Introduction, Eve Richardson, Chief Executive, Dying Matters Coalition and the National Council for Palliative Care. Leave-taking, Helen Barnes. The Night Shift That Changed Me, Alexandra Obee. Swan, Brenda Read-Brown. Ava's Lovers, Claire Jones. The Milkman Cried, Josephine Howard. Journey's End, Sue Moorhouse. Hypocrisy, Sali Gray. An Ordinary Day, Kylie Joyce. Google Maps Saved My Life, Anneliese Mackintosh. Beneath The Bracken, Janette Ayachi. Coat Hanger, Adam Lound. Chubby Little Cheeks, Sarah Bakewell. Names Have Been Changed, Carole Mansur. Let Winter Come, Nick Jarvis. A Life Ascending, John Hunt. Polly Dolly, Maureen Gallagher. A Matter Of Compassion, Alva de Chiro. Enhancing Dementia Recipe, Janet Willoughby. The Patient That Changed Me, Faye Gishen. Regrets, Hope Uchio. A Dose Of Reality, Caroline Sposto. Closing Scenes, Gráinne Tobin. An Honourable Life, Christopher Owen. Of Glass, of Light, of Silver, Kit de Waal. The Mother Thief, Alison Wassell. The Grief Schism, David Mohan. Spoons, Pete Buckingham. The Waiting Room, Harriet Davies. Papier Maché Doll, Amanda Bowden. Baseball Cards, Leissa Shahrak. About the Authors.

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Book SynopsisLife is full of changes; they happen all the time. Some changes are harder to cope with than others.'Seeds of Hope Bereavement and Loss Activity Book uses nature to help children understand death, loss and change in a gentle and honest way. Full of creative activities, such as choosing an insect or plant and using it to draw a life cycle, or making a paper memory tree of happy and sad memories, it helps children learn about loss and death, the cycle of life and how to cope with and express feelings of sadness and grief. This book is ideal for parents and carers, teachers, therapists and counsellors to use with children aged 5+ who have suffered any type of loss or are dealing with change, or who are bereaved.Trade ReviewAs a teacher for more than thirty years, I have had in my care many children who have suffered the loss of a parent, sibling or close friend. Death for all of us is devastating but for a child it will create a wealth of emotions that are incomprehensible. For each it is unique. The Seeds of Hope Bereavement and Loss Activity Book gives a wide variety of ideas to help the child explore, recognise and accept their feelings in a concrete, thoughtful and healing way. I would highly recommend it to all those in education, to empower you when needed or as a way of teaching about death and renewal on a regular basis. -- Yvonne Cameron, TeacherUnderstanding the cycle of nature is an essential part of understanding the cycle of life. This creative and imaginative activity book uses the world of nature to explore this. Children and adults are encouraged to discuss the beginning and the end of life in all its forms, to ask questions and seek answers together. A lifetime's experience in this area has taught me that children benefit tremendously from being helped to talk openly about these issues. I highly recommend Caroline Jay and Unity-Joy Dale's wonderful Seeds of Hope Bereavement and Loss Activity Book. -- Jenni Thomas OBE, bereavement counsellorFor those teachers at a loss for how to address this most sensitive topic in a sensitive manner, this book offers a wealth of original and creative ideas. -- Noel Purdy, Stranmillis University College, Belfast * NAPCE Journal: Pastoral Care in Education *Table of ContentsAuthor's Note. Imagine: Learning from Nature. Medicine Wheel: What animals can teach us. Draw or Paint: Suggestions of drawing or painting things to do. Write: Suggestions of writing things to do. Memory and Loss Leaves: Leaves to cut out and draw or write on. Memory and Loss Tree: For sticking your leaves on. Big Leaves: Bigger leaves for a bigger tree. Changes: How change affects us. Lifetimes: Life cycles – long and short. Colouring: Pictures to colour in. The Feelings Tree: Different feelings. Exploring the Feelings Tree: Finding out more. Sticking Stickers: Things to do with stickers. Stickers: For sticking! The Language of Flowers: Myths and meanings. Word Storms: A game to play. Snakes and Ladders of Loss: Another game. Feelings and Seasons: Thinking about feelings. Mandalas: What they are and how to use them. Labyrinths: What they are and how to walk them. Poems and Stuff: What other people have written. My Story: Sharing feelings. Information on Loss and Bereavement: What to expect, including a section for teachers. Support Groups.

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Book SynopsisA Holocaust survivor whose mother collapsed and died only moments after they both registered as survivors, a death row inmate who has reclaimed his life through Buddhism, and a mother whose daughter was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer two days before her thirtieth birthday, among others, offer their perspectives on death and dying in this thought-provoking volume. Contributors from all walks of life share their thoughts on carefully selected writings, images and artwork that most accurately express death to them. Describing their unique experiences, they reveal that, beyond the heartache and the mystery, death teaches us all invaluable lessons about how we live our lives. Offering comfort, reassurance and varied insights into death, loss and its impact on life, this collection is for anyone who might be coming to terms with this inevitable destination. Royalty proceeds from the book will be donated to Ashgate Hospicecare, North Derbyshire, UK.Trade ReviewI rejoice that death has become less of a taboo subject in our conversations. In this timely book you will discover precious wisdom and heartfelt insights from people of all walks of life...As I have listened to these voices, I have found reassurance and enlightenment. I know this book will offer the same gifts to you whether you believe in a transition to a new life or contemplate the beyond with some uncertainty. I commend it highly. -- from the foreword by Archbishop Emeritus Desmond TutuA powerful book on the truth of our mortality, and the richness that can be derived from our encounter with death. -- Roshi Joan Halifax, Abbot, * Upaya Zen Center *We experience death in many ways before facing it in our own lives. Whatever will support us to consider death more honestly and life more appreciatively is to be deeply valued. Rosalind Bradley's beautiful collection offers both those gifts abundantly. -- Stephanie Dowrick, author of Seeking the SacredA Matter of Life and Death provides thought provoking reflections from a wide range of people whose lives have been deeply influenced by encounters with dying, death and loss. Their insights into these sensitive, often taboo, subjects are inspirational and uplifting - highly recommend reading for all who work in end of life or bereavement care. -- Dr Marilyn Relf, Bereavement Care Lead, Sir Michael Sobell House, Oxford and Chair National Bereavement Alliance (UK)Dying conjures many stories, many feelings, many fears. Rosalind Bradley brings together the thoughts of the eminent, the well trained and also those who have personal experience with the dying. These stories explore the inspiring, the meaningful and sometimes troubled ideas that everyone will have about death. -- Professor Richard Chye, University of Notre Dame, AustraliaA thoughtful collection of personal stories and perspectives on death as a defining part of life. Beautifully told and cleverly presented. A unique offering on an ultimate truth - you will be inspired, intrigued, informed and touched by the diversity and authenticity of the contributions. -- Professor Christine Bennett AO, Dean of Medicine,The University of Notre Dame AustraliaThis is a powerful and timely book on the largely taboo subject of death, viewing it as an intrinsic and unavoidable part of life. Bradley provides Readers with a useful resource to assist in their duties of taking funerals and memorial services and in caring for those who mourn. Highly recommended. -- John Hazel * The Reader *Table of ContentsIntroduction. 1. Personal Encounters with Death. Gail O'Brien, Chris O'Brien Lifehouse, Sydney, Australia. Brigadier Michael Griffiths CBE, Duke of Lancaster Regiment, UK. Olga Horak OAM, Sydney Jewish Museum, Australia. Colleen Kelly, September 11th Families for Peaceful Tomorrows, USA. Professor Patrick McGorry AO, University of Melbourne, Australia. The Burton Gaudiosi Family, Australia. Amit Dasgupta, India. Erica Stewart, Sands, UK. Kinny Gardener, The Krazy Kat Theatre, UK. Pam Masini, Child Bereavement UK. Reverend Peter Pereira, Australia. Mitchell Willoughby, Tennessee, USA. 2. Death Brings a Wisdom. Josefine Speyer, Natural Death Centre, UK. Jennifer Briscoe-Hough, Australia. Reverend Canon Rosie Harper, Great Missenden, UK. Molly Carlile AM, Olivia Newton John Cancer & Wellness Centre, Australia. Dr Michael Barbato OAM, Australia. Professor Allan Kellehear, University of Bradford, UK. Rabbi Jonathan Wittenberg, The New North London Synagogue, UK. Laurence Freeman OSB, World Community for Christian Meditation, UK. Carol Komaromy, The Open University, UK. Dom Christian de Chergé, Algeria. Sogyal Rinpoche, Rigpa, France. Therese Schroeder-Sheker, Chalice of Repose Project, School of Music Thanatology, Oregon, USA. 3. Working Closely with Death. Deborah de Wilde OAM, Australia. Diane Roche, Royal North Shore Hospital, Sydney, Australia. Arabella Dorman, UK. Dr Megory Anderson, Sacred Dying Foundation, USA. Dr Peter Saul, John Hunter Hospital, Newcastle, Australia. Stephen Olson, Royal Oak Burial Park, British Colombia, Canada. Dr Soren Blau, Victorian Institute of Forensic Medicine, Australia. Dr Irene Adams, Clinica Ammor, Brazil. Dr Louise Jordan, Baslow Health Centre, Derbyshire, UK. Su Chard, UK. James Norris, DeadSocial.org and the Digital Legacy Association, UK. Chinyere Inyama, UK. 4. Death and the Circle of Life. Sughra Ahmed, Islamic Society of Britain, UK. Dr Sarah Edelman, Dying with Dignity NSW, Australia. Trypheyna McShane, Australia. Stephen Miller, USA. Dr Ian Gawler OAM, Australia. Amelia Freelander, Amnesty International, Australia. Claire Henry MBE, The National Council for Palliative Care & Dying Matters coalition, UK. Dr Colin Murray Parkes OBE, St Christopher's Hospice, UK. Reverend Jonathan Woodhouse, UK. Caitlin Doughty, The Order of the Good Death, USA. Bruce Kent, Campaign for Nuclear Disarmament and Pax Christi, UK. 5. Death is Sacred. Dr Pushpa Bhardwaj-Wood, New Zealand. Sharifah Zuriah Aljeffri, Malaysia. Sr Jayanti, Brahma Kumaris, UK. Bhai Sahib Dr Mohinder Singh, Guru Nanak Sewak Jatha, UK. Peter Shine, Aboriginal Health Northern Sydney Local Health District, Australia. Rabbi Sylvia Rothschild, UK. Dr Doreen Tembo, UK. Reverend Marta Benavides, El Salvador. Dr Frank Brennan, Calvary Hospital, Sydney, Australia. Dr Bahiyyih Nakhjavani, France. Woris Kubo, Papua New Guinea. Venerable Thubten Chodron, Sravasti Abbey, USA. Ela Gandhi, South Africa. Post-script. Ashgate Hospice. References.

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Book SynopsisThis practical resource provides everything you need to enable your school to provide the best possible support for pupils and staff who have suffered a loss or bereavement. The book includes a school 'audit' to allow full assessment and evaluation of your school's current bereavement provision, and a full set of photocopiable training exercises for in-school staff bereavement training. It considers the important and unique role the school can play in supporting bereaved pupils and staff, and provides valuable guidance on how to create a school bereavement policy. A unique and accessible resource that is applicable to all levels of schooling, the book will be a valuable addition to the shelves of pastoral care teams, school counsellors, head teachers and school management, other school staff, bereavement counsellors and trainers, as well as psychologists.Trade ReviewJohn Holland's newest resource, Responding to Loss and Bereavement in Schools, is an invaluable tool for training educators. Its practical and comprehensive style heightens understandings necessary to assess, evaluate, and improve the school's response to the loss and bereavement of their students. It clearly explains issues of loss and the importance of gathering and planning for loss, and provides pre-training information, useable exercises for classroom teachers, and guiding principles to work with. Responding to Loss and Bereavement in Schools will assuredly be a cherished resource for school personnel working with bereaved students. I highly recommend it! -- Linda Goldman, author of Great Answers to Difficult Questions About Death: What Children Need to Know and Children Also GrieveJohn Holland writes in a very accessible way with the wisdom that comes from years of experience in the field of bereavement. This welcome addition to the literature gives schools a comprehensive understanding of the needs and responses of children, families and schools at a time when staff may feel hesitant about their capacity to offer support. The clear information, activities and reflections should dispel some of the mystique and anxiety surrounding the topic of bereavement. -- Shirley Potts, Director of Regional Development, Child Bereavement UKIf I had any type of leadership role in school I would want the thinking and experience of John Holland. This excellent book will guide you to create the right support package unique to the many types of loss and bereavement that schools encounter on a daily basis. Attending to these losses, big and small, helps to shape the personality of a school well beyond the measures of league tables. -- Julie Stokes OBE, Founder of Winston’s Wish, a leading charity for bereaved children, UKTable of ContentsIntroduction. Part 1. The Role of the School. Part 2. The School Audit. Part 3. The Exercises.

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Book SynopsisSilver Medal Winner in the Grief/Grieving category of the 2015 Foreword Reviews' INDIEFAB Book of the Year AwardsA unique collection of 33 narratives by bereaved students and young adults, this books aims to help young adults who are grieving and provide guidance for those who seek to support them.Grieving the death of a loved one is difficult at any age, but it can be particularly difficult during college and young adulthood. From developing a sense of identity to living away from family and adjusting to life on and off campus, college students and young adults face a unique set of issues. These issues often make it difficult for young adults to talk about their loss, leading to a sense of isolation, different-ness and a pressure to pretend that everything is OK. The narratives included in this book are honest, engaging and heartfelt, and they help other students and young people know that they are not alone and that there are others who 'get' what they are going through. The narratives are usefully divided by themes, such as isolation, forced maturity and life transition challenges, and include commentary by the authors on grief responses and coping strategies. Each section also ends with helpful questions for reflection.Inspired by the experiences of Dr. Fajgenbaum losing his mother during college and Dr. Servaty-Seib dedicating her career to college student bereavement, this book will be a lifeline for students and young adults who have lost a loved one. It will also be of immeasurable value to counselors, college administrators, grief professionals and parents.Trade ReviewWhether you're a counselor, parent, or grieving college student, the 33 stories shared here will provide insight into some of the commonalities and differences young adults experience after the death of a parent or sibling, as well as tips on how to be helpful. Their journeys of struggle and healing offer wisdom and hope. -- Donna L. Schuurman, EdD, FT, Chief Executive Officer, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & FamiliesThis book is important. It brings to life in clear, plain English stories of young adults who have coped with the death(s) of persons they love. Heather and David get it. They understand what coping with loss entails for a college student. They make the myriad experiences of young adults dealing with bereavement come alive for all of us. The stories told by grieving young adults illustrate clearly several important themes that scholars have uncovered about bereavement. Heather and David's mastery of what they know will help others to get what the bereaved college student knows. -- David E. Balk, Professor and Chair, Department of Health and Nutrition Sciences, Brooklyn College of the City University of New York, and author, Helping the Bereaved College StudentI see We Get It as a much needed tool for those who work with college students on a daily basis. College student personnel such as clinicians, residential life staff, Dean of Student staff, and faculty and administrators could truly benefit from reading about the themes noted-and even more powerfully from the students' stories. The range of student experience covered through the first-person and beautifully honest narratives allows for a deeper level of understanding and perspective-taking, providing a unique insight into how best to support grieving students. -- Philip M. Meilman, Ph.D., Director, Counseling and Psychiatric Service, and Professor, Department of Psychiatry, Georgetown UniversityTable of Contents1. Introduction. 2. Feeling alone. 3. Continuing Connection, Memorialization, and Active Grief and Coping. 4. Forced Maturity. 5. Importance of Connecting with Grieving Peers. 6. Disconnection of Grief Expectations. 7. Life Transition Challenges. 8. Existential Questions about Self and Future. 9. Importance of Connecting with a Mentor. 10. Life Lessons Learned. 11. Powerful and/or Challenging Grief Reactions. 12. Importance of a Community of Support. 13. Changing Family Relationships. 14. Tips for Grieving College Students. 15. Tips for Those who are Seeking to Support Grieving College Students.

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Book SynopsisThe book is an honest, first-hand account of how people with autism deal with the loss of someone in their life. Unlike the non-autistic response, people with autism, when faced with overwhelming or stressful situations, will favour solitude over sharing their emotions, tend to focus on special interests, and become extremely logical, often not expressing any emotion. This behaviour often leads to the belief that people with autism lack empathy, which is far from the case. Through the description of personal experience, and case studies, the book explores how people with autism feel and express the loss of a loved one, how they process and come to terms with their feelings of grief, and offers practical and detailed advice to parents and carers on a range of sensitive issues. These include clear instructions on how best to support someone with autism through the grieving process, how to prepare them for bad news, how to break the bad news, how to involve them in the funeral or wake, and how best to respond to later reactions. The final chapter explores the issue of why children and teens with autism can be drawn to death as a special interest, and explains that the interest is not normally a morbid one.Trade ReviewLipsky uses personal experience and case studies to explore how people with autism feel and express the loss of a loved one, and how they process and come to terms with their feelings of grief…...She offers advice to parents and carers on how to prepare someone with autism for the bad news. -- Autism eyeA fine survey on how people with autism handle loss of people in their lives, and explores how they come to terms with grief. From various coping behaviors such as turning to solitude over sharing feelings to their ability to show no emotional turmoil and to turn their focus to other things, this explains the different reactions of autistic people to their environment and experiences, and comes from a high-functioning autistic individual with a basic background in emergency services and education alike. -- Midwest Book ReviewMy Aspie father never showed an ounce of emotional turmoil, not when he talked about being on the front line in WWII, not when he talked about his beloved parents' deaths, not when he talked about the Great Depression. He offered reasons for why these events occurred, insight into how to move beyond the obvious holes they left, and advice meant to prepare for future inevitable tragedies. Most marked my father as a cold and unfeeling man, but Deborah Lipsky's understanding of the way many with autism handle grief, show my father to be a man who simply processes loss and sadness in a different way, not in a lesser or insignificant way. Just as this book explains how some with autism respond to grief, it also expresses how most of society does grieve. Sharing the points of view will help people on and not on the spectrum learn to respect individual reactions to the things that fill life with woe. -- Liane Holliday-Willey, author of Safety Skills for Females with Asperger Syndrome, Pretending to be Normal, Asperger Syndrome in the Family, and Asperger Syndrome in AdolescenceLipsky, an autistic woman who has worked as a firefighter, emergency medical technician, and reserve police officer, is the author of two other similar titles: Managing Meltdowns and From Anxiety to Meltdowns. She expertly brings the disability motto "Nothing about us without us" to life in this behind-the-spectrum perspective of death and grieving. Lipsky discusses how autistic people view the end of life, which entails literal thinking and problem solving that are not in step with our (neurotypical) emotional responses. Her matter-of-fact approach and examples shine a light on just how different the process is for those on the spectrum. Strategies surrounding cultural expectations for wakes, funerals, and other social events are included. VERDICT An eye-opening work that is truly illuminating and thought-provoking. Essential for anyone who loves, lives with, or works with people on the spectrum, and highly recommended reading for those in the mortuary, counseling, and education fields. -- Library JournalThis book is a good insider guide and gave me a better understanding about how people with autism cope with grief and loss. The gap between ASD and NT reaction to grief remains but hopefully it will enable those that are seeking support to begin bridging the gap. -- Side by SideTable of ContentsIntroduction. 1. Differences in Dealing with Problems. 2. Emotional Expressions of Grief in Autism. 3. Cultural Expectations and Autism. 4. Knowing What to Say. 5. How to Tell a Person with Autism Someone Died. 6. Death as a Special Interest.

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Book SynopsisMyths and related stories describe essential human experience which, requiring the use of the imagination, reconcile and give voice to fantasy and reality. In this book the author reflects on the processes of grief and more than 50 folk tales are included. The ancient stories vividly convey mankind's struggle with death and loss, the despair and hope, with bitterness and love. The use of stories in therapy is explained, specifically bereavement counselling through storymaking.Trade ReviewGersie is intuitive, sensitive and wise as she guides her readers into the territory of bereavement, love and loss... Each storymaking structure is exciting and brimming with potential... Alida Gersie has succeeded in brilliantly finding ways to empower individuals coming to grips with mortality... her work Storymaking in Bereavement: Dragons in the Meadow empowers us as helping professionals. Now we have a tool that gives us a little more courage compassion and insight so that we too are better armed to fight dragons in the meadow. -- The Arts in PsychotherapyThis is a fascinating book which may reunite readers with stories of their childhood and provide new insights into their meaning. It presents an innovative approach to bereavement counselling which reflects the wise counsel of some of the original story tellers and the oral tradition which we have lost. There are poignant stories and no avoidance of "difficult" feelings encountered during the grief process. This book is a delight to read on account of its descriptive qualities. It is also a source, in an accessible form, of a wealth of information. It addresses an area which is of concern to all occupational therapists. -- British Journal of Occupational TherapyThis is an erudite, imaginative book by an author who is deeply involved in her topic and is an enjoyable and absorbing read. The book would be of value to course leaders and students on courses covering loss, separation and divorce, abortion, terminal illness and death and to anyone who gives support to the dying and bereaved. -- Nursing TimesThis book is beautifully written. It is immensely rich in its use of story, metaphor and literary allusion to illustrate the process of grief and healing... moving and deeply compassionate. In addition to its overt theme, a book which touches its reader so deeply provides a subtle lesson in how a counsellor may allow herself to be deeply touched by her client. -- CounsellingAnyone interested in story as a form of therapy or in bereavement or the existential adaption to the idea of death will find this book overflowing with exciting concepts and powerful healing images... There is a well constructed balance between psychological conception and folk story in this book. This material is a rich collection of ideas which can be used in both the classroom and the counselor's office. -- Religious Studies Review... enchanting account of the use of creative-expressive therapies in helping us accept the finality of death and the toll it takes on those who are left to mourn... For those who work in creative and expressive therapies, this book is an important addition to the literature. The heart of the presentation - the stories we can tell, and have told for hundreds of centuries, about grief over death - lies at the core of human experience. -- Medical Humanities ReviewThe author's wide knowledge and understanding of myths and folklore is cleverly woven within each "Part" of the book... It links the past with the present, acts as a bridge between cultures, and helps us focus on profound issues... Storymaking in Bereavement is a book to be read and re-read and to be dipped into, as each chapter contains much wisdom. -- Lifeline (Magazine of the National Association of Bereavement Services)Professional bereavement counsellors and group facilitators will find the book stimulating and resourceful, while teachers in palliative care will certainly find some valuable educational material in it. -- Palliative Medicine... extremely readable, and easy to follow, and would be a delight for anyone to dip into. -- Behavioural Social Work ReviewTable of ContentsIntroduction. PART I: Themes of love and death. 1. `And all my sour-sweet days, I will lament and love.' Acknowledging the work of separation and mourning. 2. `But seldom I do think indeed that I must die.' Coming to grips with mortality. 3. `A stifled, drowsy, unimpassioned grief.' Some characteristics of the days between the actual death and the burial or cremation. PART II: A tracery of connections through mourning and myth. 4. `Lord, have mercy on us.' How come that we all must die? 5. `The day of death they do not reveal.' Why did it have to happen now? 6. `Wail, for the world's wrong.' What did I do that it happened to me? 7. `Ah God, that it were possible...' In search of reparation. 8. `And New Year blowing and roaring.' How lazily time creeps about to one that mourns. 9. `Tomorrow to fresh woods and pastures new.' Acceptance, more often than not. PART III: Focussed attention on intimate loss. 10. `This silence frightens me.' The death of our parent. 11. `O little did my mother ken.' The death of our child. 12. `And all that Hope adored and lost.' The death of our life-partner. PART IV: When a tyrant spell has bound us. 13. `We shall have a deadly storm.' The descent into darkness. 14. `Oh my God, hear my cry.' The dangerous pull towards ending our own life. PART V: On stories and storymaking. 15. `If there were dreams to sell.' On ancient stories and storytelling. 16. `They are not long the days of wine and roses.' Bereavement counselling through storymaking. PART VI: The stories and storymaking structures. Notes and elaborations. Bibliography.

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Book SynopsisThe scope of this book covers the many possible approaches to working with bereaved children. The contributors draw on their wide-ranging experience of working with bereaved children in a many different contexts to examine:methods, such as dramatherapy and play therapyvarious settings, such as working in schools, hospitals and residential environmentsgroup and individual workworking with adolescents.The breadth of the contributors' backgrounds- among them are psychologists, social workers, teachers, play therapists and an actress -brings to light the benefits of their differing approaches.Trade ReviewThe book contains contributions from some of the most experienced practitioners in the UK and USA, working with children and young people in situations of loss and grief. The aim of this book is to provide its readers with a useful resource guide to practical interventions with bereaved children. It succeeds eminently in its task in considering various causes of bereavement and various methods of responding to needs: individual, family, group and educative approaches. This book is helpful to anyone working with children and families, having experienced bereavement, in a social work, counselling or therapeutic context, as well as from a palliative care, social services, psychiatric, family therapy or educational setting. This work makes a very valuable contribution to the literature and reinforces the belief that "children are survivors" (Monroe). -- Child and Family Social WorkIf you have ever floundered when faced with a grieving child, this book is for you. Equipped with a wealth of practical and compassionate responses, 20 contributors describe their work with bereaved children, sharing effective ways of supporting and helping them in their loss. Case studies are sensitively given, and there are moving accounts of individual, family, group and whole school work. This is an empowering book, which should be accessible to all those who come into contact with children. -- Nursing Times`This book should be available to all members of multidisciplinary child mental health teams... The strength of this book is that it ranges from individual grief, through family and societal settings linking grief and disaster, patterning the varying responses of children according to their age and life circumstances and providing a mosaic of assessment and therapeutic techniques... This book is one important step in improving our ability to communicate with the young about death.' -- Journal of AdolescenceThe 26 contributors to this book share a wide experience of childhood and adolescent grief... Differences in culture are sensitively outlined in a chapter on transcultural counseling... a thoughtful contribution to the growing literature on children's bereavement. -- Community CareThe strength of the book is its emphasis on what can actually be done and how to do it. There are examples upon examples of how to convene, start, run and end sessions with children, how to work in different settings, with children of different needs. It is a rich store of what can be done. -- Clinical Child Psychology and PsychiatryTable of ContentsPart 1. Individual Work 1. Communicating with Children Through Play, Peta Hemmings, Senior Practitioner, Barnardo's Orchard Project, Newcastle-upon-Tyne2. Direct Work Techniques with the Siblings of Children Dying from Cancer, Maureen Hitcham, Malcolm Sargent Social Worker, Royal Victoria Infirmary, Newcastle-upon-Tyne. 3. Chairing the Child: A Seat of Bereavement, David Waskett, Social Worker and Independent Counsellor in Bereavement and Loss, Cambridge 4. Non-Directive Play Therapy with Bereaved Children, Jo Carroll, Independent Play Therapist, Marlborough, Wilts. Part 2. Family Work 5. `It is Impossible Not to Communicate': Helping the Grieving Family, Barbara Munroe, Director of Social Work, St Christopher's Hospice, London. 6. A Cradling of a Different Sort, Ann Couldrick, Counsellor, Sir Michael Sobell House, Oxford.7. Grieving Together: Helping Family Members Share Their Grief, Dr Jess Gordon, Consultant Child and Family Psychiatrist, Northampton Part 3. Groupwork 8. Creative Groupwork Methods with Bereaved Children, Margaret Pennells and Susan C Smith. 9. Sharing Experiences: The Value of Groups for Bereaved Children, Jenny Baulkwill, Principal Social Worker, St Christopher's Hospice London, and Christine Wood, Principal Social Worker, St Christopher's Hospice London. 10. Camp Winston: A Residential Intervention for Bereaved Children, Julie Stokes, Programme Director, Clinical Psychologist, and Diana Crossley, Coordinator of Children's Service, Clinical Psychologist, Gloucester Royal Hospital. 11. Groupwork with Bereaved Children, Ann Harris, Malcolm Sargent Social Worker, Bristol Children's Hospital and Sally Curnick, Cancer and Leukaemia in Childhood Trust. 12. Using Drama in Grief Work, Penny Casadagli, Artistic Director and Actress, Neti-Neti Theatre Company, London. Part 4. Specific Client Groups 13. Helping Families and Professionals to Work with Children who have Learning Difficulties, Judy Sanderson, Community Liaison Worker, Acorns Children's Hospice, Birmingham. 14. Transcultural Counselling: Bereavement Counselling with Adolescents, Jan Wilby, Head of Social Science, Head of Guidance and Support School, Nottingham. 15. Managing a Tragedy in a Secondary School, John Shears, Head Teacher, Redruth Community School, Cornwall. 16. Voices from the Crowd: Stories from the Hillsborough Football Stadium Disaster, Paul Barnard, Project Leader, and Maureen Cane, Freelance Consultant, Liverpool Children's Project. 17. Making Memory Stores with Children and Families Affected by HIV, Ruth Neville, Senior Practitioner, Barnardo's Castle Project, Leeds. Part 5. Projects in the USA18. Embracing Fears and Sharing Tears: Working with Bereaved Children, Jennifer Levine, Willowgreen Counselling Service, Fort Wayne, Indiana. 19. Group Interventions with Bereaved Children, 5-17 Years: From a Medical Centre-Based Young Person's Grief Support Programme, Ben Wolfe, Director, St Mary's Grief Support Centre, Minnesota. 20. Coaching Children's Grief Through Art, Clifford Davies, Coordinator, Pastoral and Grief Services, Hospice of Independence Regional Health Center, Missouri. About the Authors. Subject Index. Author Index.

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Book SynopsisWith twenty educators contributing ideas piloted with children of different abilities and backgrounds in their care, 'Good Grief'has been designed to explore and demystify the experience of loss - in different contexts - within the framework of the National Curriculum.This second edition has been updated and revised, to include a new chapter on the effects of disasters on children. Suitable for all professionals, carers and parents, both books are activity based. Good Grief 1 facilitates the use of children's own experiences and encouraging improvisation and extension. Primarily designed for mixed ability secondary and adult education, Good Grief 2 will also be invaluable for many other statutory, professional and community organisations.Trade ReviewThese books not only provide excellent ideas and guidance for helping grieving people, they also illustrate the huge diversity of human experiences which can be put under the heading of loss. I was so impressed by these books that I felt it was a privilege to be asked to review them. -- Community CareThe 22 cooperating contributors provide a superbly constructed resource of information, activities and ideas... Incredibly sensitive in every way... Barbara Ward... is to be congratulated and commended. -- Journal of the Institute of Health EducationThe authors have managed to produce an excellent aid to dealing with these very difficult and painful subjects within the national curriculum framework, and in a sensitive and imaginative way that will enable children, their teachers and parents to develop their understanding of loss and its impact. I would strongly recommend these volumes to all professionals working with children. They are also an invaluable source of information about self-help groups, useful literature for children of all ages and a variety of religious and cultural backgrounds. -- Association of Child Psychology and Psychiatry NewsletterIdeal for creative inspiration... there are many varied ways of teaching children about the concept of death as a project subject at school, with the involvement of parents carefully noted which I felt was essential... The practical and factual information across differing religious creeds and cultures, and those of no faith, give plenty of scope for teachers and other carers to give information to children growing up in our multi-racial/multi-cultural society... I would recommend both these books for teachers/trainers/carers who look for information and inspiration. -- Lifeline (Magazine of National Association of Bereavement Services)Table of ContentsAims and Objectives. Statistics for Britain. Foreword. Contents. Contributors. 1. INTRODUCTION AND BACKGROUND. 1.1 Why teach about loss and death? 1.2 Educator's notes. 1.3 Understanding Loss. 1.4 Divorce and Separation. 1.5 How to help someone who is suffering from loss. 1.6 Tracing Western attitudes to death. 1.7 Stages of grief. 1.8 Difficulties in grieving. 1.9 Grief in children. 1.10 Dying children and their families. 1.11 Preparation for a child's funeral. 1.12 Children's reaction to death. 1.13 Death of a child - a school's response. 1.14 Loss of a child - helping the parents. 1.15 When a child in your school is bereaved. 1.16 Bereavement in the junior school - a teacher's experience. 1.17 Glossary of words associated with death. 2. ACTIVITIES. 2.1 Creative activities. 2.2 Feelings. 2.3 Living with loss. 2.4 What is death? 2.5 How can we help? 2.6 Self esteem and self image. 3. APPENDICES. 3.1 Unhappy ever after. 3.2 Caught in the middle. 3.3 Helen House. 3.4 What to do when someone dies. 3.5 Why do we have funerals. 3.6 Rituals and customs. 3.7 How will Mummy breath and who will feed her? 3.8 I can't write to Daddy. 3.9 Heavenly bodies. 3.10 Value of hospitalized children's artwork. 3.11 Additional resources 3.12 Books for bereaved children. 3.13 Children's booklist. 3.14. Educator's and adult's booklist. Useful addresses. Attributions.

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Book SynopsisBased on seven years of experience running training courses throughout Scotland, before further refinement in the United States, this manual is a tried and tested method of training people to counsel and aid others who are suffering loss and bereavement.The manual features: * an explanation of the learning method and ethical issues * role-play exercises to allow trainees to experience common situations * easy-to-use course material for the facilitator and the participants * further resources should extra training be desired.The course confronts the fear of mortality, promoting self-awareness and self-nurturing in carers to prepare them for the pain, fear, anxiety and anger of those who have been abused or grieving, and develops the skills which enable the carer to fulfil their task.Trade ReviewThis book evolved from the Scottish Health Education Group's initiative to teach basic counselling skills to nurses. The manual includes all of the materials necessary to plan and conduct the five-day course, as well as a follow-up day for participants. I would recommend this manual. -- Journal Of Interprofessional CareThis book could provide useful information as part of an occupational therapy course or departmental library for reference and ideas. -- British Journal of Occupational TherapyThe manual has much to offer social workers at both a practice and educational level. The experiential methodology presents the worker with an opportunity to question the beliefs and skills underpinning their practice may be reconfirmed or perhaps strengthened through the exposure to alternative methods. Given the context, this book has particular merit for social workers interested in working with clients experiencing terminal illness and/or loss. It is a comprehensive educational resource which provides the participant with a serious opportunity to enhance their practice skills. -- Australian Social WorkThe training course described is designed to enhance counselling skills, deepen self awareness about loss related issues, enable participants to share personal experiences, identify relevant resources that will support and inform participants and enable the transfer of learning from the course to the work place. The content and structure of the training course admirably meets all the above aims and I am particularly impressed by the design of the course which allows for a progression and sequence that allows the participant to build upon the experience and content of the previous day and thus evolve and deepen their knowledge. The manual is also an excellent resource with a whole section devoted to materials for the facilitators and a further section providing materials for the participants. I was delighted to see a lesson plan devoted to exploring spirituality and found the materials available to participants particularly inspirational. This training manual is comprehensive in its scope and substantial in its content. It is well grounded in experiential learning and I would thoroughly recommend it to trainers of psychotherapists and counsellors. Indeed, this training manual is the best of it's kind and I hope it will be further revised over the years. -- Psychotherapy and CounsellingPacked with useful material in an easy-to-copy A4 format. It could be used with course participants who already have basic counselling skills in health, social services and volunteer organisations. This manual is worth every penny as a training resource for workers in the field of abuse, terminal death and illness. -- Professional Social WorkThere is a wealth of material in this manual. -- Hospice BulletinTable of ContentsIntroduction. SECTION 1: LEARNING TO HELP PEOPLE LIVE THROUGH LOSS. The learning method. The learning environment. Principles underlying effective experiential learning practice. Working with groups. The elements of the course. Support structures. Stages in experiential learning. Balancing challenge and support. Role-play as a tool in experiential learning. Trainers have needs too. Practical steps in course planning. SECTION 2: COURSE PROGRAM AND LESSON PLANS. Day one. Program for day one. Lesson plans for day one. Day two. Day three. Day four. Day five. Follow-up day. Additional lesson plans. SECTION 3: FACILITATOR'S MATERIALS. Preparing for the course. SECTION 4: PARTICIPANTS' MATERIALS. Materials for the structured course. Materials for use with additional lesson plans. Extra materials. Structured role-plays. Alternative evaluation forms. SECTION 5: REFERENCES, FURTHER READING AND RESOURCES.

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Book SynopsisThis book would appeal to professionals and practitioners in the field of bereavement care, particularly funeral practices. In the presence of much that is so meaningless through grief, this book provides a meaningful overview, perhaps with new insights and perspectives, and is as such highly recommended.'- The Compassionate Friends Newsletter UK'Discusses research in the field of art therapy, the forms of research available in the field, and the ways in which definitions of research affect understanding of the arts therapies and how they are practised. In his introductory chapter, the author outlines the importance of research into the arts therapies and explains that, while the rest of the book focuses primarily on research into drama therapy , his observations are applicable to other forms of art therapy. He describes the characteristics of art therapy and how these affect the types of research that can be carried out in the field... The author addresses questions relating to research by practicing art therapists, the investigative processes open to them, and the necessary differences between the approaches they take and those of traditional academic research. He proposes an art-based form of research, which uses art as both the means of interpreting art and of presenting that interpretation.'- ARTbibliographies ModernIn The Social Symbolism of Grief and Mourning Roger Grainger focuses on the role of funerals in promoting the personal and social adjustment of the bereaved. The work explores the significance of many of the areas and stages connected with death, with chapters covering such topics as:* attitudes towards death* our fear of death and dying* ways in which we attempt to come to terms with death* the rituals that surround these processes.By tying together folklore and traditional beliefs with actual funeral practices, both ancient and modern, the author has created a work that examines the anthropological, psychological and superstitious aspects of our relationship to death and dying.'Grainger is multi-talented, drawing on his expertise in drama, counselling, acting, theology, sociology and anthropology... He has some interesting things to say about the necessity of chaos, and how this is ritualised in the Irish wake. Unlike many authors on bereavement, Grainger takes seriously the ghost beliefs that are widespread throughout history'- Bereavement Care'The Social Symbolism of Grief and Mourning is a complex study of death from the perspectives of drama, psychology, anthropology, and working pastoral practice. Roger Grainger ties his study to ancient and current funeral practices, and examines the beliefs about death implicit in our social behaviour; but more importantly, he had understood and can communicate, the absurd quality of death and its religious nature. By its very nature, death is paradoxical: it cannot be contained by words or rites, but that is just what we seek to do, must do, to make sense of it. In doing this, we make sense of life. The important bearing on changing funeral practices, but more pressingly on the way we speak and preach (if we do) about death.'- Church Times'Roger Grainger's book is a refreshingly new approach to a wide range of theory and practice regarding attitudes towards death, dying and the dead. Most of the material cited was collected presumably for his PhD in the 1970s and the only major criticism relates to the absence of contributions of contemporary philosophers and commentators such as Foucault, Levinas, Primo Levi and Elias. However, this is more than compensated for by a fresh look at the work of some of the late nineteenth-century and early twentieth-century anthropologists as well as eastern works, such as the Tibetan Book Of The Dead … Grainger cites sources which deplore the current state of British funerals and promotes the charter of the National Funeral College. In concluding the book with a chapter entitled The Rite of Passage, he conveys, with good supporting evidence, the importance of sustaining these rites in order to support bereaved people in what can be seen as a mythical experience which is also practical and rooted in reality. I recommend this book not least because of its exhaustive research which provides an excellent resource for any further study in this area.'- Progress in Palliative CareTable of Contents1. The Refusal to Die. 2. The Fear of the Dead. 3. The Unbuiried. 4. The Shape of Death. 5. The Rite of Passage. Appendix: The Principle Motives of the Funeral. Bibliography

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Book SynopsisIn this rich and humane book Ann Orbach explores, from the point of view of a psychotherapist, the subject of death in all its manifestations. Her intention is to look at death and what it means to us, as a means of coming to terms with the inevitable, and helping others to do so. She discusses not only existential questions such as fear of death (as a state of non-being) and fear of dying, but cultural attitudes and religious beliefs, dreams and near death experiences, and the consequences of the manner of death. She looks at death in war, suicide, euthanasia, terminal illness, accident and murder, as well as the death of children and the consequent needs of parents and siblings. She discusses the way in which a therapist can help the dying and their families.Welcoming the lessening of taboos surrounding the subject of death, Ann Orbach urges that all aspects of death should be approached with honesty and openness, with children just as much as with adults. She leaves us with the question of what dies with the body: is there anything left of our humanity that does not die?Trade ReviewAnn Orbach is a practising psychotherapist and her book represents a thought-provoking examination of death. In an open and honest way, she confronts some of the issues surrounding this subject and helps us reconsider attitudes to death and dying, and the needs of those who may ask for our help. Looking at the problems faced by dying patients and their families, she considers the role of the therapist as helper in this situation. This book is immensely readable. This is a book for everyone working with dying patients and their relatives - not only to aid us in our work, but also to challenge our personal assumptions about death, dying and bereavement. -- Bereavement CareDrawing on professional and personal experience and the literature, Orbach explores attitudes, beliefs, fears and responses to death at various life stages and in various ways. Her exploration of loss is, however, much broader, considering giving up a child for adoption, working with murderers, capital punishment and near-death experiences. In the chapter on "Partly Living" she addresses not only dementia but also those who suffer from anorexia, and those who feel their lives are without meaning. The book is both easy and enjoyable to read, while stimulating reflection of personal and professional experiences. I would have no hesitation in recommending this text to anyone wishing to explore issues around palliative care and bereavement. -- International Journal of Palliative NursingAnn Orbach's search for ego and self is well documented in this book, which is well illutrated with case histories and referenced excerpts from literature. Ann Orbach has experienced death close-up with the passing of family members and some of her clients. Her writing throws into stark relief the different approaches to death taken by clinicians and psychologists. This is a good read and if you are interested in this area of study, or have recently had experience of death, it could well facilitate your spiritual journey. Buy it and see. -- Community CareDeath and dying are the issues explored in Ann Orbach's Life, Psychotherapy and Death. She looks at people's reactions and fears, at bereavement and mourning. Different types of dying are addressed - the death of a child, of a person with AIDS, sudden deaths such as murder, capital punishment, suicide and in war. Cultural and religious attitudes towards death are discussed, and the role of psychotherapy. -- Church TimesAnn Orbach is a practising psychotherapist who is interested also in working with older people. I found it a heartfelt and provoking book. She writes of the reality that death permeates our lives from their very beginnings. She covers sudden death, slow death, AIDS, terminal "long time a-dying" conditions, child death, its timeliness, grief and mourning, near death experiences. Throughout the book the author is also exploring the notion of self which in turn provokes questions about the links between mind, body, emotion and soul/spirit; in other words our sense of identity. Is there, for example, life after mortal life is over? In exploring death in life, the author roams around different cultures. It was both a highly personal account as well as being intellectually rigorous, warm and challenging. -- CounsellingAnn Orbach's book is a wide exploration into the way people face death as the dying and bereaved. It is a book that is not content to stay with the psychotherapist's narrative but steps out confidently into philosophy, theology and some of the very practical issues that mortality presents illustrated with case studies, research, poetry and prose. This is not a work that dwells upon any particular aspect of mortality - there is fleeting reference to some of the major theories of bereavement and brief mention of important psychological concepts - but there is a wholeness to the book which leaves one, if not better informed, then more aware of how fruitful it can be at times to step over conventional boundaries. This is a book then not so much of information but, as the subtitle suggests, of exploration, and one which depends little on a prior understanding of psychotherapy. It should be helpful to those who are professionally involved in the lives of the dying and the bereaved and who have the curiosity to step over their own boundaries in order to appreciate less familiar perspectives and insights. -- Progress in Palliative CareTable of Contents1. All Must Die. No escape. Seeking therapy on the way to death. To be or not to be - is there a death instinct? 2. Out of Season. Fragile beginnings. What children know and what they can talk about. Answering children's questions. The first bereavements. Jonathan's story. Children who die. Parents whose children die. Slaughter of the innocents. The story of two mothers. 3. A Plague Called AIDS. Pandemic. What is AIDS and where does it come from? Health education, tests and counselling. Perry's story. AIDS in the family. 4. Sudden Death. Death by proxy. Meeting the shadow. Murder in mind. Forensic psychotherapy. Working with murderers. Capital punishment - the outcasts. Suicide. Suicide, psychotherapy and the saving of souls. Euthanasia. War. The manner of our dying. 5. Slow Death. Terminal illness. To tell or not to tell? Natural death. Where to die. Fear. 6. Partly Living. To eat or not to eat? The dying brain. The death of meaning. 7. In Fullness of Time. Being old. Dying of old age. Life review. Counselling, psychotherapy, analysis. 8. A Time to Mourn. Mourning on the way to death. Each bereavement is unique. Funeral options. 9. On the Edge. Dreams of death. View from the edge. 10. Who Dies? Ego. Self. Body, soul and spirit. Individuation. Can we still believe in an afterlife? Appendix. References. Index.

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Book SynopsisChildren have long been the "forgotten mourners". This new and revised edition expands on the original book by Sister Margaret Pennells and Susan Smith. It raises awareness of the sensitive issues involved for bereaved children, highlighting their needs and their emotional and behavioural responses when a bereavement occurs. The book includes two new chapters, on traumatic bereavement and secondary losses in bereavement, and it provides more information on each topic. Children's reactions to bereavement and their behaviours are described in more detail, and the consequences of failing to acknowledge children's grief and ways to tackle the subject of death are outlined.The Forgotten Mourners: Second Edition maintains the simple, accessible approach of the original book and will be of use to teachers, social workers and all those working in the field of child bereavement, particularly when faced with difficult situations.Table of ContentsIntroduction 1. How Children Grieve 2. Traumatic Bereavement. 3. Secondary Losses in Bereavement. 4. What Do Children Need? 5. What Can Adults Do? 6. What Can Schools and Teachers Do? 7. What Can Social Workers Do? 8. Working With Bereaved Children. 9. Guidelines for Effective Coping. References. Resources.

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Book SynopsisWritten by children for children, this unique workbook is both written and illustrated by children and teenagers who have experienced the death of someone close to them - a parent, grandparent, sibling or friend. They describe their often confusing thoughts and emotions immediately after the bereavement and discuss how their day-to-day lives were affected, including such diverse issues as the reactions of those around them, practical changes and managing school and schoolwork. They offer advice, based on their own experiences, on how to cope with the practical and emotional upheavals of bereavement. The workbook's interactive style encourages readers to write about and draw their own feelings and experiences, to consider personal coping strategies and examine their relationships with those around them who may be able to offer support. Advice on how to seek external support and a list of helpful agencies are also provided.The supportive and interactive style of this book will make it a valuable source of help and encouragement for bereaved children and teenagers. It will also be useful to adults seeking to understand how children and teenagers experience bereavement.Trade ReviewMany children would find it helpful to realise that what they are going through is shared by others and quite normal and that it will get easier with time. I liked the exercises in the book which give children and young people an opportunity to access thoughts and feelings that may be confusing and express them in a way that is helpful. -- Climb UpdateTable of Contents1. Letter of explanation from the authors to readers. 2. Feelings, thoughts and the way things change after someone close has died. 3. What are the thoughts and feelings? 4. Finding a way through the difficult things. 5. What difficult things have to be coped with? 6. How bad can it get? 7. What helps? 8. A letter from a teenager. 9. Practical exercises. Resources: Books, games and organisations.

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Book SynopsisRapid advances in modern medicine and diagnostic techniques have revolutionized the way we think about death and the processes of dying. Where once death was defined as the absence of respiration or heartbeat, today patients can be kept alive for months or even years hooked up to a respirator and feeding tube. Ivan and Melrose carefully explain the various medical processes involved in death and dying. In so doing they also face the many ethical, moral and legal dilemmas that confront doctors today, as well as the decisions that may have to be taken by relatives. What, they ask, is the meaning of "life" when large areas of a person's brain have suffered irreversible damage? And what of the economic quandary when valuable hospital beds are occupied by people in a persistent vegetative state with no hope of recovery?Table of ContentsHistory of the definitions of death Coma Persistent vegetative state The "Do not resuscitate" order Brain death Harvesting and transplanting organs Dying with dignity and palliative care The living will The right to die Euthanasia and assisted suicide Near-death experiences Life after death? Body, Mind and Soul

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Book SynopsisThrough discussions of various theories of grief, narratives of the bereaved obtained in interviews with 22 men and women, case study analysis, and chapter summaries, this text integrates the literature about and the bereavement experiences of partners in varying types of relationships.Trade ReviewWalter offers 22 stories of individuals whose life partner died, presenting them against a tapestry of bereavement theories and issues. The widows and widowers describe the challenges of reframing their identity and life; particularly powerful are narratives and experiences of gay men and lesbians, because as disenfranchised grievers they lack the access to the legal benefits, supports, and social rituals of mourning... The captivating struggle of grief involves a crisis in meaning as bereavement shatters assumptions, support systems, coupled identity, and patterns of life. Choice First of its kind...psychologists and counselors can benefit from this book. Canadian Social Work Walter's book is well written, accessible and compassionate and certainly extends our understanding of the experiences and needs of bereaved partners. -- Carole Smith Journal of Social Work Well structured and accessible to both lay and professional readers. -- Christine Valentine MortalityTable of ContentsIntroduction Interviews Overview Chapter One Theories of Grief: How They Inform Our Understanding of the Loss of a Partner Classical Paradigm of Grief Postmodern Paradigm of Grief Integrating the Paradigms Chapter Two Loss of a Partner: Current Issues Review of Literature on Loss of a Spouse Gender and Grief Review of Literature on Opposite-Sex Partner Loss Review of Literature on Same-Sex Partner Loss Similarities and Differences Among Types of Partner Loss Chapter Three Loss of a Spouse Young Widows Bereaved Older Spouses Chapter Summary Chapter Four Loss of an Opposite-Sex Partner Disenfranchised Grief Chapter Summary Chapter Five Loss of a Gay Partner Issues Faced by a Bereaved Gay Partner Chapter Summary Chapter Six Loss of a Lesbian Partner Issues Faced by a Bereaved Lesbian Partner Chapter Summary Chapter Seven Similar and Diverse Themes Among Bereaved Partners Ambivalence Regarding Existing Ties with Deceased Partner Discrimination Experienced by Surviving Partners in Nontraditional Relationships Using Memories and Continuing Bonds with the Bereaved to Cope with Grieving Developing New Relationships While Continuing Bonds with the Deceased Partner Making Meaning from the Experience of the Death of a Partner Chapter Summary Chapter Eight Interventions A Classical Model of Interventions with Bereaved Partners A Postmodern Model of Interventions with Bereaved Partners Interventions with Bereaved Spouses Interventions with Young Widows Interventions with Bereaved Men Interventions with Bereaved Domestic Partners Interventions with Bereaved Lesbian Partners Interventions with Bereaved Gay Partners Working with Gay and Lesbian Bereaved Partners Chapter Summary Chapter Nine Clinical Implications Clinical Implications for Interventions with Bereaved Partners Clinical Implications for Interventions with Same-Sex and Opposite-Sex Partners Clinical Implications for a Response to the Events of September 11, 2001 Conclusions References Index

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Book SynopsisTrade ReviewTherapists have long felt required to keep their own emotional wounds and pain hidden from their patients. As finite human beings we are all subject to the traumas of death and loss, and I applaud this volume for bringing our existential vulnerabilities into a professional dialogue. Our patients can only benefit from this open and gripping acknowledgment of our existential kinship in the same darkness. -- Robert Stolorow, Institute of Contemporary Psychoanalysis, Los Angeles For therapists whose life work is caring for others, this book is an essential read. Theoretically sophisticated, insightful, and moving, the contributors address experiences of loss in therapy that have barely garnered passing consideration. By drawing our attention to the dynamics of grief and loss in the clinical situation, the authors have also, with great poignancy, underscored the beauty and meaning of therapeutic relationships. -- Brian Rasmussen, University of British Columbia, Okanagan Rarely does one come across a book that combines good writing, good thinking, and good feeling. Well, here is that book. Adelman and Malawista's assemblage of reports and reflections on the loss of family members, patients, therapists, and institutions enhances our capacity for empathy and attunement with individuals facing such calamities. Their book mobilizes serious contemplation about human relationships that are simultaneously transient and everlasting. A bit of sadness follows, yet such 'good' sadness leads to psychic growth, maturity, and wisdom. -- Salman Akhtar, Jefferson Medical College In this remarkable volume, psychoanalysts and psychoanalytic psychotherapists explore their reactions to their encounter with death and loss: with patients' unexpected death, with their own life-threatening illnesses and personal mourning processes affecting their work, and with their philosophical posture to the challenge of death in health and illness. In the process, the authors reexamine critically psychoanalytic literature on depression and mourning and reveal their personal ways of dealing with experiences of death and mourning. A thought-provoking and moving work that will help mental-health professionals deepen their clinical expertise in dealing with this unavoidable aspect of human experience. -- Otto F. Kernberg, PhD, Weill Medical College, Cornell University This book makes a valuable contribution to a contemporary perspective on the analyst's experience within the therapeutic situation. Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association The Therapist in Mourning is a thoughtful examination of grief in the psychotherapeutic relationship. OmegaTable of ContentsContents Acknowledgments List of Contributors "Another Kind of Sorrow," a poem by Judy Bolz Preface Introduction Part I. The Therapist's Experience of Loss 1. From the Faraway Nearby: Perspectives on the Integration of Loss, by Kerry L. Malawista and Linda Kanefield 2. Experiences of Loss at the End of Analysis: The Analyst's Response to Termination, by Judith Viorst 3. Missing Myself, by Sandra Buechler Part II. When a Patient Dies 4. The Hand of Fate: On Mourning the Death of a Patient, by Anne J. Adelman 5. Little Boy Lost, by Arlene Kramer Richards 6. When a Patient Dies: Reflections on the Death of Three Patients, by Sybil Houlding 7. When What We Have to Offer Isn't Enough: Suicide in Clinical Practice, by Catherine L. Anderson Part III. At the Crossroads of the Therapist's Personal and Professional Worlds 8. When the Frame Shifts: A Multilayered Perspective on Illness in the Therapist, by Jenifer Nields 9. The Loss of an Institution: Mourning Chestnut Lodge, by Richard M. Waugaman 10. The Death of the Analyst, the Death of the Analytic Community, and Bad Conduct, by Robert M. Galatzer-Levy 11. The Analyst's Death-Apprehension yet not Comprehension, by Barbara Stimmel Part IV. When Disaster Strikes a Community 12. Broken Promises, Shattered Dreams, Wordless Endings, by Sylvia J. Schneller 13. What the Living Did: September 11 and Its Aftermath, by Billie A. Pivnick 14. The Loss of Normal: Ten Years as a U.S. Navy Physician Since 9/11, by Russell B. Carr 15. Time, by Robert Winer Conclusion "The Five Stages of Grief," a poem by Linda Pastan Index

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Book SynopsisTrade ReviewAward of Superior Achievement, Illinois State Historical Society (ISHS), 2013."Mary Lincoln's Insanity Case makes a valuable contribution to the story of Mrs. Lincoln and her son Robert. This volume will enable scholars and students to write about Lincoln and his family with ever greater authority." --Michael Burlingame, author of Abraham Lincoln: A Life "This book is the first to capture and provide in one resource all of the documentation relevant to Mary Lincoln's long-controversial insanity trial and treatment. Jason Emerson distils the full body of evidentiary material into an easily accessible chronology. An essential reference for anyone interested in the subject."--Harold Holzer, author of Father Abraham: Lincoln and His Sons “An impressive array of material, arranged chronologically, stemming from the insanity trial, including private correspondence, progress reports from Lincoln's attending physician at the Bellevue Place Sanitarium, newspaper articles, diaries, and interviews. This is an essential resource for anyone interested in the Lincoln family.”--Register of the Kentucky Historical Society

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Book SynopsisHow do we live with our parents after their death? How do we tell their story when they are gone? This book addresses these questions. It recreates a common experience - the loss of a father or a mother - and exposes the often tortuous paths of mourning and attachment that we follow in the wake of loss.Trade Review"[The book] reflects a process of maturity that has gone beyond good-girl anger at parents and teachers ... Miller's use of the memoir form offers a new model of serious criticism, and a way of imagining community through 'bonds of paper' as well as 'bonds of blood.'" --Elaine Showalter, London Review of Books "Miller's book is a discerning study of a contemporary subgenre: the memoir about dead parents... Miller is brilliant at unravelling ... complicated and agonising tangles of fairness and anger. The use of memoir to convert deep veins of resetnment into acceptance, if not forgiveness, is the core of Miller's book ... " --Alix Kates Shulman, Women's Review of Books With her own experimental form--part criticism, part autobiography--Nancy K. Miller reminds us that when we read stories about other people's lives, we see our own lives in new ways and rewrite our own stories." --Alice Kaplan, Duke University "Nancy K. Miller counterpoints lyrical introspection about her own grief with critical insight into contemporary memoirs. In the process she produces astonishingly poignant revelations about what it means to live with a dying parent, how it feels to survive after a great loss." --Sandra M. Gilbert and Susan Gubar co-authors of The Madwoman in the Attic, No Man's Land, and The Norton Anthology of Literature by Women "In Bequest and Betrayal, an esteemed literary scholar speaks to a wider audience, reminding us that at its most basic and most powerful, reading is not just what we do with books, but how we live our lives, trying always to learn from the stories we find ourselves in." --Jane Gallop, University of Wisconsin, MilwaukeeTable of ContentsPrologue: Writing a Parent's Death1. Family Plots2. Childless Children: Bodies and Betrayal3. Mothers and Daughters: The Price of Separation4. The Arts of Survival: Mom, Murder, Memory5. Outing the Dead6. Unbillable HoursEpilogue: PostmortemWorks Cited

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Book SynopsisThis riveting reassessment of the voyage of the Mayflower explores the background and motives of those who sailed in her, taking us closer to the real reasons behind the epic journeyTrade ReviewIn characteristically lucid and vivid prose, Derek Wilson maps the multiple historical paths leading to one of the most famous embarkations in history. A fresh and admirably unsentimental account of the forces shaping the "Pilgrim Fathers". * Peter Marshall, FBA, FRHistS, Professor of History, University of Warwick *I cannot praise too highly Derek Wilson's prose style, which is both masterful and lively. He writes with great conviction and a breathtaking attention to the kind of personal detail that makes his books such compelling reading. -- Alison Weir, historian and novelistDerek Wilson does a superb job of separating fact from fiction to provide a very readable account of what actually happened. He does justice to the range of competing religious, commercial and political motives that led this group of people to leave England for America. * Church of England Newspaper *

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Book SynopsisThis riveting reassessment of the voyage of the Mayflower explores the background and motives of those who sailed in her, taking us closer to the real reasons behind the epic journeyTrade ReviewIn characteristically lucid and vivid prose, Derek Wilson maps the multiple historical paths leading to one of the most famous embarkations in history. A fresh and admirably unsentimental account of the forces shaping the "Pilgrim Fathers". * Peter Marshall, FBA, FRHistS, Professor of History, University of Warwick *I cannot praise too highly Derek Wilson's prose style, which is both masterful and lively. He writes with great conviction and a breathtaking attention to the kind of personal detail that makes his books such compelling reading. -- Alison Weir, historian and novelistDerek Wilson does a superb job of separating fact from fiction to provide a very readable account of what actually happened. He does justice to the range of competing religious, commercial and political motives that led this group of people to leave England for America. * Church of England Newspaper *

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Book SynopsisA guide for young people on coping with the loss of a loved one. Packed with real-life stories, advice from doctors, counsellors, authors and others, this book will let readers know they are not alone.

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