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Book SynopsisThe eleventh instalment in the popular Thrown Away Children paperback series

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Book SynopsisCruel To Be Kind is the true story of Max, aged 6. He is fostered by Cathy while his mother is in hospital with complications from type 2 diabetes.Fostering Max gets off to a bad start when his mother, Caz, complains and threatens Cathy even before Max has moved in. Cathy and her family are shocked when they first meet Max. But his social worker isn't the only one in denial; his whole family are too.

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Book SynopsisSprinkle the pig has moved to a new house, with a new family, but he misses his old family. On his first day at school his classmate yells at him, and everything gets too much. He cries and cries, and soon the tears become a river and carry him away! Wise monkey spots Sprinkle, but he is too far away. Can he help Sprinkle to find hidden strengths to survive the river of tears? This therapeutic picture book is written to help children aged 4-10 and adults to talk about being separated from or losing loved ones, and explores how difficult experiences can affect how your body feels and reacts to things. It is followed by easy to read advice for adults on how to help your child.Trade ReviewThe pictures and rich descriptive text convey the real life experience of so many children ... Children will feel relieved and understood as they recognize themselves and their peers in the characters. -- Pat Ogden, Founder, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy InstituteA brilliant addition to the field of mental health for the treatment of trauma in children ... accessible, educational and fun for clients, parents and therapists alike. Bravo! -- Frank Anderson, MD, Psychotherapist, psychiatrist and Executive Director, Foundation of Self LeadershipDelightful ... The Guide for Grown Ups at the end of the book offers child-friendly ways to extend the value of the story into everyday life, and bolsters parent understanding. -- Elizabeth S. Warner, Psy.D, Clinical psychologist and SMART Project Director, Trauma Center at JRIPractical and accessible ... This important and timely series is a must read for anyone who has a need for trauma literacy. -- Nicola McClung, Ph.D., Mother and Assistant Professor, School of Education, University of San FranciscoSo indicative of how a foster child feels ... This book should be required reading for all adults in the agencies that help with removal, placement, reunification and adoption ... What a great resource, thank you! -- Lenea Keltner, Director, Whitman County Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA)Sometimes emotions can be more than a child can handle. These authors have seamlessly woven into the story crucial aspects of working with distressed children that balance the upset, making situations tolerable. -- Rochelle Sharpe Lohrasbe, PhD, RCC, EMDRIA-approved consultant in EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy InstituteTable of ContentsAbout the Hidden Strengths Series. How Sprinkle the Pig Escaped the River of Tears. Let's Talk about Sprinkle's Tears and Hidden Strength. Play Time. Guide for Grown Ups.

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Book SynopsisJust when Casey thinks her foster care duties are done, she's asked to look after Sam, a troubled nine-year-old with a violent streak who drove his previous guardians to release him of their care. It soon unfolds, however, that this is no simple case.Determined to get to the root of Sam's behaviour, Casey is committed to uncover his mysterious past only to find out something far darker than she ever imaginedHaving recently said goodbye to their last foster child, Miller, the Watson family are taking a bit of a break. But it's while Casey is having fun catching up with her friends that she receives a call from her new link worker. Social services are desperately trying to find a settled home for nine-year-old Sam, who has Autism and some serious behavioural problems.Removed from his mother less than a week ago, Sam has been staying with respite carers. But with two young children of their own, they now find themselves unable to hold on to the little boy as he is bullying them relentless

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Book SynopsisThe No. 1 Sunday Times Bestseller.At just eight years old, Jodie is violent, aggressive and extremely challenging. Five carers in four months have been unable to cope, but there is one last hope: Cathy GlassAs Jodie begins to trust Cathy and make progress, shocking details about her past come to light. No one had noticed the glaring signs of abuse by those who were supposed to love her most.One of Cathy's earliest and bestselling memoirs, Damaged is a heartbreaking story that proves just how valuable foster carers are for society's most vulnerable children.Trade Review'Cannot fail to move those who read it.' Adoption-net ‘Heartbreaking.' The Mirror ‘A truly harrowing read that made me cry.’ The Sun 'A true tale of hope. ****.' OK! ‘Foster carers rarely get the praise they deserve, but Cathy Glass’s book should change all that.****’ First Magazine ‘A hugely touching and emotional true tale.’ Star Magazine

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Book SynopsisA powerful, moving true story from Sunday Times bestseller, Maggie Hartley, Britain's most-loved foster carer. Perfect for fans of Cathy Glass.

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Book SynopsisNavigating foster care can be overwhelming for everyone. There are thousands of books offering professional opinions on how to be a good foster carer and provide therapeutic support for children in care, but what about asking the young people who''ve been there?This essential guide brings the voices of care-experienced authors to the forefront, sharing their first-hand knowledge and advice for making a real difference. From big-picture concepts like understanding healthy relationships to more practical things like scrapbooks as physical ways to hold onto happy memories, the authors discuss what really matters to children and young people in care. They explore how their previous experiences and their carers'' approaches affected the way they felt and reacted during their time in care, providing vital context for carers and professionals.Led by personal experience, this book tells you what care-experienced young people really need you to know.

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Book SynopsisJacqueline Wilson (Author) Jacqueline Wilson wrote her first novel when she was nine years old, and she has been writing ever since. She is now one of Britain's bestselling and most beloved children's authors. She has written over 100 books and is the creator of characters such as Tracy Beaker and Hetty Feather. More than forty million copies of her books have been sold.As well as winning many awards for her books, including the Children's Book of the Year, Jacqueline is a former Children's Laureate, and in 2008 she was appointed a Dame.Jacqueline is also a great reader, and has amassed over 20,000 books, along with her famous collection of silver rings.Find out more about Jacqueline and her books at www.jacquelinewilson.co.ukNick Sharratt (Illustrator) Nick Sharratt has written and illustrated many books for children including Shark in the Park, You Choose and Pants. He has won numerous awardTrade ReviewA book that lingers in the mind long after it is put down * Guardian *A brilliant writer of wit and subtlety * The Times *She should be prescribed for all cases of reading reluctance * Independent on Sunday *

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Book SynopsisIn a deep dark forest, Little Coyote grows up with a tough gang of big strong coyotes. They are cruel, call him names and order him about all day long. Little Coyote is too small to run away or to stand up for himself, so he learns to do what he's told and makes his body small so nobody notices him. Then, one day he goes on an adventure and ends up discovering new hidden strengths that he never knew he had.This therapeutic picture book is written to help children aged 4-10 and adults to talk about difficult experiences growing up (including things they may still be going through), and explores how they can affect how your body feels and reacts to things. It is followed by easy to read advice for adults on how to help your child.Trade ReviewThe pictures and rich descriptive text convey the real life experience of so many children ... Children will feel relieved and understood as they recognize themselves and their peers in the characters. -- Pat Ogden, Founder, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy InstituteA brilliant addition to the field of mental health for the treatment of trauma in children ... accessible, educational and fun for clients, parents and therapists alike. Bravo! -- Frank Anderson, MD, Psychotherapist, psychiatrist and Executive Director, Foundation of Self LeadershipDelightful ... The Guide for Grown Ups at the end of the book offers child-friendly ways to extend the value of the story into everyday life, and bolsters parent understanding. -- Elizabeth S. Warner, Psy.D, Clinical psychologist and SMART Project Director, Trauma Center at JRIPractical and accessible ... This important and timely series is a must read for anyone who has a need for trauma literacy. -- Nicola McClung, Ph.D., Mother and Assistant Professor, School of Education, University of San FranciscoThe depiction of bullying and peer pressure made my heart pound knowing that my girls (13 and 17) are just developing those skills that Coyote needed ... I'd add this book to my library for my volunteers to read to their foster children. -- ea Keltner, Director, Whitman County Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA)A welcome addition to any clinician's library and a marvelous resource for caregivers! -- Rochelle Sharpe Lohrasbe, PhD, RCC, EMDRIA-approved consultant in EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy InstituteTable of ContentsAbout the Hidden Strengths Series. How Little Coyote Found His Secret Strength. Let's Talk About Little Coyote's Secret Strength. Play Time. Guide for Grown Ups.

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Book SynopsisCathy Glass, international bestselling author, tells the shocking story of Zeena, a young Asian girl desperate to escape from her family.When 14 -year-old Zeena begs to be taken into care with a non-Asian family, she is clearly petrified. But of what?Placed in the home of experienced foster carer Cathy and her family, Zeena gradually settles into her new life, but misses her little brothers and sisters terribly. Prevented from having any contact with them by her family who insist she has brought shame and dishonour on the whole community, Zeena tries to see them at school. But when her father and uncle find out, they bundle her into a car and threaten to set fire to her if she makes anymore trouble. Zeena is too frightened to press charges against them despite being offered police protection in a safe house.Eventually, Cathy discovers the devastating truth from Zeena, and with devastation she believes there is little she can do to help her.Trade ReviewREVIEWS FOR DAMAGED: 'Cannot fail to move those who read it.'Adoption-net ‘Heartbreaking.'Mirror ‘A truly harrowing read that made me cry.’Sun 'A true tale of hope. ****.'OK! ‘Foster carers rarely get the praise they deserve, but Cathy Glass’s book should change all that.****’First magazine ‘A hugely touching and emotional true tale.’Star magazine

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Book SynopsisWhat could cause a mother to believe that giving away her newborn baby is her only option? Cathy Glass is about to find out. From author of Sunday Times and New York Times bestseller Damaged comes a harrowing and moving memoir about tiny Harrison, left in Cathy's care, and the potentially fatal family secret of his beginnings.When Cathy is first asked to foster one-day old Harrison her only concern is if she will remember how to look after a baby. But upon collecting Harrison from the hospital, Cathy realises she has more to worry than she thought when she discovers that his background is shrouded in secrecy.She isn't told why Harrison is in foster care and his social worker says only a few are aware of his very existence, and if his whereabouts became known his life, and that of his parents, could be in danger. Cathy tries to put her worries aside as she looks after Harrison, a beautiful baby, who is alert and engaging. Cathy and her children quickly bond with Harrison although they know that, inevitably, he will eventually be adopted.But when a woman Cathy doesn't know starts appearing in the street outside her house acting suspiciously, Cathy fears for her own family's safety and demands some answers from Harrison's social worker. The social worker tells Cathy a little but what she says is very disturbing . How is this woman connected to Harrison and can she answer the questions that will affect Harrison's whole life?

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Book SynopsisFinding Stevie is a dark and poignant true story that highlights the dangers lurking online.When Stevie's social worker tells Cathy, an experienced foster carer, that Stevie, 14, is gender fluid she isn't sure what that term means and looks it up.Stevie, together with his younger brother and sister, have been brought up by their grandparents as their mother is in prison. But the grandparents can no longer cope with Stevie's behaviour so they place him in care.Stevie is exploring his gender identity, and like many young people he spends time online. Cathy warns him about the dangers of talking to strangers online and advises him how to stay safe. When his younger siblings tell their grandmother that they have a secret they can't tell, Cathy is worried. However, nothing could have prepared her for the truth when Stevie finally breaks down and confesses what he's done.

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Book Synopsis''The best piece of nature writing since H is for Hawk, and the most powerful work of biography I have read in years'' Neil Gaiman''Wonderful - I can''t recommend it too highly'' Helen Macdonald''One of those rare, enchanted books'' Isabella Tree''Beautiful - it made me cry'' Simon Amstell''I was entranced'' Cathy RentzenbrinkThis is a story about birds and fathers.About the young magpie that fell from its nest in a Bermondsey junkyard into Charlie Gilmour''s life - and swiftly changed it. Demanding worms around the clock, riffling through his wallet, sharing his baths and roosting in his hair... About the jackdaw kept at a Cornish stately home by Heathcote Williams, anarchist, poet, magician, stealer of Christmas, and Charlie''s biological father who vanished from his life in the dead of night. It is a story about repetition across generations and birds that run in the blooTrade ReviewFeatherhood is one of the best books I've ever read. I urge you to seek it out, buy it, and be enchanted. It's incredibly moving and I loved every single page * Elton John *The best piece of nature writing since H is for Hawk, and the most powerful work of biography I have read in years. It announces Charlie Gilmour as a major new writing talent * Neil Gaiman *Wonderful - I can't recommend it too highly * Helen Macdonald, author of H IS FOR HAWK *Beautiful, wise, compassionate and powerful, Featherhood is one of those rare, enchanted books that sings to the soul of what it is to be * Isabella Tree, author of WILDING *What a book! I was entranced. A personal reckoning which is simultaneously brutal and joyous. It's full of light. I want to tell everyone about it * Cathy Rentzenbrink, author of THE LAST ACT OF LOVE *This stunning memoir flashes with as many colours as its enchanting subject, and draws us into a world of eccentric characters impossible to predict or forget. Savage, mischievous, moving, sublime * Rhik Samadder, author of I NEVER SAID I LOVED YOU *FEATHERHOOD, it would be tempting to say, is where Helen Macdonald's H Is For Hawk meets Gerald Durrell's My Family And Other Animals. But Charlie Gilmour's memoir is so original and ingeniously wrought, it stands on its own as a book to which others will surely be compared... Gilmour's language is as precise as his gaze is forensic. He is something of a magician himself, conjuring whole vivid personalities with a few deft strokes of his pen... He can slay you with his succinct summoning of a small boy's struggles... and he can dazzle you with the gem-like images of nature he creates which, like all writers who draw you into their orbit, thrum with life... Remarkable.' -- Ginny Dougary * DAILY MAIL, Book of the Week *It is wise, self-aware, never forced, often funny, beautifully crafted, and, in the end, as moving as Kes, that other great work about a boy who is given the gift of liberation by a bird. -- Craig Brown * MAIL ON SUNDAY *A soaring debut... A sincere and searing tale of loss, addictive despair, the redemptive power of love, the natural world and a shit-dropping, feather-moulting talking magpie... This will undoubtedly be held up alongside H Is for Hawk, Helen Macdonald's memoir that saw her tame her grief and a bird of prey in her living room. But Featherhood is an equal, if not better, work of magpie investigation that ranks among the best modern coming-of-age memoirs. -- Helen Davies * SUNDAY TIMES CULTURE *A profound exploration of grief, fragmented families, nature versus nurture and whether we are doomed to repeat the sins of our fathers. But it is also a gladdening celebration of what it is to nurture and bring forth new life. -- Caroline Sanderson * SUNDAY EXPRESS S MAGAZINE *A beautiful book, sensitive and compelling - it made me cry * Simon Amstell *I loved Featherhood. About nature and growth, about belonging and not belonging, it is beautiful * Andrew O’Hagan, author of THE ILLUMINATIONS *Utterly absorbing, astonishingly well-written, full of heart, Featherhood is the most arresting book I've read for a very long time * Cressida Connolly, author of AFTER THE PARTY *The extraordinary story of an extraordinary family * Sophie Heawood, author of THE HANGOVER GAMES *Featherhood is an incisive, funny and at times traumatic study of the damage done by destructive father-son relationships and the struggle to smash generational cycles. -- David Marsland * EVENING STANDARD *A wonderful, moving book. His account of raising a young magpie offers a lovely insight into this fascinating bird * James Macdonald Lockhart, author of RAPTOR *[An] affecting and beautifully written memoir. * THE BOOKSELLER, Editor's Choice *A good time in a weird way - I have never read anything so filthy * Nell Zink, author of THE WALL CREEPER *Emotional, touching and often odd, Gilmour's memoir about two key relationships - one with his late father and the other with a magpie - lingers long after the final page. -- Sarah Hughes * I NEWSPAPER *I'm having a lovely time with Featherhood by Charlie Gilmour. He is such a tender writer, the book is a magical encounter with birds and fathers. * Andrew O'Hagan in GUARDIAN *Touching and true, with flashes of black humour, it's a fascinating story. It's also a brilliant examination of nature vs nurture. Gilmour is certainly a born writer. -- Cressida Connelly * THE SPECTATOR, Books of the Year *Written with economy, insight, and rare beauty - a perfect nature memoir for our times -- Andrew Lycett * THE SPECTATOR *A tender coming-of-age memoir. It's an intelligent debut that shows that Gilmour, for all his celebrity family connections, is undoubtedly a remarkable writer in his own right. -- Lucy Knight * THE SUNDAY TIMES, Memoir of the Year *Featherhood is an incisive, funny and at times traumatic study of the damage done by destructive father-son relationships. * THE OLDIE *Gilmour's unforgettable memoir is both a beautiful piece of nature writing about caring for a magpie and a brutally honest account of his difficult relationship with his late father, the poet Heathcote Williams. -- Sarah Hughes * I NEWSPAPER, Best Books of 2020 *A delicately choreographed story of salvation through a bird, with echoes of Barry Hines's classic A Kestrel For A Knave. -- Craig Brown * MAIL ON SUNDAY, Best Books of the Year *Bird and author explore this explosive terrain in an exhilarating dance of transformation, from wild to tame, captivity to freedom and darkness to light. -- Ariane Bankes * THE TABLET, Best Books of the Year *Gilmour... is fearless in sharing himself with readers. As he works through his relationships, the emotional freight is not always subtle, but this comes from a generosity and openness on his part, which, ultimately, is what makes "Featherhood" so lovely and inviting. Gilmour practices no magic here; he distracts the reader with no glitzy baubles. He gives us a man and a bird and tells us, best he can, what they've come to know about the world as it is. He is willing to spill a little blood. -- C J Hauser * THE NEW YORK TIMES *Redemptive, beautifully written and often very funny, this is a moving study of the power of human (and magpie) love to repair even the most wounded heart. -- Jane Shilling * DAILY MAIL *

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Book SynopsisA secret that changed everything...''A great big romantic, emotional and involving read'' Woman & Home''With marvellous writing, eccentric characters and a great plot, this has it all'' Closer''This will make you giggle and weep in equal measure'' WomanKatie Lavender has always thought she was pretty unshockable, until a year after her mother''s death she receives a letter from a solicitor telling her that the man she thought was her father, in fact wasn''t. Her real father, a man named Stirling Nightingale, has for years been building a trust fund for her. And now she''s of an age to collect it. But Katie''s not interested in the money. She wants to know about the man instead. So decides to do some snooping. She tracks him down to a beautiful riverside home on the night he''s hosting a birthday party for his ninety-year-old mother. And as she''s hovering outside, Katie is mistaken for a Trade ReviewThis will make you giggle and weep in equal measure * WOMAN *With marvellous writing, eccentric characters and a great plot, this has it all * CLOSER *With the turn of every absorbing page, you'll find yourself caught in the rapture and despair of each character as they find their way through this beguiling drama * CANDIS *A great big romantic, emotional and involving read * WOMAN & HOME *She writes with a wry sense of humour and this story quickly reels you in... * EVENING TELEGRAPH *An extraordinary deftness of touch, coupled with some searing insights into both how relationships fail, and can work * DAILY MIRROR *This will make you giggle and weep in equal measure. * WOMAN (Special) *With marvellous writing, eccentric characters and a great plot, this has it all. * CLOSER *With the turn of every absorbing page, you'll find yourself caught in the rapture and despair of each character as they find their way through this beguiling drama. * CANDIS *A great big romantic, emotional and involving read. -- Fanny Blake * WOMAN & HOME *She writes with a wry sense of humour and this story quickly reels you in... * EVENING TELEGRAPH *

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Book SynopsisThis indispensable guide has over 200 simple, easy to implement therapeutic parenting activities which you can easily build into everyday life. Starting with a simple explanation of therapeutic parenting and how to do it, it provides a host of strategies and activities to help tackle common challenges faced by families affected by trauma. This includes improving communication and relationships, lessening conflict, building confidence, creating structure and routine, and handling big emotions. The activities range from short daily check-ins to reinforce attachment through to creative therapeutic activities. The ideas in this book will help create an environment of acceptance, safety, and respect, and enable you and your child to build a stronger, more connected relationship.

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Book SynopsisDr Karen Treisman has designed this versatile and colourful card deck of 110 cards enabling practitioners to support children, teens or adults who have experienced trauma, stress or adversity.The cards are organized into four different types: sentence completion cards, survival response cards, signals/signs cards and different types of trauma cards. In combination, the cards provide you with a rich resource which enables you to:· Increase understanding of the multi-layered impact of trauma, stress, and adversity - including common sensory, physical, emotional, cognitive and relational aspects.· Deepen assessment and information-gathering· Reflect on progress and the journey· Inform goals and focus interventions· Identify survival responses, feelings and experiences· Use metaphors, analogies and symbols to support Find new ways to name, label or describe experiences or feelings· Increase empathy, understanding and compassion· Support reflection and curiosity· Explore the wider lens of trauma - including cultural, intergenerational, medical, war trauma etc.And much more!Developed to be inclusive of a variety of learning styles, abilities and language skills, the pack can be used with individuals, groups, teams and organizations. Accompanied by a comprehensive explanatory booklet, they will enable you to create assessments, psychoeducation and interventions which are playful, enriching and creative.

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Book SynopsisLet Me Go is the powerful new memoir from foster carer and Sunday Times bestselling author Casey Watson.Harley is a troubled 13-year-old girl who wants to end her own life and there's only one woman who can find out why.When Harley is sectioned after attempting suicide, she ends up in Casey's care under a 28-day care order. But before Casey can even get her back to the safety of her home, Harley hurls herself out of the moving car.Harley has a family a widowed mother and older sister Milly. But Milly has left home and her mum, who has addiction issues, feels unable to cope.Despite the dysfunctional family, Casey suspects there is more to Harley's distress and after weeks of gentle coaching, a sudden breakthrough sheds light on the disturbing truth Milly and her mum are not the only people in Harley's life. There is a man, a very dangerous man indeed.

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Book SynopsisThis book presents an integrated and practical system for the physical and sensory rehabilitation, education, and social and cultural remediation of post-institutionalized international adoptees. It is essential reading for researchers and clinicians concerned with childhood trauma, remedial education, and issues of international adoption.Trade Review'In this book, the author used his rich clinical experience with internationally adopted children as a basis for offering his readers several effective remediation strategies. The book is recommended to teachers, school principals, psychologists, and other professionals working with international adoptees.' Alex Kozulin, PhD, Achva Academic College and the Feuerstein Institute, Israel'This book is an eye-opener … With equal measures of wisdom and compassion, Gindis provides careful guidance for accurate diagnoses, and introduces educational and clinical approaches specifically geared to address the educational, social, and emotional issues of internationally adopted youngsters. Everyone working with internationally adopted children of any age will find this book rich in resources and insights about child development.' Dr Patty Cogen, psychotherapist and author of Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child'Dr Gindis taught me so much about learning challenges and behavioral issues when I was evaluating patients before and after their adoption. This book is a great contribution that explains the traumatic aspects in the lives of orphans coming from orphanages.' Dr Jane Aronson, Director, International Pediatric Health Services, and Clinical Assistant Professor of Pediatrics, Weill Cornell Medicine, USA'This detailed, practical, and logically presented book will become an invaluable resource for both professionals and parents, mostly in North America and Western Europe, who adopted children from abroad, particularly from the countries of the former Soviet Union and Eastern Europe.' Dr Boris Skurkovich, Clinical Professor of Pediatrics, Warren Alpert Medical School of Brown University, USATable of Contents1. Internationally adopted children: Development mediated by early childhood trauma; 2. Developmental, neuro-psychological, psycho-educational and dynamic assessments of internationally adopted children; 3. Differential diagnoses and the structure of school-based recommendations for internationally adopted children; 4. Developmental trauma disorder rehabilitation in internationally adopted children; 5. Cognitive remediation of internationally adopted children in school and family; 6. Language remediation in internationally adopted children; 7. Academic remediation of internationally adopted children; 8. Creation of social and cultural competence in internationally adopted children; 9. Therapeutic parenting as a major force in rehabilitation and remediation of internationally adopted children; 10. Transitioning to adulthood using the individual transitional plan; Conclusion: The art of the possible: recovery after trauma; References; Appendix; Index.

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Book SynopsisFetal alcohol spectrum disorder (FASD) affects up to 1 in 20 people, and is particularly prevalent among young people in the adoption and fostering system. As a hidden brain injury, FASD can manifest in ways that often lead to challenging behaviors, which can feel overwhelming for caregivers relying on traditional parenting strategies. In this supportive guide, Barb Clark shares her experiences raising a child with FASD - what she got wrong, what she got right, and what you can do to support your own family. Through chapters including plain-English explanations of what FASD actually is, the strengths and struggles of kids with FASD, and strategies for keeping your head above water, Barb offers practical advice for looking after yourself and your family.This is an essential read for parents and carers of kids and teens with FASD, as well as the professionals supporting them.

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Book SynopsisIn this vibrant insight into life with foetal alcohol spectrum disorder, Rossi shares the tough bits, the highlights, and advice for other young people to live fabulously with FASD. Chapters from a specialist psychologist and Rossi's birth mum give context for parents and professionals supporting young people living with FASD.

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Book SynopsisTrauma and attachment are commonly used terms, but are complex concepts. 'Trauma' refers to negative experiences that cause us to fear for our safety, whilst 'attachment' describes meaningful relationships with someone we love or respect. Why, then, is so much of the language surrounding these concepts so obscure, and why is it so challenging to help children who have experienced trauma, and lack healthy attachment bonds? Providing grounded advice accompanied by accessible 'doodles' throughout, this guide aims to bring some clarity to the subject. It explains the differing attachment patterns in children who are adopted, fostered, or have experienced early trauma. The book also provides advice on how to repair attachment difficulties and to build secure, loving relationships. With new material on cultural diversity and sexual exploitation as well as specific guidance for trafficked and asylum-seeking children, this fully updated new edition provides you with all you need to know.Trade ReviewMiriam Silver has a wonderful talent for explaining complex concepts in easier to understand, accessible, and engaging ways. She interweaves multiple important and helpful theories and models; and brings them to life by applying them to real-world examples and in fun doodles. Her books are such helpful guides and are brimming with powerful and useful ideas and knowledge in a small and concise format. -- Karen Treisman, Clinical Psychologist, MBE, Tedx speaker, trainer, organizational consultant, and author

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Book SynopsisThe No. 1 Sunday Times Bestseller.At just eight years old, Jodie is violent, aggressive and extremely challenging. Five carers in four months have been unable to cope, but there is one last hope: Cathy GlassAs Jodie begins to trust Cathy and make progress, shocking details about her past come to light. No one had noticed the glaring signs of abuse by those who were supposed to love her most.One of Cathy's earliest and bestselling memoirs, Damaged is a heartbreaking story that proves just how valuable foster carers are for society's most vulnerable children.*Damaged was originally published in 2007*Trade Review'Cannot fail to move those who read it.' Adoption-net ‘Heartbreaking.' The Mirror ‘A truly harrowing read that made me cry.’ The Sun 'A true tale of hope. ****.' OK! ‘Foster carers rarely get the praise they deserve, but Cathy Glass’s book should change all that.****’ First Magazine ‘A hugely touching and emotional true tale.’ Star Magazine

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Book SynopsisThe eleventh memoir and latest title from the internationally bestselling author and foster carer Cathy Glass. This book tells the true story of Cathy's adopted daughter Lucy.Lucy was born to a single mother who had been abused and neglected for most of her own childhood. Right from the beginning Lucy's mother couldn't cope, but it wasn't until Lucy reached eight years old that she was finally taken into permanent foster care.By the time Lucy is brought to live with Cathy she is eleven years old and severely distressed after being moved from one foster home to another. Withdrawn, refusing to eat and three years behind in her schooling, it is thought that the damage Lucy has suffered is irreversible.But Cathy and her two children bond with Lucy quickly, and break through to Lucy in a way no-one else has been able to, finally showing her the loving home she never believed existed. Cathy and Lucy believe they were always destined to be mother and daughter it just took them a little whileTrade ReviewREVIEWS FOR DAMAGED: 'Cannot fail to move those who read it.'Adoption-net ‘Heartbreaking.'Mirror ‘A truly harrowing read that made me cry.’Sun 'A true tale of hope. ****.'OK! ‘Foster carers rarely get the praise they deserve, but Cathy Glass’s book should change all that.****’First magazine ‘A hugely touching and emotional true tale.’Star magazine

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Book SynopsisThere are great rewards that come along with being a foster parent, yet there are also great challenges that can leave you feeling depleted, alone, and discouraged. The many burdens of a foster parent's day--hurting children, struggling biological parents, and a broken system--are only compounded by the many burdens of a foster parent's heart--confusion, anxiety, heartache, anger, and fear. With the compassion and insight of a fellow foster parent, Jamie C. Finn helps you see your struggles through the lens of the gospel, bringing biblical truths to bear on your unique everyday realities. In these short, easy-to-read chapters, you'll find honest, personal stories and practical lessons that provide encouragement and direction from God's Word as you walk the journey of foster parenting.

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Book SynopsisDoes your child struggle to know how their body is feeling? Do they find it hard to balance or feel uneasy when their feet leave the ground?Early trauma and neglect can have a profound effect upon a child's development. Sensory integration theory offers a way of understanding how the brain processes and stores movement experience, and how these experiences manifest at a physical and emotional level. This book explains how early movement experiences affect brain development and gives examples of how trauma can prevent basic sensory processing pathways from being correctly established. It shows how you can identify gaps in normal sensory development and offers ideas for how you can use physical activities to help build up the underdeveloped systems. Good bodily awareness forms the foundation of motor development as well as social and emotional skills and learning. This book will help your child to be more in tune with themselves and their bodies and feel more comfortable in their environment. Highly accessible with lots of practical tips and examples, this book is written for adoptive and foster parents, and will also be useful for social workers, fostering and adoption workers and those working in primary and early years educational settings.Trade ReviewThis book is a timely reminder of the importance of early movement and sensory experience for later development. Sarah Lloyd writes clearly and evocatively about the difficulties children can have when this early experience is missing and provides helpful examples of how parents and carers can help them to recover this necessary experience. This book is a must-read for any parents and carers parenting traumatized children. -- Kim S. Golding, Clinical Psychologist and Author of Nurturing AttachmentsSensory integration theory has emphasised to me that my child doesn't just do things to annoy - there is a missing or underdeveloped part of her from early childhood that needs to be expanded. There is always a reason why she acts in a particular way. Improving Sensory Processing in Traumatized Children helped me to be more playful in simple ways to improve her sense of the world in relation to her. -- Susan Grant, Foster Parent (Fife Council)I found this book fascinating as it gave such an insight into the development of the brain in babies, the importance of good early experiences and what happens when this is not the case. I am a foster carer who at present looks after two girls with quite complex needs. I found this book really helped me to understand some of the problems and difficulties that the children displayed. I had the children commando crawling around the floor and was shocked to realise one of the children couldn't do this, she just lay there. The book has lots of practical activities that you can do with children which I found really helpful. I would recommend this book to parents, carers, teachers and anybody else who works with or looks after children as it is an amazing tool. -- Sheila, Foster CarerTable of ContentsIntroduction: About This Book. 1. Sensory Integration and Children Who Have Experienced Abuse or Neglect. 2. What is Sensory Integration? 3. Using Sensory Integration With Children Who Have Been Abused and Neglected. Useful Reading and Websites.

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Book SynopsisCharley Chatty likes shiny things, especially shiny pennies. Sometimes Charley thinks her siblings get more than her so she likes to keep the pennies safe in her pocket.Charley spots some pennies lying around the house, and puts them in her piggy bank. But she gets very nervous when her Dad starts looking for the missing pennies. Luckily, Charley's Dad is good at working out what might have happened and helps Charley to put it all right again.Written by a mum who understands and her daughter, who is adopted, this insightful story will help your whole family to feel a bit better.Table of ContentsCharley Chatty and the Disappearing Pennies. Notes for parents and carers

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Book Synopsis· How does complex trauma differ from trauma?· What is dissociation?· How does it affect children?· How can you help?These questions and more are answered in this guide to understanding the nature of complex trauma and dissociation, making these seemingly complicated topics accessible to all.Complex trauma and dissociation is a subject around which there is much confusion and misunderstanding. This can lead to children lacking the support they really need, and even misdiagnosis of the problems they are really struggling with. Written as a complement to The Simple Guide to Child Trauma, this book aims to inform, clarify and deepen the understanding of complex trauma and resulting dissociation. It also provides practical advice for those caring for or working with these children.

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Book SynopsisBeing culturally competent in practice is an essential skill for any practitioner working with people. Award-winning social worker and diversity trainer Vivian Okeze-Tirado has developed an applied practice model to help you to increase your understanding of diversity and improve your cultural competency:D - Decide to be a Culturally Sensitive PractitionerI - Invite people to talk about their cultures, values, beliefs, and experiencesV- Value their history, individuality(,) and differencesE- Explore the client's realities, show curiosityR- Reflect upon information and knowledge receivedS- Scrutinise yourselfI -Identify strategies to aid your workT- Train yourself to treat people, children, and families individuallyY- Yield to culturally sensitive practiceEncouraging you to do more than just talk about racism, this simple practice tool provides easily achievable steps and practical guidance to empower you and your colleagues tackle racism and discrimination in practice.Trade ReviewPositive, instructive, energetic and easy-to-read. It's a good tool for training and individual reflection which should be extended to all people-facing professions. * Seen and Heard Social Work Journal *

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Book SynopsisWhat is emotional neglect? How does it affect children and the adults they become? What can we do to help?In The Simple Guide to Emotional Neglect, Betsy de Thierry provides clarity and guidance on the complex subject of emotional neglect, including how it impacts emotional connection and behaviour in the children who experience it.Betsy de Thierry has spent years working with children and adults impacted by emotional neglect from all walks of life, and combines her experience with the latest research evidence to provide you with a concise overview of what emotional neglect looks like, and the issues it can create, including its impact on the developing brain, the development of trauma-based behaviours and challenges to forming emotional connections.The practical advice in this book guides parents, carers, and professionals involved in child welfare on how to provide informed and empathic support.Trade ReviewNever more urgently needed, Betsy confronts this invisible but insidious issue. Offering hope and recovery, this essential read addresses, compassionately and practically, the profound need in every human heart to be seen and known. -- Nicki Rosser, Clinical Lead TRC BathBetsy's warm, wise book comes from deep knowledge of what really matters for children. Emotional neglect can be scary territory for parents and practitioners to explore and this book will support courageous conversations without shame, helping children to be seen, heard and loved. i recommend this book to everyone involved in supporting families to recover strong loving relationships. -- Mary Glasgow CEO, Children 1stHighly recommend to any adoptive parents, foster carers, guardians, teachers and any adult with children in their care. Reading this book was like a big hug, I didn't feel so alone anymore, I could relate and so much of it made sense to me. It gave me a greater understanding, knowledge and reminder of what is really going on for my children along with encouraging tools on how to move forward and make such positive change, which is possible. With life overwhelming anyway, I really love the fact this book really is a 'simple' read and easy to absorb. Betsy breaks it all down perfectly into various chapters which makes it easy to jump back into at point to refer, remind and refresh myself to be the best we can be for our children. -- Clare Davies, adoptive parent of young siblings

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Book SynopsisThe ideal first book for prospective adopters.When you decide to adopt a child, you might assume that all the important work begins when the child comes to live with you. In fact the preparation stage before is crucial in ensuring that the adopted child will arrive to a safe and secure family. Preparing for Adoption provides clear advice on how to prepare for your adoptive child and create a strong foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. Julia Davis explains how many different factors can shape preparations for adoption, such as finding out about your child's history and using this information to establish a family environment which will meet your child's specific attachment needs. There is also advice on how to prepare your home to create a sense of safety for your child and how to prepare your family to support you as adoptive parents. Primarily for adopters, foster carers and professionals supporting adopters, this book offers ideas and strategies to help parents prepare a happy and settled home for children before their arrival and ways to parent them in the early days of becoming a family that addresses their attachment needs.Trade ReviewJulia Davis' book fills a big gap - supporting professionals, families and particularly children through the transition from foster care into an adoptive placement. She leads all those involved carefully and with real thought through the process with particular focus on what this transition means and may feel like for the child. The book contains plenty of practical suggestions around preparing children for a move into an adoptive family and helping them to settle and bond once they are there. She doesn't gloss over the challenges that this momentous time can present, but guides everyone involved with compassion and sensitivity. She also includes information on the special considerations required when siblings are transitioning, which isn't always covered in other texts. I strongly recommend this book for anyone involved in a child's transition from foster care into an adoptive family. I wish it had been around when our family was starting out. -- Sally Donovan, adoptive mother and author of No Matter What and The Unofficial Guide to Adoptive ParentingPreparing for Adoption breaks down the fraught build-up towards an adoption into calm, manageable and well-informed chunks, all of which are backed up with perceptive references to recent theory and shining examples of good practice. Each stage - preparing yourself, your future child, your family and friends and even their birth family - for the enormous forthcoming change in all their lives - is enlightened by extremely useful suggestions and invaluable insight gained from Julia Davies' personal and professional experience. Best of all, there is real empathy for all those involved in this complex and often lengthy process. I would thoroughly recommend this wonderful book to prospective adopters and their friends and family, as well as foster carers and social work practitioners. I only wish it had been written earlier. -- Ali Redford, adoptive parentI thought adopters couldn't be prepared for everything... until I read this book! It is tremendous - jam packed with practical advice and case studies that bring the real issues to life together with an excellent overview of the theory. I think all prospective adopters should be required to read it before children can be placed with them. -- Mark Owers, CEO, Consortium of Voluntary Adoption Agencies (CVAA) UKThis is the book I wish I could have read before we became foster parents. It manages to walk the fine line between being realistic about the trauma and corresponding issues that the children may face, without making them seem impossible to parent...Adoptive parents, even if you think you've read everything there is on bringing a new child into your home, I urge you to pick this book up...This is a hard job. Don't do it alone. -- Erin Kirchoefer, foster parentTable of ContentsCh1: Making Sense of it All. Ch2: Other ideas to consider. Ch3: Getting Ready. Ch4: Preparing Family and Friends. Ch5: Preparing Children. Ch6: When Everyone is ready. Ch7: Now you are Home. Ch8: Challenges and How to Meet Them.

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Book SynopsisThe Definitive Guide to Theraplay® for Practitioners, officially endorsed by the Theraplay® InstituteTheraplay is an intervention that focuses on enhancing the connection, trust and joy between a child and a parent. It involves interactive, playful activities using simple face-to-face reciprocal interactions, and involves using all of the senses, including rhythm, movement and touch. This comprehensive guide outlines the theory, reflection, and skill development of the practitioner - the true power house of Theraplay. By maintaining a focus on practice throughout, embedding theory into practice examples, it brings the spirit of Theraplay to life. Part 1 covers the key principles of the intervention; Part 2 addresses Theraplay in Practice: how to use the Marschak Interaction Method (MIM), how to set up a room and choose activities and considerations for working with different client groups; Part 3 encourages the reader to engage in their own development and the stages involved; and Parts 4 and 5 provide a wealth of useful resources, checklists, handouts, sample sessions and an up-to-date list of Theraplay activities. Whether you are a Theraplay practitioner, or simply want to find out how this remarkable intervention works, this book is essential reading.Trade ReviewAnyone interested in Theraplay® will know how difficult it is to find Theraplay® Institute approved information and activities. It can also be a challenge for people who use Theraplay® within their wider practice to get appropriate supervision for the Theraplay aspects of their work. In both areas Norris and Lender's book is an invaluable resource.It is a book packed full of reflection, imagination, problem solving and trouble shooting. The case studies are particularly helpful; they feel real, with honest acknowledgement by the therapists of their own countertransference, defences and complex feelings. They also highlight without any blame or shame how difficult it is for some children and parents to adapt to news ways of relating... I have no doubt that this will be the Theraplay® bible for years to come. * Cairnsmoir Connections *Theraplay is a terrific treatment for disorganized and traumatized kids. This book is highly recommended for all clinicians , teachers and other human beings trying to help children function and thrive! -- Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Author of The Body Keeps the ScoreI have found the Theraplay approach to healing distressed children to be at the leading edge of humanistic, experiential and evidence-based treatments. What this clear volume offers are step-by-step precise protocols for assessment and treatment using this vital method. Various activities and exercises are simply described and can be applied to many therapeutic situations. The book is a rich contribution, not only for practitioners of Theraplay, but is truly a gift to all clinicians working to alleviate the suffering of troubled children. -- Peter A Levine, PhD, Author (with Maggie Kline) of: Trauma through the Eyes of a Childs Eyes; Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing, and Trauma-Proofing your Kids; A Parent’s Guide for Instilling Confidence Joy and ResilienceIn Theraplay: The Practitioner's Guide, Vivien Norris and Dafna Lender skillfully and comprehensively explain the essential principles of Theraplay. Theraplay is an efficient mode of therapy for children that seamlessly incorporates within a play environment several elements that are shared with models of psychotherapy. In the Guide, we learn about efficient exercises that are effective in enhancing the child's ability to regulate state can be delivered as games; we learn that Theraplay is rooted in developmental science (e.g., attachment theory) and is consistent with contemporary neuroscience (e.g., Polyvagal Theory). From a Polyvagal perspective Theraplay respects the biobehavior state of the child, applies therapist initiated social engagement strategies to trigger a state of safety in the child, and promotes synchronous reciprocal interactions as a neural exercise that increases social flexibility and improves emotion regulation. It is through this development of the child's ability to feel safe and secure that is key to Theraplay's efficacy and functionally illustrates the attributes of Theraplay as a model therapy for children. -- Stephen W. Porges, PhD Distinguished University Scientist Kinsey Institute Indiana University BloomingtonTherapy is a cherished gift to be shared confidently with parents. The gift is deceptively simple and at the same time provides a complex and rich foundation for establishing or deepening attachment bonds. The approach is playful, engaging, safe, and designed to create positive shared memories of warm and attuned physical and emotional experiences between parents and children. This book took my breadth away in its congruence with the Theraplay approach: It is engaging to read, it provides ample and strong structure for the Theraplay practitioner, it challenges us to weave attachment theories with unique responses to clients, and it nurtures and encourages practitioners to provide the best possible assistance they can. Vivien Norris and Dafna Lenders' expertise shines through as they provide a "virtual supervisor" type of guidance to the reader, answering many of the questions that we practitioners have as we negotiate our daily practices. Not only is this book a remarkable addition to the literature on Theraplay, it also succeeds in integrating current neuroscience and research to further guide and strengthen interactive clinical nuances. I will be reading this book multiple times because there are layers of important information to guide us in our work. I am left speechless with gratitude. It's been many years since I've been so enlightened and re-energized by a book with such heart and substance!! -- Eliana Gil, Ph.D. Gil Institute for Trauma Recovery and EducationTable of ContentsAcknowledgements; Foreword; Part One INTRODUCTION; 1. Introduction; 2. Theraplay General Principles; Part Two NUTS AND BOLTS; 3. Intake; 4. MIM; 5. Theraplay sessions: getting prepared; 6. Theraplay session with children; 7. Working with parents; 8. Complex parents; 9. Theraplay outtakes-what no one ever tells you; Part Three BECOMING A THERAPLAY PRACTITIONER; 10. Developmental phases; 11. Overcoming common barriers to practising Theraplay; 12. The Theraplay supervision process - A journey of a lifetime; 13. MIM assessment form completed example; 14. Dyadic session supervision form completed example; 15. Sample Phyllis Booth supervision feedback notes; 16. How do you know you've reached Foundational level: TTI session 8 guidelines; Part Four RESOURCES; 17. Sample session plans for various types of children; 18. What Lies Underneath a Parent's Defensive Statement; 19. Intake guidelines; 20. When should you talk about stuff in Theraplay?; 21. Example of combining approaches; 22. Thinking about sensory regulation and Theraplay; 23. What is Theraplay®? A Brief Guide for Parents; 24. List of Theraplay activities; Glossary; References

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Book SynopsisThis expert guide provides 50 essential tools and activities to use in practice with children and young people who have experienced trauma. From bubbles, balloons, and blocks to ghosts, monsters, and squiggles, this book offers a wealth of activities that help children to express their feelings and experiences while feeling safe and supported. Case studies demonstrate how each activity can be easily incorporated into daily interactions during social work practice, and clear explanations of the theory provide context for how they work. Developed from decades of hands-on experience supporting children after trauma, this book demonstrates ways to sensitively discuss children''s histories. This can lead into discussing the way their experiences influence their behaviour, and help them to form healthy attachments for the future.

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Book SynopsisToddler Adoption looks at the unique joys and challenges of adopting and parenting a toddler. When a child aged is adopted between the ages of 12 to 36 months, they often show signs of cognitive and emotional immaturity, which can cause behavioral and relational issues. This book offers support and practical tools to help parents prepare for and support the toddler's transition between the familiar environment of their biological parent's home or foster home to a new and unfamiliar one, and considers the issues that arise at different developmental stages. It highlights the challenges that parents are likely to encounter, but also gives positive guidance on how to overcome them. Written by a specialist in children's development who is also an adoptive parent herself, this fully revised and updated edition of the go-to-source on adopting toddlers is essential reading for both parents and professionals working with adoptive families.Trade ReviewI found it easy to read and with lots of headings it was simple to go to an area I was interested in. If toddler adoption is something you're thinking about, then this is the right book for you! -- Foster FamiliesHopkins-Best provides a guidebook for those considering toddler adoption or those already struggling with its special challenges. She discusses at length strategies for dealing with issues such as a grieving toddler or attachment disorder. The appendix provides a wonderful list of resources. Perhaps most valuable are the anecdotes of both successes and failures from other toddler adoptive families. An important addition to all Adoption collections. -- Library JournalWith practical advice, personal insights, and the shared experience of a number of parents who adopted toddlers, this book offers suggestions and strategies that will certainly contribute to the readiness of parents undertaking the challenges of caring for newly arrived toddlers -- Adoptive FamiliesAt last someone has put into words those fears and frustrations I experienced as the parent of a newly arrived toddler and has offered practical strategies for dealing with unique issues. If Hopkins-Best's book had been available as we were adopting I would have felt affirmed and empowered instead of isolated and incompetent. This should be a required reading for pre-adoptive families! -- From a parent of children adopted in toddlerhoodThank you for this compelling and readable exploration of an issue that has been lost in the shuffle before now – that adopting a child at the toddler stage is not a mere extension of what we know about adopting infants, nor do the tools proven useful for families adopting older children work with toddlers. Both parents and professionals will find this an invaluable tool. -- From an adoption professionalTable of ContentsAcknowledgments. 1. Why Write a Book on Toddler Adoption? 2. Is Toddler Adoption For You? 3. Getting Started on Adoption. 4. The Adoption Transition. 5. Understanding Your Toddler's Development. 6. Parenting the Grieving Toddler. 7. Becoming Attached. 8. Behavior Management. 9. Parents Have Needs, Too. Epilogue. Appendix: Demographic Information on Questionnaire Respondents. Resources. References. Index.

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Book Synopsis· What is shame?· How does it affect children?· How can adults help?The perfect starting point for any adult or carer working with children who have experienced shame, this guide provides straightforward answers and explanations to both common and complex questions.At a time when children are more likely than ever to experience shame, the accessible advice in this book helps adults to boost children's self-esteem. Betsy de Thierry navigates the need to understand its impact and the reasons behind it, as well as how to reduce its hold on self-confidence. Reassuring advice will also help revitalize adults' abilities to face the challenges of supporting children affected by shame. It will teach them how to restore self-esteem.Trade ReviewAnother brilliant book by Betsy de Thierry. Shame is such a crucial area and emotion, however one that is often overlooked. Therefore it is great to see a book that offers a deeper understanding and practical ideas for support around shame. This book is written in an accessible, engaging, and informative way. The doodles and reflective questions are fantastic too. A welcome addition to any book shelf! -- Karen TreismanThorough, underpinned by extensive researched and well articulated. de Thierry manages to write a short guide about shame, a challenging task but one very well executed. If you're looking to understand shame, how it seeps into our being from a very young age and how 'toxic shame can be like a poison in our subconscious', then this guide is for you. For parents, educators, therapists and social workers, this guide is an essential starting point pulling together all the latest knowledge, research and experience. -- Lisa Cherry, BA (Hons) Sociology, ITEC Dip HM, S.A.C. Dip., Life Coaching and Counselling, Reiki MasterThe Simple Guide to Understanding Shame in Children by Betsy de Thierry is thoughtful insight into how shame has such a pervading hold on us all, sometimes with disastrous consequences. De Thierry argues that feelings of shame are often at the root of unhelpful behaviours and linked to a primeval fear we may be abandoned or rejected by our tribe or society. Unwittingly, though, it remains a thread that runs through traditional parenting and the education system, driving the sensitive child towards shame rather than away from it and cutting off crucial relationships with others. The Simple Guide to Understanding Shame in Children by Betsy de Thierry is an important read for adoptive parents and those working with children who may already be sensitive to shame due to damaging life experiences. This book provides a key to understanding the sometimes bewildering and distressing behaviours by those locked in the grip of shame. -- Jill Turner, Editor, Adoption TodayTable of ContentsPreface. 1. What is shame? 2. What is the impact of shame? 3. The neurobiology of shame. 4. How do children get shamed? 5. Shame symptoms: a) hiding, masks, silence and sorry. 6. Shame symptoms: b) deceit, lying, critical of others and projection. 7. Shame symptoms: c) self hatred, self rejection and anger. 8. Shame symptoms: d) emotional shut down, dissociation & confusion. 9. How can we help heal shame? 10. Building shame resilience. Conclusion.

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Book SynopsisBabies and young children who have experienced early adversity miss out on good, nurturing relationships, and the sensorimotor development that goes along with them. Their bodies therefore lack a solid foundation for sensory integration. This book lays out a practice model - the Building Underdeveloped Sensorimotor Systems (BUSS) model - to help identify and assess whether these gaps are present in a child's sensorimotor systems. It also advocates the potential of rebuilding the gaps in these systems - using games and activities that take place within loving parent-child relationships - to offer the child a healthy, attuned base from which to develop sensorimotor skills. Also included is a section on parents' experiences of using these activities with their children. With a positive view of approaching sensorimotor underdevelopment, these strategies and case studies all demonstrate that, with the right kind of attention, these children's systems can be rebuilt.Trade ReviewA compassionate, accessible and caring book filled with stories of how children have benefited from the BUSS model. This book is strongly recommended for any practitioners, or families supporting and working with children who have experienced developmental trauma. -- Jane Mischenko, PhD, Strategic Lead Commissioner: Children & Maternity, NHS Leeds CCGThis is a book that all those parenting and supporting children who have experienced developmental trauma should read. Sarah Lloyd has written clearly about the challenges of underdeveloped sensorimotor systems. She provides comprehensive advice for helping the children rebuild these systems. This provides a foundation, not just for their physical skills, but also for emotional regulation, confidence, self-esteem, and relationships. Children are amazing in their resilience and attempts to help themselves; I was so moved by the account of the little girl who put stones in her socks. With a little help from us these children are capable of so much. Beautifully written, illustrated, and with hopeful stories of children's progress, this book fills a gap in our understanding of how we can help traumatized children recover, physically, emotionally and within relationships. Sarah has demonstrated how the foundation for all this recovery lies in the rebuilding of the sensorimotor systems. -- Dr. Kim S. Golding, Clinical Psychologist and authorA fascinating read that has really made me think about not only my own adopted son but also the children at the school I work in. The book aims to get you thinking beyond the emotional, to encompass also physical and sensory gaps in children's development, creating a practical therapeutic approach that can really ensure their developmental building blocks are secured from all aspects. A must read for parents, carers and professionals. -- Sarah Fernihough, Head Teacher, Nurture Learning - a therapeutic independent schoolTable of ContentsContentsAcknowledgementsIntroduction Chapter 1 - Introducing the Foundation SystemsChapter 2 - Beginning to notice movement and is this the right kind of intervention at this time?Chapter 3 - The sequential nature of motor development - an overview of development 0 - 12 monthsChapter 4 - A BUSS AssessmentChapter 5 - The Tactile SystemChapter 6 - Assessing the Development of the Tactile SystemChapter 7 - Rebuilding Underdeveloped Tactile Systems - Part OneChapter 8 - Rebuilding Underdeveloped Tactile Systems - Part TwoChapter 9 - The Vestibular SystemChapter 10 - Assessing the Development of the Vestibular System - Part OneChapter 11 - Assessing the Development of the Vestibular System -Part TwoChapter 12 - The Proprioceptive SystemChapter 13 - Assessing the Development of the Proprioceptive System Chapter 14 - Ideas for Getting Started : Rebuilding Underdeveloped Vestibular and Proprioceptive Systems Chapter 15 - And Breathe. A Chance to Catch UpChapter 16 -Next Steps in Rebuilding Underdeveloped Vestibular and Proprioceptive Systems Chapter 17- Over to Parents - Reflections on Experiences of Using the BUSS model: Lenny, Amber, Nadia, Elsa and PercyChapter 18 - Final ThoughtsBibliography

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Book SynopsisDuring Guatemala’s decades-long civil war, tens of thousands of children, many of them Indigenous Maya, were coerced or kidnapped from their homes. They became commodities in a booming private adoption business, and most wound up in the United States. Rachel Nolan explores the human toll of a global industry that thrives on exploitation.Trade ReviewA deeply reported, sobering history. -- Cora Currier * New Republic *The author has provided an essential history and analysis of forced adoption in Guatemala over a 40-year period and the socio-political dynamics that enabled this poor country to play such an infamous role in a tragic global story of human-trafficking. …Until I Find You is a hard-hitting and disturbing insight into a dark corner of global capitalism, the profoundly racist attitudes of the Global North, and the most despicable of human vices. -- Gavin O'Toole * Latin American Review of Books *A staggeringly brilliant work of the heart and the head. One can’t read Nolan’s story of forced adoptions in Guatemala and not come away both shaken and intellectually challenged. I’ve read many books on Cold War political violence—but never one that pulls you in, that makes you feel as well as think, as much as this tour de force. -- Greg Grandin, Pulitzer Prize–winning author of The End of the Myth: From the Frontier to the Border Wall in the Mind of AmericaLike a dark historical fairy tale pulled from a bewitched archive, Until I Find You illuminates the Guatemalan international adoption trade’s cruel corruption and heartrending complexities in a boldly original way. Nolan’s meticulous research and her beautifully lucid, empathetic writing show how the seemingly benign event of the foreign adoption of an innocent child leaves behind an invisible trail of personal, economic, political, and essentially imperial horrors. -- Francisco Goldman, author of The Art of Political Murder and Monkey BoyImportant, compelling reading. Nolan has interviewed countless people, obtained access to adoption files, read the human rights reports, and sorted through the legal history. This will become a key, authoritative account of the deeply corrupt state of Guatemalan adoption from the 1970s to the 2000s. -- Laura Briggs, author of Taking Children: A History of American TerrorWith a historian’s eye and a journalist’s pen, Nolan delves into the dark heart of Guatemalan adoption, a powerful story of state genocide, brutal economic and racial inequality, and a privatized, unregulated adoption market. Revealing the fuzzy boundaries between coercion and consent, legality and illegality, markets and trafficking, facts and rumor, she shows how the extraordinary violence of war gave way to the everyday violence of peacetime—and how children, especially Indigenous children, have been victims of both. -- Nara Milanich, author of Paternity: The Elusive Quest for the FatherHugely ambitious. With painstaking research and deep sensitivity, Nolan addresses an important and little-studied topic, getting close to stories that are often shrouded in secrecy. -- Betsy Konefal, author of For Every Indio Who Falls: A History of Maya Activism in Guatemala, 1960–1990

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Book SynopsisAll families of children affected by trauma are on a journey, and this book will help to guide you and your family on your journey from trauma to trust.Sarah Naish shares her own experiences of adopting five siblings. She describes how to use therapeutic parenting - a deeply nurturing parenting style - to overcome common challenges when raising children who have experienced trauma. The book describes a series of difficult episodes for her family, exploring both parent's and child's experiences of the same events - with the child's experience written by a former fostered child - and in doing so reveals the very good reasons why traumatized children behave as they do. The book explores the misunderstandings that grow between parents and their children, and provides comfort to the reader - you are not the only family going through this!Full of insights from a family and others who have really been there, this book gives you advice and strategies to help you and your family thrive.Table of ContentsIntroductionThe Trauma Difference (Room 1)1. Before2. Expectations3. Meeting4. Moving In5. Honeymooon6. Change7. Christmas8. The Honeymoon Is Over9. Emotional Age10. Stuck11. Food12. Sugar13. Easter14. Birthday15. The Necessary Lies?16. Nonsense Chatter17. Anxiety18. Wee & Poo19. Hypervigilance20. Exhausted (Compassion Fatigue)21. No Friends22. More Than One!23. Straight Talk Please24. Dogs25. Mess26. Blame27. Diagnoses28. Sabotage29. What Lies Beneath (The Internal Working Model)30. Memory31. Lying32. Hypochondria33. Shame34. Visits (Contact)35. Violent36. School37. Isolation38. Guilt39. Therapy40. Busy41. Sleep42. Honesty43. Avoiding Connection44. Who Cares?45. Stealing46. Rude47. Grief48. Moving On49. Hope50. Our FamilyBibliography and References

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Book SynopsisA new memoir from Sunday Times and New York Times bestselling author Cathy Glass. Eight-year-old Aimee was on the child protection register at birth. Her five older siblings were taken into care many years ago. So no one can understand why she was left at home to suffer for so long. It seems Aimee was forgotten.Trade ReviewREVIEWS FOR DAMAGED: 'Cannot fail to move those who read it.'Adoption-net ‘Heartbreaking.'Mirror ‘A truly harrowing read that made me cry.’Sun 'A true tale of hope. ****.'OK! ‘Foster carers rarely get the praise they deserve, but Cathy Glass’s book should change all that.****’First magazine ‘A hugely touching and emotional true tale.’Star magazine

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Book SynopsisFourteen-year-old Adrianna arrives on Casey's doorstep with no possessions, no English, and no explanation. It will be a few weeks before Casey starts getting the shocking answers to her questions.Brought to Casey as a short-term emergency placement, fourteen-year-old Adrianna arrives with nothing but her gratitude. Having turned herself in' to a social services office some hundred miles away, she has no possessions, no English and, apparently, no history not that she's willing to share, anyway. She is a beautiful young Polish girl, with the bearing of a ballerina, but is terrified, malnourished and unwell. And, having slept rough for some time (the little they do know about her) she spends much of her first days with Watsons asleep in bed.Growing concerned about Adrianna's wellbeing, and her persistent high temperature, Casey decides to call in the GP. But, to her surprise, Adrianna becomes almost hysterical about being examined and, given her refusal to talk even via the interprete

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Book SynopsisThe true story of 2 year-old Anna, abandoned by her natural parents, left alone in a neglected orphanage.Elaine and Ian had travelled half way round the world to adopt little Anna. She couldn't have been more wanted, loved and cherished. So why was she now in foster care and living with me? It didn't make sense.Until I learned what had happened. Dressed only in nappies and ragged T-shirts the children were incarcerated in their cots. Their large eyes stared out blankly from emaciated faces. Some were obviously disabled, others not, but all were badly undernourished. Flies circled around the broken ceiling fans and buzzed against the grids covering the windows. The only toys were a few balls and a handful of building bricks, but no child played with them. The silence was deafening and unnatural. Not one of the thirty or so infants cried, let alone spoke.

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Book SynopsisThe compelling memoir of a single white mother searching to understand why her adopted biracial son grew from a happy child into a troubled young adult who struggled with addiction for decades. The answers, E. Kay Trimberger finds, lie in both nature and nurture.Trade ReviewThis will be an immensely helpful and deeply personal book for so many, and one I've been looking for these past twenty-eight years. By sharing her family's journey, Kay Trimberger sheds light on the issues faced by many of those raising children who struggle with great challenges and offers hope and a new way forward. Kay Trimberger's personal, intriguing book lays out a compelling case for progressing toward a genuine Extended Family of Adoption, in which ongoing relationships among all the child's relatives— by birth or through adoption— become the norm. This book, in the end, is about how heredity and environment are intertwined and can help to provide hope and guidance to other adoptive families. Psychotherapists will find this to be a foundational resource in their work with both adoptive parents and adoptees, and an absorbing and accessible guide for their patients.

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