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Book SynopsisAs bestselling author Suzette Haden Elgin proves, you don't have to live your life on red alert. With her Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense techniques, you'll be able to respond clearly to hostile comments from others--or deliver necessary negative messages of your own--without sacrificing your dignity or principles.Table of ContentsOVERVIEW. Is Hostile Language Bad? Is Hostile Language Necessary? LAYING THE FOUNDATION. Detachment. Listening. Metaphors. TECHNIQUES. Using the Satir Modes. Using Presuppositions. Managing the Verbal Attack Patterns. Reducing Tension, Increasing Rapport. Conclusion. References and Bibliography. Index.

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Book SynopsisFor some employees, verbal abuse can be the everyday language of doing business. Defending yourself from these verbal abusers—calmly, professionally, and successfully—can be crucial to your on-the-job success.   Nationally recognized linguistics expert and author Suzette Haden Elgin applies her acclaimed techniques for combating verbal attacks to common workplace situations. Powerful yet unthreatening, her proven strategies will help you recognize and defend yourself from verbal abuse—everything from casual obscenities and racist or sexist language to sarcasm, cutting jokes, and subtle put-downs.   Richly illustrated with fully dramatizes scenarios and real-world examples, Dr. Elgin’s communication techniques will help you instantly take control of any verbal confrontation. You’ll also learn how to avoid “malpractice of the mouth” and sexual harassment; communicate sensitively and clearly with non-native English speake

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Book SynopsisYou can''t say that to me! Can''t you do anything right? I can''tbelieve you would feed that junk to your child! What is this? Anddon''t tell me it''s a casserole, I already know that. If youreally cared about me, you wouldn''t behave this way. Soundfamiliar? Each of us occasionally feels the sting of veryunpleasant language from those who are closest to us--spouses,employers, friends, relatives. But frequent and repeated use ofunanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm,insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant;it is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalatingarguments and physical violence. Suzette Haden Elgin, creator ofthe Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense, has developed a unique andrevolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence andeliminate it from your life--without ruining your marriage, riskingyour job, or alienating friends or loved ones. Dr. Elgin shows youhow to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abusewith:Table of ContentsHow to use this Book xv Introduction 1 Why do we put up with it? 3 Your Personal Verbal Abuse Survey 6 Step 1: Recognizing the source of the problem 9 Scenario One 9 What’s going on here? 9 What goes wrong – and why? 13 What to do about it: Using Miller’s Law 17 Dialogues for analysis 19 Another look at Scenario One 21 Step 1 Backup 25 Sight Bites 29 Step 2: Recognizing the source of the solution 31 Scenario Two 31 What’s going on here? 32 The Basics – Defining our terms 34 What to do about it: Awareness 43 Another look at Scenario Two 49 Step 2 Backup 52 Sight Bites 54 Step 3: Recognizing that you already have everything you need to put an end to verbal violence in your life 56 Scenario Three 56 What’s going on here? 58 The grammar of verbal violence 67 What to do about it: choosing your communication strategy 68 Another look at Scenario Three 71 Step 3 Backup 75 Sight Bites 80 Step 4: Recognizing that you are an expert in your language 81 Scenario Four 81 What’s going on here? 83 You are an expert in your language 85 What to do about it: giving up the myths about verbal abuse 89 Another look at Scenario Four 91 Step 4 Backup 95 Sight Bites 102 Step 5: Understanding the two goals of verbal self-defense 104 Scenario Five 104 What’s going on here? 106 Why it matters: The link between verbal and physical violence 108 What to do about it: Recognizing abusive language 110 Another look at Scenario Five 116 Step 5 Backup 119 Sight Bites 122 Step 6: Deciding never to participate in verbal violence – and following through 125 Scenario Six 125 What’s going on here? 127 The problem of following through 129 What to do about it: Dealing with English verbal attack patterns 137 Another look at Scenario Six 140 Step 6 Backup 143 Sight Bites 146 Step 7 Maintaining your own healthy language environment 147 Scenario Seven 147 What’s going on here? 148 Language behavior is contagious 149 What to do about it: Using the Satir modes 151 Another look at Scenario Seven 160 Step 7 Backup 162 Sight Bites 167 Step 8: Taking responsibility for your own language and its consequences 168 Scenario Eight 168 What’s going on here? 169 What to do about it: Taking responsibility 171 One more technique: Following the language traffic rules 173 Another look at Scenario eight 177 Step 8 Backup 182 Sight Bite 183 Conclusion 185 The unifying metaphor in verbal abuse 186 What to do about it 186 Sight Bites 192 Bibliography 193 Index to backup material 203 Index 205

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Book SynopsisA feminist classic of science fiction comes to the Masterwork list - praised by Ursulua Le Guin, this is a cult novel due to be rediscovered.Trade ReviewSuzette Haden Elgin's Native Tongue trilogy, a classic text of angry feminism, is also an exemplary experiment in speculative fiction, deftly and implacably pursuing both a scientific hypothesis and an ideological hypothesis through all their social, moral, and emotional implications - Ursula K. Le GuinLess well known than the The Handmaid's Tale but just as apocalyptic in [its] vision . . . Suzette Haden Elgin's Native Tongue . . . records female tribulation in a world where . . . women have no public rights at all. Elgin's heroines do, however, have one set of weapons - words of their own - New York Times Book Review

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Book SynopsisBased on her proven techniques, Suzette Haden Elgin gives parents, teachers, youth workers, law enforcement personnel, and anyone who needs to talk effectively with children a system of language behaviour that makes the task of communication easier and more effective.Table of ContentsUsing the Language Traffic Rules. Managing the English Verbal Attack Patterns. Using Three-Part Messages. Using the Satir Modes. Using the Sensory Modes. Special Communication Problems. Conclusion. Additional Resources. The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense--An Overview. Bibliography. Index.

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