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If you're fed up with life, questioning whether you should stay married or thinking you might be better of with someone else, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has a radical idea to help you move from the first half to the second of your life without messing everything up. In part one of this essential new book he explains:* The three central questions you need to answer (and why everybody else is distracting themselves and avoiding facing them).* How to put what's happening now into the context of your whole life journey.* How to avoid the tempting short-cuts that cause more heartache in the long term.* Why if you pass this mid-life test everything is up from here.If it's your partner who has turned grumpy, critical and blames you for everything, you will be feeling alone and full of despair. Don't worry, in part two of this compassionate book, he explains:* A whole new vocabulary for discussing the mid-life crisis without putting your partner's back up.* What's really going on in your partner's head.* What causes depression and how to help.* Five killer replies to the blocks that stops you talking properly about your marriage.Together you will learn three new skills that will either change your marriage into the connected, fulfilling and loving relationship of which you've always dreamed or help you separate amicably and be great co-parents together.

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Your old life has been turned upside down. Perhaps your partner has threatened to leave, you've discovered infidelity or your relationship has completely broken down and you're determined not to make the same mistakes again. Maybe, you've simply taken stock and decided your life doesn't work any more. Whatever the background, deciding to change is a really positive move. However, willpower alone isn't enough - nor sweeping declarations of how "this time it will be different". To combat bad habits, procrastination, a partner who is sceptical or parents, friends and family who can't see anything but the "old you", you'll need to make changes that are both deep down (to tackle the hidden factors that are trapping you) and long-lasting (so you don't slide back into the old ways). Marital Therapist Andrew G Marshall has brought thirty years' experience helping couples and individuals to create a proven plan for change. He explains: Why real change is harder than you think. The six unhelpful myths about change that are holding you back. How to take control of your past. The importance of developing everyday calmness. How to discover your true life path. Nine simple maxims to lock in the change.

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The answer to today's most pressing question Love is one of the most powerful forces in our lives. It's the reason we open our hearts to someone we hardly know, marry them and tie our destinies and bank balances together. Love is also what prompts us to start a family. However, if that love is challenged or dies, it can also be the force that propels us apart - prompting us to consider leaving our partner, breaking our children's hearts and sometimes moving half way across the world to be with someone new. If love makes our relationships thrive and the lack of it makes them wither and die, we better have a good idea what we mean. No wonder 'what is love?' is the most Googled question and something that has pre-occupied and divided poets, philosophers and psychologists for hundreds of years. Marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has spent 30 years helping couples struggling to understand and cope with the fall out from love, he's gathered together 50 of today's most pressing dilemmas to shed new light and help you find a way forward, including...Why can't I find love? Have I fallen for the wrong person? Why did the spark go out and the passion drain from our of sex life? Should I stay in a OK marriage or look for something better? Why has my partner fallen out of love? Can you love two people at the same time? How do you rebuild love after an affair? W hen is it time to accept the inevitable and move on?

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The prairie vole, a small rodent from the mid-western plains of the USA, has it made. Not only do prairie voles pair off for life but they spend hours grooming and cuddling in their burrows. At their peak, they will make love for two-day marathons! They are great parents too, with the male vole completely involved in caring for his pups. In contrast, their cousins the meadow voles mate indiscriminately and live solitary lives, with the female meadow vole left to bring up her offspring alone. Because neuroscientists are so interested in the radical difference between these two lifestyles, we know more about the brain make-up of prairie voles than any other creature. Thanks to them, we are now beginning to understand the biochemical pathways of love shared by all species of animals, including ourselves, and the key to a more fulfilling sex life. Marital Therapist Andrew G Marshall combines this latest scientific research with twenty-five years professional experience of helping couples turn around their love lives. In Make Love Like a Prairie Vole, he has created a programme that will not only transform routine into passionate sex but also leads to the kind of lovemaking that will bind you and your partner together as a couple.

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Whether your partner left or it's you who decided to end the relationship, breaking-up is painful, difficult and sometimes overwhelming. Friends and family urge you to forget the past and reach for the future. However, it is never that simple. Before you can move on, you need to understand what went wrong, mourn the loss and, most importantly, to heal. In this compassionate book, marital therapist, Andrew G Marshall takes you from hearing the bad news or making the decision to leave, through the fall-out from the split, the first steps of recovery and finally onto making a new life. He covers: - Knowing when to stop trying and accept the inevitable. - Why the break-up hurts so much. - Emotional first-aid to make it through the worst times. - The difference between looking back and learning, and becoming trapped in the past. - What helps and what hinders recovery. - Making sense of your break-up. - Helping your children cope. - Learning how to fly high again. With over 25 years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies, and provides sensible, compassionate and practical advice. (Some of the exercises in this book have appeared in I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You by Andrew G. Marshall, published by Bloomsbury)

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Your good man is behaving badly. If you're reading this your life will be in turmoil. The man you thought you knew has turned your life upside down; you don't know where to turn or what to do for the best. Your husband is angry, dismissive and says he's fallen out of love and doesn't think you have a future together. Meanwhile, you're alternating between begging for another chance and falling into complete despair. Fortunately, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has a message of hope. In part one, he explains how to turn round your relationship and emerge with a stronger bond. How to get to the bottom of why he's fallen out of love What's really going through his mind. Why your husband has turned into a stranger. The signs that show if he's depressed and what to do about it. How to build better communication and start improving your relationship. In part two, he covers how to tell if there's another woman and gauge whether she really is a threat. He explains: The six types of other woman from a 'spark' to 'the love of his life'. Tailored strategies for dealing with each one. The five worst and best reactions after uncovering what's really going on. How to combat the poison that she's slipping into your relationship. When to keep fighting and when to make a tactical withdrawal.

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There are few things in life more traumatic than discovering that your partner is having an affair. You are not only coping with the pain and anger but also the sense that your partner is a stranger. How could someone you love, and thought that you knew, treat you in this way? How can you ever trust your partner again? Don't panic. Millions upon millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains:- The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery. - What makes people more vulnerable to affairs.- The eight types of affairs and how understanding your partner's affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go.- How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown.- Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process.With over 25 years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies, and provides sensible, compassionate and practical advice.

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Your wife has not only fallen out of love but, worse still, she is refusing point blank to try and fix things. She says 'she can't change her feelings', she needs 'space' and the children should know – even though it will break their hearts. You've told her how much you love her, you've begged for a second chance but everything is falling on deaf ears. The situation might seem bleak but help is at hand. Marital therapist, Andrew G. Marshall has spent over twenty-five years helping couples find love again and he has a message of HOPE. You can help your wife to fall back in love, even if you're separated or suspect there's another man in the background. In this practical book, he explains: •The six worst and the six best reactions to discovering your wife doesn't love you any more. •How to get to the bottom of why she's fallen out of love. •Five things you think will save your marriage but are just pushing your wife further away. •Five strategies to instantly improve the atmosphere at home. •How to keep going in the face of disinterest and rejection. •Why most men give up too soon. •How to know when to accept the inevitable and when to keep trying.

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How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: ‘I love you but I'm not in love with you'. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough? From his research Andrew has devised his own unique programme. By looking at how a couple communicate, argue, share love, take responsibility, give and learn he offers in seven steps a reassuring and empowering map for how two individuals can better understand themselves, strengthen their bond and recover that lost magic.

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Are you your own greatest critic? Do you have low self-esteem? Have you ever thought that if people knew the real you, that they would think less of you? Does life feel an uphill struggle because nobody - not even you - is truly on your side? If any of this sounds familiar, it is time to take a fresh look at the most important relationship of all: your relationship with yourself. In this thought-provoking book, marital therapist Andrew G Marshall looks at how to love yourself enough to make better relationships and how to stop zig-zagging between boosting yourself up (often to unsustainable heights) and becoming overly critical. He explains: - Why modern life is making it harder to have a balanced opinion of ourselves. - The types of thinking that sabotage and make life harder. - Why old pains can still cast a shadow today and how to make peace with your past. - How to develop a positive mind-set. - Increasing your self-confidence. (Some of the exercises in this book have appeared in The Single Trap by Andrew G. Marshall, published by Bloomsbury)

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