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Book SynopsisThis much-anticipated follow-up to the critically-acclaimed and bestselling The Fantasy Bond tackles the complex question of why so many of us are compelled to repeat the pain of our past while avoiding positive experiences that could enrich our lives.
Why are many of uscompelled to repeat the pain of our past, while avoiding positive experiences that could enrich our lives?In this thought-provoking book, clinical psychologist and theorist Robert Firestone explains how the fantasy bond, an illusion of connection, develops early in childhood to cope with the pain and frustration resulting from parental misattunement, neglect or mistreatment. It is manifested as a destructive internal thought process, the critical inner voice. Later, the fantasy bond is extended to family members, intimate partners, and social groups. In Challenging the FantasyBond, Dr. Firestone presents his latest thoughts and observations about the self-defeating aspects of
Table of Contents
Foreword—Phillip R. Shaver and Mario Mikulincer
Acknowledgments
Introduction
I. Introduction to the Fantasy Bond
1. The Fantasy Bond and Separation Theory
2. The Fantasy Bond in the Couple and Family
II. Dimensions of the Fantasy Bond
3. Idealization of Parents and the Family
4. The Negative Self Concept
5. Projection and Incorporation of Parents' Negative Traits
III. Behavioral Manifestations of the Fantasy Bond
6. Inwardness and the Loss of Feeling
7. Withholding
8. Self-Nourishing Habits and Addictions
9. Individuation, Regression, and the Fantasy Bond
10. Sexuality
IV. Implications for Psychotherapy
11. My Approach to Psychotherapy
12. Voice Therapy
V. Theoretical Issues
13. Death Anxiety
14. Society and Conformity
15. Polarization, Prejudice, and Ethnic Warfare
Notes
References
Index
About the Author
