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Book SynopsisA guide to using the Enneagram for harmonious parent-child relationships • Examines each of the 9 Enneagram types as parents, including how to utilize your type’s inherit skills to be a better parent
• Explores each of the 9 types as children and teens, including their positive and more challenging traits, their triggers and fears, and how you can help your child find emotional health and achieve their full potential
• Looks at each of the 81 parent-child type combinations and shows how each combination works at its best as well as what happens under pressure
In this practical guide to better parenting with the Enneagram, certified Enneagram practitioner and experienced parent Ann Gadd explores the 9 Enneagram parenting types and the 9 Enneagram child types, revealing each type’s strengths and challenges, as well as exploring all 81 parent-child type combinations. She offers a quiz to determine your Enneagram type and explains how to discover your child’s type. Examining each of the 9 Enneagram parenting types in detail, Gadd looks at what each parental type wants from their child, how to parent from the highest aspects of your type, and how to utilize your type’s inherent skills to be an even better parent. She explores each of the 9 types as children, preteens, and teens, including their positive and more challenging traits--what drives them, what they fear, what inspires them--and offers suggestions for how you can best relate to and communicate with your child.
Looking at each of the 81 parent-child combinations, Gadd suggests how each combination works at its best as well as what happens under pressure. She reveals how to improve your overall parent-child relationship by recognizing not only your child’s triggers but also your own and how to navigate them, leading to more harmonious relationships and interactions within your family.
Offering an opportunity to understand your child and yourself on a much deeper level, the author’s systematic approach to parenting with the Enneagram reveals why we and our children behave in certain ways, how to release our habits, and how to be fully present as a parent. And being present with our children is the best gift we can give them to help them feel safe, heard, and understood.
Trade Review“Ann Gadd has written a concise and accessible guide for parenting based on the Enneagram. It can be enjoyed by beginning Enneagram enthusiasts and still provides depth for experienced practitioners.
Better Parenting with the Enneagram focuses on the positive characteristics of each type and gently challenges us to recognize the places we go to under the specific stresses of parenting. As a child of a Type Four mother, I was blown away by the book’s accuracy. Ann was able to capture my experience growing up and articulate what I needed as a little child. As a psychotherapist and a parent of two small children this book has become my go-to guide to help the little people and parents in my life!” * LYNDSEY FRASER, MA, LMFT, CST, marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist *
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Better Parenting with the Enneagram is yet another incredibly valuable contribution by Ann Gadd to the rapidly expanding list of Enneagram literature. Ann is proving again that the Enneagram is not just an abstract spiritual tool but that our passions show up in every aspect of our daily life. Parenting can be extremely challenging, and Ann explains in her enviably eloquent and humorous style how we tend to make things needlessly worse for ourselves and our kids. This book will help any parent to worry less and actually enjoy some of the weird behaviour of our kids.” * FREDERIK COENE, Ph.D., Enneagram researcher and member of the International Enneagram Association *
“Ann’s book
Better Parenting with the Enneagram is a clear, accessible read for those of us who want to parent with awareness, understanding, and acceptance. Her simple yet detailed presentation of the information makes it enjoyable and easy to digest (coming from a Type Seven parent with two small children!).” * CHARLOTTE HAGGIE, health and well-being coach *
“A gem of a read! As a soon-to-be parent, this book helped me acknowledge the natural strengths that I am already bringing to the table and also provided insight on where to be mindful of how my own stress/fixation can impact the parent-child relationship.” * VALERIE WANAMAKER, LCSW, sex and relationship psychotherapist *
“Ann Gadd has made an engaging introduction to the Enneagram, focusing on the most important relationship we might ever have--the parent-child relationship. We are all someone’s child, which makes the book relevant to everyone. Gadd allows us to reflect both on ourselves as parents and as children. You don’t need to know about the Enneagram to benefit from this book; you are handed the Enneagram’s view on the important aspects of the parent–child relationship and can immediately start using it. With this tool, you can be closer to having a conscious relationship, not only to your children, but also to your parents. Using the lost childhood messages (in the back of the book) is like adding magic dust to your relationships; try it, and you will most probably find that your child sinks into a peaceful, loving state immediately!” * PATRICK HOUGAARD SIMONSEN, Enneagram coach and NLP trainer & ANNABELLA AL-NAFUSI, stress release the *
“This book is pure magic. An essential and practical resource for any parent interested in their own self-development journey of growth alongside their child. Ann uses clear, easy to digest language with examples and descriptions that accurately reflect the uniqueness of each style of parent and child.” * MARY J. FOURIE, millennial mother and Enneagram coach *
Table of ContentsIntroduction
PART 1Parenting and the Enneagram
1 The Enneagram-Your Parenting How-To
2 Easy-Peasy Enneagram Terminology Explained
PART 2
The Enneagram Types -- Parents and Children
3 Type One
The Type One Parent: The Parenting Perfectionist
The Type One Child: The Good Boy/Girl
4 Type Two
The Type Two Parent: The Pleasing and Praising Parent
The Type Two Child: :The Little Helper
5 Type Three The Type Three Parent: The Goal-Setting Go-Getter
The Type Three Child: The Little Star
6 Type Four
The Type Four Parent: The Introspective Individualist
The Type Four Child: The Creative Child
7 Type FiveThe Type Five Parent: The Observing Introvert
The Type Five Child: The Little Professor
8 Type Six
The Type Six Parent: The Dutiful Parent
The Type Six Child: The Super Little Trooper
9 Type SevenThe Type Seven Parent: The Spontaneous Socializer
The Type Seven Child: The Enthusiastic Extrovert
10 Type Eight
The Type Eight Parent: The Assertive Adult
The Type Eight Child: The Bossy Boots
11 Type Nine
The Type Nine Parent: The Accepting Adult/Patient Parent
The Type Nine Child: The Chilled Child
PART 3
Parent–Child Combinations
Type SixThe Type Six Parent: The Dutiful Parent
The Type Six Child: The Super Little Trooper
Type Seven
The Type Seven Parent: The Spontaneous Socializer
The Type Seven Child: The Enthusiastic Extrovert
Type Eight
The Type Eight Parent: The Assertive Adult
The Type Eight Child: The Bossy Boots
Type Nine
The Type Nine Parent: The Accepting Adult/Patient Parent
The Type Nine Child: The Chilled Child
PART 3 Parent-Child Combinations
Type OneParents and Their Children
Type Two Parents and Their Children
Type ThreeParents and Their Children
Type FourParents and Their Children
Type FiveParents and Their Children
Type Six Parents and Their Children
Type Seven Parents and Their Children
Type EightParents and Their Children
Type NineParents and Their Children
Afterword
Appendix
Quick Type Overview
Lost Messages Your Child Needs to Hear
What Toys Different Enneagram Type Kids Could Enjoy .
Bibliography
About the Author
