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Book SynopsisAs the workforce ages and younger trainers and managers emerge, facilitation skills take on a new importance and, with the increased use of social networks, new facilitation skills are needed. Written by two facilitation gurus, this book shows how to make any learning environment come alive. It outlines proven guidelines any trainer can use to unify groups, inspire creativity, and get audiences, teams, and colleagues to speak up, talk back, participate, and engage in meetings.
Table of ContentsPreface xi
Acknowledgments xiii
About the Authors xv
Introduction xvii
One Heard on the Street: The Audience Does Know! 1
The Audience Doesn’t Lie 1
It’s About Time! 6
It All Begins with Courage 7
Three Keys to Facilitate Fearlessly 8
And on a Final and Very Important Note 16
Coach’s Comments 16
Two Organic Facilitation 19
Organic Facilitation Is Less Known 20
Organic Facilitation Is Healthier in the Long Run 21
Organic Facilitation Takes Time to Perfect (or, Actually, Make Appear Imperfect) 22
Intimacy Is Key 23
Coach’s Comments 29
Three The Fourth Wall 33
The Wall It’s OK to Break 33
Food, Fun, and Safety 34
Five Tools for Your Fearless Tool Bag 37
Three Rules for Breaking the Wall 38
Dance Naked! The Wisdom Is in the Room 39
How to Work (and Not Work) the Room 39
How Fred Friedman Broke the Fourth Wall 41
Coach’s Comments 42
Four Have Fun with One or with One Hundred 45
Take It Professionally, Not Personally 47
As You Begin, Notice Who Is “with” You Through Their Reactions, Eye Contact, or What Seems to Be Working, Even in a Small Way 48
Be Ready to Adapt 51
Know That You Can’t Win Them All 53
Yes, Facilitation Works with Very Large Audiences! 54
Adapting to an Unexpectedly Small Audience 56
Coach’s Comments 57
Five Dialogue Not Monologue (Worse, Duologue) 61
Conversation Is Not Easy for Most 61
Can You Converse Without a Cocktail? 62
Conversation: Begin at the Beginning 64
The Break Is Never Really a Break 65
Dialogue During Your Meeting 66
Dialogue Post-Meeting 66
Coach’s Comments 67
Six The Set-Up: Making It Happen 71
The Learning Environment 72
You Can Always Facilitate, No Matter the Circumstances 75
Lessons from One Executive’s Transformation 77
Coach’s Comments 80
Seven Listen Live, Then Disappear! 85
What Oprah and Larry Know 86
What the Best Do Not Do 88
What the Journalist Uncovers 89
What the Orchestra Conductor Knows 90
What the Sales Professional Knows 93
Really Good Facilitators Use These Questions 94
Really Good Facilitators Avoid These Questions 97
What Listening Live Is Not 101
Timing Is Everything 102
Your Natural Resources 105
Coach’s Comments 105
Eight Go with It! 107
Take What They Give You 108
Trust! 108
When You Know More and They Came to Hear It 108
When You Need to (and Should) Keep Emotion at Bay 110
When You Can’t Think and Hit at the Same Time 111
Home Run! 112
Coach’s Comments 113
Nine It’s About the Audience, First and Always, in All Ways! 115
What a Ninety-One-Year-Old Knows 117
What a Professional Magician Knows 119
What an Eighth-Grade Teacher Knows 120
What Engineers Know 121
Connection Is Never Perfection 122
What the Professional Comedian Knows 123
Audiences Will React Differently to the Same Story 125
Avoid Death by Committee 126
Ten Yikes! A Whole Room Full of 131
When Times Go Less Well Than Planned 132
People and Groups Who Exhibit Predictable Challenges 133
People Who Are Disconnected 138
Only One Person to Facilitate 142
In Your Writing, Especially When You Need to Persuade 146
Gaining Traction 146
Keeping Momentum 147
When All Else Fails People Who Won’t Change, No Matter What 148
Coach’s Comments 150
Eleven Conclusion: Now Is the Beginning of Your New Skill 153
Appendix A: Sure Things: Eight Discussion Topics That Never Fail 155
Appendix B: Four Keys to Making It Easier 157
Appendix C: Momentum Magic 161
Appendix D: Oops! When Meetings Don’t Go So Well 163
Appendix E: Techniques for Teleconference and Virtual Meeting Facilitation 167
Index 169
