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Book SynopsisMen with Asperger's Syndrome, young and old, experience difficulty with social interaction, which can be a stumbling block when it comes to getting a girlfriend. Here is a book that demystifies the enigma of 'relationships' by explaining everything in Asperger-friendly terms (some of them mathematical, naturally).
Asperger Meets Girl provides hope for all hopeless wooers by offering a choice of three interrelated abstract models for understanding boy-girl relationships. And, to make life easier, these models are presented in graph form where possible. The book also gives valuable practical tips for maximising one's chances of successfully developing a relationship, such as how to start a conversation without scaring the other person off, avoiding the inclination to stare and understanding the concept of 'personal space'.
Serious, and seriously funny, this book will help bring happy endings to Asperger boys and make them laugh in the process.
Trade ReviewA book that demystifies the enigma of relationships by explaining everything in "Asperger-friendly" terms. -- Current Awareness Service
...invaluable and should be shown to all teenagers whether they have a diagnosis or not. -- Asperger East Anglia
There are some very important lessons in this book. -- Asperger United
Table of ContentsForeword. Preface.1 What problem am I trying to solve here? 2. A Nerd's Eye View of Human Sexuality. 2.1 Idea 1: The Space of Possibilities. 2.1.1 Plotting Some Points in the Space. 2.1.2 Old-fashioned Romance. 2.1.3 Swinging. 2.1.4 Student Fantasy. 2.1.5 Coming Up Roses. 2.1.6 Slippery When Wet 2.2 Idea 2: The Conventional Games. 2.2.1 The Conventional Male Game. 2.2.2 The Conventional Female Game. 2.2.3 And?. 2.2.4 Revisiting the Extracts. 2.3 Idea 3: Relationship Space. 2.3.1 Graphs of Relationship Space. 2.3.2 How Much Do You Love Me? Quantitative Attributes of Relationships. 2.3.3 Subjectivity of Relationships. 2.3.4 Intermission. 2.3.5 Defining the Centre. 2.3.6 Why Can't People Just Say What They Mean? 2.3.7 The Extracts Revisited (Again). 3. Things to Try. 3.1 The Collusive Relationship. 3.1.1 Why So Slow? 3.1.2 What Does This `Collusion' Involve? 3.1.3 Where Does It Get You? 3.2 How Sex Joins On to Real Life. 3.2.1 Sensuality. 3.2.2 Attention. 3.2.3 Power. 3.3 Strategic Preparation. 3.3.1 Get a Body. 3.3.2 Get a Persona. 3.3.3 Get a Look. 3.3.4 Your Fellow Men. 3.3.5 Platonic Women. 3.3.6 Good Persistence and Bad Persistence. 3.4 Tactical Preparation. 3.4.1 Tactical Goals. 3.4.2 Times and Places. 3.4.3 Your Fellow Men (Again). 3.4.4 Look (Again). 3.5 Contact. 3.5.1 Staring and Personal Space. 3.5.2 The Art of Apology 3.5.3 Conversation. 3.5.4 Your Feelings, Considered from a Tactical Point of View. 3.5.5 The Last Mile. 3.6 No, Actual Contact. 3.6.1 Confidence. 3.6.2 Decisiveness. 3.6.3 Herself in Particular. 3.6.4 Colluding Again. 4. Afterword. 5. Appendix: Some Supplementary Thoughts. 5.1 Theoretical Context. 5.1.1 Philosophy. 5.1.2 Psychoanalysis. 5.2 Cartesian Diagrams of the Space of Possibilities. 5.2.1 Old-fashioned Romance. 5.2.2 Swinging. 5.2.3 Student Fantasy. 5.2.4 Coming up Roses. 5.3 Suggested Para-academic Research. 5.3.1 Para-academic? 5.3.2 Numbers for the graphs. References.
