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Book SynopsisInvestigates the storied history of mothering advice in the media, from the newspapers, magazines, doctors' records and personal papers of the nineteenth-century to today's websites, Facebook groups and Instagram feeds. Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan find surprising parallels between today's experts and their Victorian counterparts.
Trade Review“Through analyses of historical and contemporary cases, especially the careful study of social media and smart phone apps, Johnson and Quinlan raise important questions about expertise and power relations in defining the good mother.” -- Rima D. Apple * author of Perfect Motherhood: Science and Childbearing in America *
"You're Doing It Wrong!: Mothering, Media, and Medical Expertise is a rare mix of historical, sociological, and media analysis that sheds light on the processes by which motherhood gets defined. We get a glimpse of the historical underpinnings of our relationship with medical expertise, and how media outlets create cultural consensus about mothering (if they do)."
-- Julie Des Jardins * author of Women and the Historical Enterprise in America: Gender, Race, and the Politics of Memory *
“Combining historical insights and of-the-minute analyses of social media platforms, Johnson and Quinlan persuasively argue for a rethinking of what we “know” about expertise and the often-fraught journey of early motherhood.” -- Kristin Celello * co-editor of Domestic Tensions, National Anxieties *
“'You’re Doing It Wrong': the century-old roots of mom-shaming," by Anna North * Vox *
"An amazingly refreshing look back at how the medical advice given in relation to raising children has changed over the ages. It really helps to put everything into perspective, and makes you realize…we probably aren’t doing such a bad job after all!" * Motherhood: The Real Deal *
Defining Moments podcast interview with Bethany L. Johnson and Margaret M. Quinlan
https://woub.org/2019/06/24/post-partum-care-baby-milestones-and-mothering-historical-and-contemporary-challenges/ * Defining Moments *
Mr. Dad "Positive Parenting" podcast interview with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan
https://mrdad.com/positiveparenting-afn/youre-doing-it-wrong-the-stress-switch/ * Mr. Dad "Positive Parenting" podcast *
"A Tongue-in-Cheek History of Infertility"
https://www.momcavetv.com/history-of-infertility/ * MomCave *
"Psychologists Off The Clock" podcast interview with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan
https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/youre-doing-it-wrong * Psychologists Off The Clock podcast *
Self-care Series: Margaret M. Quinlan QA
https://www.andbreathepostnatal.com/blog/2019/09/14/self-care-series-margaret-quinlan * & Breathe Post-Natal *
“Yes, We Will Revise that RR”: Birthing and Writing in the “Publish-or-Perish” Paradigm – Guest Post
http://theprofessorisin.com/2019/09/23/yes-we-will-revise-that-rr-birthing-and-writing-in-the-publish-or-perish-paradigm-guest-post/ * The Professor is In *
Episode 67: Bethany Johnson and Maggie Quinlan on “You’re Doing It Wrong! Mothering, Media and Medical Expertise”
https://engendered.us/episode-67-bethany-johnson-and-maggie-quinlan-on-youre-doing-it-wrong-mothering-media-and-medical-expertise/?fbclid=IwAR2HBiS9zhPmFNBD4hx6QBwWTHYJJ_V94S9HqhLerEqi33tAKJ69MzqI1fc * Engendered podcast *
"Empowered Health" podcast interview with Bethany L. Johnson and Margaret M. Quinlan
https://empoweredhealthshow.com/ep-28-mothering-crowdsourcing-advice-and-judgment-with-dr-margaret-quinlan-and-bethany-johnson/ * Empowered Health podast *
"The Pressures of Being a “Perfect Mom” and Information Overload: Author researcher Dr. Margaret Quinlan shares insights on this age-old feeling nearly every mom experiences"
https://www.drstevesilvestro.com/the-pressures-of-being-a-perfect-mom-information-overwhelm-with-dr-margaret-quinlan * Dr. Steve Silvestro *
“You’re Doing it Wrong” — The Long History of Mom Shaming
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/youre-doing-it-wrong-the-problem-with-social-media-influencers-and-parenting * Healthline *
"Common Sense Pregnancy, Parenting Politics" podcast interview with Margaret Quinlan
http://dcs.megaphone.fm/POD1018577234.mp3?key=484bc6c633d79e6845237ce5173862e2 * Common Sense Pregnancy, Parenting & Politics *
"Mtherhood in the media: an interview with Margaret Quinlan - Episode 199"
https://parentingbytes.com/motherhood-is-hard-margaret-quinlan/ * Parenting Bytes *
"You're Doing it Wrong! (Not!!)" The Happy Student podcast interview with Margaret Quinlan
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-happy-student/id1180759474 * The Happy Student podcast *
NYSSA: The Unmentionables podcast interview with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan
https://www.buzzsprout.com/291095/1892564 * NYSSA: The Unmentionables podcast *
"Masters in Parenting Podcast" interview with Bethany Johnson
https://www.chicagoparent.com/learn/podcast/masters-in-parenting-episode-32/ * Chicago Parent *
"'You’re Doing It Wrong' Authors Dicuss Infertility" by Yasmine Singh
https://lifeontheup.com/2019/11/08/youre-doing-it-wrong-authors-dicuss-infertility/ * Life on the Up *
"Eugenics Theory, Better Baby Contests, and the Formation of Modern Parenting Advice" by Patrick A. Coleman
https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/eugenics-history-parenting-advice/ * Fatherly *
"Johnson and Quinlan offer a superb analysis of historical and contemporary renderings of both the lay and expert advice mothers receive." * Women & Language *
Margaret Quinlan interview on Birth Words podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/infertility-ii/id1470817610?i=1000457784715 * Birth Words *
"Motherhood Has Never Been More Complicated — Here’s How to Simplify It" by Laura Donovan
* She Knows *
"You're Doing It Wrong! with Bethany L. JohnsonThe Can't Make This Up History Podcast" * They Can't Make This Up History Podcast *
Academic Minute: New Mother Challenges interview with Margaret Quinlan
https://www.insidehighered.com/audio/2020/02/13/new-mother-challenges * Inside Higher Education - Academic Minute *
"Experiencing the Unimaginable: Part II: Pregnancy loss," by Margaret M. Quinlan and Bethany Johnson
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/medical-humanities-mamas/202002/experiencing-the-unimaginable * Psychology Today *
Under the Covers interview with Bethany Johnson
https://charlottereaderspodcast.com/under-the-covers-with-bethany-johnson/#more-1582 * Under the Covers podcast *
"Part III: When Someone Experiences the Unimaginable: Premature Birth and Child Loss" by Margaret M. Quinlan and Bethany Johnson
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/medical-humanities-mamas/202003/part-iii-when-someone-experiences-the-unimaginable * Psychology Today *
"EPISODE 91: MARGARET QUINLAN BETHANY JOHNSON: SOCIAL MEDIA MOTHERING"
https://momdeconstructed.com/ep91/ * Mom Deconstructed Podcast *
The Weekly Ritual interview with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan
* The Weekly Ritual *
Mable + Moxie interview with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan * Mable + Moxie *
"Postpartum During a Pandemic: Postpartum is already challenging. What about COVID-19?" by Margaret M. Quinlan and Bethany Johnson
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/medical-humanities-mamas/202004/postpartum-during-pandemic#_=_ * Psychology Today *
"You’re doing it wrong: a conversation with Margaret Quinlan"
https://www.expectingmore.org/2020/05/05/youre-doing-it-wrong-a-conversation-with-margaret-quinlan/ * Expecting More *
"The Story with Charu" interview with Margaret M. Quinlan
https://tunein.com/podcasts/Arts--Culture-Podcasts/The-Story-with-Charu-p1264598/ * The Story with Charu podcast *
"[
You're Doing it Wrong!] made me stop to think about the advice I give and the unsolicited advice I receive. Reading the book also made me more mindful of instances where I’ve judged someone else for the parenting decisions they’ve made." * Thistle Bee *
"QC Life interview with Bethany Johnson and Dr. Margaret Quinlan"
https://qclife.wbtv.com/youre-doing-it-wrong/ * QC Life *
"You’re Doing It All Wrong – Quarantined Authors Part 1"
https://www.puckermom.com/video/youre-doing-it-all-wrong-quarantined-authors-part-1/ * Puckermom, Part 1 *
"You’re Doing It All Wrong – Quarantined Authors Part 2"
https://www.puckermom.com/video/youre-doing-it-all-wrong-quarantined-authors-part-2/ * Puckermom, Part 2 *
"You’re Doing It All Wrong – Quarantined Authors Part 3"
https://www.puckermom.com/video/youre-doing-it-all-wrong-quarantined-authors-part-3/ * Puckermom, Part 3 *
"New Books Network - New Books in Gender Studies" interview with Bethany L. Johnson
https://newbooksnetwork.com/b-l-johnson-and-m-m-quinlan-youre-doing-it-wrong%E2%80%AFmothering-media-and-medical-expertise-rutgers-up-2019/ * New Books Network - New Books in Gender Studies *
"“You’re Doing It Wrong!”: An Interview with Margaret M. Quinlan Bethany Johnson
http://www.muthamagazine.com/2020/06/youre-doing-it-wrong-an-interview-with-margaret-m-quinlan-bethany-johnson/ * Mutha Magazine *
"Ep. 14 – Mothering: Are We Doing It Wrong? – Bethany Johnson Margaret Quinlan"
https://momafterhours.com/2020/07/02/ep-14-mothering-are-we-doing-it-wrong-bethany-johnson-margaret-quinlan/ * Mom After Hours podcast *
"How Social Media Influences Your Motherhood with Authors Bethany Johnson and Maggie Quinlan of
You're Doing it Wrong!"
https://generationmom.lnk.to/Number1MomPodcastWE
* Generation Mom *
"Mother Honestly podcast interview - The Historical Construction of Motherhood, Infertility, and Women’s Health with Dr. Margaret Quinlan (Ph.D)"
https://motherhonestly.com/2020/07/28/the-historical-construction-of-motherhood-infertility-and-womens-health-with-dr-margaret-quinlan-ph-d/ * Mother Honestly podcast *
"Episode 11: You're Doing It Wrong!"
https://www.mightylittles.com/podcast/youre-doing-it-wrong * Mighty Littles podcast *
Dr. Wendy Walsh interview with Margaret M. Quinlan
https://www.iheart.com/content/2020-08-02-no-moms-youre-not-doing-it-wrong/ * Dr. Wendy Walsh *
BYURadio, "Top of Mind with Julie Rose" - episoide "Belarus Protests, Conspiracy Theories, Mom-Shaming"
http://www.byuradio.org/episode/3e66e302-21fc-421b-95f2-740c03e551f0/top-of-mind-with-julie-rose-belarus-protests-conspiracy-theories-mom-shaming?playhead=3164autoplay=true * BYURadio, "Top of Mind with Julie Rose" *
"A Conversation with Margaret M. Quinlan"
https://literarymama.com/articles/departments/2020/07/a-conversation-with-margaret-m-quinlan * Literary Mama *
"Most importantly, [Johnson and Quinlan] dedicate chapters to health scares that parents often face—surrounding preconception, fertility, pregnancy and birth, the postpartum period, infant loss, and early childhood rearing—and discuss how related medical, technical, and nontraditional (what the authors term 'lay expert') advice is frequently contradictory and confusing. What it means to be a good mother may be less clear in a socially opinionated environment that offers varied levels of expert advice; however, the pressure to be a good mother is quite transparent. Recommended." * Choice *
"This book is the perfect marriage of research, personal experiences, and interviews. It is well-written, thoughtful, relatable, and most importantly — enjoyable to read! I appreciated how inclusive the writing is. It will surely make you stop to think about the advice you give and the unsolicited advice you receive. We could all be a little more mindful and less judgmental." * LilHuman *
WSGE Radio - "For Your Health and Wellbeing" interview * WSGE Radio - "For Your Health and Wellbeing" *
The is Infertility podcast interview * This is Infertility podcast *
"Fresh Take: You're Doing It Wrong! (with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan)" * What the Fresh Hell podcast *
"It's Time to Leave the Term 'Pregnancy Brain' Behind" * InStyle Magazine *
"'People are at their breaking points' | Pandemic brings new obstacles for working mothers" * WCNC Charlotte *
"Our Society Has Been Shaming Moms For Centuries" interview with Bethany Johnson and Dr. Maggie M. Quinlan * Distraction Podcast (part 1) *
"Save Your Advice and Offer Support Instead" interview with Bethany Johnson and Dr. Margaret M. Quinlan * Distraction Podcast (part 2) *
"Baby formula shortage leaves local parents scrambling" * WSOC-TV *
Table of ContentsContents
Acknowledgements
List of Photographs
Part I: Conception and (In)fertility
Introduction
Chapter 1: On Preconception, the Beginning of the Life-cycle of Early Motherhood
Chapter 2: A State of Mind?: Fertility Treatment(s) and Expertise
Part II: Pregnancy and Birth
Chapter 3: Red Underwear, Genes and Monstrosity: Pregnancy, Behavior and Intergenerational Impact
Chapter 4: “You Women Will Have to Fight for It”: Twilight Sleep and Transactional Childbirth Expertise in 20th-century America
Part III: The Postpartum Period; The “Fourth Trimester”
Chapter 5: “One of the Most Curious Charities in the World”: Infant Incubation as Sideshow and/or Medical Specialty
Chapter 6: Not Just Baby Blues: Historical Realities and Social Media Accounts of Postpartum Care Today
Part IV: Infant Loss and Early Childhood
Chapter 7:
Memento Mori in the Victorian Era and on Social Media: The “Right” (Way) to Grieve
Chapter 8: “Better Babies:” Early 20th-century Scientific Babyhood and Constructions of 21st-century Infancy on Instagram
Conclusion
Methodological Appendix
Master Reference List
Selected Bibliography
Index
