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Book SynopsisAvoid "Shirtsleeves to Shirtsleeves" by Finding Your Voice Growing up in a family with significant wealth or a family business can often feel like an exercise in silence.
Table of ContentsPreface xi
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction 1
A Well-Known Family 1
The Challenge 2
The Journey 3
Our Approach 6
Aids to Navigation 7
Chapter 1 Setting Sail 13
The Black Hole 14
Talking about Silence 17
The Very Good Steward 19
The Meteor 19
Froggy 20
The Parallel Universe 21
The Anxious Heir 22
Mr. Reputable 22
The Grand Giver 23
Testing the Boundary 23
Mentor 26
Chapter 2 Rosy-Fingered Dawn 29
Awakening 29
Rising 30
Slings and Arrows 36
Chapter 3 Self-Knowledge 43
The Center 43
Internal and External 44
Dreams 45
Strengths and Hurdles 48
Individuation 51
Externals 54
The Balance Sheet 56
Chapter 4 Facing the Waves 61
Getting Away 61
Taking the Leap 63
Work 63
Relationships 73
Communication 78
Leaving Ithaca 81
Chapter 5 The Middle Passage 85
The Island of the Lotus-Eaters 85
The Middle Passage 87
A Forceful Hand 89
Self-Advocacy 93
Ownership 96
Leadership 98
Parenting in the Middle Passage 100
Questions for Rising on Your Own 102
Conclusion 107
Another Well-Known Family 107
Our Journey Thus Far 109
Searching for Elders 112
Returning to Mentor 115
Flying Away 118
Appendix 121
Questions for Reflection from the End of the Chapters 121
From the Introduction 121
From Chapter 1 121
From Chapter 2 121
From Chapter 3 122
From Chapter 4 122
From Chapter 5 122
From the Conclusion 122
Additional Tools 122
Possible Educational Pathways 123
For the Individual Journey 123
For Possible Workshops 124
For a Possible Family Gathering 125
Session One: Knowing Ourselves 126
Session Two: Resilience 128
Session Three: Action 129
About the Authors 133
Index 137
