Author has written outstanding parenting books including Building Moral Intelligence, No More Misbehavin
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Borba, author and Today Show regular, employs a cookbooklike approach in her latest volume: rather than read through the entire tome, parents can flip to topics pertinent to their family. Borba opens with a friendly overview, noting that contemporary parents feel more stressed and find their roles increasingly difficult (June Cleaver, she points out, didn't have to deal with cyberbullying or Facebook). With characteristic wit, Borba identifies the ?seven deadly parenting styles,? including helicopter, buddy, incubator, bandage, paranoid, accessory parenting (judging themselves by their kids' accolades) and secondary parenting (relinquishing power to such outsiders as marketers or the media). In nine sections on family, behavior, character, emotions, social scene, school, special needs, day-to-day and electronics, the author urges readers to roll up their sleeves and get back to basic, instinctual parenting. As she tackles 101 issues ranging from sibling rivalry, lying and peer pressure to cell-phone use and TV addiction, Borba helps readers identify the reason underlying the behavior or problem, and work with 10 essential principles of change. With her no-nonsense yet compassionate voice, Borba once again delivers an indispensable resource for parents of toddlers to 13-year-olds. (Sept.) (Publishers Weekly, July 20, 2009) A Recommended Read for Moms by Working Mother magazine: "Educational psychologist and Today show parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba has compiled 101 answers to your most perplexing kid conundrums, from early childhood challenges like thumbsucking and tantrums to later behaviors like bullying and drug use to universals like adoption and divorce. The easy-to-use problem/solution format will have you battling your biggest parenting crises with confidence." (October 2009)
Table of Contents
Note to the Reader xv
Acknowledgments xvi
Introduction: From June Cleaver to Desperate Housewives—How Did We Get Ourselves into This Mess? xix
The Parents Magazine “Joys of Motherhood Survey”: What Mothers Really Feel and Their Advice to Help Us Raise the Next Generation xxxvii
101 Tough Problems Parents Face and How to Deal with Them
Part 1 Family 1
Adopted 2
Divorce 8
Middle Child 19
New Baby 21
Oldest Child 23
Only Child 26
Sibling Rivalry 29
Twins and Multiples 37
Youngest Child 41
Part 2 Behavior 45
Argues 46
Back Talk 54
Biting 60
Bossy 64
Brags 71
Defiant 76
Demanding 86
Hooked on Rewards 88
Impulsive 93
Indecisive 100
Swears 102
Tantrums 109
Time-Out 118
Whining 121
Won’t Listen 128
Yelling 134
Part 3 Character 139
Bad Manners 140
Cheats 150
Insensitive 159
Intolerant 168
Lying 173
Materialistic 182
Not Knowing Right from Wrong 191
Poor Sport 201
Selfish and Spoiled 209
Steals 218
Ungrateful 224
Part 4 Emotions 231
Angry 232
Dependent 240
Fearful 248
Grief 255
Homesick 264
Perfectionist 272
Pessimistic 279
Sensitive 284
Shy 291
Separation Anxiety 301
Stressed 303
Worried About the World 310
Part 5 Social Scene 313
Bad Friends 314
Bullied 323
Bullying 332
Cliques 342
Clothes and Appearance 350
Crushes 353
Disciplining Other Kids 355
Drinking 359
Friendship Breakups 363
Growing Up Too Fast 367
Peer Pressure 373
Rejected 381
Role Models 391
Sex 394
Sharing 399
Steroids 407
Tattles 410
Teased 415
Part 6 School 423
Day Care 424
Gives Up 426
Homework 435
Leadership 443
Organized Sports 447
Procrastinates 448
Reading 453
Sick Enough to Stay Home 456
Teacher Conference 458
Test Anxiety 460
Part 7 Special Needs 465
Attention Deficit 466
Autism Spectrum Disorder 477
Depressed 488
Eating Disorders 498
Gifted 508
Learning Disabilities 516
Overweight 520
Part 8 Day to Day 531
Bathroom Battles 532
Boredom 534
Chores 538
Communicating 545
Disorganized 549
Money 551
Moving 559
Overscheduled 568
Pets 570
Picky Eater 572
Safety 578
Sleepless 585
Traveling 594
Part 9 Electronics 597
Cell Phone 598
Cyberbullying 602
Internet Safety 610
TV Addiction 618
Video Games 621
Notes 627
About the Author 671
Index 673
