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Book Synopsis#1 WALL STREET JOURNAL BESTSELLER â USA TODAY BESTSELLER
A renowned business psychologist, advisor, and consultant to the worldâs leading companies reveals the key to greater success, meaning, and joy at work Technology has enabled us to be more interconnected today than ever before. So why do so many of us feel isolated and undervalued at work? Why does it feel like something is missing? It doesnât have to be this way. In these rapidly changing, challenging times, how do weâYOUâdevelop the intuition, self-awareness, and interpersonal agility required to prosper?
Hereâs what weâve lost track of: organizations are run by people, and people run on emotions. Strong relationships are the bedrock of lasting success, meaning, and joy at work. In this life-changing guide, Dr. Melanie
Table of ContentsPREFACE
PART I
ESTABLISH RESPECT
1 SMILE
Activate Immediate Connection
2 SAY “PLEASE”
It Implies Freedom to Comply (or Not)
3 SAY “THANK YOU”
The People You Neglect Can Undermine Your Success
4 CALL PEOPLE BY THEIR NAMES
Ignite Attention and Recognize Individuality
5 OFFER PRAISE
Pride Is Rocket Fuel
6 GOT IT? THEN SAY SO!
Help Coworkers Manage Their Time
7 PROVIDE FEEDBACK
It Benefits Everyone
PART II
ENGAGE ALL OF YOUR SENSES
8 SEE EVERYBODY
Those on the Margins Often Have Greater Perspective
9 LISTEN TO INSPIRE
Deepen the Conversation by Responding Without Words
10 SILENCE
Be Quiet Together
11 TOUCH
It Transforms an Interaction
12 EAT TOGETHER
Food Is Bait for Conversation and Creates Connection
PART III
BECOME POPULAR
13 BE PRESENT
Showing Up Is Just the Start
14 SHARE INFORMATION
News Is a Virtual Valium
15 BE A MAGNET
Become the Person People Want to Be With
16 KNOW HOW TO ENTER
First Impressions Stick
17 TELL STORIES
Connect by Hacking Your Colleagues’ Right Brains
18 DON’T JUST DO SOMETHING, SIT THERE!
Luxuriate in Not Having an Immediate Solution
19 CHALLENGE NEGATIVE THINKING
Stop Noise Pollution
20 HAVE A POINT OF VIEW
Cultivate an Informed Perspective
21 YOU DON’T ALWAYS HAVE TO BE RIGHT
Trust Me on This, I’m Not Wrong
PART IV
GROW LOYALTY
22 ENSURE ROLE CLARITY
Provide the Context and Permission
23 CONNECT JOBS TO THE LARGER MISSION
There’s Always a Why
24 OFFER THE GIFT OF TIME
We All Have Too Much to Do
25 KNOW WHEN YOU ARE DONE
Clear Goals Enable You to Declare “Finished”
26 THERE’S PLENTY FOR EVERYONE!
Assume an Abundance—Not Scarcity—Mentality
27 BANK SOCIAL COLLATERAL
Give Now to Succeed in the Future
28 STROKE THEIR NARCISSISM
All Egos Need a Little Love
29 CREATE RITUALS
Celebrate Success and Grow from Mistakes
30 GENERATE JOY AND LAUGHTER
Energize Your Workplace
PART V
RESOLVE CONFLICT
31 STAND IN SOMEONE ELSE’S SHOES
Experience Their Point of View
32 DECODE YOUR COLLEAGUES’ EMOTIONAL CLUES
They’re the Key to Connection and Success
33 APOLOGIZE
Don’t Justify or Explain Why
34 ACCEPT THAT YOU WON’T BE UNDERSTOOD
Sometimes the System Isn’t Ready for Your Ideas
35 NEGOTIATE A PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTRACT
Mutually Commit to Extreme Honesty
36 ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF
The Discomfort Will Be Worth It
37 NAME THE ELEPHANT
It’s Taking Up Way Too Much Room
38 BE A SIMPLIFIER, NOT A COMPLICATOR
Make Precision Execution Seem Easy
PART VI
FIGHT FEAR
39 STEP OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Being a Little Terrified Is Good for You
40 INVITE OTHERS IN
Take the First Step
41 BE A GRACIOUS HOST
Tackling the Hard Stuff Is Easier When
Everyone Is Comfortable
42 BE A PERSON FIRST!
Help Strangers Feel Less Strange
43 FOCUS ON FACILITATION
Boost the Quality of Conversations by Attending to Details
44 BUILD A BRIDGE
Connect Through Nonwork Interests and Experiences
45 CREATE THE GROUP YOU WANT TO BE PART OF
There’s Energy and Power in Numbers
46 BE PRACTICALLY OPTIMISTIC
Instill Hope
PART VII
HAVE A BIG IMPACT
47 EXPLORE THE UNKNOWN
The Future Depends on It
48 HONOR HISTORY
Let the Past Propel You Forward
49 EMBRACE AGING AT WORK
60 Is the New 30
50 LEVERAGE YOUR PLATFORM
Make a Difference
51 CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO
Unleash Intergenerational Energy
52 DREAM AUDACIOUSLY
Move Beyond Success to Significance
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
REFERENCES
INDEX
