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Book SynopsisThis title combines proven research on marital relationships with special insights on Jewish belief systems, making it both culturally sensitive and very sound in terms of what really helps couples save and improve their marriages.
Trade Review"This important book combines modern social-scientific research andtraditional Jewish wisdom to help couples resurrect the buriedpromises of friendship and responsibility, and the joy of love. Theold can be renewed, and the new can be hallowed. It offers concreteways for couples to create constructive and affirmative relations.It is rooted in a deep conviction that it is never too late tobuild again, to hope again, to love again."
-- Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis, author, For Those Who Can'tBelieve
"This much-needed book combines proven research on maritalrelationships with special insights on Jewish belief systems,making it both culturally sensitive and very sound in terms of whatreally helps couples save and improve their marriages. For anyonein a Jewish couple, this book is a lifesaver and truly amitzvah!"
-- Celia Jaes Falicov, Ph.D., president, American FamilyTherapy Academy
Table of ContentsForeword, by Rabbi Harold M. Schulweis ix
Acknowledgments xi
Introduction: Why Is This Book Different from All Other Books? xiii
1. Creating a Positive Jewish Identity That Supports Your Marriage 1
2. Four Key Patterns That Can Harm a Relationship 25
3. Changing Roles, Changing Rules: Men and Women in Conflict 53
4. Communicating Clearly and Safely: The Speaker-Listener Technique 69
5. Problem Solving 97
6. Ground Rules for Handling Conflict 121
7. The Difference Between Issues and Events 133
8. Unfulfilled Expectations and What to Do About Them 157
9. Choosing Commitment 177
10. The Importance of Core Belief Systems: Judaism, Intermarriage, and Community 199
11. Atonement, Forgiveness, and the Restoration of Intimacy 221
12. Preserving and Protecting Friendship 245
13. Overcoming the Fear of Fun 257
14. Thou Shalt Enjoy Sex 265
15. Ancient Wisdom and Modern Insights 283
Notes 285
Resources 291
More Information on the PREP Approach 297
About the Authors 299
Index 301
