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Powerful tools for spreading peace in your community

Unfounded beliefs and hateful political and social divisions that can cascade into violence are threatening to pull the world apart. Responding to fear and aggression strategically and with compassion is vital if we are to push back against the politics of hate and live in greater safety and harmony.

But how to do it?

Are We Done Fighting? is brimming with the latest research, practical activities, and inspirational stories of success for cultivating inner change and spreading peace at the community level and beyond. Coverage includes:

  • An explanation of the different styles of conflict
  • Cognitive biases that help explain polarized and lose-lose positions
  • Practical methods and activities for changing our own and others'' minds
  • When punishment works and doesn''t, and how to encourage discipline in children without using violence
  • The skill of self-c

    Table of Contents

    Foreword by George Lakey
    About Quakers and the Author
    Introduction
    Using This Book
    Activity: Learning Contract or Journaling
    Activity: Your Values and a Special Person
    Activity: Your Strengths

    Section 1: Peace and Power
    1. What Peace is Not
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Group Ideas — What Peace is Not
    Example: Experience Changes Beliefs in Kenya

    2. Us and Others
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Transforming Bias

    3. Power-over
    Tips from This Chapter

    4. Power-with and Power-from- within
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Walk Around
    Activity: Find Your Power-from- within

    5. Process and Change
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Meeting an Unsympathetic Politician

    Section 2: Communication Skills
    6. Firm Belief
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Decision Making
    Activity: Our Position

    7. Treating Emotions with Care
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Making Connections

    8. Communication
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Rewording a Conflict
    Activity: Concentric Circles
    Questions for This First Concentric Circles Activity

    9. Conflict
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: What Would You Need?
    Example: Who Gets Recognized?

    Section 3: Violence and Interpersonal Peace
    10. Seeing Violence
    Tips from This Chapter

    11. What's Natural?
    Tips from This Chapter

    12. Safety
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Accepting Everyone
    Example: The Nashville Sit-ins

    13. When Hate Rises
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Violence
    Example: Sammy Rangel

    14. Violence in Social Change
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Elections in Idlib City
    Activity: Four Elements
    Activity: Follow the Leader

    15. Who Benefits?
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Mainstream and Margins

    16. Oppressors and Victims
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Pronouns
    Activity: What's Changed So Far?

    Section 4: Inner Peace
    17. Connection
    Tips from This Chapter

    18. Changing Ourselves
    Tips from This Chapter
    Activity: Kindness Meditation
    Activity: Gratitude

    Section 5: Structural Peace
    19. Who's Dreaming?
    Tips from This Chapter

    20. Just War, Just Peace, and Responsibility
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Healing and Rebuilding our Communities

    21. Unarmed Civilian Protection
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Bear Clan Patrol
    Activity: De-escalation on the Subway

    22. Mediation
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Concerned Citizens for Peace

    23. Peace Education
    Tips from This Chapter
    Example: Power-with the Smallest Children?
    Activity: Peacebuilding Dreams
    Activity: What is Peace?

    24. What Peace Is
    Tips from This Chapter

    Appendix 1: What We Mean by a Culture of Peacebuilding
    Appendix 2: The Basics of Facilitation
    Notes
    Index
    About New Society Publishers

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      Publication Date: Publication Date: 28/05/2019
      ISBN13: 9780865719088, 978-0865719088
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      Description

      Book Synopsis

      Powerful tools for spreading peace in your community

      Unfounded beliefs and hateful political and social divisions that can cascade into violence are threatening to pull the world apart. Responding to fear and aggression strategically and with compassion is vital if we are to push back against the politics of hate and live in greater safety and harmony.

      But how to do it?

      Are We Done Fighting? is brimming with the latest research, practical activities, and inspirational stories of success for cultivating inner change and spreading peace at the community level and beyond. Coverage includes:

      • An explanation of the different styles of conflict
      • Cognitive biases that help explain polarized and lose-lose positions
      • Practical methods and activities for changing our own and others'' minds
      • When punishment works and doesn''t, and how to encourage discipline in children without using violence
      • The skill of self-c

        Table of Contents

        Foreword by George Lakey
        About Quakers and the Author
        Introduction
        Using This Book
        Activity: Learning Contract or Journaling
        Activity: Your Values and a Special Person
        Activity: Your Strengths

        Section 1: Peace and Power
        1. What Peace is Not
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Group Ideas — What Peace is Not
        Example: Experience Changes Beliefs in Kenya

        2. Us and Others
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Transforming Bias

        3. Power-over
        Tips from This Chapter

        4. Power-with and Power-from- within
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Walk Around
        Activity: Find Your Power-from- within

        5. Process and Change
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Meeting an Unsympathetic Politician

        Section 2: Communication Skills
        6. Firm Belief
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Decision Making
        Activity: Our Position

        7. Treating Emotions with Care
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Making Connections

        8. Communication
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Rewording a Conflict
        Activity: Concentric Circles
        Questions for This First Concentric Circles Activity

        9. Conflict
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: What Would You Need?
        Example: Who Gets Recognized?

        Section 3: Violence and Interpersonal Peace
        10. Seeing Violence
        Tips from This Chapter

        11. What's Natural?
        Tips from This Chapter

        12. Safety
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Accepting Everyone
        Example: The Nashville Sit-ins

        13. When Hate Rises
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Violence
        Example: Sammy Rangel

        14. Violence in Social Change
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Elections in Idlib City
        Activity: Four Elements
        Activity: Follow the Leader

        15. Who Benefits?
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Mainstream and Margins

        16. Oppressors and Victims
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Pronouns
        Activity: What's Changed So Far?

        Section 4: Inner Peace
        17. Connection
        Tips from This Chapter

        18. Changing Ourselves
        Tips from This Chapter
        Activity: Kindness Meditation
        Activity: Gratitude

        Section 5: Structural Peace
        19. Who's Dreaming?
        Tips from This Chapter

        20. Just War, Just Peace, and Responsibility
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Healing and Rebuilding our Communities

        21. Unarmed Civilian Protection
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Bear Clan Patrol
        Activity: De-escalation on the Subway

        22. Mediation
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Concerned Citizens for Peace

        23. Peace Education
        Tips from This Chapter
        Example: Power-with the Smallest Children?
        Activity: Peacebuilding Dreams
        Activity: What is Peace?

        24. What Peace Is
        Tips from This Chapter

        Appendix 1: What We Mean by a Culture of Peacebuilding
        Appendix 2: The Basics of Facilitation
        Notes
        Index
        About New Society Publishers

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