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Book SynopsisOver the last 35 years, Steven C. Hayes and his colleagues have developed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with many hundreds of studies supporting the impact of his approach on everything from chronic pain to weight loss to prejudice and bigotry.A Liberated Mind is the summary of Steven’s life’s work which will teach readers how to live better, happier and more fulfilled lives by applying the six key processes of ACT. Put together these processes teach us to pivot: to “defuse” rather than fuse with our thoughts; to see life from a new perspective; and to discover our chosen values, those qualities of being that fuel meaning.Steve shares fascinating research results like how ACT techniques decreased typing errors on a clerical test or showed that positive affirmations actually increase negative emotion. And he weaves them with stories of clients and colleagues as well as his own riveting story of healing himself of a severe panic disorder, which is how the idea of psychological flexibility was born.A Liberated Mind is a powerful and important book about a new form of psychology, destined to become a modern classic of narrative psychology on par with Daring Greatly and Rising Strong by Brene Brown, or Carol Dweck’s Mindset.

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Book SynopsisEvery life-changing experience, be it the loss of a function, a job or a friendship, or the death of a loved one, can be excruciating. Illness can forever alter our life and our abilities. And what makes it even more challenging is that many other people might fail to understand how challenging our adjustment to normalcy might be. Because there is no normal in these experiences. How can there be?When people hear the word acceptance, they might assume that it means being OK with what happened in the past or with how things currently are. In fact, there is a difference between acceptance and feeling good about what happened - acceptance means allowing yourself to feel whatever emotions naturally come up in response to what you are going through. It means acknowledging the reality of the pain, even though in an ideal world, it shouldn''t be that way.This therapeutic and comforting self-help guide will help you: Give yourself the permission to griTrade Review'This extremely well written book grabs you from the first pages and walks you through the challenges of some of life's most painful moments. It addresses that core question that all of us fear, but may not even realise is there, looming over us, until life happens: what will we do when nothing we do will do. Here's the beginning of an answer: read this gentle, strong and very wise book' Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and author of A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters

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Book SynopsisSometimes it is difficult to identify and express our genuine gender identity. When we don't fit the ideal, the gender role, or the social script, we can feel trapped in ourselves. This "stuck" feeling is often reinforced by intrusive thoughts, mental rigidity, and self-judgement. Where do you even begin?Non-binary counselor, Alex Stitt, lays the foundations for addressing these feelings with reflective exercises and activities rooted in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) that help you understand what gender is, the spectrum of different gender identities, how to identify and accept your gender, coming out, self-actualization and much more.This interactive and humanizing workbook will help you identify your values so you can accept and embody what's most important to you in your gender exploration.Trade ReviewAccepting Gender is an amazing follow-up to ACT for Gender Identity, providing clear, grounded, and practical exercises for anyone exploring their gender identity, expression, or embodiment in the world. -- Matthew D. Skinta, Assistant Professor of Psychology, Roosevelt University, author of Contextual Behavior Therapy for Sexual and Gender Minority ClientsLife is a journey that asks you "Will I take me as I am?" This kind and gentle volume explores your ideas about gender while cultivating a posture of openness and curiosity about what it's like to be you. Well-written, sure-footed, and knowledgeable, it never encourages easy or quick answers at the expense of deeper questions. Instead, it validates and affirms the experiences of gender-explorative and gender-diverse people in a self-reflective and naturally nuanced and layered way. Based on the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy skills of psychological flexibility, it walks beside you as a kind of skilled and trusted mental tour guide, suggesting one creative exercise in self-exploration after another. And if you choose to disclose and act on what you learn, this book will keep walking with you through that part of the journey as well. I love this book. This is the place to start. -- Steven C. Hayes, PhD, Foundation Professor of Psychology, University of Nevada, Reno Originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and author of A Liberated Mind

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Book SynopsisIncreasingly adopted by therapists and mental health professionals, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps clients to cope with social, emotional and mental health issues by using the six core ACT processes: Acceptance, Cognitive Defusion, Being Present, the Self as Context, Values and Committed Action.This is the go-to-guide for evidence-based ACT techniques to be used by professionals to help their transgender, genderqueer, genderfluid, third gender and agender clients. It provides the tools to help these clients develop emotional processing skills they can implement throughout their life, from coping with mental health issues and substance abuse, to navigating prejudice and social pressure, to building a career and developing a family.Trade ReviewAlex Stitt has written a truly delightful, comprehensive, thoughtful, and engaging book about working with trans and nonbinary clients in therapy. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) - a mindfulness based approach - provides a meta framework for understanding gender, sexuality, and intersectional identities. I have learned so much from Alex Stitt's perspective, about the complexity of gender, the power of relational therapy, and of course, about ACT - a series of skills and techniques available to all clinicians, regardless of your background and training. The tone is deceptively casual, the language is decidedly queer, and the range of tools is broad and comprehensive. -- Arlene Lev, School of Social Welfare, University of Albany, Choices Counseling and Consulting, Author of Transgender Emergence: Therapeutic Guidelines for Working With Gender Variant People and Their FamiliesAlex Stitt has accomplished something wonderful; they have fully elaborated the relevance of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy to working with gender and gender identity. This book is grounded in cultural awareness of the needs of gender diverse clients with a strong unifying thread of respect for the agency and autonomy of transgender, genderfluid, and non-binary clients. -- Matthew D. Skinta, Ph.D., ABPP, Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer, Assistant Professor, Roosevelt University, Chicago, ILA courageous volume that leaves no issue unexamined in its goal of modifying and applying ACT to function as a gender affirmative therapy. Never condemning, and yet never avoidant, this book asks practitioners to look deeply within themselves and to embark on a values-based journey to create a space in which the full range of issues in gender identity, expression, and experience can be approached openly, competently, and compassionately. Moving, wise, and effective it rises to the challenge it sets for itself, and invites readers to do likewise.Highly recommended. -- Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Foundation Professor of Psychology, University of Nevada, Reno, Co-developer of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and author of A Liberated MindTable of ContentsIntroduction: Storm Cloud Butterflies. 1. Gender Affirmative ACT. 2 Awareness. 3. Acceptance. 4. Actualization. 5. Adaption: ACT for Transgender Mental Health. 6. Affirmation. 7. Epilogue: Of Moths & Meaning.

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Book SynopsisA psychologist confronts our pervasive misunderstanding of anxiety and presents a powerful new framework for reimagining and reclaiming the confounding emotion as the advantage it evolved to be.We are taught that anxiety is dangerous and damaging, and that the solution to its pain is to eradicate it like we do any disease. Yet cutting-edge therapies, hundreds of self-help books, and a panoply of medications have failed to keep debilitating anxiety at bay.That''s because the anxiety-as-disease story is false - and it''s harming us.In this radical reinterpretation, Dr Tracy Dennis-Tiwary distils the latest research in psychology and neuroscience, combined with real-world stories and personal narrative, to argue that the discomfort of anxiety is a tool, rather than something to be stamped out at all costs. Detailing the terrible cost of our misunderstanding of anxiety, while celebrating the lives of people who harness it to their advantage, FUTURE TENSE rTrade ReviewIf you're feeling more anxious than usual and, on top of that, feeling anxious about feeling anxious, then this book is for you. Anxiety, it turns out, is a feature, not a bug, of human nature. In FUTURE TENSE, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary offers a much-needed guide - based on years of scientific research and her personal clinical experience - to the emotion that is in some ways most easily misunderstood and, therefore, most undervalued. Clear, practical, and incredibly readable -- Angela DuckworthThis book is going to smash your existing views about anxiety - and replace them with more helpful ones. As an expert on the neuroscience of emotion, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary has delivered the riveting read we all need to help us learn to worry well instead of worrying less -- Adam GrantA powerful and deeply informed new voice in the important conversation around anxiety and its causes and effects. FUTURE TENSE offers knowledge, empathy, and clarity in these times when chronic emotional pain has been normalized. Framing how anxiety works in our favor is a revolutionizing shift in perspective -- Alanis MorissetteReading FUTURE TENSE is an epiphany; it will turn your understanding of anxiety on its head, and point you to new paths forward. It offers a long-overdue challenge to the medicalization and numbing of anxiety. Instead, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary encourages us to consider how to live and grow with anxiety, and find creativity in dealing with life's fundamental uncertainties. A wide conversation around this book is urgently needed for our anxious times -- Dacher Keltner, professor at UC Berkeley, author of AWE: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How it Can Transform Your LifeFUTURE TENSE teaches us - with incredible research and great storytelling - that counter to everything we've thought and been taught, anxiety, when understood and used wisely, is one of the most valuable emotions to help us achieve our dreams. If you're prone to anxiety like me or live or work with people who are anxious, this is a must read! -- Marc Brackett, director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and bestselling author of PERMISSION TO FEELFUTURE TENSE is groundbreaking. Filled with wisdom, compassion, and humor, it shatters our long-held assumptions and sets the stage for a new, hopeful way of understanding how to live - and thrive - with anxiety -- Reshma Saujani, CEO of the Marshall Plan for Moms and founder of Girls Who CodeOur minds classify anxiety as 'bad', but that very idea keeps anxiety from delivering its often useful messages about what's ahead. It's time for the whole culture to learn how to use anxiety when it's helpful and let it go when it's not, but that starts with learning what it is and how to feel it. This wise and well-written book will help. Highly recommended -- Steven C. Hayes, originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and author of A LIBERATED MIND

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Book Synopsis''Equal parts practical, funny and illuminating - belongs on the required reading list for life'' - Sarah Knight, internationally bestselling author of Get Your Sh!t TogetherAccessible and inspirational, The Unbreakable Student is the self-care guide that every university student needs.So, you''re starting university - you''ve learnt what to pack, where to socialise, how to cook (sort of)... but what about how to look after your mental health?University is a whirlwind of exciting, fresh experiences. But it can also be overwhelming. You''re in a strange new environment and faced with the pressure to make friends, complete difficult assignments, stay healthy, manage your finances and so much more, all while being away from your loved ones. In this time of massive change, looking after your mental wellbeing is more important than ever.Nic Hooper has witnessed the student mental health crisis unfolding every day on campus and iTrade Review'Nic Hooper has pulled off a neat trick for a professor, essentially creating a long-form lecture that remains engaging and informative to the very end. Equal parts practical, funny and illuminating, The Unbreakable Student belongs on the required reading list for life. Young people everywhere are lucky to have him, in person or on the page' - Sarah Knight, internationally bestselling author of Get Your Sh!t Together'One of the best self-help books I've ever read: wise, witty, (laugh-out-loud funny in places), compassionate - and above all, incredibly practical! Nic Hooper shows you how to effectively deal with the many trials and tribulations of student life; how to face up to your fears, frustrations and challenges; handle your stress and anxiety; take the power out of your inner critic; while building resilience and thriving along the way. I wish I'd had something like this in my student days; would have spared me years of suffering. Essential reading for every college student, of every type, everywhere in the world (as well as for their teachers and parents)' - Dr Russ Harris, internationally bestselling author of The Happiness Trap and ACT Made Simple'You have many things to learn as a University student but above all you need to learn the what and how of life: What is really needed to be successful as a person? And how will you become accomplished at those things? In a clear, concise and sure-footed way, this excellent book teaches you that what and how. If you learn nothing else in your time in the academy and yet learn what is in this book, you can count your years there well spent. Highly recommended' - Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D., Foundation Professor of Psychology, University of Nevada and author of A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters'For so many students, university is a time of self-doubt and challenge. This is a must-read guide on how to bring your best self forward, so you can truly thrive'- Susan David, Ph.D., Psychologist at Harvard Medical School and author of Emotional Agility'Going to university is a tumultuous time in any case, but this is doubly true when there's a pandemic happening. Hooper's new guide couldn't be timelier. Drawing on many years of relevant experience and training, it's a must for any student beginning this next stage of their life' - Dr Dean Burnett, neuroscientist and bestselling author of The Idiot Brain'Going to university is a fantastic opportunity that can transform students' lives, but we also know it throws up many new challenges. The Unbreakable Student is a very well-written and researched companion, with valuable tools, tips and techniques that will help students deal with these challenges and make the most of their journey. I would recommend it to all students studying at university - and to their parents too' - Professor Steven West, Vice Chancellor at the University of the West of England, and Chair of the Universities UK Mental Health in Higher Education Working Group'Nic's guide to staying sane at university is full of solid, sensible advice, delivered with a smile and a side helping of science. Nic doesn't just tell you what to do, he tells you why and gives you a whole range of ideas about how. In truth, I wish this book had existed for me to read during my own university adventure' - Dr Pooky Knightsmith, child and adolescent mental health expert'What a useful guide for students! It's raw, authentic, personal, soulful, entertaining and pragmatic. In my opinion, this is a must-have for young adults in higher education' - Dr Scott Barry Kaufman, author of Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization and host of The Psychology Podcast'Nic Hooper has written such a timely and powerful book! People in this stage of life may feel unseen, confused, overwhelmed and unsure about how to meet their emotional needs. Hooper understands this deeply, and provides them with identification, a caring voice and a road map to resilience and health' - Jonathan Hoban, psychotherapist and author of Walk With Your Wolf

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Book SynopsisWe all want to spark joy in our lives, and this attractive and practical guided journal takes you on a journey of inner discovery. You’ll learn to cultivate self-compassion, savour small pleasures, practice forgiveness, explore mindfulness, and express gratitude. Easy exercises, tips, writing prompts, and empowering quotations from top psychologists and other experts in the field will allow you to calm your mind, invigorate your spirit, and increase your sense of well-being. Inside you’ll discover how to: • Start showing yourself more love • Create a self-care first-aid kit for anxiety and stress • Keep worries away at night so you can enjoy more peaceful, sound sleep • Let go of lingering resentments, grudges, and pain • Apologise for any transgressions to find relief and peace at last • Forgive yourself with kindness • Discover your purpose to find meaning and take pride in a well-lived life • Explore mindfulness, quiet the chatter, and achieve peace • Appreciate your strengths So take a deep breath, savor the moment, and celebrate you.Trade Review“Jennifer King Lindley gives women permission to be happy and advice on how to treat ourselves compassionately – just like we do for the people around us. Find Your Joy reminds us how valuable the power of positive psychology is to our health. The exercises are as helpful as fresh air, exercise, and healthy eating are to a woman’s overall well-being.”—Beth Battaglino, RN, CEO of HealthyWomen“Find Your Joy invites us to take a break from the news, technology, and all the things that might serve to distract us from happiness and calm. This beautiful self-care journal is rich in advice, practices, and activities. It offers an opportunity to be immersed in chapters like: Befriend Yourself, Bask in Awe, and Be Here Now, all offering ways to assess our lives, our minds, and support discovery.” —Sharon Salzberg, New York Times bestselling author of Lovingkindness, Real Happiness, and Real Change "Jennifer King Lindley has figured out how to make improving your well-being fun. It's like a science-backed activity book for adults that will definitely spark joy!"—Amy Morin, author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do“A beautiful guided journal filled with inspiration, wisdom, and science-backed tips for living your best life! Packed with practical guidance and writing prompts to cultivate a positive mindset, this journal will uplift you and help you discover joy in the ordinary moments of your life. A must have for every bedside!”—Beth Kurland, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Dancing on the Tightrope: Transcending the Habits of Your Mind and Awakening to Your Fullest Life“Joy will not arrive unbidden, crashing through the door, and demanding to take up residence. Joy is here, waiting for you to see it, and to touch it. No one else can discover it for you. This charming book is full of gentle steps that turn up the light and sweep away the fog so you can find what is so close: the joy of being you.”—Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D. author of A Liberated Mind“Find your joy on a daily basis. As a self-professed Joy Champion, I have promoted this philosophy for years and considered it one of the best-kept secrets of happiness—until now. Jennifer King Lindley presents the latest psychological research, inspirational quotes, and practical worksheets for helping you to become your most joyful self. In the midst of a global pandemic and massive economic recession, this book couldn't come at a better time. We all need Lindley's tips to boost ourselves in the midst of such challenges, stay hopeful and motivated, resilient and positive.”—MeiMei Fox, New York Times bestselling author, Forbes contributor and life coach “In Find Your Joy, Jennifer King Lindley taps into the powers of mindfulness and positive psychology to deliver a beautiful and thought-provoking journal. It’s full of writing prompts, exercises, and relevant research that will inspire you to explore your thoughts and feelings and understand yourself better. If you’re stressed, self-critical, or feeling down and disconnected, this guided journal is bound to help you create a greater sense of calm, purpose, and joy in your life.”—Sharon Martin, LCSW, psychotherapist and author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism “When happy is hard to come by, this guided journal with writing prompts, actionable tips, and quotes from psychologists can help you get there. With chapters on compassion, self-talk, and forgiveness, Lindley covers the gamut on unblocking your road to bliss.” —Health Magazine

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Book SynopsisItâs hard to envision a life without some regrets.You imagine what might have been if you had taken a different path at some key juncture, whether about a past relationship, a missed job opportunity, or choosing where to live. Regret can be immobilizing, filling us with disappointment and shame--but it also can be a powerful tool for self-knowledge and change. In this uplifting guide, renowned psychologist Robert Leahy demonstrates how to make regret work to your advantage. Using cutting-edge skills based on cognitive-behavioral therapy, Dr. Leahy shows how to get unstuck from regret and make decisions with more clarity and confidence. Downloadable practical tools help you implement the strategies in the book. You are the author of your life, so go out and write the next chapter--and then live it.Trade Review"Our culture tells us to idolize those who live with no regrets, but we might as well celebrate those who put their fingers in their ears! We cannot learn from the past without facing our mistakes. This wise and well-written book will help you do exactly that--without getting tangled up in 'woulda, coulda, shoulda.'"--Steven C. Hayes, PhD, author of A Liberated Mind "Dr. Leahy took me on a sensitive and detailed exploration of my own regrets, hesitations, and difficulties with making decisions and evaluating risks. He shows how to liberate yourself from negativity and turn it into energy for growth. A thoroughly enjoyable book, laced with humor and very useful. I will refer back to it often."--David F., Dover-Foxcroft, Maine "Regret can defeat us—or it can be a platform for increasing courage, wisdom, and self-acceptance. In this easy-to-understand book, one of the world’s leading cognitive therapists skillfully guides us to come to terms with the setbacks and disappointments of life. Dr. Leahy combines his vast clinical experience with many clarifying examples. You won't regret reading this book!"--Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of The Compassionate Mind "This book is for you if you are haunted by regrets that keep you awake at night. Dr. Leahy helps you stop beating yourself up. Instead, he encourages you to make amends in the present and act differently in the future. I have found this book so helpful!"--Martin S., Oakland, California "Internationally acclaimed psychologist Robert Leahy unravels the mysteries of one of the most common--yet least understood--emotions. This book is uniquely innovative, insightful, clearheaded, and comprehensible. It is packed with examples and practical guidance that can transform regret from a debilitating state to a productive way of living."--David A. Clark, PhD, coauthor of The Anxiety and Worry Workbook "All too often, regret leads us down a negative spiral of thoughts and emotions. In this inviting book, Dr. Leahy presents strategies to use regret as a force for problem solving and change, rather than letting it disrupt your life."--Patricia A. Resick, PhD, ABPP, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Duke University "Dr. Leahy has done it again! This superb book provides answers to important questions. How do we deal with past decisions that come back to haunt us? When does regret hold us back and how can it help us move forward? I highly recommend this book. It just might change your life."--Stefan G. Hofmann, PhD, author of The Anxiety Skills Workbook "It is easy to oversimplify regret as a problem that only dampens our happiness. This highly readable book maps out a broader story. We can’t avoid regret entirely, but we can change the way we think about it. Dr. Leahy illuminates how regret comes about, how we can gain some control over it, and even how to harness it as a tool for learning and growth. Everybody has regrets—and everybody will find something useful in this book."--George A. Bonanno, PhD, author of The End of Trauma "We all find ourselves, at one time or another, experiencing regret. Too often, regret traps us in destructive self-loathing and cycles of rumination about 'what might have been.' Grounded in science, this brilliant book guides us on how regret can be a valuable tool for personal growth. Dr. Leahy, a psychologist and renowned author, weaves his extensive clinical experience with the science to gently and skillfully guide us through how we get stuck in regret and how to unstick ourselves. This wonderful guide, rich with real-life examples, is an invaluable resource for us all."--Allison G. Harvey, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of California, Berkeley "Dr. Leahy is a master clinician, and it shows. His writing on this timeless topic is both illuminating and useful. This book is not only a practical go-to for those struggling with regret, it is also a sage guide to life's problems in general."--Thomas E. Joiner, PhD, The Robert O. Lawton Distinguished Professor of Psychology, Florida State University-It is fantastic, and I love it!...This book…is a tour de force and a highly charming read….The book is written for a broad audience and would be readily appreciated by any layperson, friend, colleague, or patient. In addition to being an excellent review of the phenomenon of regrets, it is also a distillation of Leahy's unmatched knowledge of cognitive behavior therapy. It presents a theory that is modern, integrative, and, most importantly, full of heart….My favorite part of the book is that while it is educative, it is also focused on taking action and making change….This book would be helpful both for people who are currently having difficulty making decisions for fear of regret or individuals who are struggling with challenges related to past regrets. I can already think of several folks in my caseload who would benefit from this book, and I am so happy that Leahy wrote it. I would highly recommend this book, definitely check it out.--Advances in Cognitive Therapy Newsletter, 06/08/2022Table of ContentsIntroduction Step 1. Understand Regret 1. What Is Regret? 2. How Regret Works Step 2. Learn to Make Good Decisions 3. What Assumptions Drive Your Decisions and Feed Your Regret? 4. How Do You Perceive Risk? 5. Does Anticipating Regret Lead You to Action or Inaction? 6. Making a Choice Step 3. Make Regret Work for You 7. Coping Effectively with Disappointing Outcomes 8. Stepping Away from Rumination 9. Learning from Guilt 10. Using Productive Regret A Final Word. Looking Back While Looking Ahead Resources References Index

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Book SynopsisItâs hard to envision a life without some regrets.You imagine what might have been if you had taken a different path at some key juncture, whether about a past relationship, a missed job opportunity, or choosing where to live. Regret can be immobilizing, filling us with disappointment and shame--but it also can be a powerful tool for self-knowledge and change. In this uplifting guide, renowned psychologist Robert Leahy demonstrates how to make regret work to your advantage. Using cutting-edge skills based on cognitive-behavioral therapy, Dr. Leahy shows how to get unstuck from regret and make decisions with more clarity and confidence. Downloadable practical tools help you implement the strategies in the book. You are the author of your life, so go out and write the next chapter--and then live it.Trade Review"Our culture tells us to idolize those who live with no regrets, but we might as well celebrate those who put their fingers in their ears! We cannot learn from the past without facing our mistakes. This wise and well-written book will help you do exactly that--without getting tangled up in 'woulda, coulda, shoulda.'"--Steven C. Hayes, PhD, author of A Liberated Mind "Dr. Leahy took me on a sensitive and detailed exploration of my own regrets, hesitations, and difficulties with making decisions and evaluating risks. He shows how to liberate yourself from negativity and turn it into energy for growth. A thoroughly enjoyable book, laced with humor and very useful. I will refer back to it often."--David F., Dover-Foxcroft, Maine "Regret can defeat us—or it can be a platform for increasing courage, wisdom, and self-acceptance. In this easy-to-understand book, one of the world’s leading cognitive therapists skillfully guides us to come to terms with the setbacks and disappointments of life. Dr. Leahy combines his vast clinical experience with many clarifying examples. You won't regret reading this book!"--Paul Gilbert, PhD, FBPsS, OBE, author of The Compassionate Mind "This book is for you if you are haunted by regrets that keep you awake at night. Dr. Leahy helps you stop beating yourself up. Instead, he encourages you to make amends in the present and act differently in the future. I have found this book so helpful!"--Martin S., Oakland, California "Internationally acclaimed psychologist Robert Leahy unravels the mysteries of one of the most common--yet least understood--emotions. This book is uniquely innovative, insightful, clearheaded, and comprehensible. It is packed with examples and practical guidance that can transform regret from a debilitating state to a productive way of living."--David A. Clark, PhD, coauthor of The Anxiety and Worry Workbook "All too often, regret leads us down a negative spiral of thoughts and emotions. In this inviting book, Dr. Leahy presents strategies to use regret as a force for problem solving and change, rather than letting it disrupt your life."--Patricia A. Resick, PhD, ABPP, Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Duke University "Dr. Leahy has done it again! This superb book provides answers to important questions. How do we deal with past decisions that come back to haunt us? When does regret hold us back and how can it help us move forward? I highly recommend this book. It just might change your life."--Stefan G. Hofmann, PhD, author of The Anxiety Skills Workbook "It is easy to oversimplify regret as a problem that only dampens our happiness. This highly readable book maps out a broader story. We can’t avoid regret entirely, but we can change the way we think about it. Dr. Leahy illuminates how regret comes about, how we can gain some control over it, and even how to harness it as a tool for learning and growth. Everybody has regrets—and everybody will find something useful in this book."--George A. Bonanno, PhD, author of The End of Trauma "We all find ourselves, at one time or another, experiencing regret. Too often, regret traps us in destructive self-loathing and cycles of rumination about 'what might have been.' Grounded in science, this brilliant book guides us on how regret can be a valuable tool for personal growth. Dr. Leahy, a psychologist and renowned author, weaves his extensive clinical experience with the science to gently and skillfully guide us through how we get stuck in regret and how to unstick ourselves. This wonderful guide, rich with real-life examples, is an invaluable resource for us all."--Allison G. Harvey, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of California, Berkeley "Dr. Leahy is a master clinician, and it shows. His writing on this timeless topic is both illuminating and useful. This book is not only a practical go-to for those struggling with regret, it is also a sage guide to life's problems in general."--Thomas E. Joiner, PhD, The Robert O. Lawton Distinguished Professor of Psychology, Florida State University-It is fantastic, and I love it!...This book…is a tour de force and a highly charming read….The book is written for a broad audience and would be readily appreciated by any layperson, friend, colleague, or patient. In addition to being an excellent review of the phenomenon of regrets, it is also a distillation of Leahy's unmatched knowledge of cognitive behavior therapy. It presents a theory that is modern, integrative, and, most importantly, full of heart….My favorite part of the book is that while it is educative, it is also focused on taking action and making change….This book would be helpful both for people who are currently having difficulty making decisions for fear of regret or individuals who are struggling with challenges related to past regrets. I can already think of several folks in my caseload who would benefit from this book, and I am so happy that Leahy wrote it. I would highly recommend this book, definitely check it out.--Advances in Cognitive Therapy Newsletter, 06/08/2022Table of ContentsIntroduction Step 1. Understand Regret 1. What Is Regret? 2. How Regret Works Step 2. Learn to Make Good Decisions 3. What Assumptions Drive Your Decisions and Feed Your Regret? 4. How Do You Perceive Risk? 5. Does Anticipating Regret Lead You to Action or Inaction? 6. Making a Choice Step 3. Make Regret Work for You 7. Coping Effectively with Disappointing Outcomes 8. Stepping Away from Rumination 9. Learning from Guilt 10. Using Productive Regret A Final Word. Looking Back While Looking Ahead Resources References Index

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Book SynopsisThis book introduces an approach to mental health that dates back 3,000 years to an ancient body of Jewish spiritual wisdom. Known as the Connections Paradigm, the millennia-old method has been empirically shown to alleviate symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression. After being passed down from generation to generation and tested in clinical settings with private clients, it is presented to a broad audience for the first time. The idea behind the paradigm is that at any given moment, human beings are either “connected” or “disconnected” across three key relationships. To be “connected” means to be in a loving, harmonious, and fulfilling relationship; to be “disconnected” means, of course, the opposite. The three relationships are those between our souls and our bodies, ourselves and others, and ourselves and God. These relationships are hierarchal; each depends on the one that precedes it. This means that we can only connect with God to the extent that we associate with others, and we cannot connect with others if we don’t connect with ourselves. The author, Dr. David H. Rosmarin, devotes a section to each relationship and describes techniques and practices to become a more connected individual. He also brings in compelling stories from his clinical practice to show the process in action. Whether you’re a clinician working with clients, or a person seeking the healing balm of wisdom; whether you’re a member of the Jewish faith, or a person open to new spiritual perspectives, you will find this book sensible, practical, and timely because, for all of us, connection leads to mental health.Trade Review “A leading voice in the psychology of religion and its application to mental health problems, Dr. Rosmarin has given faith-based providers an entirely new language for intertwining spiritual, interpersonal, and mental health domains in the interests of clinical care. This innovative volume shows how ancient Jewish teachings on the relation of body and soul can be combined with a broad array of modern evidence-based approaches to psychological care, from exposure to experiential acceptance, from nutrition to interpersonal compassion. There is a significant body of science showing that embedding evidence-based intervention into a spiritual journey is a powerful combination for people of faith. Still, providers need a more general approach that stands one step above the details of particular religious commitments. Filled with clinical examples, this book radiates kindness and empathic concern, and its use of ‘body and soul’ could be effective with a wide range of people of faith.” —Steven C. Hayes, PhD, Originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, author of A Liberated Mind, and Foundation Professor of Psychology, University of Nevada, Reno “Dr. Rosmarin has done a great mental health service for the general public. With so many today beset by anxiety and depression and tiring of modern answers that feel superficial, The Connections Paradigm offers a profound, centuries-old method to relieve mental distress, enhance life’s most important relationships, and achieve genuine peace of mind.” —Harold G. Koenig, MD, professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences, Duke University Health Systems, and director of the Duke Center for Spirituality, Theology, and Health “The Connections Paradigm is not only timely but Dr. David Rosmarin’s careful attention to its rich traditionands practical relevance for each of us is a gift. I am truly grateful for how well he unpacks these three critical forms of connection—Inner Connection, Interpersonal Connection, and Spiritual Connection—with such clarity alongside the relatable stories he weaves throughout this book!” —Holly K. Oxhandler, PhD, LMSW, associate professor of social work and associate dean for research faculty development, Baylor University’s Diana R. Garland School of Social Work “Infused with the warmth and wisdom of Judaism, this book offers a deeply thoughtful psychological and spiritual guide for those seeking greater connectedness within themselves, with others, and with God. Using poignant stories from his clinical practice, Rosmarin illustrates how a ‘connections paradigm’ can foster transformations among people facing the full range of psychological problems. This book will deepen the practice of many providers and the lives of many clients.” —Kenneth I. Pargament, PhD, professor emeritus, department of psychology, Bowling Green State University, author of Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy “David Rosmarin has compiled a thoughtful and relatable guide to help us reconnect with our body and soul. He shares practical instructions supported by theory, case studies,s, and ancient Jewish spiritual teachings to show that we can live more fully when we are truly connected to all our parts. The Connections Paradigm is good for the body, mind, and soul.” —Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Change “Jung famously claimed that every patient he treated over age thirty-five needed in the end to find a spiritual outlook on life. In The Connections Paradigm, mental and spiritual health are beautifully intertwined, and Jewish wisdom becomes a stabilizing and uplifting force in an often dark and confusing world.” —Rabbi David Wolpe, Max Webb Senior Rabbi, Sinai Temple “Written in a lucid and graceful style and full of applicable case studies, this book is an authoritative statement on the importance of spirituality in mental health. I highly recommend The Connection Paradigm either as a self-help guide or as a blueprint for interventions by mental health professionals. The cure for human suffering lies in healing the brokenness in a divided self, conflict in relationships, and separation from God.” —Paul T. P. Wong, PhD., C.Psych, president of the International Network on Personal Meaning Table of Contents Introduction / 1 CHAPTER 1 Introduction to Inner Connection: Body and Soul / 13 CHAPTER 2 Inner Connection Part I: Accepting the Soul’s Guidance / 35 CHAPTER 3 Inner Connection Part II: Loving the Body and Providing for Its Needs / 51 CHAPTER 4 Inner Connection Part III: Expressing Needs and Raising Issues to the Soul / 64 CHAPTER 5 Inner Connection Part IV: Tolerating the Body’s Idiosyncrasies with Love and Patience / 78 CHAPTER 6 Introduction to Interpersonal Connection / 92 CHAPTER 7 Interpersonal Connection Part I: Three Levels of Noticing the Needs of Others / 108 CHAPTER 8 Interpersonal Connection Part II: Providing for the Needs of Others / 121 CHAPTER 9 Interpersonal Connection Part III: Noticing Our Disconnection from Others / 135 CHAPTER 10 Interpersonal Connection Part IV: Remaining Connected to Others / 147 CHAPTER 11 Introduction to Spiritual Connection / 159 CHAPTER 12 Spiritual Connection Part I: Recognizing Our Limited Scope of Control / 171 CHAPTER 13 Spiritual Connection Part II: Recognizing God’s Order and Design in the World / 188 CHAPTER 14 Spiritual Connection Part III: Developing a Godly Vision / 202 CHAPTER 15 Spiritual Connection Part IV: Exerting Heroic Efforts for God / 219 Conclusion / 235 Acknowledgments / 251

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Book Synopsis''What a masterpiece! Maslow 2.0 - a must-read. I loved it!'' ANGELA DUCKWORTH''This is the book we''ve all been waiting for'' SUSAN CAIN''Transcend [...] shows us how we can all achieve the kind of life we aspire to'' LORI GOTTLIEB''A major advance in psychology'' AARON T. BECK''Scott Barry Kaufman is one of my favorite thinkers about the psychology of getting better and growing as a person'' RYAN HOLIDAYRealise your full potential and live your most creative life.When psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman first discovered Maslow''s unfinished theory of transcendence, he felt a deep resonance with his own work and life. In Transcend, Kaufman picks up where Maslow left off, unravelling the mysteries of his unfinished theory, and integrating them with the latest research on attachment, connection, creativity, love, purpose and other building blocks of a life well-lived.Kaufman''s new hTrade ReviewWhat a masterpiece! Maslow 2.0-a must-read for anyone who wants to understand what Maslow meant by self-transcendence. Part biography, part treatise, part how-to guide . . . I loved it! * Angela Duckworth, professor of psychology, University of Pennsylvania; CEO and founder of Character Lab; and 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Grit' *This is the book we've all been waiting for - nothing less than a breathtaking new psy­chology of humanity. Kaufman will show you how to live your life to the fullest, and in the service of others - all at the same time. * Susan Cain, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Quiet' *The concept of self-actualization and the transcendent values, which include justice, beauty, meaningfulness, and wholeness, provide a blueprint for a better world. This very well-written volume not only captures Maslow's work but infuses it with the spirit of inspiration. This book is a major advance in psychology. * Aaron T. Beck, M.D., professor emeritus of psychiatry, University of Pennsylvania *As a pioneer of humanistic psychology, Maslow is frequently referenced but rarely un­derstood. Scott Barry Kaufman is here to change that. He does a first-rate job restoring the classic pyramid based on Maslow's own revisions and updating self-actualization in light of contemporary science. * Adam Grant, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Originals' and 'Give and Take', and host of the 'WorkLife' podcast *In this book Kaufman studies the legacy of Abraham Maslow's life's work in humanistic psychology and expands on this with his own insights and studies. The book gives us a path to self-actualization, to becoming the best person we can possibly become. In the process we discover we do this connected to others and all reality. * Sharon Salzberg, author of 'Lovingkindness' and 'Real Happiness' *Transcend is rich, deep, and brilliant, a pleasure to read. Scott Barry Kaufman is the new generation's leading voice in humanistic psychology, a modern-day Abraham Maslow. Updating Maslow's hierarchy of needs with modern psychology research, Transcend will help readers embark upon a journey to the upper reaches of their potential. * Emily Esfahani Smith, author of 'The Power of Meaning' *This splendid book is a twofer. It's a retelling of the life of Abraham Maslow woven through an insightful updating of Maslow's theory. * Martin Seligman, director, Positive Psychology Center, University of Pennsylvania, and author of 'The Hope Circuit' *Transcend is a wonderful revival and update of a beloved classic psychological model, as well as a loving ode to its originator. A brilliant assemblage of our current understand­ing of psychological well-being. * Mark Manson, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck' *Mastery in whatever field is an important goal to aspire to, but in these times, when people are experiencing depression and emptiness at an epidemic level, transcendence is an even more critical goal. Scott Barry Kaufman manages to integrate more than seventy-five years of research on the subject to show that the only way to fully self-actualize is, paradoxically, by getting outside of one's self. This is one of the best books on human potential I've ever read. * Robert Greene, author of 'The Laws of Human Nature' *In this ambitious work, Scott Barry Kaufman not only excavates the unfinished ele­ments of Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs, but updates and extends it with the latest science. Transcend is a compass for a life well lived. * David Epstein, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Range' *Scott Barry Kaufman is one of my favorite thinkers about the psychology of getting better and growing as a person. * Ryan Holiday, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Stillness Is the Key' *Both personal and universal, deep and engaging, easy to follow and mind-shifting, Transcend gives us a new understanding of Maslow's famous self-actualization model and shows us how we can all achieve the kind of life we aspire to. * Lori Gottlieb, 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone' *In an age focused on materialism and self-obsession, Kaufman boldly addresses the sci­ence of our deepest, most unanswered needs: connection, meaning, love, transcendence, and self-realization. A revolutionary book destined to become a classic. * Emma Seppälä, Ph.D., author of 'The Happiness Track', and science director, Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, Stanford University *Many of the substantive issues humanistic psychology fought for in the middle part of the last century are now at the very core of modern psychology, regardless of your ap­proach or orientation. It is especially timely to revisit the work of one of the greatest humanists of all time, Abraham Maslow, and to update his insights based on the half a century of data that have accumulated since his death. Scott Barry Kaufman has done just that in this wide-ranging and delightful book. * Steven C. Hayes, codeveloper of acceptance and commitment therapy and author of 'A Liberated Mind' *In this wise, creative, surprising, and exceedingly humane book, Scott Barry Kaufman provides a hierarchy of needs for the modern world, blending the insights of humanistic psychology with the finding of cutting-edge science. * Paul Bloom, Brooks and Suzanne Ragen Professor of Psychology, Yale University, and author of 'Against Empathy' *Scott Barry Kaufman revivifies the wisdom of humanistic psychology for a new millen­nium. He does it with evidence and discernment, without turning the world into a nail. * Steven Pinker, professor of psychology, Harvard University, and 'New York Times'–bestselling author of 'Enlightenment Now' *Synthesizing Maslow's wisdom with modern research, Scott Barry Kaufman takes our understanding of the good life to higher planes. Maslow would have been proud! * Tal Ben-Shahar, cofounder of the Happiness Studies Academy *There are many books about happiness. There are fewer about living a good life-not a fixed state of being, but an ongoing process that encourages creativity, challenge, and meaning. Transcend is such a book: original, grounded in modern research, and thor­oughly practical. * Sean Carroll, author of 'Something Deeply Hidden: Quantum Worlds and the Emergence of Spacetime' *Drawing on a vast range of source material, Kaufman has singlehandedly helped to reposition Maslow and humanistic psychology from the periphery to the center of mainstream psychological inquiry. A scientifically grounded, splendidly accessible road map for the spiritual and philosophical uplift of our field. * Kirk Schneider, Ph.D., author of 'The Spirituality of Awe' *Reading Transcend would bring a broad smile to Maslow's face and maybe even a shout of 'Someone finally gets it.' Often he spoke in our seminars at Brandeis of his frustration that so few understood his work. Scott Barry Kaufman not only shows a rare and pro­found understanding of Maslow's ideas but, for the first time in fifty years, expands our knowledge of Maslow's core concepts. This book is worthy of being in every thinking person's library and being read more than once. * L. Ari Kopolow, M.D., clinical assistant professor of psychiatry, George Washington University; president emeritus, Suburban Maryland Psychiatric Society; and former student of Abraham Maslow *This is one of the most comprehensive books on what psychology has to say about the path to personal fulfillment. I walked away with a new, sophisticated lens for viewing the motivations behind my actions. I suspect readers will be equally enlightened. * Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., professor of psychology, George Mason University, and author of 'The Upside of Your Dark Side' *With wisdom from many fields, and paths and principles to live, this book will enable you to rise to the greatest challenge of our times: to arrive at a new sense of ourselves that is kinder, more inclusive, and oriented to creating a better world. This is a pro­foundly important and timely book. * Dacher Keltner, professor of psychology, University of California, Berkeley *

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