{"product_id":"your-divorce-advisor-9780684870687","title":"Your Divorce Advisor","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSynopsis coming soon.......\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eJanet Johnston Executive Director, Judith Wallerstein Center for the Family in Transition, and author of \u003ci\u003eIn the Name of the Child\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003e Your Divorce Advisor\u003c\/i\u003e, written by a seasoned lawyer-and-psychologist team, is a gem of a guidebook that empowers divorcing adults to take control of their own divorce -- legally, financially, and emotionally. It walks the reader through the divorce process, step by step. Vital information about financial matters and state-of-the-art research about the needs of children allow the reader to make constructive decisions for themselves and for their children, setting them on the pathway toward solutions that work for everybody involved. All of this is presented in a manner that is compassionate, sensible, and most comforting.\u003cbr\u003eNancy Dunnan author of \u003ci\u003eDunnan's Guide to Your Investments, 2001\u003c\/i\u003e We know that divorce creates problems -- for the couple, their children, their family, their friends....Mercer and Pruett have done something other experts have failed to do: They have created rock-solid solutions based on their recognition that financial and legal decisions are inextricably influenced, even governed, by emotional feelings. The result: They offer a rare combination of legal, emotional, personal, and financial advice that makes this guidebook must reading, not only for anyone going through divorce but also for anyone knowing someone who is.\u003cbr\u003eForrest S. Mosten President, Mosten Mediation Centers \u003ci\u003eYour Divorce Advisor\u003c\/i\u003e brilliantly and compassionately deals with the common challenges facing anyone going through a divorce. If your marriage is in trouble, you should buy \u003ci\u003eYour Divorce Advisor\u003c\/i\u003e before you hire a lawyer. Lawyers and therapists should recommend \u003ci\u003eYour Divorce Advisor\u003c\/i\u003e before the very first client meeting.\u003cbr\u003eLouis Parley author of \u003ci\u003eThe Ethical Family Lawyer\u003c\/i\u003e \u003ci\u003eYour Divorce Advisor\u003c\/i\u003e is the most comprehensive divorce book on the market. It covers the legal issues extensively and is the only book to also tell you what you can expect to feel along the way. It offers an invaluable strategy for coping with the emotional demands of divorce, and has the best advice on talking with your kids about the divorce that I've read anywhere. It is the one book I will recommend to my divorcing clients.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eContents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eForeword\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 1: The Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA View from the Summit\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBeginning at the End\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eOverview of the Legal Process of Divorce\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEmotional Guideposts for Divorce\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 2: Planning For Success: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYour Success Depends on the Path You Choose\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe First Steps\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Start the Legal Process?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Could This Be Happening to Our Family?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhy Are My Feelings So Complicated?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Will My Family and Friends Think About Me?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe Next Steps\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Should I Do Before Leaving?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If I Can't Mobilize Myself to Do \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThis Planning?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 3: Making the Initial Decisions: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCharting Your Own Course\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are My Legal Options for Ending a Relationship?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are My Options for Divorce Representation?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Find, Choose, and Use a Mediator?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Find, Choose, and Use a Lawyer?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eEmotional Ramifications of Early Legal Decisions\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Handle the Conflicts That Arise Between Us as We Prepare to Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 4: Steps to Success: Taking one Hill at a Time\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eFiling for Divorce\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDoes It Make a Difference Who Files First?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePreparing Your Spouse to Receive Divorce Papers\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eArranging for Service of the Papers\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Mandatory Waiting Period\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eStaying in or Leaving the House\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Legal Issues We Must Settle During the Waiting Period and Prior to Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAlimony\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eProperty Division\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePersonal Property in All Jurisdictions\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAssets\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do We Use Our Assets for Mutual Benefit?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Should We Do About Our House?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTax Considerations\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFault\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWill Fault Issues in the Divorce Impact Asset and Property Division Even in \"No-Fault\" Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf Fault Rarely Affects Asset and Property Distribution in Court, What Role Does Fault Play in the Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Will Be Happening Between My Spouse and Me During This Time?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eNegotiating with Your Spouse: Skills and Tips\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Manage My Anxiety During This Time?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If I Have Sex with My Spouse?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If I Want to Date Someone New?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Do I Do If I Want to Have a Calmer, Friendlier Divorce but My Lawyer Has Advised Me to Be Tougher?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 5: Evidence and Pretrial Procedures: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eYou Can Never Be Too Prepared\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePutting the Evidence Together\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDiscovery: Releases, Interrogatories, Depositions, \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eand Subpoenas\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHidden Income\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePersonal and Fault Issues\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Standard Pretrial Procedures?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eCourt-Sponsored Settlement Conferences\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow to Use Pretrial Process\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen and Why Should I Go to Trial?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eEffecting a Settlement\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 6: Trials: Taking the Long, Hard Route\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCourt Intervention\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Is the Procedure in a Trial?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Counts as Evidence?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Documents Are Needed by the Court?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Can I Do Much of the Work Myself and Save the \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLawyer's Fees?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Kinds of Witnesses Should I Consider?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Kinds of Discovery Can Be Used at Trial as \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEvidence?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Prepare for the Financial Part of the Trial?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf I Did Something Along the Way That May Hurt My Case, Should I Lie About It?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If My Spouse Is Lying?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Am I Likely to Be Feeling During the Trial?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 7: Taking Care of Myself and My Children:\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Not to Get Lost\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Decision to Separate\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do We Tell the Children?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Will My Children Feel and React?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Can I Best Help My Children During This Early Stage of Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWill My Children Be Okay in a Divorced Family?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 8: Legal and Residential Arrangements: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFinding Familiar Paths For Your Family\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are Our Legal Options for \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRaising Our Children After Divorce?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eShared Parenting (Co-parenting) Versus Custody\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Benefits and Drawbacks of Shared \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eParenting?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDo Children Fare Better in Shared Parenting Schedules Than in More Traditional Custody Situations?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eDeveloping a Schedule for Living Arrangements\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Most Common Living Arrangements and Schedules Adopted by Divorcing Parents?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAre There Alternatives to the Typical Shared Parenting \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePlans?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are Recommended Schedules for Children of \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDifferent Ages?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eCommon Misconceptions in Thinking About Shared \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eParenting\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Necessary Elements of a Parenting Plan?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If We Can't Agree?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Do I Do If My Child Doesn't Want to Visit?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCan I Relocate?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eWhere Child Support Fits In\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are Child Support Guidelines?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChild Support Versus Custody as a Financial Decision\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhere Child Support Is Spent\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 9: Contested Custody Cases: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHazardous Territory and Loose Footing\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen to Consider a Custody Battle\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTelling Your Children About Why You Are Involved \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ein a Court Battle\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThe Special Features of a Contested Custody Case\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEvaluations of the Child and Family\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Is an Evaluator Chosen?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Happens in an Evaluation?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Are the Criteria Considered in an Evaluation?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eHow Can I Maximize My Chances of Attaining a \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSuccessful Outcome?\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Does the Court Use Evaluation Recommendations?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn the Event of a Trial\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Help My Children at This Stage?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Do I Do If I Think My Spouse Has Turned the Children Against Me?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 10: Domestic Violence and Other Forms of Abuse: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen the Route Is Really Dangerous\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eDefinitions of Violence\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePatterns of Abusive Relationships\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSetting Clear Boundaries for Yourself and Your Children\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen Your Children Are Involved and Affected\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If My Child Has Witnessed the Violence?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAssessing and Acting When You Are at Risk\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Recognize Whether I Am at Risk for My Partner's Abuse or Escalating Violence?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Do I Do First?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Constitutes an Abusive Relationship as Far as the Court Is Concerned?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTypes of Protection Afforded by Law: Restraining Orders and Orders \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eof Protection\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Should I Prepare to Successfully Obtain a Temporary Restraining Order?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Enforce the Orders with My Spouse?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eBoth Men and Women Can Qualify for a Restraining Order\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat the Order Can and Cannot Do for You\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eChildren's Involvement in the Legal Process\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If My Child Is the One Being Abused?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eShould Any Child Involved in a Violent Family Be Forbidden to See the Offending Parent?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat If My Children Don't See It My Way?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eEmotional Blackmail of Children\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eAbduction\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 11: Life After Divorce: \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen the Horizon Beckons Anew\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFollow-Up Tasks\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eTo-Do List\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eObtain a Certified Copy of Your Final Judgment\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCredit Issues\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHealth Insurance\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eSocial Security\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eRecord Keeping\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat Kinds of Changes May Need to Be Made in \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003ethe Future?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eIf You Do Not Have Children\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIf You Have Children\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEnforcement of Orders\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eEmbarking on Your New Life\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Can I Re-create the Healthiest Life for Myself and \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eMy Children?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Handle Disciplining My Children?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhat About My Own Dating and Sex Life?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eHow Do I Establish New Family Traditions?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWill I Ever Be Free of the Court's Reach?\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003ePersonal Assessment\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eChapter 12: Conclusions: At the Summit\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eAppendix\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eResources\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eReferences\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIndex\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e","brand":"Simon \u0026 Schuster","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49526088892759,"sku":"9780684870687","price":14.44,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9780684870687.jpg?v=1731862874","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/your-divorce-advisor-9780684870687","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}