{"product_id":"why-love-hurts-9780745661520","title":"Why Love Hurts","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFew of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we''re abandoned by a lover, engaging in Sisyphean internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. \u003cp\u003eDespite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual''s erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose o\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWinner of the 2014 ASA 'Sociology of Emotions Recent Contribution Award\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"A bold, thought-provoking book.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eTimes Higher Education\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"An important book … full of arresting ideas about love in our time\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eLos Angeles Review of Books\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"A significant achievement, a major analysis of love and an important contribution to sociology. It deserves to have a wide readership wherever love is.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eThe Australian\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"A valuable and much needed contribution to the Western discussion of how emotions and capitalism influence each other.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eKULT_Online\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"An insightful attempt at tackling the timely and difficult question of the relationship between romantic suffering and (post)modernity.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eFWSA Blog\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"Illouz interrogates the travails of modern love and charts a course through the emotional geography of contemporary feeling … [This book] will surely prove to make a valuable contribution as an addition to student reading lists, both for the ideas that it puts forward and for the lively debate and heart-felt discussion that it will generate among both women and men.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eLSE Review of Books\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"Like any sociologist worth her salt, Illouz pushes readers to consider how our experience of love might largely be created by the kind of society we live in. Tracing a sort of history of emotions through archives and literature since the Regency era, she argues that in earlier times people’s feelings about love and sentiment were quite different from those we take as self-evident ... It is not our own fault love hurts, Illouz tells us; it is inherent to our modern condition.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003eInside Story\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003cbr\u003e \"\u003ci\u003eWhy Love Hurts\u003c\/i\u003e is a tour de force, a thrilling read. Unseating the primacy of individual psychology as the reigning explanation for the travails of modern love, and demonstrating the profoundly social nature of our most intimate feelings, Eva Illouz etches a whole new emotional atlas.\"\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Laura Kipnis, Northwestern University, and author of \u003ci\u003eAgainst Love: A Polemic\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Eva Illouz's \u003ci\u003eWhy Love Hurts\u003c\/i\u003e is brilliant - the indispensable book on the social power and meaning of sex and love. And with a bonus: it cuts to the core of the modern emotional condition, all told.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eTodd Gitlin, Columbia University\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Eva Illouz's enormous talent to interpret vast empirical material from interviews, statistics, magazines, and novels with sociological imagination and philosophical understanding leads to striking and well-grounded results, such as the increasingly important role of sexiness and physical attraction in choosing mates. A milestone in the investigation of changing patterns of love and marriage.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eAxel Honneth, University of Frankfurt and Columbia University\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"In this bold and ground-breaking book Eva Illouz argues that there is something qualitatively new in the modern experience of romantic suffering. Readers may not agree with all of Illouz's hypotheses, but none will fail to be provoked by them - and in so doing be forced to challenge their own assumptions about love and modern life itself.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003eSusan Neiman, Director of the Einstein Forum and author of \u003ci\u003eMoral Clarity: A Guide for Grownup Idealists\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"Recently named one of the most important thinkers of the future by German newspaper \u003ci\u003eDie Zeit\u003c\/i\u003e, Illouz could very well be the twenty-first century's next great public intellectual.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eGuernica: A Magazine of Art \u0026amp; Politics\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e\"No one will be able to discuss love without referring to this book.\"\u003cbr\u003e \u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003eDie Zeit\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments vii\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e1 Introduction: The Misery of Love 1\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e2 The Great Transformation of Love or the Emergence of Marriage Markets 18\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e3 Commitment Phobia and the New Architecture of Romantic Choice (with Mattan Shachak) 59\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e4 The Demand for Recognition: Love and the Vulnerability of the Self 109\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e5 Love, Reason, Irony 156\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e6 From Romantic Fantasy to Disappointment 198\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003e7 Epilogue 238\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eNotes 249\u003c\/p\u003e \u003cp\u003eIndex 282\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"John Wiley and Sons Ltd","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49404407611735,"sku":"9780745661520","price":54.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9780745661520.jpg?v=1730486375","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/why-love-hurts-9780745661520","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}