{"product_id":"when-getting-along-is-not-enough-reconstructing-race-in-our-lives-and-relationships-9780807763377","title":"When Getting Along Is Not Enough  Reconstructing Race in Our Lives and Relationships","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eUsing anecdotes from her practice as a licensed psychologist and as an African American growing up in the South, Walker provides a way for educators and social service professionals to enter into cross-racial discussions about race and race relations. She identifies three essential relational skills for personal transformation and cultural healing.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eContents\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAcknowledgments\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e1. The “It” Without a Name\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA Brief Survey of Race (as an Essentialist Concept) in America\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Complexity of Everyday Racialized Interactions: Jo and the Clerk at the Convenience Store\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRace as a Relational Dynamic\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eNovember Morning Redux and the “It-ness” of It All\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSo Who Do You Think You Are? \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e2. When the Culture Hurts\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRacial Stratification\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRace and Neuroscience\/Your Brain on Race\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRace and the “Dose” Effect\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBeyond the Barrier: Race Dialogues\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eSystemic and Built-In Privilege\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTwo Models of Human Engagement: Relational-Cultural Theory and Racial Identity Theory\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMultiple-Voiced Narratives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e3. Race and Place: What’s Power Got to Do with It?\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePower and Powerlessness in Identity Narratives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePower-Over\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRace, Place, and Power\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e4. Mascots, Missionaries, and Other Illusions of Power-Over\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStrategies of Disconnection\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInternalized Dominance\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eInternalized Oppression\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStrategies of Disconnection and Illusions of Power-over\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e5. Sticks and Stones and Words That Hurt\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAversive Racism\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLanguage as Codified Racism\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFalse Narratives\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e21st-Century Linguistic Dilemmas: The “N” Word\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e6. Disruptive Empathy: Beyond “I Feel Your Pain”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDisruptive Empathy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe ARC of Empathy\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA Story I Would Rather Not Tell\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e7. Mindful Authenticity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMindful Authenticity\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Three C Mindset\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMindful Authenticity and Self-Disclosure\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eMindful Authenticity and Productive Conflict\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eOne True Thing\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShowing Up for Your Own Truth\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDoing Authenticity: Four Simple Practices\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eHolding Contradictory Truths\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e8. Dynamic Mutuality: Empowering Action in a Relationship\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAction in Relationship\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUnderstanding and Misunderstanding Dynamic Mutuality\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDynamic Mutuality in Practice\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDynamic Mutuality Is Not Synonymous with Compromise\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eStrategies of Disconnection to Resist Dynamic Mutuality\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe Sound of One Hand Clapping and Other Caveats\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e9. Say It Isn’t So . . . and Other Race-Card Games\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIdeological Force Fields\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe “Silencers”\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eA Few More Words about Race-Card Games\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e10. Nine Rules for Remaking the Meaning of Race\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eFive Good Things: Clarity, Creativity, Zest, A Sense of Mattering, and A Desire for More Connection\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 1: Pay attention to your body: Pause, then breathe your way into new racial narratives.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 2: Become curious about the multiple racial narratives in your head. You don’t have to believe or act on them.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 3: If you find yourself becoming highly reactive in a racialized encounter, ask yourself if some deep background story from your own life is getting triggered.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 4: Acknowledge the necessity of good conflict, and then give yourself permission to set the terms of the interaction.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 5: Recognize when “wanting to win” is driving the interaction.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 6: When an interaction approaches an impasse, say one true thing. \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 7: Question the norms . . . notice what surprises you.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 8: Be willing to learn.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRule 9: Know when to walk away.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReflections\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003e11. An Enlarged Vision of Human Possibility\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAbout Allies and Racial Privilege \u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemaking the Meaning of Race in Our Lives: A Few Final Words\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eReferences\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eIndex\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e","brand":"John Wiley \u0026 Sons","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":52090742800727,"sku":"9780807763377","price":30.56,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9780807763377.jpg?v=1762273290","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/when-getting-along-is-not-enough-reconstructing-race-in-our-lives-and-relationships-9780807763377","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}