{"product_id":"the-savvy-ally-a-guide-for-becoming-a-skilled-lgbtq-advocate-9781538169230","title":"The Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Savvy Ally: A Guide for Becoming a Skilled LGBTQ Advocate, Second Edition, is an enjoyable, humorous, encouraging, easy to understand guidebook for being an ally to the LGBTQ+ communities. It is chock full of practical and useful tools for LGBTQ+ advocacy. This fully revised second edition includes:\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eThe most current information on identities and LGBTQ+ language;\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTips for respectfully sharing, gathering, and using pronouns;\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eLGBTQ+ etiquette, including common language bloopers to avoid;\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTools for navigating difficult conversations;\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eBest practices for creating LGBTQ+ inclusive spaces;\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAppropriate actions to take after messing up; and\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTechniques for self-care and sustainable allyship.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book will be useful for teachers, counselors, social workers, nurses, medical technicians and college professors, as well as the non-freaked out parent who wants to be supportive of their LGBTQ+ child, but doesn’t know how. This is not a book about why to be an ally. This is a book about how to be an ally. The goal of The Savvy Ally is to build the reader’s confidence in their ability to have respectful and useful conversations for and with LGBTQ+ individuals, and to offer tools to be effective advocates for change.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eAuthor’s Note\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePreface\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e1 - Getting Started\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThank You\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat You Can Expect from This Book\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDefining Ally Broadly\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBringing My Friends Along for the Ride\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePractice Makes Pretty Darn Good\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Power of the Ally\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAllies Can Help Validate a Cause\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAllies Can Be a Cultural Bridge\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAllies Can Take the Heat Off of LGBTQ+ People\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAllies Can Be Possibility Models\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAllies Can Get Special Access\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat’s Your Story?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart I: Becoming Knowledgeable Allies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e2 - Caution: Identities Being Defined!\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCisgender\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLGBTQ+\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eQueer\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy Do There Have to Be So Many Identity Words?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNote\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e3 - Coming Out as LGBTQ+\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy the Big Reveal?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Coming-Out Process\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Confusion\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Comparison\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Tolerance\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Acceptance\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Pride\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIdentity Synthesis\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Summary\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFrom Theory to Reality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eComing Out Is a Lifelong Process\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Process Is Not Always Linear\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt’s So Much Fun, Some Folks Do It Twice!\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIt’s Not Just for LGBTQ+ People\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eComing Out Is Not Always the Immediate Goal\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eResponding When Someone Comes Out to You\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA Better Metaphor for Coming Out\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat to Say\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat Not to Say\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFuture Fantasies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e4 - Orientations, Identities, Behaviors—Oh My!\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA Basic Diagram of the Components of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBiological Sex\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGender Identity\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGender Expression\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAttraction (Also Known as Orientation)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntimate Behaviors\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhere Do I Fall?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBiological Sex\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGender Identity\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGender Expression\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAttraction\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntimate Behaviors\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAn Advanced Diagram of the Components of Sex, Gender, and Sexuality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnswers To Our Questions\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat the Heck Does Nonbinary Mean?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCan Transgender People Also Be Gay?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHow Can I Tell If Someone Is Gay?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHow Can Someone Be Asexual but Still Have Sex?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKey Ally Takeaways\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart II: Building Skills for Having Respectful Conversations\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e5 - Pronouns: Sharing, Gathering, and Using\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy Are Pronouns So Important?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSharing\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGathering\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eOne on One\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn a Small Group\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Large Numbers\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUsing\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSingular They\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNeopronouns\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMore Than One Pronoun\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMessing Up Properly\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e6 - LGBTQ+ Etiquette Tips, Common Bloopers, and Outdated Terms\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLGBTQ+ Etiquette Tips\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTip #1: Ungender Your Language\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTip #2: Mirror Terms\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCombining Tip #1 and Tip #2\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTip #3: Implement the “Switch It” Technique\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTip #4: Use the Correct Name and Pronoun\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTip #5: Focus on What You Need to Know\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCommon LGBTQ+ Language Bloopers to Avoid\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGetting Creative with the Word Transgender\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eConfusing the Terms Transgender Man and Transgender Woman\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTalking About Preferred Pronouns\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUsing the Word Preference Instead of Orientation\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUsing Language That Implies That Transitioning is Completed\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFocusing on the Past\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAsking a Gay Couple Which One is the Man and Which One is the Woman\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eOutdated Terms and Better Language Choices\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Transgender Instead of Transsexual\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Cross-Dresser Instead of Transvestite\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Gay Instead of Homosexual\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Typical Instead of Normal\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Intersex Instead of Hermaphrodite\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Different Sex or Gender Instead of Opposite Sex or Gender\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Are Instead of Identify As\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAvoid These Terms Altogether\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e7 - Gaydar and Other Problematic Assumptions\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGaydar\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLGBTQ+ Myths and Stereotypes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMyths and Stereotypes About Straight\/Cisgender Allies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntersectionality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e8 - Good Talk: The Art of Having Useful Conversations\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWe Are All Resistant Learners\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTips for Having Respectful and Useful Conversations\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePut Yourself in the Hot Seat (Prep Work)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSet Your Listen\/Share Dial to At Least 50\/50 (Prep Work)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAssume Goodwill\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAvoid Labeling the Comment or Behavior\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse “I” Statements\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFind Common Ground\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEducate with Examples, Not Definitions\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTry the “Switch It” Technique\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eListen for Those Myths and Stereotypes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBe Aware of Your Hot Buttons\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA Night Out with Lou the Lunchroom Aide\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAn Ally’s Gift\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart III: Taking Action to Create More Inclusive Spaces\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e9 - Straight Pride Parades and Special Snowflakes: Addressing Common Questions\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI Just Treat Everyone the Same; What’s Wrong with That?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy Do LGBTQ+ People Have to Flaunt Their Sexuality and Get in My Face with It?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Falsely Accused Flaunter\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Temporary Flaunter\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Fulltime Flaunter\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI Know My Friend Is Gay—How Can I Get Him to Come Out to Me?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAren’t We in a Good Place Now with LGBTQ+ Rights and Inclusion? What’s Left to Do?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy Isn’t There a Straight Pride Parade?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eReality Check #1\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eReality Check #2\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eReality Check #3\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eReality Check #4\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eApparently, I’m Cisgender. How Can I Be Something That I’ve Never Heard Of? Do I Have to Go Around Telling People I’m Cisgender Now?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e1) How Can I Be Something That I Don’t Even Know About and Why Does Someone Else Get to Define Me? (Confused\/Irritated)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e2) Is This New Word Really “A Thing” Or Will It Be Gone Next Month? (Skeptical)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e3) Do I Have to Embrace This New Term? My List of Identity Terms Seems to Be Constantly Growing. Which Ones Do I Have to Share in Order to Be Respectful? (Overwhelmed)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhy Are LGBTQ+ People So Angry?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMy Lesbian Friends Call Each Other Dykes. Why Is It Okay for Them to Do That But Not Me?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI Thought People Were “Born That Way”; Now You’re Telling Me That Being LGBTQ+ Can Be a Lifelong Journey of Changing Identities? WTF?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eI Feel Like I Can’t Say Anything Anymore Without Offending Someone. Don’t You Think We’ve Gone Too Far with All of This PC Language?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e10 - Duct Tape Patch-up Jobs and Big Fixes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEducating Others\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDuct Tape Patch-Up Jobs with Our Educational Opportunities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBig Fixes with Our Educational Opportunities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIncreasing LGBTQ+ Visibility\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDuct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Increasing LGBTQ+ Visibility\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBig Fixes for Increasing LGBTQ+ Visibility\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRevising Forms\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDuct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Revising Forms and Paperwork\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBig Fixes for Revising Forms and Paperwork\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUpdating Policies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDuct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Updating Policies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBig Fixes for Updating Policies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFixing Gendered Facilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDuct Tape Patch-Up Jobs for Fixing Gendered Restrooms and Other Facilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBig Fixes for Fixing Gendered Restrooms and Other Facilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA Special Note about Signage\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e11 - Creating LGBTQ+ Inclusive Spaces in Different Settings\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Your Home\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Health and Mental Health Settings\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCaring for LGBTQ+ People of Color\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCaring for Transgender Individuals\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCaring for Older LGBTQ+ Adults\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn the Workplace\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Faith Communities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Schools\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e12 - Taking It to the Streets\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRallies, Marches, Protests, and Lobbying\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTalking with Politicians\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eFundraising\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePride\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e13 - Now What? Questions from Allies in the Real World\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eQuestions About Terms and Identities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eQuestions from Family Members\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eQuestions from the Workplace\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eQuestions from Teachers and School Staff\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart IV: Allying Responsibly\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e14 - Messing Up Properly\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAccidentally Misgendering Someone\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eOffer an Apology or a Thank You\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eForgive Yourself\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGet it Right the Next Time\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eTry Again Right Away\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePractice in Your Head\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eWrite It Down\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eAdd Pronouns to Your Phone Contacts\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003ePractice on Your Pet\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eImagine a Mouse\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eMaking an Offensive or Hurtful Comment\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eOffer a Thank You and an Apology\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eForgive Yourself\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGet It Right the Next Time\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cul\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eDo Your Homework\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eUse-it-or-Lose-it\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eShare What You’ve Learned with Someone Else\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003cli\u003eRemind Yourself that Catching Yourself Is the First Step to Success\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\u003cp\u003eBlundering Again\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e15 - Backlash Against Allies\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAlly Is a Practice, Not an Identity\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eShut Up and Listen\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“A” Is for Asexual\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKey Ally Takeaways\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePay It Forward\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e16 - Sustainability\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTake Care of Yourself\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBe on Your Own Team\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTreat Yourself the Way You Would Treat Your Best Friend\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGive Yourself Permission to Fail\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eUse Positive Self-Coaching Tips\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKeep a Joy Journal\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKnow Your Recipe for Wellness and Follow It\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThink About What’s Not Wrong\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePace Yourself\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eContinue Your Education\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEvery So Often, Return to “Why?”\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNotes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDiscussion Guide\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGlossary\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBibliography\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAcknowledgments\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIndex\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAbout the Author\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Rowman \u0026 Littlefield","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51041234387287,"sku":"9781538169230","price":40.5,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9781538169230.jpg?v=1750949460","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/the-savvy-ally-a-guide-for-becoming-a-skilled-lgbtq-advocate-9781538169230","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}