{"product_id":"reconcilable-differences-second-edition-9781462502431","title":"Reconcilable Differences Second Edition","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eEvery couple has disagreements, but what happens when recurring conflicts start to pull your relationship apart? Do you lie awake hoping that your spouse will eventually see things your way, or rehashing the evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? This popular, science-based guide offers powerful solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. True acceptance may seem difficult to accomplish, but the clear-cut steps and thought-provoking exercises in this book can make it a reality. You'll learn why you keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; what communication strategies really work to resolve conflicts; and how to problem-solve and make positive changes--together. Updated throughout with new research, practical tools, and examples, the second edition features a new chapter on mindfulness.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e Mental health professionals: visit http:\/\/ibct.psych.ucla\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis deceptively simple book can change lives. You and your partner will learn numerous ways to accept each other and achieve a new level of happiness and comfort in your relationship. The genius of the book is that these techniques are not difficult, and they can help put an end to perpetual conflict.--Pepper Schwartz, PhD, coauthor of \u003ci\u003eThe Normal Bar: The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eWhat They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eNo matter how many books you have read to improve your relationship, read this one, and follow the research-based principles it presents! The authors are internationally known scientists who have produced a book that all couples need to read. It's not the differences between you and your partner that matter, but how you handle them, and this book shows exactly how and why.--Howard J. Markman, PhD, coauthor of \u003ci\u003eFighting for Your Marriage\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThere are lots of books for couples that make interesting reading, and some that provide specific, doable suggestions for improving your relationship, but just a handful--including this one--based on principles that have been scientifically shown to work. Any couple that wants to better understand and overcome problems in their relationship will find this book a great place to start.--W. Kim Halford, PhD, School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Australia \u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e-One virtue of the book is its utter realism....Offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist. (on the first edition)--The New York Times, 4\/18\/2013ƒƒPacked with data, wisdom, and common sense. (on the first edition)--Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, 4\/18\/2013ƒƒGives several guides to building acceptance.(on the first edition)--USA Today, 4\/18\/2013ƒƒAn excellent book with much to offer about a well researched and well thought out application for couple therapy. (on the first edition)--Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, 4\/18\/2013\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eI. The Conflicting Sides of Conflict\u003cbr\u003e1. Three Sides to Every Story\u003cbr\u003e2. You're Wrong!: Relationship Problems as Faults\u003cbr\u003eII. A DEEP Understanding of Conflict: The Third Side of the Story\u003cbr\u003e3. How Can You Be That Way?: Relationship Problems as Differences\u003cbr\u003e4. You Know How to Hurt Me: Relationship Problems as Emotional Sensitivities\u003cbr\u003e5. Can't You See I'm Stressed Out?: Relationship Problems as External Circumstances\u003cbr\u003e6. A Cure Worse Than the Disease: Relationship Problems as Patterns of Communication\u003cbr\u003eIII. From Argument to Acceptance\u003cbr\u003e7. The Delicate Balance: Acceptance and Change\u003cbr\u003e8. A Story of Our Own: Acceptance through Understanding\u003cbr\u003e9. Walking in Your Partner's Shoes: Acceptance through Compassion\u003cbr\u003e10. Getting Some Perspective on the Conflict: Acceptance through Tolerant Distance\u003cbr\u003eIV. Deliberate Change through Acceptance\u003cbr\u003e11. The Dilemmas of Deliberate Change\u003cbr\u003e12. Deliberate Change through Mindfulness: Custom-Fitting Change to Suit Your Relationship\u003cbr\u003e13. Deliberate Change through Communication: Taking Good Advice about Talking and Listening with a Mindful Grain of Salt\u003cbr\u003e14. The Silver Bullet of Deliberate Change: Taking Charge of Change Even When Things Go Bad\u003cbr\u003eV. When Acceptance Is Not Enough\u003cbr\u003e15. Don't Do That to Me!: Violence, Verbal Abuse, and Infidelity\u003cbr\u003e16. Calling In the Professionals: Couple and Individual Therapy\u003cbr\u003eResources\u003cbr\u003eBibliography\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Guilford Publications","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":48867159376215,"sku":"9781462502431","price":13.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9781462502431.jpg?v=1722281959","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/reconcilable-differences-second-edition-9781462502431","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}