{"product_id":"polyamorous-elders-aging-in-open-relationships-9781538169261","title":"Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book explores the unique group of elders, age 55 and older, who practice some form of consensual non-monogamy. It covers both the joys and challenges of multiple relationships for elders. Poly elders have the complexities of juggling multiple relationships, as well as managing all the issues of aging: managing medical conditions and disabilities (their own and\/or their partners’), caregiving responsibilities for aging relatives, grieving the deaths of parents, siblings, and partners, retiring from careers and starting new lives, and\/or moving into some form of senior living. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eElders appear to be the fastest-growing segment of the polyamorous community. About one-fifth of Americans have been in a polyamorous relationship at some point, and around 5% currently are practicing it. Many elders have practiced polyamory for over 40 years, and are currently in stable, very long-term relationships. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe book provides anecdotes from poly elders’ lives, including the constellation of relationships surrounding each individual, couple, or triad. It explores how their relationships develop and evolve. Many of the issues that face older poly folks are issues directly related to aging, but they usually have a uniquely poly \"spin\" to them that can make them more complex and challenging. \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs a Relational Therapist who works with polyamorous clients, I was delighted to read Polyamorous Elders. This book offers a comprehensive and evidence-based guide to better understand the lived experiences of aging polyamorous folks. After reading Polyamorous Elders, I believe that practitioners will be more equipped to facilitate effective individual and relational therapeutic services to polyamorous clients.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Carling Mashinter, MSc, registered psychotherapist, Relationship Matters Therapy Centre\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eHaving enjoyed Kathy Labriola's previous work, I was delighted to read her latest. She approaches polyamorous relationships with an accessible, thoughtful, and deft sense of compassion and thorough research.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Rosie Wilby, author of Is Monogamy Dead? and The Breakup Monologues\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis text is a readable and engaging look into the lives of polyamorous elders. It is suitable for researchers or clinical practitioners hoping to apply the work, but would also serve well as an entranceway for academics and students investigating sex and aging and looking for more data and overall consideration of polyamorous relationships. A timely topic deserving of more attention.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Jeanne Marie Kusina, interim director of The Center for Excellence in Teaching and Learning; Distinguished University Lecturer, The University of Toledo\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book is engaging, accessible, expansive, and detailed. Obviously, it helps that the topic is fascinating, but Labriola presents these issues and cases in a straightforward and non-judgmental fashion. I routinely had my assumptions challenged even though I consider myself open-minded and have studied polyamory and human sexuality for several years. The strengths of this text include the author's expertise and clinical experience, the broad variety of polyamorous relationships presented, sympathetic attention to their challenges, and the good faith effort to honor intersectionality so as to sufficiently represent as many polyamorous people and relationships as possible.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Albert Spencer, Communications Director, Society for the Advancement of American Philosophy and assistant professor, Department of Philosophy, Portland State University\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book uniquely considers the special needs and outlook of people 55+ who identify as polyamorous. Not just an overview or a self-help book, the approach and information are very well-supported from the author's deep knowledge of polyamory, polyamorous communities, and her ongoing work with aging clients.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Annalisa Castaldo, associate professor of English, Director of Gender, Women, and Sexuality Studies, Widener University\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis is an essential guide for counselors, therapists and healthcare professionals working with polyamorous clients. The author has managed to address so many issues, from sex life to retirement to facing death and grief, and has done so insightfully, drawing on several case studies. As a family therapist and an openly polyamorous person over 50, I am thrilled to see this book finally out in the world!\u003c\/p\u003e -- Alex Iantaffi, PhD, MS, SEP, CST, LMFT, award-winning author of Gender Trauma: Healing Cultural, Social, and Historical Gendered Trauma and independent scholar\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eIn Polyamous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships, Kathy Labriola gives us an intimate window into the lives of older individuals whose zest for life still burns bright. Whether for love, sex, companionship or all of the above, older individuals know they have earned the right to choose the path that fits them best and enables them to enjoy levels of satisfaction and bliss that often elude the younger and less experienced. My wish for you, dear reader, is that these personal stories will inspire you to live your life to its very fullest regardless of your age.\u003c\/p\u003e -- Veronica Monet, ACS, author, coach, and founder of The Shame Free Zone\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eAs both an aspiring “polygeezer” and CNM (consensual non-monogamy) psychologist, this volume spoke to my heart and my practice. Labriola’s work opens up the often untold stories of polyamorous elders and allows us to learn from their lived experiences and worlds. The accounts Labriola shares are multifaceted and honest portrayals of the distinct challenges polyamorous elders face and the ways that they are navigated!\u003c\/p\u003e -- Elizabeth Duke, PsyD\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntroduction\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat is the Prevalence of Polyamory Among Elders?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“The Greatest Generation” and the “Baby Boomers”\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIntersectionality and Poly Elders\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eStudies that Attempt to Fill in the Gaps on Information about Poly Elders\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eResearch Methods\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Demographics of Case Studies and Examples Presented of Poly Elders \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart I: What Challenges are Most Common for Poly Geezers?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 1: First of All, Sex!\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Changing Nature of Sex for Poly Geezers\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Elise\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Challenges of Sex for Poly Geezers\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJoshua’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eGinny’s story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Danilo\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Anastasia\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJesse’s story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Libby\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eStrategies Developed by Poly Elders to Solve the Sexual Changes of Aging\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #5: Jake and Nora\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #6: Joseph\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #7: Sita\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMarilyn’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #8: Lise\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJana’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBeing Poly can Help Couples Navigate Sexual Problems and Find Delightful Solutions\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #9: Jordan and Lourdes\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #10: Dolly and Jim\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 2: Some Poly People Shift to Monogamy as They Age\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Mary and Gene\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Vicky and Bart\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Terry and Randy\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 3: Poly Elders and Celibacy: Is There a Contradiction? \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWhat’s Sex Go to Do With It? Flourishing Poly Relationships, But Without the Sex!\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Paul, Stacey, and Daniel\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Francois, Audrey, and Jeannie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Jerome and Raphael\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: LaRhonda and Beeandra\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 4: The Curious Phenomenon of Successful Older Poly-Mono Couples \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Rachel, Matt, and Jerry\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Lauren and Kumar\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Ayisha, Betty, and Roger\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Geraldine and Dre\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #5: Sharon, Benny, and Pam\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Unique Benefits of Poly Relationships for Older Monogamous Women\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCautionary Tales on the Challenges of a Mono\/Poly Relationship\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #6: Shirley:\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #7: Hazel\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA Few Other Older Women’s “Short Takes” on the Benefits of Mono\/Poly Relationships\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 5: Elders Trying to Explain Polyamory to Their Adult Kids\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Nancy, Emma, and Carrie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Jon\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 6: Older People Who Were “Poly Before Polyamory Was Invented”\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Harry and Hope\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Linda, Bruce, and Cliff\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Danielle and Valentino\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Frank, Lisa, and Crystal\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 7: Conflicts Over a Partner’s Adult Children and\/or Grandchildren\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Lucy, Reginald, and Jim\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Betsy, Stella, and Ginger\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart II: Retirement and Its Effects on Polyamorous Relationships \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 8: When One Person is Already Retired and the Other Eventually Decides to Retire \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Warren, Jen, and Aja\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Karen, Benjamin, and Louellen\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 9: When One Partner Retires but One or More Partners are Still Working\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Joe, Martha, Jerry, and Anita\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Kelly, Bill, Phil, and Sue\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 10: Retirement Can Create More Time and Energy for Poly Relationships, and Poly Geezers are Pretty Good at Time and Energy Management\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDan’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePoly Geezers Tend to Have Excellent Time and Energy Management Skills\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eJohn’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1 Blanche\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Tommy, Janet, and Bertha\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAre Elders Good at Polyamory or is Polyamory Good for Elders?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 11: Retirement Can Shine a Spotlight on Incompatibilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRicardo and Maria’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Joanna, Buddy, Harriet, and Tad\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart III: When Poly Elders Want (or Need) to Move into Senior Living Facilities \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 12: Poly Elders Fear Discrimination and Hostility in Senior Housing\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Joanne, Jay, and Patsy\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Pierre and Pharell \u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Miriam\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eStan and Martin’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Ellen, Jamie, and Evie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 13: What are the Options for Polys in Senior Living?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSex-Positive Senior Housing: Is That an Oxymoron?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eElder Care Professionals’ Perspectives on Poly Elders and Senior Living Facilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLessons from the Experience of LGBTQ Elders in Senior Living Facilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Russell, Matilda, and Ray\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Evelyn, Lou, and Nikki\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSenior Cohousing Communities May Be a Poly-Friendly Senior Housing Option\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart IV: Poly Geezers Coping with Health Problems and Disabilities\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 14: The Effects of Medical Conditions on Poly Elders and Relationships\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Rhonda, Josh, and Sarona\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMedical Conditions Complicate the Logistics and Romance of Poly Relationships\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKatie’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Rajah, Sabre, Rachel, and Dasan\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eTanika and Katherine’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Miles, Shane, and Art\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePaul’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Jacinda, Maddy, and Millie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 15: Care-Giving Responsibilities for Elderly Relatives\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e“Younger Elders” with Responsibilities for Elderly Parents\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Wanda and Amelia\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Orit, Aryeh, and Donna Sue\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRemi’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eNo “one right answer” for caring for elderly parents\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Keiko, Rich, and Frank\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Robbie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eStrategies and Planning for Successful Caregiving\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 16: Additional Advantages for Poly Elders through Caregiving, Grief and Mourning\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eKate, Gustav, and Phillip’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 17: Twenty-First Century Pandemics and Poly Elders: Lessons from the Age of COVID\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHow are Poly Elders Coping in the Age of COVID-19?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Lindsey, Jose, and Maris\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe Impact of Isolation and Loneliness on Poly Elders Due to COVID\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Myrna\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Mary Jo, Emile, and Hallie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Joan, Juan, and June\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMarlene and Mary’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #5: Kimberly, Frank, and Iris\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAnita’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #6: Amy Ann, Zekia, and Shelley\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eInternet Dating in the Midst of a Pandemic\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eBlythe’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eSumati Sparks’ Pandemic Dating Advice\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #7: Rosalinda, Xavier, and Gemina\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eInternet Dating May Morph into Dating IRL (In Real Life)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #8: Moira, Guillermo, and Lee\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 18: Poly Mutual Aid: Elders’ Polycules Come Through for Them During the Pandemic\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRashida’s story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Lucille, Duncan, and Kara\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePoly Elders Find Stronger Support from their Polycules\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Lei\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Sarah, Rashi, and Harlan\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePoly Elders’ Experience with Grief and Loss During the Pandemic\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eLiliana’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eParting Words on the COVID Pandemic and Poly Elders\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePart V: Polyamory and the Developmental Tasks of Aging\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 19: What Are the Developmental Tasks for Poly Elders?\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Hans and Meg\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 20: Poly Geezers Creating a New Life “Post-Career and Post-Kids”\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Shereen, Ranil, and Denise\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 21: Life Review as a Developmental Task for Poly Geezers\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Marcus, Gwen, and Lola\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eColes’ Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Debbie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 22: Poly Elders Accepting the Deaths of Loved Ones, and Their Own Mortality\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #1: Geri, Frank, and Angela\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #2: Alonzo\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #3: Deonte, Linden, Lon, and John\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eCase Study #4: Louise and Natalie\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePoly Elders’ Unique Experience of the Developmental Tasks of Aging\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 23: Legal and Financial Issues for Poly Elders: Estate Planning, Advance Directives, and Other Strategies to Protect Poly Families\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAdvance Health Care Directives\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDurable Power of Attorney\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eWills\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eEstate Planning Advice from Poly-Friendly Attorneys\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eDivorce or the Demise of a Poly Relationship\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eStrategies to Mitigate the High Cost of Care\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eMarta’s Story\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003ePoly Elders Need to Talk About “The Three D’s”—Disability, Death, and Divorce\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eChapter 24: A Few Parting Words and Directions for Further Study\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAppendix I: List of Books on Consensual Nonmonogamy, Open Relationships, and Polyamory\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e(Compiled by Sonia Song)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eReferences\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eIndex\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eAbout the 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