{"product_id":"parenting-beyond-power-how-to-use-connection-and-collaboration-to-transform-your-family-and-the-world-9781632174482","title":"Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e“I’m in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids—and ourselves.”\u003cbr\u003e—Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author of Raising Good Humans\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003eParenting is \u003ci\u003ehard. \u003c\/i\u003eBut when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today—and we create a better world for all of us in the future.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhen we see our children stalling, resisting, having tantrums, using mean words, and hitting, we want to\u003ci\u003e just make it stop\u003c\/i\u003e. But conventional discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and “consequences” teach children that it’s OK for more powerful people to control others—a lesson they take out into the world. This is how \u003ci\u003ewe\u003c\/i\u003e learned White supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism from our parents—and we will replicate this with our children unless we make a different choice.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eResearch-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children. This new approach helps us to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children’s needs, and ours too—perhaps for the first time in our lives. It involves empathetic listening, understanding feelings and underlying needs, and problem-solving with our children to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eFamily life becomes radically easier in the short term because behavior problems tend to melt away. In the long term, we’ll raise children who confidently advocate for themselves and treat others with profound respect.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIncludes sample scripts, flowcharts, and resources to help parents learn and implement this new approach.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e—\"The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies.\"\u003ci\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Publisher's Weekly\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“I’m in love with this book! It illuminates the forces that make parenting so difficult, and helps us develop better relationships with our kids—and ourselves.”\u003cbr\u003e—\u003cb\u003eHunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE, author of \u003ci\u003eRaising Good Humans\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\"The compassionate guidance will be a boon to parents eager to move away from punitive child-rearing strategies.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Publisher's Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003eLumanlan offers tools for parents to evaluate the needs of both themselves and\u003cbr\u003etheir children and techniques for families to reach solutions that respect everyone’s desires...Her guidance on building community and conversation-starting scripts is outstanding...will appeal\u003cbr\u003eto parents seeking alternatives to conventional child-rearing styles and advice.\"\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003ci\u003e—Booklist\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Lumanlan challenges us to face our privilege and adopt a powerful new way of parenting that’s both effective and empathetic. Highly recommended for anyone involved in raising the next generation.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Carla Naumburg, PhD, author of \u003ci\u003eHow to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“Wow! There is no shortage of parenting books but this is a standout: both eye-opening and practical.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—Dolly Chugh, PhD, author of \u003ci\u003eA More Just Future \u003c\/i\u003eand \u003ci\u003eThe Person You Mean to Be\u003c\/i\u003e and NYU Stern professor\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e“A must for all teachers, parents, and citizens interested in a better world.”\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e—John H. Bickford III, PhD, Professor of Social Studies\/History Education, Eastern Illinois University\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eContents: \u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003ePreface \u003cbr\u003eAuthor’s Note \u003cbr\u003eIntroduction \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 1: SOCIETAL FORCES In FAMILY LIFE \u003cbr\u003e How White Supremacy, Patriarchy, and Capitalism Affect Our Relationships with Our Children \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 2: JUDGMENTS, REWARDS, AND PUNISHMENTS\u003cbr\u003e They “Work” (But Not the Way We Want Them To) \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 3: EMOTIONS AND REGULATION\u003cbr\u003e How to Navigate Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Shutdowns \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 4: CHILDREN'S RESISTANCE\u003cbr\u003e A Gift that Shows Us Their Needs \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 5: MEETING PARENTS' NEEDS\u003cbr\u003e (Sometimes with Boundaries) \u003cbr\u003e CHAPTER 6: PROBLEM-SOLVING CONVERSATIONS\u003cbr\u003e A Way to Meet Everyone’s Needs \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 7: COMMON DIFFICULTIES WITH PROBLEM-SOLVING CONVERSATIONS \u003cbr\u003eAnd How to Address Each One \u003cbr\u003eCHAPTER 8: LEVELING UP\u003cbr\u003e Applying Your New Skills to the Challenges You Face \u003cbr\u003eAFTERWORD: WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER \u003cbr\u003e Building Your Village\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e \u003ci\u003eSummary of Key Ideas \u003cbr\u003eAcknowledgments \u003cbr\u003eResources \u003cbr\u003eActions  \u003cbr\u003eList of Needs \u003cbr\u003eList of Feelings When Needs Are Met\u003cbr\u003e List of Feelings When Needs are Unmet \u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e Starter Scripts \u003cbr\u003eIndex \u003cbr\u003eNotes \u003c\/i\u003e","brand":"Sasquatch Books","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49084215722327,"sku":"9781632174482","price":16.14,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9781632174482.jpg?v=1725551422","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/parenting-beyond-power-how-to-use-connection-and-collaboration-to-transform-your-family-and-the-world-9781632174482","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}