{"product_id":"knowing-if-its-the-real-thing-9780761829768","title":"Knowing If Its the Real Thing","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn this exciting and original work, Gerald Alper, illuminates the crucial elements that together constitute intimacy. Knowing If It''s the Real Thing offers a radical departure from today''s popular, yet mythological belief that if two people stay together, in an adaptive, productive, and moderately mutually enhancing way, they will achieve the most a relationship can offer.   Some issues discussed in the book are the basic ingredients and rudimentary ground rules of postmodern intimacy; how to discover the arena in which one feels most comfortable in expressing intimate feelings; the many ways that sincere efforts to connect can completely misfire; and how to build up defenses, dodge self-reproach, and retain one''s dignity and sense of trust following a serious break-up.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eGerald Alper never writes a dull book. A novelist and short story writer turned psychotherapist, he has one of the more creative analytic minds of his generation. -- Jerome David Levin, Ph.D., Faculty Supervisor, Post Graduate Center for Health\u003cbr\u003eAlper's books represent a crowning contribution to the psychology of creativity in psychotherapy. -- Erwin Randolph Parson, Ph.D., former Editor, Journal of Contemporary Psychology\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTable of Contents\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eChapter 1 Preface Chapter 2 In the Beginning: Apprenticeship; First Patient; Joel; Everyday Examples; \"Is This the One?\"; The Paranoid Moment; Drowning Out the Other; \"I Did It My Way\"; Respect; The Reviewer; Postmodern Intimacy; I Can't Commit Chapter 3 Obstacles: Working It Trough; \"My Feelings For You Have Changed\"; \"I Don't Want To Talk About It\"; \"No Problem\"; \"The War of the Roses\"; Self-Help; Counterexample; The Dynamics; Obstacles; Barry; Roy ; Sarah; Morris; Negative Closure; Deferred Intim Chapter 4 Therapy and Intimacy: When a Therapist Loves a Patient; When a Therapist Hates a Patient; The Intimate Bond Chapter 5 Conclusion Chapter 6 References","brand":"Taylor Trade Publishing","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":51037785096535,"sku":"9780761829768","price":17.99,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9780761829768.jpg?v=1750937308","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/knowing-if-its-the-real-thing-9780761829768","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}