{"product_id":"families-we-keep-9781479813322","title":"Families We Keep","description":"\u003cb\u003eBook Synopsis\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eWhy LGBTQ adults don't end troubled ties with parents and why (perhaps) they shouldFamilies We Keep is a surprising look at the life-long bonds between LGBTQ adults and their parents. Alongside the importance of chosen families in the queer community, Rin Reczek and Emma Bosley-Smith found that very few LGBTQ people choose to become estranged from their parents, even if those parent refuse to support their gender identity, sexuality, or both. Drawing on interviews with over seventy-five LGBTQ people and their parents, Reczek and Bosley-Smith explore the powerful ties that bind families together, for better or worse. They show us why many feel obliged to maintain even troubledand sometimes outright toxicrelationships with their parents. They argue that this relationship persists because what we think of as the natural and inevitable connection between parents and adult children is actually created and sustained by the sociocultural power of compulsory kinship. After revealing what holds\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003eTrade Review\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003eIn this bold reconsideration of kinship, \u003ci\u003eFamilies We Keep\u003c\/i\u003e bravely asks a question that most people dare not ask: why do so many of us stay in toxic relationships with our parents when we could, at least theoretically, sever ties and walk away? Through interviews with LGBTQ adults struggling to sustain connection to their homophobic parents, Reczek and Bosley-Smith point to the difficult truth that lifelong parent-child relationships are so revered in the broader culture that many of us are coerced into keeping them--even when they cause us suffering. By exposing the false promise of cultural myths about the unconditional and irreplaceable love forged by blood connection, \u003ci\u003eFamilies We Keep\u003c\/i\u003e issues a powerful warning against investing too much labor, or hope, in relationships that cause us harm. -- Jane Ward, author of \u003ci\u003eNot Gay and The Tragedy of Heterosexuality\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cp\u003eContrary to news stories about adult children callously estranging themselves from parents, this book reveals how GLBTQ individuals put up with disapproval, rejection, and even abuse in their effort to maintain family ties. Why do they persist, the authors ask, and at what point does such filial commitment become self-destructive?\u003c\/p\u003e -- Stephanie Coontz, author of \u003ci\u003eThe Way We Never Were: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap\u003c\/i\u003e\u003cbr\u003eThree decades after \u003ci\u003eFamilies We Choose\u003c\/i\u003e showed that \"ties that bind\" are not to be taken for granted, Families We Keep offers a nuanced account of what happens when LGBTQ+ people decide to stick with their parents, even in the face of misunderstanding. Reczek and Bosley-Smith are careful not to romanticize these enduring solidarities. It takes hard work to work through conflict, in ways profoundly shaped by race and gender. Social compulsion intertwines poignantly with qualities more conventionally considered virtues, such as patience and respect for the uniqueness of relationships that find no counterpart elsewhere. At a time when so much research focuses on loss, breakdown, and disruption, this book makes a compelling case for why relationships that persist merit much closer inspection. * Kath Weston, author of \u003ci\u003eFamilies We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship\u003c\/i\u003e *\u003cbr\u003eThis remarkable book probes the complexities of relationships between adult LGBTQ people and their families of origin, particularly their parents. The qualitative analyses are rich, and the personal stories and discoveries folks share as they navigate these important adult relationships are moving. \u003ci\u003eFamilies We Keep \u003c\/i\u003eoffers\u003ci\u003e \u003c\/i\u003einsights that are compelling and relatable to people with a variety of identities and structural locations in society. It brings a fresh new vantage point from which to study familial relationships, sexualities and gender expression. -- Mignon R. Moore, author of Invisible Families: Gay Identities, Relationships, and Motherhood Among Black Women","brand":"New York University Press","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":49409055326551,"sku":"9781479813322","price":62.9,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0817\/1739\/5799\/files\/9781479813322.jpg?v=1730505269","url":"https:\/\/bookcurl.com\/products\/families-we-keep-9781479813322","provider":"Book Curl","version":"1.0","type":"link"}